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I just wonder why most people from the southern parts of Nigeria, especially, among the Urhobos, Isokos and Ijaws engage in paper-bag marriage. For those wondering what paper-bag marriage means...it means co-habitation between a man and a woman; not legally married.

It is so annoying to see a man and a woman living together, with up to 4 kids! In the end, you will find out that the woman's dowry has not been paid! I once attended a marriage ceremony where I discovered that the couple's first issue was already graduating from the university!

Am not trying to paint any tribe bad, but it is very common among the above-mentioned ethnic groups. What am asking: is this part of the African culture? Why have these people so degraded themselves to this extent? The elders are there...they see how their culture is derailed, yet they do nothing about it. I still remember my former landlady, telling on a fateful day, that what am I waiting for? That I should just impregnate my girl and start a family! From that day, I started losing my respect for her!

In the eastern part of Nigeria, trash like this doesn't happen. Only a wayward Igbo girl would get pregnant for a man and start a family with him. In the Igbo culture, such is forbidden!!! Alu!!! Abomination.

Pls, what's your take on this?

incase

Hehe of course you already painted them blood red sef.. Must EVERYBODY marry culturally? Gazillion 'what ifs' comes to mind.

So in your neck of the woods; You lose respect for your wife and mother of your children because she refused to bring you Palm wine

One mans meat is another's pioson ... The world is revolving... Conforming people to societal rules ain't gonna work buddy.

Mr paper bag, pele oooo. Go marry igbo na wahala dey there?

Rapmoney:
I just wonder why most people from the southern parts of Nigeria, especially, among the Urhobos, Isokos and Ijaws engage in paper-bag marriage. For those wondering what paper-bag marriage means...it means co-habitation between a man and a woman; not legally married.

It is so annoying to see a man and a woman living together, with up to 4 kids! In the end, you will find out that the woman's dowry has not been paid! I once attended a marriage ceremony where I discovered that the couple's first issue was already graduating from the university!

Am not trying to paint any tribe bad, but it is very common among the above-mentioned ethnic groups. What am asking: is this part of the African culture? Why have these people so degraded themselves to this extent? The elders are there...they see how their culture is derailed, yet they do nothing about it. I still remember my former landlady, telling on a fateful day, that what am I waiting for? That I should just impregnate my girl and start a family! From that day, I started losing my respect for her!

In the eastern part of Nigeria, trash like this doesn't happen. Only a wayward Igbo girl would get pregnant for a man and start a family with him. In the Igbo culture, such is forbidden!!! Alu!!! Abomination.

Pls, what's your take on this?

Religion aside,

Wedding ceremony does not make a marriage last.

We are from solomon's generation.

bukatyne:
Religion aside,

Wedding ceremony does not make a marriage last.

Are u not an African? Don't u have culture?

krystal101:
Mr paper bag, pele oooo. Go marry igbo na wahala dey there?

Why u dey vex na?

Ewuro4:
Hehe of course you already painted them blood red sef.. Must EVERYBODY marry culturally? Gazillion 'what ifs' comes to mind.

So in your neck of the woods; You lose respect for your wife and mother of your children because she refused to bring you Palm wine

One mans meat is another's pioson ... The world is revolving... Conforming people to societal rules ain't gonna work buddy.

Shuo! Are you among them?

@op, u didn't conduct ur survey well.
Easterners do cohabit as well.

Rapmoney:
Are u not an African? Don't u have culture?

I am

Culture which is....

Wedding or lack of does not make a home.

Rapmoney:
Shuo! Are you among them?

How does that take concern you?

What if their parents don't approve the Union and they went to court instead?
What if the husband wasn't financially buoyant?
What if....

God bless you my sister.
This OP na those kind guests wey dey fight for rice for people wedding.
Go call police we from southern part of Nigeria no dey do wedding

Ewuro4:
How does that take concern you?

What if their parents don't approve the Union and they went to court instead?
What if the husband wasn't financially buoyant?
What if....

krystal101:
God bless you my sister.
This OP na those kind guests wey dey fight for rice for people wedding.
Go call police we from southern part of Nigeria no dey do wedding

and will spread his bare hands when the couples ask him for money after the lavish wedding.

Its his kind that hustles for food, drinks & souvenirs...
How would you be comparing this OP, sebi I've asked to marry igbo. Wahala no dey their

Ewuro4:
and will spread his bare hands when the couples ask him for money after the lavish wedding.

Op no vex ooooo, my children dey sleep. So I dey use ur thread unwind

krystal101:
Op no vex ooooo, my children dey sleep. So I dey use ur thread unwind

Lobatan.

