₦airaland Forum

SirShymex:
Nah, those of us who grew up with these gadgets, and know they're readily available wherever you move to are just telling you that these gadgets don't make you "modern." The only reason why you're attaching so much importance to them has more to do with primitiveness and 3rd world mentality.

So, if you can fix things without them, while saving money at the same thing, just do that. There's absolutely nothing special about them, unless you're the wasteful and lazy type.

adebisicutie:
The essence of money is to make your life more comfortable, we have all the gadgets we can afford to make our lives easier. Most people who say this or that is a waste change their tune when they can afford it

5minsmadness:
Its obvious that this particular guy has a beef with his wife that you don't know about hence his cold behaviour.

aisha2:
No oh, the write up is not about women who enjoy doing this oh, its about the need by some to regard technology that helps women as bad while still utilising other benefits of technology. There should be same standard for everyone. If a man thinks washing machine makes his wife lazy then he should also consider a car as a machine for lazy men then trek anywhere he goes too

adebisicutie:
Of course why not, and it's about being smart with the gadgets. In a house with the husband and maybe 3kids, there will be pots, pans and bowls used during the day for preparing and serving the food. You put all the dishes in the machine and you wash it at night and turn off. Ho much electricity is that? You are talking like she'll be washing 3plates in the machine every hour. By the way anyone with a household if 4 knows you will never have just 3 plates to wash . The woman can they attend to other things like supervising the kids homework or getting their things ready for school the next day . The gadgets don't mean you'll have nothing to do it just allows you to achieve more.

naijababe:
Oh my! You have fallen into pickabeau's camp

SirShymex:
Nah, those of us who grew up with these gadgets, and know they're readily available wherever you move to are just telling you that these gadgets don't make you "modern." The only reason why you're attaching so much importance to them has more to do with primitiveness and 3rd world mentality.

So, if you can fix things without them, while saving money at the same thing, just do that. There's absolutely nothing special about them, unless you're the wasteful and lazy type.

pickabeau1:
Err....there's no camp oo

naijababe:
There isn't?

3cycle:
I wasn't refering to countries but my beautiful Nigeria.
Very few cities in Nigeria employ the services of street sweepers, from Abuja Lagos, Ph and maybe Enugu. And ihave been to these cities and I can tell that none still use short brooms.

When was the last time you visited Nigeria?

OkikiOluwa1:
Supersport doesn't make real men go lazy cos they don't spend too much time infront of TV. Same should be said about Real African women who knows their onus & doesn't stay too long to while surfing the internet, chatting or watching African Magic
Last Bullet
The thing here is I m not against the points you listed in this thread. A woman can assist herself with washing machine, poundo yam, gas cooker etc if they v a large family & can afford them. They are dividends of our modern world. I m sure our forefathers ll v been glad to use them if they were available back then. What you & I should frown against is lazy women with their attitudes & how the affect their household

Nihilist:
I swear you are the stereotypical woman who does not know what the NEPA bill looks like.

1: Do you know how much wattage is required to run the machine?

2: Do you have 24 hour power supply? Or are you advocating that your man spends good money on a machine that you can only use once in a while?

3: What happens if you don't have light for a few days at home, you let the dishes pile up abi? So that you can save time to supervise the kid's homework

I seriously pity your husband .

dabossman:
You see that is where you are wrong. I didn't even want to marry a woman like my mother, and thankfully my wife is not like her. It's not because I don't love my mom, but there are attributes she has which I don't want replicated in my wife. I don't have the grace my dad has.

