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GET THAT FEELING OFF YOU HEAD!!!

It's normal, every once in a while there is this feeling that gets into our head. This feeling makes us feel special. You feel so confident it actually becomes over confidence probably because you  know you're good at what you do. It could be at work, in your relationship or probably amongst your peers. You don't get it right? Let me explain better. Here is how it start ...

Everyone around you is telling you how special you are.They tell you how good you are at what you do. They tell you how you're the sunshine of the organisation,school, relationship or group.

At first you're embarrassed, you try to stop them, cos you feel you're not that special but with time you realize it serves as encouragement and challenges you to be better at what you do. You begin to put in extra effort so you don't let down that confidence they have in you. You even start to assist others on their duties and assignments.

It gradually becomes a part of you to shoulder majority of the responsibilities. You become a part of everything... Nothing takes place without your involvement, your absence is greatly felt. You're always needed. You've become “MR/Mrs indispensable ".
Ooh!! It feeeeels good right? Now they can't do without YOU.

You think so? Well think again..... Sorry to burst your bubble. No one is Indispensable!!! Hellooo..... As much as its amazing to feel like a sunshine. You don't want to forget who you are, your plans and your goals. Don't let that “tittle" trick you into being distracted.
Everyone know  it feels good to be appreciated by people around you. We don't want to let it get into our heads. We shouldn't allow that make us lose focus and forget who we are.

There is this syndrome that goes with feeling like you're “indispensable". It's sometimes makes you feel like you've “arrived"... If you know what I mean.
We have to be conscious of the fact that there's something called “The Comfort zone". In the “comfort zone" we become so comfortable and begin to feel like our present situation is all there is to life. As an individual you have your own dream, keep them alive! Pursue your dream whether you are in a comfortable place/situation or not. Let's not get confused and carried away, you have to be aware that comfort zone exist everywhere - in our relationship, at how place of work and a lot of other places we might find ourselves.

We should also be careful as regards helping others to perform their duties or assignments in our place of work or  in a group work so as not to be termed an “eye service person".

It would surprise you, how you can be dropped in a minute if things begin to go wrong and you start wondering how all your hard work could go down the drain so easily.

Remember, this article is not saying we shouldn't put in our best into our jobs, relationship or friendship. What were simply saying is we do not want to carried away and let it get into our head or become over confident about our position to the extent of forgetting our major goals in life.

Sometimes getting out of that comfort zone can be very difficult when you put into perspective the fact that taking risks in life is a 50/50 situation and that getting the wrong end of the stick can be disastrous. Don't you think so?

Celebrimbor:
Sometimes getting out of that comfort zone can be very difficult when you put into perspective the fact that taking risks in life is a 50/50 situation and that getting the wrong end of the stick can be disastrous. Don't you think so?

Thanks for your comment. yes.. you're right to an extent, but realize that this is one of the reason why majority of us don't get to our projected Destination in life . This article is not asking anyone to let go of what you have presently, all its basically saying is while you're doing your work or in a relationship try to do your own thing and have your own life. You can't forget who you are just because you feel comfortable where you are.

Very correct. This is a great article that could be applied to the lives of Nigerian students especially those in the university. Speaking as one myself it baffles me how many of us are so eager to get to this "comfort zone" and we see our certificates as a means to achieve that. Majority of us are not really interested in what we are built to do. We just want that certificate which is our ticket to the "comfort zone". Steady income, occupy an office, get a house, buy a car, marry, have kids and raise them then die. Life would be very boring if it is without risks. Thank God for helping me realize that necessary risks are part and parcel of life and that identifying what you are built for and going after it against all odds can birth great personal satisfaction.