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Hello Friends, happy weekend.

Somehow, many of us have got some secrets, or stories we are not proud of that we keep within for shame or to avoid people's backlash.

A lot has happened in my life. I was on the bed scrolling when my thought flicked to my sex life. It's been funny.

PARDON ME IF IT SOUNDS NOT FIT FOR A CHRISTIAN FORUM. THIS IS THE BEST WAY I CAN TELL IT FOR BETTER UNDERSTANDING FOR I BELIEVE MOST PEOPLE HERE ARE ADULT.

Let me dive into the incidences.
You may believe me, and you may not.

I was just led to share them.

1.
I traveled for the second time out of the country in 2000, and it was the first time by flight. It was to The Gambia.

Before I left, I promised God I was going to be serious in my service to Him. So, immediately, I got there, I joined a church.
A Nigerian church and I tried to fulfil my promise.

I latter joined the choir and after a while I was made the choir leader. I had no girlfriend, the one I had last was in Naija and we lost contact the moment I traveled and I was not ready to have another one.

A year gone by, going to two, no girlfriend still in the Gambia.

In my compound, people started wondering what was wrong with me. I was handsome. When I say handsome, I mean handsome.

Now, old age and sapa don configure my physic. Sometimes when I look in the mirror e be like say nay tolotolo I dey see. That was by the way.

So, it was not long people started gossiping that it was possible I was gay or impotent.

Na only men dey find me come home, and they were my choir members dem.
Besides, so many Naija guys were doing gay for money with the oyibo tourists. So, they thought I was into such too.

You know there's no way people will gossip about you and it will not get to you.
When I discovered what they were insinuating, I became sad and I was almost depressed.

I spent almost two years in a compound and no girl visited me or slept in my room once.

My next door neighbour was a Nigerian runs girl. Edo girl, Justina (real name) She does her trade at Senegambia where tourist are.
We were friendly and we dey yan and joke together often.

One day, Justina cracked an expensive joke. She was in my room. "James, your thing no dey rise?"

I asked "why you talk so"

She said I never see a girl with you.

"And that means I no fit do?" I asked.

She bust into laughter, "Yes now, you no fit do,"
The laughter pain me die. I look am. She sat on the plastic chair and still they laff.

I said to her, "Na today I go show you say I fit do. I go show you say my thing dey rise,"
I stood up and locked the door.

She was still laughing saying, "wetin you wan do, wetin you wan do,"

I removed my pants and one time, my **** don stand up.
She saw it that no be small thing sef.. I pulled her skirt and I was surprised that she did not even struggle. She just dey smile. She wanted it. I climbed, and did like I was going to put am. I stood up, wore my boxers and went for my trousers.

May be I would have done it but, I remembered she was a professional runsgirl and also, she is not my type. She's not pretty. And I don't date, talkless have fun with a girl I can't walk head up high on the street with.

"Why you come stop," she was shocked.

"Im sorry I just wan show you say my thing dey rise"

She began to dress up and after then, i left my door opened.
Now, she knows I am a man, but she was not sure if it was not men that I do it with.

2.
I have shared this particular one through another monika long time ago.
It shows how God's love and grace stays with his children even when they are being stupid and going astray.

The gossip continues courtesy my landlady, and her beautiful daughters and some Nigerian guys in the compound.

One day, I was in their Moluẹ, they call it Gelegele. Sitting beside me was a pretty Gambian girl. So pretty that I couldn't look away. I started a conversation with her and it clicked. Her name was Nanta (real name).

Her bustop was after mine. The last bustop.
I followed her home that evening to know her place.
So I promised to come and pick her to my place the following evening and she agreed.
The following day came, and I left for her place.

Guys, I was determined to sin that day, believing God understands.

I arrived at her house, I met her mother and asked about her and she said she went to bath. Na so, I sẹngẹrẹ for chair.
Today na today. God will have to forgive me. I go do this one.

Nanta arrived and was happy to see me.
Guys, na inside sitting room she dey change clothes, she just dropped her rapper remaining pant and nothing on her chest. The mother was there, and she no send.

