₦airaland Forum

BABE3:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Czb4rImsph0

Yes, the world has changed. Every one has started growing wings. Oba, oya and Osun were strong and respectful to their husband Sango; so were the other women you mentioned. Strong in today's world has a new meaning entirely.

Any normal man will be satisfied with a strong and respectful woman. But what do we have nowadays? Obnoxious ídiots growing wings and using feminism as a mask to cover their crassness. That's why it seems like men want a "yes" woman. Men can't even be men again. You want men to be men? then give them a chance to be men.

"I'm strong and independent. .I am a grown woman I can do whatever". yeye people.

Using the video i posted as an example; this is what we now considered as strong. Don't be surprised if the girl doesn't get charged with assault and the guy does.

SirShymex:
These women are utterly disrespectful!

Women need to start acting like women, not trannys with willies.

CHoccolaTE:
Why are men so scared of gender equality?
What are you scared of?
If you truly don't believe that women are equal to men you won't spend hours and hours trying to beat down the claims of women that believe in equality.
I wouldn't spend hours arguing with a person that claims the sun doesn't exist because his claims are too ridiculous to take seriously or bother about. You people live in fear of losing your unfair privileges so you keep reiterating your caveman claims of how gender equality cannot exist.

If you don't believe in equality then you believe in inequality, there are no two ways about it.
Don't hide under the ridiculous notion of 'equity' and not 'equality' because it makes no sense at all. once you don't agree that both genders are equal then you have agreed that they are unequal meaning that you think one gender is superior to another, which is a stjupid thing to do because superiority in people can come in very many forms.

Of course we cannot all be equal as humans, if you take both genders aside you find that differences exist in individual males and females, do we now set about creating different 'equity' laws for each and every person on earth?
Gender equality is not even about turning men to women or women to men.
It is providing fair and equal opportunities for both genders and realizing that both males and females are equally important in the scheme of things and deserve equal respect.

I think society as a whole will progress faster if both males and females are given opportunities to develop their potentials instead of forcing an entire gender into a box of stereotypes because of how they were born. You lot complain that women are dependent, gold diggers, lazy, do not strive to attain great heights in life etc etc. Do you not realize that stereotypes is a great part of what keeps them that way? Do you not realize that many of them even though they have the ability to do great things will not bother trying because they have been brainwashed to believe they are less intelligent or less capable than men? Or that they should live their lives in the hopes of becoming nothing but their husband's helper in future?
If you remove all these nonsense stereotypes people will start to look inwards and see that they can actually do great things and break grounds that can move society forward............... but then unfair privilege is more enticing to many men than the progress of society.

freecocoa:
Polygyny is when a man is married to more than one wife, polygamy is a state of being married to more than one spouse.

Both a man and woman can be polygamous but when a woman is married to more than one man its called polyandry.

Chillisauce:
Majority are busy chasing money. Yahoo Yahoo, ritualistic, boko haram, 419ners, in jail overseas, abusing their wives , sowing seeds every where, running away from child support, sitting at home waiting to sell their daughters as bride price, kidnappers, bribe takers etc.

Very very few have their heads screwed tight.

Nigerian men don spoil Nigeria finish, dem go wait at embassy, Morocco route, just to have a taste of life in the west where people are treated as human regardness of gender.

Make una dey dia dey find better Nigerian men, una go old.
Kikikik.

CHoccolaTE:
Why are men so scared of gender equality?
What are you scared

naijababe:
I am not a fan of stereotypes, so in general I often avoid people who like to use labels. That particular trait has and I believe will continue to serve me well.

I love black men; in fact I love Nigerian men . When I was shipped to Britain at 18, I knew within a few years that nothing but a cocoa brown of the naija variety would cut it for me . Some of my friends were keen on white men because they wanted biracial kids and they supposedly make better husbands. I was having none of that, it had to be a nucca and a naija nucca for that matter, it didn’t matter if he descended from the east, west, south or sahel. All I wanted was a naija man with his usual special brand of swag and ‘toasting!’ Certain lines are particular to Nigerian men, I have not heard non-naija men use those lines

