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A divorced lady has taken her time to narrate how her mother force her to marry from a particular place. While in school she was being monitored just to make sure she dated and married from that place.

See Why she was told that it was only that place she must married from and how it all ended in premium tears.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QplhGAs47Os?si=UhYXIr88P8MuFJyU

Lovelink1991:
A divorced lady has taken her time to narrate how her mother force her to marry from a particular place. While in school she was being monitored just to make sure she dated and married from that place.

See Why she was told that it was only that place she must married from and how it all ended in premium tears.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QplhGAs47Os?si=UhYXIr88P8MuFJyU

hope no be you Dey that video sha

Bayoonanuga:
hope no be you Dey that video sha

I dulge am in Jesus Christ name. Amen

What's the name of this guy that you've turned into a meme?

Lovelink1991:
I dulge am in Jesus Christ name. Amen

Marriage and divorce na normal human thing. We should stop shaming divorcees. There is no perfect partner. Aim to use the one you catch to grow your kids to semi-independence then find someone else. Repeat the cycle continuously.

Samantha125:
What's the name of this guy that you've turned into a meme?

You mean Carter Efe and kolu

No body force her

Among the Igbos, there can sometimes be a tendency for families to exercise strong control over their children’s marital choices, including whom they marry and where their spouses come from.

Parents and their wahala God will help us

Maybe you don't have such parents

Baronthecelebri:
No body force her

My parents come first
No breathing space at all.

mysticwarrior:
Among the Igbos, there can sometimes be a tendency for families to exercise strong control over their children’s marital choices, including whom they marry and where their spouses come from.

Women are often jealous of other women and their children. It's easy to blame your mom but at some point, you can't keep blaming how you were raised, you have to take responsibility for who you choose to be. Trauma may explain behavior, but it will never excuse it. Take responsibility for your life woman. It's now yours. You are an ADULT. Your mum has done enough raising you, raise your own standards.

Damaged goods everywhere

Touching story.

Mothers do damage their daughters sometimes.

The divorce thing is getting so common in Nigeria. Anytime I see newly weds, I already see them divorcing in the future
Genzees

If you ask the mother now
She will blame the husband

Women can never take Accountability

women and accountability get serious beef.

Regardless of how you were raised, it’s your job to take responsibility for your own life and decisions. Your mother may have influenced the marriage, but you are ultimately responsible for how you navigate your life as an adult.

Now that you have learnt consequences of pleasing someone else at detriment of your own comfort. You will pay dearly for it.

Very unfortunately, almost impossible to correct error of marital misstep.

Even single ladies who are not after 1, finding it difficult to pin down a man, let alone someone's ex.

Na so one igbo girl wey catch my fancy come enter toast line come spoil everything with “you people that …”. Na once I loose interest, me wey my kinsmen believe say I don dey act a different tribe. I be mystery man, somehow somehow ending up as the golden sheep.

Stereotypes is a bad thing our cultures put on most off, having norms is fine but let each person find his way.

Wonder less you divorced, Still can't take responsibility.


The apple didn't fall far from the tree

As usual, instead of taking accountability, they always play the victim card.

Very funny.

Another woman is somewhere enjoying the man you divorced.

Your mother ( as she claimed) has successfully taken you back to the highway.

I don't really have to watch the video before I know her mama from a n a m b r a

Well after listening to the to her, I think she's mentally unstable or traumatized

Lady you are horrible and just blaming your mum. So you know the kind of life you wanted for yourself and you went ahead to get married to your mum's choice. I might be wrong but there is a great chance you are the cause of your divorce but you are finding excuses by blaming your mum.

Marriage is not child's play, is not utopian, it's big work. It's not about marrying your kind of man, because until you get in you aren't so sure of how things will go.

Yes it would have been better you marry the person you have as a friend, but even friends become enemies. Marriage is just pure management, if you are sharp mouthed you will have to learn how to be mute, if you are an angry birds you will have no choice than to become a dove except you don't want a blissful one

It’s a proven fact that single motherhood largely contribute to depression, high substance abuse, high rate of school dropouts, higher crime rates and ultimately the collapse of the society

For the younger girls, keep listening to agenda promoting single parenthood, feminism and “I don’t need a man” culture…
You all will cry at the appointed time

mysticwarrior:
Among the Igbos, there can sometimes be a tendency for families to exercise strong control over their children’s marital choices, including whom they marry and where their spouses come from.

Swear that the same thing does not happen from whatever tribe you come from. Men like you who are never known for anything worthwhile, no matter the tribe you come from, have always tried to control women and their choices.

Wicked mother's are the ones married to our many wicked leaders today. They are plenty

Interesting.

Women don't take responsibilities for their mistakes and failures. The said mother actually meant well for her and she messed up everything.

meobizy:
Marriage and divorce na normal human thing. We should stop shaming divorcees. There is no perfect partner. Aim to use the one you catch to grow your kids to semi-independence then find someone else. Repeat the cycle continuously.

Was divorce rampart during ur father and grand pa days?
Today, divorce is like every day morning breakfast,
Mostly fault fault from the females

Lots of mothers are the weapon fashioned against their children, especially their daughters

Moral of the story, do not marry an Igbo woman who's mother controls her decision making.

meobizy:
There is no perfect partner. .

If one is to wait for a perfect partner before marriage,they would wait forever

However no one should be coreced to marry.

If you like no take responsibility for your action. Continue to blame your mother.

When you die too.. you go stand before God begin blame Satan...