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Juoflife1:
Every woman deserves a good bride price. Afterall, this marriage thing no too favour us. Men gain more in marriage. So, let them pay

Ok men Must pay a good bride price. But when it comes to other part of the same tradition, una go start to dey disagree.
The same tradition frees the man to marry more than one wife. You gree?

The same tradition frees the man to subject you to the level of fully submissive wife who must obey whatever her husband commands. you gree?

You all just want to eat ur cake and have it. When the man spends all his livelihood and savings and goes into debt just because of wedding, I will see if same you won't complain when he tells u he has no money to give u

Juoflife1:
Every woman deserves a good bride price. Afterall, this marriage thing no too favour us. Men gain more in marriage. So, let them pay

The reason why we have a lot of aged single girls. And it will get worse

It is the women themselves that should be speaking up against this rubbish.

There is no wrong in bride price (which is usually generally cheap) but there is usually a "bridal list" which is amounts to extortion. It should be reasonable. It is believed that marriage is a life time commitment and unity between the two families. But some (usually from the brides side) see it as an opportunity to cash out

Being head of my family, I personally stopped that rubbish with my younger ones trying to take stupid advantage of the suitors of our daughters. (S/S).

I don't stand against bridal list, but it must be reasonable.

People that did not give money for biro training the girls will be demanding for Bugatti. God punish you.

The one I witnessed firsthand in 2014 was horrible to say the least.

The 72yr retired old man was arrested for unlawful conversion. Some nitwit Teller erroneously transferred N2.8m to account and baba had spent most of it before the error was discovered which led to his arrest. I the process of trying to raise the refund, baba took us to his daughter's address in VI but unfortunately she was hospitalized at the time without her phone (for health sake). The security man recognized him, likewise the grandkids who greeted him from from the compound but security did not open the gate for him. He couldn't call his 'son-in-law' who then was a millionaire.

Na baba himself later give us the lowdown. 10yrs prior, the man who was then just starting life saw hell during traditional wedding/bride price. Soon after marriage, he made it clear that non of her family member is welcome in his home.

The matter strong!

Jeezuzpick:
True!

I've heard of a man who had like 2 or 3 daughters. He was so aggressive in demanding for bride price that he can't set foot in any of his dsughters' homes now.

Some families and extortion. You want the man to spend heavily and go back home broke. Later the woman and her family will still blame the man for not taking good care of her. When in the right sense he's still busy paying igbese wey him been accumulate during the traditional marriage

Bride family can frustrate ehn,.

They are annoying ajeh

Some of una don tey for here oooo. I recall this moniker back then. Naso dem tell my guy to come back later to pay bride price when we Noor gree on amount. This is after dem don chop plenty things comot from marriage items since Wednesday, and the guy being wan free as inn don tire. Thank God say Guyman newly com from Dubai that year wey I help am add money, reason am and inn mama say if dem comot without finishing wetin dem start, Na complete waste of money be that.
These were folks that didn't even know what the lady looks like cuz their dad died when they were still under 10 years. I gat mad respect for her elder sister. The lady tell dem say make dem eff off , say people wey not give dem 1 tuber of yam while growing up dey make nonsense demands. Dem send am comot, she Noor gree as per day women Noor suppose dey where dem dey haggle untop marriage list. That girl Na proper Lagos agbero 😂 😆 😂 😆. Dem tell am say Na why she never marry after giving birth for two different men, she tell dem say one shot of Kaikai dem Noor go drink for her head. That village was just after Orji Uzor Kalu's hometown. We been trek like 7 storey building down a valley to access their ancestral compound

deebrain:
It is the women themselves that should be speaking up against this rubbish.

There is no wrong in bride price (which is usually generally cheap) but there is usually a "bridal list" which is amounts to extortion. It should be reasonable. It is believed that marriage is a life time commitment and unity between the two families. But some (usually from the brides side) see it as an opportunity to cash out

Being head of my family, I personally stopped that rubbish with my younger ones trying to take stupid advantage of the suitors of our daughters. (S/S).

I don't stand against bridal list, but it must be reasonable.

People that did not give money for biro training the girls will be demanding for Bugatti. God punish you.

Serious red flag!

It shows that the guy just wants to marry to tick a box.

If he really loves the woman, threatening to cancel the marriage is not the solution

deebrain:
It is the women themselves that should be speaking up against this rubbish.

There is no wrong in bride price (which is usually generally cheap) but there is usually a "bridal list" which is amounts to extortion. It should be reasonable. It is believed that marriage is a life time commitment and unity between the two families. But some (usually from the brides side) see it as an opportunity to cash out

Being head of my family, I personally stopped that rubbish with my younger ones trying to take stupid advantage of the suitors of our daughters. (S/S).

I don't stand against bridal list, but it must be reasonable.

People that did not give money for biro training the girls will be demanding for Bugatti. God punish you.

How can women complain about bride price when it is a system created by men for men?

The bride is not getting N1 out of the money.

If men feel it is exorbitant, they should moderate it at their next village meeting.

Leave us women out of it.

Juoflife1:
Every woman deserves a good bride price. Afterall, this marriage thing no too favour us. Men gain more in marriage. So, let them pay

List 10 things men gain in marriage

I can reason with him, it's not easy at all