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5minsmadness:
But this has nothing to do with the topic Na! We are not talking of battered wives here.

It does..

Many people who advocate weathering the storms of a bad marriage do tend to infer that staying in an abusive marriage or relationship is a sign of a good woman when indeed it's not and has led to the death of many, one of such women being my aunt who died in a bad marriage after years of incessant abuse.

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Nihilist:
The OP is a joker

You want a Washing Machine, Dishwasher, Pounding Machine, blah blah...

How much do you contribute to NEPA Bill? Or money for Gen?

You can bet that she sits on her fat derrière all day, and doesn't even go downstairs to put on the pumping machine.

Abeg, someone should arrest the OP for attempted robbery.

Lmao!!

You took words out of my mouth!

Third world country mentality about thinking everything is fashionable when it actually cost you more money, and on the long run make ya life miserable. Lazy fvckers!

A lot of folks on this forum just talk for the sake of it.

Nihilist:
The OP is a joker

You want a Washing Machine, Dishwasher, Pounding Machine, blah blah...

How much do you contribute to NEPA Bill? Or money for Gen?

You can bet that she sits on her fat derrière all day, and doesn't even go downstairs to put on the pumping machine.

Abeg, someone should arrest the OP for attempted robbery.

Most wives these days are contributing on the home front financially and so they can buy those gadgets for themselves. How many housewives do you see these days? No one has time to wait for a man to buy you everything

londoner:
OP, you are right in your assessment for the most part, especially with more traditional married African/Nigerian men.

If I have the money, I will get a dish washer........if you stay in a house that has one, it's amazing how much time you have for other things. Same with washing machines. Makes life much easier and less stressful.


Every time I see images of Nigeran street sweepers, bending down and damaging their already age ack, I shake my head. Its actually quite cruel imo. They can't even provide them with long handle brushes or less damaging ways of carrying out that task.

I have a dishwasher. Both of my parents hate it lol. I actually researched and gave them a presentation on the ways the dishwasher conserves water--and thus, MONEY!!--and time, before they came around

There is this mentality that suffering = hard-working.
And life in Nigeria operates at a slow pace, so things that save time aren't considered necessary.

Like those poor women in your picture, using those ancient style brooms. That job would take a fraction of the time it does with commercial, wide, long handle brooms. A FRACTION.
https://www.backsavergrip.com/Images/Push-Broom-web.jpg

Saving time = more productivity. That's why they say time is money. But that's not our culture. Spending the entire day in the kitchen accomplishing 2 or 3 things is more our speed.

aisha2:
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Ya brother say modern technological gadgets to aid women go cause divorce.

You clearly miss the point here. If a woman is happy doing house chores with her hand what's yours in crying wolf

londoner:
OP, you are right in your assessment for the most part, especially with more traditional married African/Nigerian men.

If I have the money, I will get a dish washer........if you stay in a house that has one, it's amazing how much time you have for other things. Same with washing machines. Makes life much easier and less stressful.


Every time I see images of Nigeran street sweepers, bending down and damaging their already age ack, I shake my head. Its actually quite cruel imo. They can't even provide them with long handle brushes or less damaging ways of carrying out that task.

This pictures must have been taken before the war because most homes now hardly use broom sticks talk more of street sweepers using them.

tatiana009:
Most wives these days are contributing on the home front financially and so they can buy those gadgets for themselves. How many housewives do you see these days? No one has time to wait for a man to buy you everything

But are you ready to pay the ridiculous bills that will come with some of these gadgets?

Imagine throwing three plates in the dish washer all the time, just because you can. And washing two or three clothes just because you can. All in the name of being "modern" (still don't understand the correlation between modern and normal gadgets).

Much ado about nothing really, and making it about "good African wife" is totally unnecessary.

aisha2:
No vex abeg new phone auto correct. Still trying to understand it
Tried to modify, found out i couldnt modify the original topic

Ok I like your personality. Some immatured Nlanders could have resulted to insult.

3cycle:
This pictures must have been taken before the war because most homes now hardly use broom sticks talk more of street sweepers using them.

You would think so, but no. They still use those brooms. I've seen them.

And the part about the home use, DEFINITELY untrue. Every house has one. Even abroad we have them. It's tradition, I guess.

There is nothing lazy about a wife who works from 9-5 and then sits in traffic and gets home like 7 wanting all these gadgets. Those gadgets are what will make it easier for her to ensure the house is in good order and then she can spend quailitu time with herself and children . When women are running around doing choruses old school it reduces how much tine they actually do end wth their husbands, his many if those women will have time for date night? Then the man will start going out alone and carrying girls. How is that being a good wife?

MissMeiya:
You would think so, but no. They still use those brooms. I've seen them.

