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We all have expectations of our partners. When these expectations are not met, we can feel used, unappreciated, neglected and cheated.

Feeling unappreciated and undervalued causes us to feel resentful toward our partners and can seriously undermine our relationships or marriages. People have an inner sense of what is fair and when we start feeling things are unfair, immediate action (communication) must be taken, before things gets worse. Resentment, or that sense of unfairness, creates emotional distance and emotional distance can kill relationships and marriages.

For Men...

In what ways do you feel unappreciated by your GF/Wife in your relationship or marriage?

If you've told her how you feel, did she change her attitude toward you or not?


For Women...

In what ways do you feel unappreciated by your BF/Husband in your relationship or marriage?

If you've told him how you feel, did he change his attitude toward you or not?

Ok

onetouch7:
Ok

That's it?

zboyd:
We all have expectations of our partners. When these expectations are not met, we can feel used, unappreciated, neglected and cheated.

Feeling unappreciated and undervalued causes us to feel resentful toward our partners and can seriously undermine our relationships or marriages. People have an inner sense of what is fair and when we start feeling things are unfair, immediate action (communication) must be taken, before things gets worse. Resentment, or that sense of unfairness, creates emotional distance and emotional distance can kill relationships and marriages.

For Men...

In what ways do you feel unappreciated by your GF/Wife in your relationship or marriage?

If you've told her how you feel, did she change her attitude toward you or not?


For Women...

In what ways do you feel unappreciated by your BF/Husband in your relationship or marriage?

If you've told him how you feel, did he change his attitude toward you or not?

do you want to be a mediator

When you expect nothing from anyone, you can never be disappointed.

Is that not what marriage is all about?

USING AND ABUSING?
Na competition na!
I feel used and abused EVERY MINUTE!
And loving it!
E sweeeeeeeeet gaaaaaaaaaan ni o!

I just use and abuse right back!
Shikena!

Marriage is a thankless job!
Please, wake up and smell the poo!

greatgod2012:
do you want to be a mediator

No.

Some BFs/GFs/Spouses get fed up with feeling unappreciated, undervalued, neglected, being taking advantage of, etc....so they leave...and look for someone who gives them what they weren't getting from you.

No more 'smilin' and sufferin'' for them.

Happiness is now their cup of tea...as it should be.

vickyO:
When you expect nothing from anyone, you can never be disappointed.

I agree.

If...as a BF/GF/Spouse you have no expectations from your partner...when it comes to fulfilling your needs and wants...then you will never be disappointed...because your wants and needs have never been fulfilled anyway...so why should you ever be disappointed?

It's nothing new...you're used to it.

But...ask yourself this: "Don't you deserve better?"