If I am interviewed today and asked what mould of men I consider Nigerian enough to be married to if I wasn't married to my true Naija hubby of course , my first answer would be King Sango of the old Oyo Empire, he may have been arrogated all sorts of mythical powers but any man who could marry women as strong as Oba, Osun and Oya was no weakling and certainly didn't need to demand respect from his wives. From contemporary times, I can only think of the Late Rev. Oludotun Kuti, husband of Mrs Olufunmilayo Kuti and father of Olikoye, Fela and Beko Kuti. Rev Kuti in particular is ultra-special because he made all his marks in education while his wife Mrs Kuti was all about politics, a mean feat for their times. The other man that comes to mind is Dr Ekpo, the husband of Margaret Ekpo; in fact the history of NCNC as a political party would not be complete if the names of these two women’s were omitted, what Mrs Kuti did in the West, Mrs Ekpo did in the East. Two strong Nigerian men married them and did not stop them from achieving dreams; the fear of their wives stealing their thunder apparently did not come into play.

The history of Babangida’s regime as terrible as it was will not be complete without mentioning Maryam’s mark. She is behind the creation of the ‘Office of the first lady’, maybe someone here can convince me that Babangida simply could not control his wife. We can't possibly have forgotten Stella and Turai so soon; strong women even if their strength was to our detriment. I have heard many oral accounts of the rifts between Awo and Akintola being largely fuelled by their wives, might have been hearsay but mama HID and late Mrs Faderera Akintola were no pushovers even if the office first lady was non existent.

The truth is that Nigerian women have always been strong and independent even if there are good and bad kinds. That some women are all about money is not new, many of our musicians sang about it, I remember the apt descriptions of some women as a kid as being 'Olorunsogo' women, but the men who coined the that term also described their opposites as 'Surulere' women.

Has the world changed so much that some of our men only want ‘yes’ women as wives? So much so that strong women can only be described as rude and disrespectful. I can’t think of anywhere else where Nigerian women in particular are bashed as they are here on NL. Some of these men need to start taking responsibility for their behaviour. You are what you attract after all.

freecocoa:
Polygyny is when a man is married to more than one wife, polygamy is a state of being married to more than one spouse.

Both a man and woman can be polygamous but when a woman is married to more than one man its called polyandry.

thorpido:
There's nothing wrong with strong independent women.The examples you gave were strong women.
However,did you look beyond just the public image they exhibited?
These women worked WITH their husbands.They organised their programmes along with their husbands.
The problem with the ladies of nowadays claiming to be strong,independent women is that they come off more as rude and obnoxious and selfish just to prove they can do their own thing.

Do a bit of digging to find out how Dora Akunyili's husband was in her programme.Do the same for Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala.These are strong women.

CHoccolaTE:
Why are men so scared of gender equality?
What are you scared of?
If you truly don't believe that women are equal to men you won't spend hours and hours trying to beat down the claims of women that believe in equality.
I wouldn't spend hours arguing with a person that claims the sun doesn't exist because his claims are too ridiculous to take seriously or bother about. You people live in fear of losing your unfair privileges so you keep reiterating your caveman claims of how gender equality cannot exist.

If you don't believe in equality then you believe in inequality, there are no two ways about it.
Don't hide under the ridiculous notion of 'equity' and not 'equality' because it makes no sense at all. once you don't agree that both genders are equal then you have agreed that they are unequal meaning that you think one gender is superior to another, which is a stjupid thing to do because superiority in people can come in very many forms.

Of course we cannot all be equal as humans, if you take both genders aside you find that differences exist in individual males and females, do we now set about creating different 'equity' laws for each and every person on earth?
Gender equality is not even about turning men to women or women to men.
It is providing fair and equal opportunities for both genders and realizing that both males and females are equally important in the scheme of things and deserve equal respect.

I think society as a whole will progress faster if both males and females are given opportunities to develop their potentials instead of forcing an entire gender into a box of stereotypes because of how they were born. You lot complain that women are dependent, gold diggers, lazy, do not strive to attain great heights in life etc etc. Do you not realize that stereotypes is a great part of what keeps them that way? Do you not realize that many of them even though they have the ability to do great things will not bother trying because they have been brainwashed to believe they are less intelligent or less capable than men? Or that they should live their lives in the hopes of becoming nothing but their husband's helper in future?
If you remove all these nonsense stereotypes people will start to look inwards and see that they can actually do great things and break grounds that can move society forward............... but then unfair privilege is more enticing to many men than the progress of society.

thorpido:
It's ok.I'm sure there are still some around.