Hmmm I haven't seen any in the city I reside.

aisha2:
I am the President jare. Before we married ny mother in law visited, she was shocked i had a maid even before marriage and kids and when she said so i told her yes oh, your son got one for me because he said Saturday is for dates and rest not for cleaning, washing and cooking. Na so she look me,matter end, case closed

By the way OP, where you dey buy your own gas at 4k every month? You better try a new outlet. I buy at 2,800 and the thing even lasts my family for about 2 and a half to 3 months. Abi na oga dey buy am,? You just dey guess?

3cycle:
Hmmm I haven't seen any in the city I reside.

You should see more of the country then, before generalizing?

UjSizzle:
Lol @Sophyrocks, the list keeps growing These men want super women.

Women arent the only ones who nuture unrealistic expectations. Men also do. The most unrealistic expectations a man can have are to wish his wife would be like his mother and to continously suffer iniquity but remain sane and ageless . My sister, how are those possible bikonu?

SirShymex:
But are you ready to pay the ridiculous bills that will come with some of these gadgets?

Imagine throwing three plates in the dish washer all the time, just because you can. And washing two or three clothes just because you can. All in the name of being "modern" (still don't understand the correlation between modern and normal gadgets).

Much ado about nothing really, and making it about "good African wife" is totally unnecessary.

Of course why not, and it's about being smart with the gadgets. In a house with the husband and maybe 3kids, there will be pots, pans and bowls used during the day for preparing and serving the food. You put all the dishes in the machine and you wash it at night and turn off. Ho much electricity is that? You are talking like she'll be washing 3plates in the machine every hour. By the way anyone with a household if 4 knows you will never have just 3 plates to wash . The woman can they attend to other things like supervising the kids homework or getting their things ready for school the next day . The gadgets don't mean you'll have nothing to do it just allows you to achieve more.

pickabeau1:
Is there anything new here
When you lot are filled to the brim with your man bashing örgy you will move onto the next topic which of course will be something the man has done again..

Endless and recycled topics...

Ok then

The extra time will be spent bonding with the children, having time for them to tell you about their day at school. You have time to finish any work you have from the office , during weekend you'll have time to get your hair done , go on a date with your husband and have family outings..etc

That is a good mother and wife not the typical over tired ones in Nigeria who take their frustration by beating the children for ever little thing. Anyways I think most people who can afford the gadgets have them, it's the people who can't that come up with excuses to make themselves feel better

adebisicutie:
Of course why not, at it's about being smart with the gadgets. In a house with the husband and maybe 3kids, there will be pots, pans and bowls used during the day for preparing and serving the food. You put all the dishes in the machine and you wash it at night and turn off. Ho much electricity is that? You are talking like she'll be washing 3plates in the machine every hour. By the way anyone with a household if 4 knows you will never have just 3 plates to wash

I hope you saw where I cited "big family."

I don't know where you live but a lot of these gadgets are vampires when it comes to electricity.

So, you have to always conserve electricity. It's more expensive on the long run than the gadgets.

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aisha2:
I have noticed that a woman is mostly expected to suffer before she is referred to as a good wife or sweet mother.
The story or picture of a sweet mother is usually one who suffers so much for so long.

One funny thing is that any technological innovation that aims to make womens life easier is strongly resisted and women who use these called lazy.

Funny thing those complaining will always rush technological gadgets like they phones they use to comment. They will use calculator instead of calculating with their brains yet it doesnt make them lazy. They will have the newest cars, instead of bicycles or treking like their likewise hard working fathers and ancestors. They will use clippers instead of razor as used by grandfathers, they will wear all the desinger wriat watches instead of standing under the sun to check time. They will eat processed food and meat unstead of going to farm for food, hunt for it or fish like their own fathers did.
Here are some most resisted technological innovations

1. Yam pounder: lazy women cant pound common yam for 4 people they cant pound. My mother used to pound for all 3 wives and 38 children without getting tired.

Gas cooker: lazy women, what happened to firewood. Our mothers went 10 kilometres to get firewood yet you want me to spend 4 k every month on gas.

Washing machine: how many clothes are you washing self? My mother had 9 kids and handwashed all their ckothes in the stream

Epidural: this is the height of laziness, if my mother can have 10 kids at home on her own why cant you push out 4 by yourself?

Dish washer: why did i marry you? What will you be doing while machine is washing plates for you?

A man who truly loves his wife/woman will hate to see her suffer in any way.

dabossman:
You, my dear, are guilty of generalization. You've not been married to most Nigerian men. Sometimes, this preconceived, generalized old wives tales is what ruins homes. You go in with a negative mindset, always on the defensive, even when no one is chasing. If you take your time to marry the right man/woman, the two of you will discover what works for you in your home. Don't generalize.

