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if I want to give my first son of 15 out to another family to go and work and live with them to learn new life and discipline from the new home, how do i go about it.

dollytino4real:
if I want to give my first son of 15 out to another family to go and work and live with them to learn new life and discipline from the new home, how do i go about it.

Isn't child labor illegal in Nigeria? Why are you still trying to punish your kids for your own mistakes? 😒😒

Kobojunkie:
Isn't child labor illegal in Nigeria? Why are you still trying to punish your kids for your own mistakes? 😒😒

pls nothing like punishment here, he feels am not treating him well, I don't support his childish behavior, dat is y i want to give him out

dollytino4real:
➜pls nothing like punishment here, he feels am not treating him well,
➜ I don't support his childish behavior, dat is y i want to give him out

1. Have you listened to him and looked inward to ensure he is not, in fact, spitting facts at you? Also, sending a child away because you disapprove of his feelings is a form of punishment. Either you are lying to yourself about what you are attempting to do here, or you are feigning ignorance. Which is it?😒😒

2. Can you give us an example of what this childish behavior could be? 😒😒

A 15-year old boy. He's a growing teenager who needs his mother. Why would you want to give him away? You just want to confuse and ruin that boy's life. What sorta nonsense is that?

dollytino4real:
pls nothing like punishment here, he feels am not treating him well, I don't support his childish behavior, dat is y i want to give him out

See the rubbish you're spitting. So the solution is to give him away? Ahnn ahnn. A responsible and loving parent would inquire further from him as to why he feels that way and make the changes needed so he can feel heard and loved by his mother, not send him away. He's 15, growing and probably going through hormonal changes like most 15-year olds. Perhaps change your parenting skills, ask about his dreams (what he wants to do with his life), be his friend but enforce healthy discipline when necessary. You don't just "give him out" like he's a nonentity, smdh. The fact that you want to "give him out" infers that you probably don't treat him well like he says. What a shame.

dollytino4real:
if I want to give my first son of 15 out to another family to go and work and live with them to learn new life and discipline from the new home, how do i go about it.

You want to dash your son out like a souvenir.lol

TutorTobi:
You want to dash your son out like a souvenir.lol

no pls not at all, na to learn new things n how to value life outside his comfort zone

NotOfThisWorld:
See the rubbish you're spitting. So the solution is to give him away? Ahnn ahnn. A responsible and loving parent would inquire further from him as to why he feels that way and make the changes needed so he can feel heard and loved by his mother, not send him away. He's 15, growing and probably going through hormonal changes like most 15-year olds. Perhaps change your parenting skills, ask about his dreams (what he wants to do with his life), be his friend but enforce healthy discipline when necessary. You don't just "give him out" like he's a nonentity, smdh. The fact that you want to "give him out" infers that you probably don't treat him well like he says. What a shame.

I just want to learn life differently not pushing away pls

Kobojunkie:
1. Have you listened to him and looked inward to ensure he is not, in fact, spitting facts at you? Also, sending a child away because you disapprove of his feelings is a form of punishment. Either you are lying to yourself about what you are attempting to do here, or you are feigning ignorance. Which is it?😒😒

2. Can you give us an example of what this childish behavior could be? 😒😒

one dat really got me angry, a troublesome neighbor, we told him to avoid her n her things to avoid trouble, do u know he went and told the woman, if not wisdom d tin 4 bring wahala

Kobojunkie:
Isn't child labor illegal in Nigeria? Why are you still trying to punish your kids for your own mistakes? 😒😒

all jon, na lesson not child labor

dollytino4real:
➜one dat really got me angry, a troublesome neighbor, we told him to avoid her n her things to avoid trouble, do u know he went and told the woman, if not wisdom d tin 4 bring wahala

You have to open up on what really happened for us to make sense of what you are suggesting here. What exactly did he do? 😒😒

dollytino4real:
all jon, na lesson not child labor

Lesson? You are not sending him off to boarding school or to military school. You are attempting to send him to some other family to use him for work. That is considered child labor, even in Nigeria.😒😒

Kobojunkie:
Lesson? You are not sending him off to boarding school or to military school. You are attempting to send him to some other family to use him for work. That is considered child labor, even in Nigeria.😒😒

really Nigeria we dey send children to leave with aunties n other relatives if not evu of these days

dollytino4real:
➜really Nigeria we dey send children to leave with aunties n other relatives if not evu of these days

Despite the many stories of how most of those aunties and other relatives turned out to be abusive and manipulative to the vast majority out there before? 😒😒

Kobojunkie:
You have to open up on what really happened for us to make sense of what you are suggesting here. What exactly did he do? 😒😒

as he was trying to stay away from the woman anytime he sees me coming the woman na asked him y is he running from her anytime he sees me coming, dat is wen he na tod her wat we said inside house

Kobojunkie:
Despite the many stories of how most of those aunties and other relatives turned out to be abusive and manipulative to the vast majority out there before? 😒😒

it is well o, it was just advice i needed I have not sent him o

dollytino4real:
➜it is well o, it was just advice i needed I have not sent him o

The mere fact that you considered it is the problem here. Your child is likely struggling with something. That your reaction was to consider sending him off to someone else to handle, knowing full well that most of us who were sent off to be raised in such a way up damaged by it, is the problem here. 😒😒

If you have changed your mind about sending him off, how do you now intend to resolve the friction between yourself and your son? 😒😒

Kobojunkie:
The mere fact that you considered it is the problem here. Your child is likely struggling with something. That your reaction was to consider sending him off to someone else to handle, knowing full well that most of us who were sent off to be raised in such a way up damaged by it, is the problem here. 😒😒

If you have changed your mind about sending him off, how do you now intend to resolve the friction between yourself and your son? 😒😒

Nigeria don happen to him not my fault

dollytino4real:
Nigeria don happen to him not my fault

What? You are responsible for that child whether you like it or not. I am just saying! 😐😐

dollytino4real:
if I want to give my first son of 15 out to another family to go and work and live with them to learn new life and discipline from the new home, how do i go about it.

Why get pregnant in the first place since you never intended on being a parent? Do people actually think deeply and make careful plans before getting pregnant and birthing children into this world in Nigeria?

Nnamdipapa:
Why get pregnant in the first place since you never intended to be a parent? Do people actually think deeply and make careful plans before getting pregnant and birthing children into this world in Nigeria?

no we just birth dem