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Why, aren't they human? 🤔

westside365:
So single mum to be human-being?

DesChyko:
Traditionally, the groom does not speak at his wedding. All that drama is reserved for his kinsmen. They decide if to go or stay; proverbs doing all of the dialogue.

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Na groom dey marry, nor be kinsmen.

It is not a universal culture. It can be amended as when needed.

Gotocourt:
Get her pregnant, all this noise will end.

Na there everything go spoil the more. No try am.

Eba50:
and she fit even be single mum and the man may not be told about this till after wedding.a man pays for what others have enjoyed for tree

Single mums are like cankerworms, full of bitterness and acrimony for men that jilted them. I've dated 2 until I realised they were all single mum, I had to take chioma ajunwa.

What is the essence of a traditional marriage ? Women love it so much yet it gives them very little or no rights

Didn’t he have the list all the while? Plus an aunty or uncle is supposed to be mediating for him at this time.

Juoflife1:
Every woman deserves a good bride price. Afterall, this marriage thing no too favour us. Men gain more in marriage. So, let them pay

Una wan killam?

It is easy for you to say all that because after all, you are contributing nothing to the marriage.

Remember after your long marriage list, he has to pay for the wedding celebrations, he also has to get a befitting accomodation for you and him. He also has to provide food, medicals, and other things for you.

The bride price culture has to die in an age of sexual liberalism and a struggling economy. It's something I've always kicked against for more than a decade.

Here is how it should be done:
- Does the groom have sense?
- Does the girl like him?
- Verify his source(s) of income

Both families plan the actual wedding ceremony. Anything else is fraud to me.

Juoflife1:
Every woman deserves a good bride price. Afterall, this marriage thing no too favour us. Men gain more in marriage. So, let them pay

If marriage is truly a partnership, then reducing it to a transaction where men must “pay” because women supposedly deserve compensation makes no sense. A woman’s worth is not determined by the size of her bride price, and a man’s role in marriage is not a debt he must settle.

Juoflife1:
Every woman deserves a good bride price. Afterall, this marriage thing no too favour us. Men gain more in marriage. So, let them pay

It's funny how a man pay a lot of money to start shouldering the responsibilities of a burdensome adult

Harbideyme:
My nephew's own is on the 11th of next month and honestly everyone is scared already. The list is just endless. We've calculated almost 7m and there are still more. Igbo bride price is always tiring jare

Which 7m? And you people still want to go ahead? You probably want to show off that you are able and capable.

Imagine paying 7m on a jobless lady that lots of men have already banged and has probably shared her nude pix with many others. Men never wan get sense.

SmartPolician:
Which 7m? And you people still want to go ahead? You probably want to show off that you are able and capable.

Imagine paying 7m on a jobless lady that lots of men have already banged and has probably shared her nude pix with many others. Men never wan get sense.

I tell you...

stan4b:
Thats how my yeye former inlaw say i should first buy him complete set of parlour chairs before I can do introduction.

yeye former inlaw

Gerrard59:
The bride price culture has to die in an age of sexual liberalism and a struggling economy. It's something I've always kicked against for more than a decade.

Here is how it should be done:
- Does the groom have sense?
- Does the girl like him?
- Verify his source(s) of income

Both families plan the actual wedding ceremony. Anything else is fraud to me.

Maybe not marrying a nigerian woman in the first place.

DesChyko:
Traditionally, the groom does not speak at his wedding. All that drama is reserved for his kinsmen. They decide if to go or stay; proverbs doing all of the dialogue.

That was then when the family handle things like looking for wives for their sons,but now sons look for themselves. He wear the shoes and feels the pain

Harbideyme:
My nephew's own is on the 11th of next month and honestly everyone is scared already. The list is just endless. We've calculated almost 7m and there are still more. Igbo bride price is always tiring jare

Let me guess the location



Imo state abi?

Kaczynski:
Maybe not marrying a nigerian woman in the first place.

The bride price culture is not entrenched in the north as it is in the south.