Thank God i dnt subscribe to such negative mindset. But deep inside you, you know i am right. My comment is the typical mentality of Nigerians. Be very honest with yourself, have you ever compared any lady or other ladies to your mother before? Have you ever secretly wished ladiies were more like your mother? If yes, you are also guilty.

pickabeau1:
Must these tales be recycled all to denigrate men?


As has been correctly noted, washing mc is penetrating gradually.

In less than 5 years, it will be a household staple

Domestic abuse is to be condemned irrespective of gender

But it has go go down to male bashing....OK

NL .....bashing naija men since 1960

I tire oh! See as the thread quickly degenerated. This wasnt the original line of discussion. Am out, nothing new to learn here.

pickabeau1:
Must these tales be recycled all to denigrate men?


As has been correctly noted, washing mc is penetrating gradually.

In less than 5 years, it will be a household staple

Domestic abuse is to be condemned irrespective of gender

But it has go go down to male bashing....OK

NL .....bashing naija men since 1960

I tire oh! See as the thread quickly degenerated to wife battering thread. This wasnt the original line of discussion. Am out, nothing new to learn here.

MissMeiya:
You should see more of the country then, before generalizing?

I wasn't refering to countries but my beautiful Nigeria.
Very few cities in Nigeria employ the services of street sweepers, from Abuja Lagos, Ph and maybe Enugu. And ihave been to these cities and I can tell that none still use short brooms.

When was the last time you visited Nigeria?

5minsmadness:
If you start comparing bad habits you won't get honest responses. I for one do not watch supersport and the guys I know who do don't watch it at the detriment of their family duties.
Hello pot

Touche

Stupid topic...hw dis one com take concern me

SirShymex:
I hope you saw where I cited "big family."

I don't know where you live but a lot of these gadgets are vampires when it comes to electricity.

So, you have to always conserve electricity. It's more expensive on the long run than the gadgets.

I live in a Nigeria where generally they give you any Nepa bill they feel like. Adding one or 2 gadgets hardly ever reflects on your bill here, even if you don't use anything that month the bill be be the same. In countries where the electricity bill is high you simply organize your self and do the dishes once a day, do laundry maybe 2xe a week or so. People in the west manage to pay for those things it about organizing yourself. By the way having 3children is a typical Nigerian family

aisha2:
I have noticed that a woman is mostly expected to suffer before she is referred to as a good wife or sweet mother.
The story or picture of a sweet mother is usually one who suffers so much for so long.

One funny thing is that any technological innovation that aims to make womens life easier is strongly resisted and women who use these called lazy.

Funny thing those complaining will always rush technological gadgets like they phones they use to comment. They will use calculator instead of calculating with their brains yet it doesnt make them lazy. They will have the newest cars, instead of bicycles or treking like their likewise hard working fathers and ancestors. They will use clippers instead of razor as used by grandfathers, they will wear all the desinger wriat watches instead of standing under the sun to check time. They will eat processed food and meat unstead of going to farm for food, hunt for it or fish like their own fathers did.
Here are some most resisted technological innovations

1. Yam pounder: lazy women cant pound common yam for 4 people they cant pound. My mother used to pound for all 3 wives and 38 children without getting tired.

Gas cooker: lazy women, what happened to firewood. Our mothers went 10 kilometres to get firewood yet you want me to spend 4 k every month on gas.

Washing machine: how many clothes are you washing self? My mother had 9 kids and handwashed all their ckothes in the stream

Epidural: this is the height of laziness, if my mother can have 10 kids at home on her own why cant you push out 4 by yourself?

Dish washer: why did i marry you? What will you be doing while machine is washing plates for you?

You, Madam, are a feminist agitator.

Unfortunately while you may think you are doing your Sisters a favor, you're actually doing more harm.

dabossman:
By the way OP, where you dey buy your own gas at 4k every month? You better try a new outlet. I buy at 2,800 and the thing even lasts my family for about 2 and a half to 3 months. Abi na oga dey buy am,? You just dey guess?

Na Abuja I dey oh, everything them go add their own. The closest place to buy gas at affordable rates is Jabi, thats like 10 litres of fuel for me to get there "N970" and 60 minutes traffic and hold up. So I have to buy close to the house and grumble, complain telling them how much they are cheating me lol.

jahbiz:
Ok I like your personality. Some immatured Nlanders could have resulted to insult.

No mind me, I am very particular about writen English too, but technology and I are hardly friends

what about using V1BRATOR....?
Would u still be regarded as a LAZY WOMAN..?

From the comments here I'm guessing most of the married women on this thread have uncaring, inconsiderate men has husbands. Wish their husbands would read this thread and learn what their wives think. Hopefully, they will change.