Note:
Gambians saw nothing special in the breast in those days. It was the waist down that they respect. And 90% of Gambia ladies wear charms around their waists. I dont know of now. It was the type the Yorubas call olonde. (Leather waist band) They dont harm men with it. It is for pregnancy prevention.

I carry Nanta dey go house. We got to.my junction and we got down.
"James, this is your junction?" She asked
"Yes," I replied.
"Which house?"
"The bungalow by the left up the street painted white and blue,"
"Oh No! Pa Bojang house?" She exclaimed. She stopped.

"Yes," I replied.

"I am not going. Its my uncle's house," she wanted to turn back.

"Common, it is night already and there is no light, no one will know it is you in the dark,"
(Gambia Nepa don do us shege that night. ) to my advantage.

After a while, she agreed and we proceeded.
We got to the gate, and I have arranged it in such a way that I was at the side facing the people. We met them outside, and I greeted them just to call their attention to myself.

It was a shock that I brought a woman home at last. They saw it was a lady even in the dark. Around 7:30pm
There were small talks as me and the girl walked past.

We entered my room, and we started preparation for the royal rumble.

Guys, I climbed on top of this girl and the moment my tommy touched hers, there was this vicious vibration that I myself felt. Her tommy vibrated against mine. I felt it!

She pushed me up instantly.

"James wait. Are you a Christian?" She asked.

"Yes, that's why Im called James,"

"You drink?"

I said No

"You smoke?"

I said No.

She sat up and said, "No sex," "No sex,"

"Why I asked"

She maintained no sex. She put on her pants and sat on the chair.
I did not pet her much because even if we didn't do anything my mission has been accomplished.

Tat was how I was not allowed to have sex. She just sat on the chair for a while half naked. We chatted and later said she wanted to leave.

I learnt at last that the warning from the Marabout (babalawo) was that the charm is potent but it will not work on Christians.
Not all Christians though, but those who don't drink and dont smoke. (They dont know how to say Born-agains)

The vibration was the signal for danger.

I saw Nanta off, my neighbours saw me seeing the woman off again.
Though, I was not able to have sex that evening but, my intention to prove to my neighbours that I am not a gay or an impotent guy was achieved.
Since that day all the gossip subsided.

But one painful thing was that, that evening was the last day I saw or talked to Nanta. She blocked me and I decided to let her be.

Months after, I proposed to a choir member who was also the secretary to the pastors. And I left the compound for a bigger apartment in preparation for marriage.

THE LESSON I LEARNT IN THIS INCIDENT WAS THAT, THOUGH I WAS AT THE VERGE OF COMMITTING SIN, GOD'S GRACE STILL WAS AVAILABLE FOR ME.
THE VIBRATION THAT WE BOTH FELT AND "WAIT! ARE YOU A CHRISTIAN?" was not just anything I can forgetin a hurry.

It means that in my stupidity God's auction and love still worked for me.

The remaining two incidents to be continued.

Didn't read that. The topic made it so hard to pass two lines.

You could have posted a Bible story on a Sunday, but no you chose this, maybe because sex related matters are things that sells in this generation.
Well, I read it and I can't judge you. I just hope that you've stopped to care about what people think or have to say about you.

Anyone who read the whole story needs to do better in life.

meobizy:
Anyone who read the whole story needs to do better in life.

Ehn! Because this is the guy who conquers you daughters of dev.

merrymike47:
You could have posted a Bible story on a Sunday, but no you chose this, maybe because sex related matters are things that sells in this generation.
Well, I read it and I can't judge you. I just hope that you've stopped to care about what people think or have to say about you.

Sex is what killed mankind

chatinent:
Didn't read that. The topic made it so hard to pass two lines.

Na lie just say it pained you so much that a guy said no to fornication even when the dev was willing and naked

Good Boy, keep being a good boy ok? Unlike some people, they know themselves, rotten spoilt things

Nearly the same thing God did for me save that in my case God opened my eyes to see many things that 1) fornicators don't prosper 2) if the boy was fine and young he becomes old and washed off (same thing for girls too that's why they hide it under make up) 3) if the boy was blessed and prospering before he becomes cursd and loses his job or his business dies.

