₦airaland Forum

SamuraiXXX:
Why are you taking it so personally?

Because most men take it personally too ooooo

Babinski:
If they are statutorily married, she should quickly approach the Probate Registry or the Courts to secure the late husband's properties for her and her sons. Once she gets Court order or appointed administrator of the late husband's estate, the in-laws are restricted except they want to be held in contempt of the Court order.

She first needs to prove that the property actually belongs to her husband

SamuraiXXX:
She first needs to prove that the property actually belongs to her husband

She does not carry as much burden as the family carries to justify any entitlement to the assets. First she cannot be chased or locked out of the matrimonial home. All banks accounts, cars and other assets in the name of the husband are easily proven along with all assets in their household by default. The law will presume assets in their custody as belonging to the husband or couple ba ked with Affidavit even if receipt is lost. Anyone seeking to claim it from outside bears the burden of proof.

Once she is registered as the administrator of the estate by the Probate Court it be one uphill battle for the family because as a statutory wife, customs cannot override her rights and that of the children mandated by the law.

crestedaguiyi:
Questions should be asked before taking sides. Many men wish they could end the marriage or have the opportunity to have a marriage with an expiry date, as in something with an expiry date.

If you think i am lying, check bars and restaurants in the evening after work to see many men remain there till 8 or 9 before going home; e no rosy for house na im make them chill for bar so that before them reach house, them go don dey well na just to bath go bed go remain.

The man can respectfully file a divorce and end such marriage. It is of no use asking questions now that the man is no more. They were married till he died.

thatigboman:
There is an update on x that the father in law has been arrested and the mother in law and others have left the house and the widow and her children have taken control of the house

That's great to hear.

Stephen0mozzy:
When a man doe not set boundaries on what he'll tolerate in his own nuclear family, that's when extended family will misbehave.

My family know that I love them to the moon and back, they also know that I'm a wicked person (no-nonsense tolerated), so there are things I won't let them suggest about my own wife/children, so that even when I'm no longer around, they'll respect that - but note, you must not become an enemy to your own family sha, because na your wife go suffer am, they'll say she turned you against them, even though she MIGHT? be innocent.

And as a woman too, don't monopolize your husband's resources to yourself and your own family.... Insist that he also takes care of his own, e get why.

@ bold:

As his account manager or a baby who does not have sense abi?

In-laws cannot chase out a wife who has the power to 'monopolize' her husband's resources.

Dancebreaker:
True. Equally, you cannot trust any wife entirely. A wife or blood relative can kill you over property.

A good middle way is to write a VALID will. Even if you are still young.

Ensure your kids get the majority. Get lawyers to execute and manage it for the kids until they are 18 or even 21.
Give your wife her own share since she will look after the kids.

A seemingly loving wife can give all your wealth to her lover (old or new) when you are no longer around.

The monkey says she can only trust a baby inside her womb.

And what is your business with what your wife does with what's hers after your death?

Even the Bible says death ends a marriage.

Una obsession with control, na wa!

bukatyne:
@ bold:

As his account manager or a baby who does not have sense abi?

In-laws cannot chase out a wife who has the power to 'monopolize' her husband's resources.

The word was enough for the wise.

bukatyne:
And what is your business with what your wife does with what's hers after your death?

Even the Bible says death ends a marriage.

Una obsession with control, na wa!

What happens with my wealth after my demise is my business.

Since we know some women kpai their hubby to inherit his wealth. At times in connivance with her lover.

She can do whatever with her lovers when I am not there. They shouldn't need my money to live after me, should they? Unless the amount I deem she deserves in my lifetime.

That would be fair to my female relatives, in my view.

I see no control here, just fairness. But you see, women mostly don't seek equality or fairness but total control.
Remember you have male relatives. Think about that.

An average woman won't leave shishi in her will to her hubby. In any case, they always assume the man will die first.

Whatever the Bible says is not binding on me. My ancestors lived millennia before the Bible came to Africa. We do not operate a theological state like Iran and such states.

bukatyne:
And what is your business with what your wife does with what's hers after your death?

Even the Bible says death ends a marriage.

Una obsession with control, na wa!

90% of the guys regurgiting these posts they read on some red pill platform don't have two coins to rub together.

GloriousGbola:
90% of the guys regurgiting these posts they read on some red pill platform don't have two coins to rub together.

That is why they are hyper-fixated on stories of rich men being mean to women. They live vicariously through these men.

GloriousGbola:
90% of the guys regurgiting these posts they read on some red pill platform don't have two coins to rub together.

Make that 99.9%