Now, one thing many of you fail to realize when you make these generalized statements is that bad news sells fast. How many women go about telling their friends and family members about every good thing their hubby does? How many spend hours on end telling their friends "oh, hubby helped me with the dishes yesterday, he gave the kids a bath and put them to bed while I did the dishes, he helps with the laundry from time to time, he even cooks dinner regularly, etc" Probably not many. You know why? Good news doesn't sell. Your friends would probably end up irritated if you keep telling them how sweet your husband is every chance you get. They'll probably be like "what is she feeling like? na only she go get husband? mtschewww"

However, the bad news, oh that sells like wildfire. They all want to hear how much of a brute your husband is. They will sympathies with you when you complain about how uncaring and inconsiderate he is. They want to hear about how he leaves you with all the chores, compares you to his mother and generally paints the picture of a "typical Nigerian man". And when you are done lamenting to them, they go on and tell their other friends about your brute of a husband. And everyone has the chance to go like "hhm, men, they are all the same"

Bad news sells dear. The good men hardly get any credit, but the bad ones hug all the headlines. Maybe you should try taking a poll to find out how many women love their husbands and think he is very considerate and helpful before drawing such general conclusions.

Nashville:
You will be surprised. Just ask them and they will tell you how loving and caring their husbands are.

adebisicutie:
Who cares about being modern or not? No one has time for such frivolity. As I said I prefer not to have a maid and do everything myself with the help of gadgets, so there is nothing wasteful or lazy about that.

pickabeau1:
Is there anything new here
When you lot are filled to the brim with your man bashing örgy you will move onto the next topic which of course will be something the man has done again..

Endless and recycled topics...

salt1:
Where do you people manufacture your figures from? Where did you discover your "most Nigerians?"
Why do people like you and the op enjoy coming up with your statistics? Where is the educated husband who wants the wife to cook with wood-fire? Do you know how long my family has been searching for a yam pounder to buy? Because no one has the stamina to pound the yam to a smooth consistency, we have suspended eating pounded yam. It is even fattening, which is an additional disincentive.
I imagine that you're not living in the country and are harbouring a view of Nigeria that no longer exists. The topic is an insult to the average Nigerian middle-class family. We don't need this sermon

Where is the educated husband who wants the wife to cook with wood-fire?

tpia6:
You forgot to add internet.

Why waste so much time there.

When there is ALO APAMO (African folklore)

UjSizzle:
Nawa o. I hope hubby doesn't like pounded yam sha

dabossman:
Busted! I was trying to draw them out. I know most of them will say their husband is different. It is always other people's husbands that have such primitive ideas.

naijababe:
You too Shymexx?! So how much do i save by hand-washing my dishes and clothes, bearing in mind that I can be efficient about how I use them? Just asking ni o

aisha2:
I have noticed that a woman is mostly expected to suffer before she is referred to as a good wife or sweet mother.
The story or picture of a sweet mother is usually one who suffers so much for so long.

One funny thing is that any technological innovation that aims to make womens life easier is strongly resisted and women who use these called lazy.

Funny thing those complaining will always rush technological gadgets like they phones they use to comment. They will use calculator instead of calculating with their brains yet it doesnt make them lazy. They will have the newest cars, instead of bicycles or treking like their likewise hard working fathers and ancestors. They will use clippers instead of razor as used by grandfathers, they will wear all the desinger wriat watches instead of standing under the sun to check time. They will eat processed food and meat unstead of going to farm for food, hunt for it or fish like their own fathers did.
Here are some most resisted technological innovations

1. Yam pounder: lazy women cant pound common yam for 4 people they cant pound. My mother used to pound for all 3 wives and 38 children without getting tired.

Gas cooker: lazy women, what happened to firewood. Our mothers went 10 kilometres to get firewood yet you want me to spend 4 k every month on gas.

Washing machine: how many clothes are you washing self? My mother had 9 kids and handwashed all their ckothes in the stream

Epidural: this is the height of laziness, if my mother can have 10 kids at home on her own why cant you push out 4 by yourself?

Dish washer: why did i marry you? What will you be doing while machine is washing plates for you?

dabossman:
You see that is where you are wrong. I didn't even want to marry a woman like my mother, and thankfully my wife is not like her. It's not because I don't love my mom, but there are attributes she has which I don't want replicated in my wife. I don't have the grace my dad has.