And then i saw the opposite happen to the woman who fornicated him in that where she was dry and ugly, after sex she starts shinning and looking fine, while the boy gets her dry and ugliness.

And where before she did not prosper after fornication with that blessed boy, she starts to prosper while the boy starts to go down.

Omo, i truly did not want to fornicate again and nd i noticed that it's like the women knew and they avoided me and nobody said any shiii...

But like you said e get the day you no won hear again and what God did for me was that on such days no woman would be around and it is when it had passed that 1 or 2 would start fulin themselves as i called it, but I was not moved.

Then when my wife was to come the dev came with what Beowulf called a beautiful woman with big promises....

What a story

Dtruthspeaker:
Sex is what killed mankind

No, choice did. The ability to decide to or to not. Just like you, you could have posted something related to salvation, purity, etc on a day like this but you chose to talk about naked women and still found a way to put a born again into the narrative. Well, like I said earlier, I am not here to judge you because whatever decision/choice that you make in life already did.

merrymike47:
You could have posted a Bible story on a Sunday, but no you chose this, maybe because sex related matters are things that sells in this generation.
Well, I read it and I can't judge you. I just hope that you've stopped to care about what people think or have to say about you.

Thanks.
In silly things, there are lessons.

merrymike47:
No, choice did. The ability to decide to or to not. Just like you, you could have posted something related to salvation, purity, etc on a day like this but you chose to talk about naked women and still found a way to put a born again into the narrative. Well, like I said earlier, I am not here to judge you because whatever decision/choice that you make in life already did.

Are you saying people should not choose? That is unreasonable.

Choice operates in everything in life but where the problem of man lies is on the things to choose. Eg. Japa/don't japa; go to university/don't go to the University; fornicate/don't fornicate.

And though it is about naked women, but this is about a person who defeated fornication at it's highest peak. And that is a very good thing and an aspect of salvation and purity and a great encouragement for anyone seeking to overcome the evil of fornication to see that it is truly defeatable.

So, it is still a message of salvation and as you can see those who say that there is nothing wrong with fornication are very angry. That tells you that the thread was right

StoryHaven:
Thanks.
In silly things, there are lessons.

This is not even silly. It is a big in-spirit-action (inspiration) mostly to younger folks who are yet to fall into the push and pull and advertisement and goading of fornication and boastings of fornication.

From the silence and grumblings here, we can see that the multitudes have fallen and cannot come out of fornication and are therefore very pained that even in these days where they say fornication is normal and everywhere, someone has still said no to fornication.

They know God would notice such a person and will surely respond

Dtruthspeaker:
This is not even silly. It is a big in-spirit-action (inspiration) mostly to younger folks who are yet to fall into the push and pull and advertisement and goading of fornication and boastings of fornication.

From the silence and grumblings here, we can see that the multitudes have fallen and cannot come out of fornication and are therefore very pained that even in these days where they say fornication is normal and everywhere, someone has still said no to fornication.

They know God would notice such a person and will surely respond

You are on point bro. The Bible never said we wont face temptation. It says we will overcome it.
Thanks

StoryHaven:
You are on point bro. The Bible never said we wont face temptation. It says we will overcome it.
Thanks

If we try and if we truly want to!

Dtruthspeaker:
Are you saying people should not choose? That is unreasonable.

Choice operates in everything in life but where the problem of man lies is on the things to choose. Eg. Japa/don't japa; go to university/don't go to the University; fornicate/don't fornicate.

And though it is about naked women, but this is about a person who defeated fornication at it's highest peak. And that is a very good thing and an aspect of salvation and purity and a great encouragement for anyone seeking to overcome the evil of fornication to see that it is truly defeatable.