CrownOfClay724:
I watch the video finish burst laugh.

I once accompanied my very nonchalant friend to his inlaws to pay his woman's bride price .
Small thing, that marriage for no hold.

As the endless demands were being reeled out, he stood up and said he was no longer doing...and he was not willing to do all that haggling and bargaining they were hoping he would do.

Na beg we beg am till he calm down.

Things are now too hard for unreasonable demands.
Tune things down or people won't bother with marriage on the long run.

He should have left the negotiation for his elderly kinsmen who are more experienced in that matter.

Harbideyme:
My nephew's own is on the 11th of next month and honestly everyone is scared already. The list is just endless. We've calculated almost 7m and there are still more. Igbo bride price is always tiring jare

After paying 7m just to trad, wertin your nephew and him new wife go eat?

Dalohad:
He should have left the negotiation for his elderly kinsmen who are more experienced in that matter.

Na the kinsmen go pay?

Harbideyme:
My nephew's own is on the 11th of next month and honestly everyone is scared already. The list is just endless. We've calculated almost 7m and there are still more. Igbo bride price is always tiring jare

Na Mbaise girl?

Oga after the marriage block her family members asap

Imagine, all these girls wey cities dey do hook up, after one mumu man go put money for her and her greedy family ho dey demands outrageous things from the innocent man on top ashawo daughter head. Na WA oh.

stan4b:
Thats how my yeye former inlaw say i should first buy him complete set of parlour chairs before I can do introduction.

Real?

DesChyko:
Traditionally, the groom does not speak at his wedding. All that drama is reserved for his kinsmen. They decide if to go or stay; proverbs doing all of the dialogue.

The way he na dey always talk for here sef

Na him kinsmen wan drop money ni

Abi the groom himself

Some folks can be very unresonable!

There are some people who are not welcomed at their son-in-law's because of what they did to the man during bride-price thing!

Pootle:
annoying especially for a non virgin

That's the point.
Nobody is forcing him to marry her..
He has a choice not to marry her or any woman at all

It's a shame that men are still spending their hard earned money to get married.
Tueh!

Harbideyme:
My nephew's own is on the 11th of next month and honestly everyone is scared already. The list is just endless. We've calculated almost 7m and there are still more. Igbo bride price is always tiring jare

Why does your nephew want to marry?
What about having baby mama(s) as men have nothing to benefit from getting married

Harbideyme:
My nephew's own is on the 11th of next month and honestly everyone is scared already. The list is just endless. We've calculated almost 7m and there are still more. Igbo bride price is always tiring jare

If my son brings any lady with a name I recognize from SE and SS, ehn.........I will first ask him if he has N10m somewhere for bride price, because I won't help him pay a dime of it.

Other tribes ask for almost nothing, except those people who bring a shopping list a mile long.

I paid a paltry sum for my wife, she put it in an envelope and put it back in my pocket before the engagement was over.

There's a tribe where it's the girl that names her own price, so she can jack it up to stop a guyif the guy is rich, but she doesn't love him. She can also lower it so a guy she loves can pay.

In Nigeria.

So what's the big deal about marrying a girl whose family will.put you in debt?

This isn't tribalism o, just economic sense.

Don't mention love here o, you can fall in love with anyone if you give it time. People have been ruined from loving the wrong person.

RillJ:



Some folks can be very unresonable!

There are some people who are not welcomed at their son-in-law's because of what they did to the man during bride-price thing!

True!

I've heard of a man who had like 2 or 3 daughters. He was so aggressive in demanding for bride price that he can't set foot in any of his dsughters' homes now.

Dalohad:
Na Mbaise girl?

Mbaise girl cannot rate N7m now......that's too low.

I remember in 2006, there was an Mbaise girl in my work place. A guy was interested in her. My bosses, who were Igbo men, called him and asked, "you wan marry Mbaise girl? You get N3 million?"

That was 20 years ago!

I wonder how much they will be asking now! 😟