Different characters on this Forum eh

Kinna true tho bt nt entirely..

moca:
@op, u didn't conduct ur survey well.
Easterners do cohabit as well.

and I know of 3 separate Igbo couples living together and with children who haven't tied the knot. So what is the OP saying trying to paint his beloved Igbo tribe in good light to the detriment of the south-south tribes.

Poorly conducted survey if you ask me and rightly so!!!

starlingbawa:
and I know of 3 separate Igbo couples living together and with children who haven't tied the knot. So what is the OP saying trying to paint his beloved Igbo tribe in good light to the detriment of the south-south tribes.

Poorly conducted survey if you ask me and rightly so!!!

How common is it for you to see the Igbos co-habit? Very rare! But it is very common among southerners. So, out of all the Igbo peeps u know, only 3 cohabit? I know dozens of southerners that do that! Especially, the Urhobos!

Rapmoney:
How common is it for you to see the Igbos co-habit? Very rare! But it is very common among southerners.

The bottom line's it still does happen. I know so because I have seen it for real!!!

starlingbawa:
The bottom line's it still does happen. I know so because I have seen it for real!!!

Any Igbo that does that is lost! It is forbidden in Igbo societies, though normal in the south.

Rapmoney:
Any Igbo that does that is lost! It is forbidden in Igbo societies, though normal in the south.

Still I ve seen it happen and on 3 separate occasions too. I'm not an igbo person but I 'STRONGLY' disagree with you that igbo folks doing that are lost!!!

OP face your work

Rapmoney:
I just wonder why most people from the southern parts of Nigeria, especially, among the Urhobos, Isokos and Ijaws engage in paper-bag marriage. For those wondering what paper-bag marriage means...it means co-habitation between a man and a woman; not legally married.

It is so annoying to see a man and a woman living together, with up to 4 kids! In the end, you will find out that the woman's dowry has not been paid! I once attended a marriage ceremony where I discovered that the couple's first issue was already graduating from the university!

Am not trying to paint any tribe bad, but it is very common among the above-mentioned ethnic groups. What am asking: is this part of the African culture? Why have these people so degraded themselves to this extent? The elders are there...they see how their culture is derailed, yet they do nothing about it. I still remember my former landlady, telling on a fateful day, that what am I waiting for? That I should just impregnate my girl and start a family! From that day, I started losing my respect for her!

In the eastern part of Nigeria, trash like this doesn't happen. Only a wayward Igbo girl would get pregnant for a man and start a family with him. In the Igbo culture, such is forbidden!!! Alu!!! Abomination.

Pls, what's your take on this?

guy come oh! Wetin concern u for other ppl life?

Rapmoney:
I just wonder why most people from the southern parts of Nigeria, especially, among the Urhobos, Isokos and Ijaws engage in paper-bag marriage. For those wondering what paper-bag marriage means...it means co-habitation between a man and a woman; not legally married.

It is so annoying to see a man and a woman living together, with up to 4 kids! In the end, you will find out that the woman's dowry has not been paid! I once attended a marriage ceremony where I discovered that the couple's first issue was already graduating from the university!

Am not trying to paint any tribe bad, but it is very common among the above-mentioned ethnic groups. What am asking: is this part of the African culture? Why have these people so degraded themselves to this extent? The elders are there...they see how their culture is derailed, yet they do nothing about it. I still remember my former landlady, telling on a fateful day, that what am I waiting for? That I should just impregnate my girl and start a family! From that day, I started losing my respect for her!

In the eastern part of Nigeria, trash like this doesn't happen. Only a wayward Igbo girl would get pregnant for a man and start a family with him. In the Igbo culture, such is forbidden!!! Alu!!! Abomination.

Pls, what's your take on this?

guy come oh! Wetin concern u for other ppl life? If u dey annoyed or annoying for other ppl life, set urself on fire make we know say u dey truly vex.

una own na nylon bag marriage

Kerosene:
guy come oh! Wetin concern u for other ppl life? If u dey annoyed or annoying for other ppl life, set urself on fire make we know say u dey truly vex.

O nigga, leave me make I fill my glass, me and you no dey for the same class...

correctguy0900:
una own na nylon bag marriage

Na u wan come try me for here, my guy

Rapmoney:
Na u wan come try me for here, my guy

no worry, I don pack

krystal101:
God bless you my sister.
This OP na those kind guests wey dey fight for rice for people wedding.
Go call police we from southern part of Nigeria no dey do wedding

E be like say u be Urhobo babe o! Why u just dey vex for me sef?

cococandy:
OP face your work

Cococandy, can't I express myself again? We are all entitled to our diverse opinions o!