So, it is still a message of salvation and as you can see those who say that there is nothing wrong with fornication are very angry. That tells you that the thread was right

I really do not have the strength for argument. Just sit back and read whatever I wrote again and I must say, whichever way you interprete it is your business, not mine.

You brought a girl home with the intention of having sex with her, her juju declined you and you called that overcame? You called that purity? Like I said earlier, I don't have strength for argument, just stay off my mention, thank you.

merrymike47:
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You brought a girl home with the intention of having sex with her, her juju declined you and you called that overcame? You called that purity? Like I said earlier, I don't have strength for argument, just stay off my mention, thank you.

Every one knows that that one does not fully count. But, we also know that it is still away God uses to save a person from fornication even if it is a last minute one especially one who has even tried avoiding it. So, the idea behind the thread is good and should be appreciated, especially in this world where people are rather happy and boastful of their fornicating exploits

Dtruthspeaker:
Every one knows that that one does not fully count. But, we also know that it is still away God uses to save a person from fornication even if it is a last minute one especially one who has even tried avoiding it. So, the idea behind the thread is good and should be appreciated, especially in this world where people are rather happy and boastful of their fornicating exploits

guy! I don tell you to stay off my mention. It looked to me that you just need people to engage on the thread.

Your opinion is your business, deal with it.

merrymike47:
I really do not have the strength for argument. Just sit back and read whatever I wrote again and I must say, whichever way you interprete it is your business, not mine.

You brought a girl home with the intention of having sex with her, her juju declined you and you called that overcame? You called that purity? Like I said earlier, I don't have strength for argument, just stay off my mention, thank you.

Bro,
When ever you are attacking a post do it reasonably. Bring along your sense.

At the folded.
The Juju did not stop me, the girl did. The Juju can not stop the man who is about to have sex with her, rather the Juju is there to prevent unwanted pregnancy and also to warn her when someone who has higher spiritual power that can beat the potency of the Juju wants to have sex with her.
When she's warned,
It is now left for the girl after the warning to allow the guy or not.
She chose to deny me. And that is divinely orchestrated by the same power she felt that I carry.

If I nack am once, she go get belle and that she doesn't want.
That was the instruction the Marabout gave her.

The Juju didn't deny me, the girl did. And my God orchestrated it. You believing me or not doesn't freek me. You have been made to be a doubter of God's power by the one controlling you. So, its not strange.

I hope the message sank this time around or it is still floating?

A child of God is a Child of God even at the verge of commiting sin.

merrymike47:
guy! I don tell you to stay off my mention. It looked to me that you just need people to engage on the thread.

Your opinion is your business, deal with it.

My opinion is already my business but when you air your opinions it becomes everybody's business as anybody may think it good or bad. So opinions aired may require correction.

I don't understand why you are angry about someone responding to your comments in a public discussion

Dtruthspeaker:
My opinion is already my business but when you air your opinions it becomes everybody's business as anybody may think it good or bad. So opinions aired may require correction.

I don't understand why you are angry about someone responding to your comments in a public discussion

Atheists and Jesus haters think they are smatter than the smartest in the world but by the time they start their argument, you'll discover that the most stupid person on earth is smarter than them.
He attacked my post and could not bear it when you wanted to enlighten him that he was wrong.
Wetin be dat.
Dat na smartness or foolishness?

Don't waste your time arguing with an atheist.

StoryHaven:
Atheists and Jesus haters think they are smatter than the smartest in the world but by the time they start their argument, you'll discover that the most stupid person on earth is smarter than them.
He attacked my post and could not bear it when you wanted to enlighten him that he was wrong.
Wetin be dat.
Dat na smartness or foolishness?

Don't waste your time arguing with an atheist.

Funny thing is that this guy is not really an atheist oo. And i know because me i love arguing with atheists.

But i understand. His problem is is guilty conscience and shame. Where you have peace that you know that what you did was wrong ab initio, your story causes his conscience to tell him "you see yourself. See how somebody walked away from naked women where you were saying that all men in your position would do likewise. And in your own, it is still you who pulled down their dirty pants".

That is what your post is doing to him.