Lilimax:
That polyandry though...

kaboninc:
Wow! I've learnt something from this.

Thanks.

Edusouls:
eehh men re expected to do much and deliver, a lot of responsibities on their heads thats why they do the things you just said, because very talkative and greedy girls like you are the ones that indirectly push them to do it, because when they come to you, you bleed their pockets dry in the name of una fake and wicked love, and karicateur with them that they dont have money to take care of a woman. Foolish girl, see that same thing we re just complaining of women of nowadays,very senseless, erratic, stupid and vry irritatating creatures, please were did these generation of men killer women emanate from,weren't our mothers women?

Edusouls:
eehh men re expected to do much and deliver, a lot of responsibities on their heads thats why they do the things you just said, because very talkative and greedy girls like you are the ones that indirectly push them to do it, because when they come to you, you bleed their pockets dry in the name of una fake and wicked love, and karicateur with them that they dont have money to take care of a woman. Foolish girl, see that same thing we re just complaining of women of nowadays,very senseless, erratic, stupid and vry irritatating creatures, please were did these generation of men killer women emanate from,weren't our mothers women?

Misogynist2014:
Mondisweets, why do white dogs like this insult womanhood by using the term 'strong' behind woman? Does it signify how docile and inept the word 'woman' is? A word not strong enough to attract confidence and happiness.
When I say that I'm a man, it means I am confident, I don't need the word strong behind that word. Calling yourself an industrous woman is much more sensible. Where is my dog? Shirley07. Come bite this black monkey shap shap.





I prefer being a scavenger to being a woman, that thing that bleeds 5 times a month is worse than an imbe+cile!

BananaBender:
Let me break this down for you.

Equity, involves trying to understand and give people what they need to be the best. Equality, in contrast, aims to ensure that everyone gets the same things in order to be the best.

I most times do agree with a more capitalistic concept, where everyone is given what they need tailored to their strength but the problem with gender equity is who are those in charge of deciding what my strengths are or what I have to be the best in. How do we weigh strength, characteristics or properties?

Gender equity is a fallacy because it disregards individuality and feeds on gender roles. Gender equity tells me, this is your characteristic, this is your strength and properties; take this things and go work on it.

Hero10001:
What about the Stronger and Powerful Petrodollar woman that is managing the petrodollar industry for her "TAN" boyfriend that suddenly became the richest in Africa recently against all odds?
She's got it.

naijababe:
I beg to differ. Equality in my opinion puts people in a box. In an ideal world equity is all about fairness, no one need tell you what your strength is or how to use it. You know it, use it to the best of your abilities and be whatever you desire. We've had women leaders who have proven to us equity serves us better than equality does, think Margaret Thatcher and my personal favourite Angela Merkel, I honestly cannot wait for that woman's biography when she retires. The women that I mentioned in my original post weren't stopped by gender equality, they were women who knew their strengths and used them.

Let's forget about gender for a minute and think about the society at large, some of us pay 10% of our income as taxes while others pay more, but our individual rights is not determined by the tax we pay even in the most capitalist nation in the world.

destante:
sheesh! trannys with willies? **sigh
I give up.

Chillisauce:
Majority are busy chasing money. Yahoo Yahoo, ritualists, boko haram, 419ners, in jail overseas, abusing their wives , sowing seeds every where, running away from child support, sitting at home waiting to sell their daughters as bride price, kidnappers, bribe takers etc.

Very very few have their heads screwed tight.

Nigerian men don spoil Nigeria finish, dem go wait at embassy, Morocco route, just to have a taste of life in the west where people are treated as human regardLess of gender.

Make una dey dia dey find better Nigerian men, una go old.
Kikikik.

Shirley07:
Busy in my search for a shrink for your prob.

kaboninc:
Wow! I've learnt something from this.

Thanks.

Shirley07:
Unfortunately, your imbecíle of a mother failed to bleed you away after coupling with different men, thereby stinking the place with a stupid brain dead bastard with no father. Don't blame me, blame your mother.
Like mother, like son.

carefreewannabe:
How have Thatcher and Merkel taught you anything about equity?

damiso:
Naijababe abeg define 'yes women'?