Now, one thing many of you fail to realize when you make these generalized statements is that bad news sells fast. [b]How many women go about telling their friends and family members about every good thing their hubby does? How many spend hours on end telling their friends "oh, hubby helped me with the dishes yesterday, he gave the kids a bath and put them to bed while I did the dishes, he helps with the laundry from time to time, he even cooks dinner regularly, etc" Probably not many. You know why? Good news doesn't sell. [/b]Your friends would probably end up irritated if you keep telling them how sweet your husband is every chance you get. They'll probably be like "what is she feeling like? na only she go get husband? mtschewww"

However, the bad news, oh that sells like wildfire. They all want to hear how much of a brute your husband is. They will sympathies with you when you complain about how uncaring and inconsiderate he is. They want to hear about how he leaves you with all the chores, compares you to his mother and generally paints the picture of a "typical Nigerian man". And when you are done lamenting to them, they go on and tell their other friends about your brute of a husband. And everyone has the chance to go like "hhm, men, they are all the same"

Bad news sells dear. The good men hardly get any credit, but the bad ones hug all the headlines. Maybe you should try taking a poll to find out how many women love their husbands and think he is very considerate and helpful before drawing such general conclusions.

adebisicutie:
Not have light for a few days , I live in a serviced apartment and they put in generator for certain hours everyday and if I use my gadgets or not I and my neighbors will still pay the same thing. My man spend good money on the machine? I actually bought most of the gadgets we have , we have different things we take care of. It seems you Nigerian men are used to women who don't buy anything or pay bills

craziebone:
op but you said this isn't a man bashing thread. i have seen subtle bashing of the man in here and i think it is unnecessary and pointless. If you want to bash the man (not just the op but some other posters in here), why don't you just come out openly?

As for those telling us men are against the use of gadgets in the house, i wonder where you got that! If a man is not buying all those gadget for his wife, then its becos he doesn't have the money.
I agree there are some men who would want things the old way. But they are a few minority.

As for pounded yam, well, i don't know about your ethnic group but in mine, pounding yam is a man's job and i grew up pounding yam all through my life. My sisters and mothers never pound yam for the family, it is a very physical job and we men are the best suited for it.

I think this falsehood that men are against gadget should stop. If we are against gadget, why then did we invent them? Or are you going to lie to us that women are the ones that invented these gadgets? You accuse us men that we are not being supportive; that we don't understand; that (in the mentality of many feminists) we are the worst thing that has ever existed. You look us in the eyes and tell us to our faces that we are irrelevant in your lives. Yet, all the gadgets to help you in your work in the kitchen was invented by men! Mention one technology that is important to women that was invented by a woman! Just mention one!

Ever since you succeeded in getting the govt to give you quota system in the STEM courses, therefore denying boys who are more qualified to get the course, what exactly have you invented? Its 50 years on already. Tell us, pls.

The other time four university boys came up with a nail polish (curtes, in local parlance) to help women detect if their drinks have been druged by a substance usually used to drug women on a date, you need to see the disgraceful hate slur dished out at the boys for coming out to help women solve their own problems.

We've done all these things for you yet, you think we are a legitimate object for hate. We've done all these for you yet, Emma Watson can still come out and call for a #HeForShe! For how long will He be for She?

Actually, men have solved women's issues more that a truck load of men haters, fact!

bukatyne:
In this case, it is the husbands that will be bashed if necessary

Besides no husband bashing, just stating facts.

Karma1977:
I have always contributed..Did everything..Did too much.I was his Queen tho...Um, no need for any attacks on anybodys character.You did not live in,my house..Cracks me up..how someone would be up your ass calling you non stop..True story, always declared their innocence, even wrote my Mom a letter last week..his undying love..blahh..Bs.New chapter in life.No need to hold the door open anymore.I slammed it shut. When two people hook up under decJeptiveness..lol..Laws of the earth.