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jessiecah:
We gats represent nau

isan:
here in south west we don't knw differnt between igbo, ijaw and urobo or whatever all of una be igbo

jessiecah:
Lol...you're funny o.. what was I suppose to say, yes boo?... Abeg you be bros o

Mcslize:
Ajemeh, meh kareyowhe o. Dieh Ajemeh , meh dieh Osha rhewhe.

Sophyrocks:
And that is what annoys me about your people. You guys dnt sit down to learn the different tribes of 9ja. Anyone who isnt hausa or yoruba to you, you call the person igbo. Abeg learn from this thread o. Address people by their appropraite tribes.

TheSonOfMark:
Their females are unladylike and crude.

literarymathy:
THIS statement is fallacious. Urhobos are in NO WAY related to Igbos in anything. The Ijaws are even more distant. Please correct that impression. In DELTA state, there are no 'true' Igbos. What we have is Anioma and they share common cultural ties with the South Eastern Across the Niger Igbos just as Urhobos do with Edos.

sikells:
Op forgot to add that our Urhobo women like to reproduce exponentially and can actually dump a man wey dey impaired... and go for someone else that's so fit for that business...

jessiecah:
Ah, go easy on me Abeg...lemme just confess now, I don't really know how to speak o...I just dey form... I can try to understand if you break it down...

sikells:
Op forgot to add that our Urhobo women like to reproduce exponentially and can actually dump a man wey dey impaired... and go for someone else that's so fit for that business...

isan:
here in south west we don't knw differnt between igbo, ijaw and urobo or whatever all of una be igbo

isan:
:-/ no be our fault

elohorayodele:
Nice but some errors Pls
J.P Clark is Ijaw
Akpororo is ilaje but grew up in wafi
Sammy okposo is isoko

jacksparrow1207:
I be jacksparrow. No dey friend zone me
Besides, callin me boo wont be a bad idea

Mcslize:
lol I don catch u. U stil a learner. Any way I dey by ur side if u want to learn those deep deep ones I am all available.

Sophyrocks:
Na una fault o. I dnt want to brand it illiteracy or ignorance. You can imagine telling a yoruba person that you are a deltan or from akwa ibom, they will say : 'Omo ibo', all of you are ibo na. you people are the same thing'. Shuuuuuuuu!! You are telling somebody your tribe, the person is arguing with you what your tribe is. What is that supposed to mean na? Your tribe people no dey widen out to accomodate the knowledge of different tribes except they are very well travelled and have many friends who are from other tribes. Your people that stuck to staying in the west all their lives are the ones that have this problem. Thats very bad o. I just got to say it o. Abeg use this thread as a means of knowledge biko.

waffiboi:
1. Selfishness or Egocentricity: An average Urhobo person is selfish or egocentric. This is the act of believing only in self. The propensity to satisfy self at the expense of others. Being self-centred. In the process of trying to satisfy self only, the individual begins to become greedy by accumulating more and more to him/herself alone. E.g. some Urhobo elites in position of influence tend to turn away from other Urhobos when Urhobo language is spoken around them in the office or when they are needed to help an Urhobo person to succeed, they don’t bother to help because they are thinking this person is going to take their seat or is going to get better and their influence will diminish. This trait is very devastating.

2. Jealousy or Rivalry: This is deeply rooted in our polygamous family setting where a man marries two or more wives. In most cases, the wives engage in unhealthy competition among themselves with one trying to outclass the other. This could lead to hatred of one wife against the other. It could lead one wife wishing the other evil or even death especially when one is getting more prosperous than the other. The poorer one would start to despise the other by making derogatory statements like; “what does she think she is ?” or “what kind of rubbish wealth she thinks she has?” and so forth. This behaviour or attitude is then passed down to their children (male or female) that sometimes one wife and her children could form a “union” against the other wife and her children. And for generations this unhealthy co-existence remains. Something has to be done to abate this trend.

This phenomenon is directly linked to the “Avwebọ” (amebọ) and “Avwiorọvwe” that husbands create within the family. In other words, it is the husbands that caused the rivalry and jealousy. (There is a lot written about this by Professor Peter Ekeh for those who want to read further about the topic)

3. Avarice or Covetousness: The product of selfishness and greed is avarice. This is where someone is so self-centred that he/she continues to acquire material wealth to him/herself without minding any other person. They can sell or even kill the other person in the process of acquiring what they want.

4. Hatred, Malice and Bitterness: The result of greed, jealousy and rivalry is hatred. The person who is greedy is hated by the people around because s/he never helps anyone. And over time, this hatred leads to bitterness that is deeply rooted in the heart of the people against the person. And the real product that is lacking among the people is love for one another. Genuine affection is not there so people can keep malice of the other in mind for as long as possible.

5. Miscommunication: Since there is no genuine affection between the people, the line of communication is also not thorough. This creates communication gap which in turn creates misunderstanding of each other and later leading to suspicion.

6. Distrust or Suspicion: With the issue of rivalry in the family, people begin to suspect the actions (or inaction) of the other person. When this becomes someone’s attitude, they exhibit it beyond the family to the community.


7. Nepotism and Tribalism: Resulting from the self-centredness within the rivals in the family, pockets of “unions” or “cliques” begin to develop and this grows into where people now identify with one another with undue patronage to one another just because they are relations. The common Urhobo adage, “Uwevwi a g’obọ vwiyọ” is purely an act of nepotism and not UNITY as people think. The attributes of nepotic attitude on a larger scale is tribalism. It could also be the root of racism at international scale.

8. Separatism: This is the result of nepotism. As people get into grouping based on who they are related to, others soon see it as a form of fraternity to relate closely with one’s relations and less with those we are not related to. Such advocates always see line of demarcation between one person and another because of their family background. These separatists easily see why some group of people should not belong to a union and soon create a division among the people. There are many separatists among the Urhobo people.

9. “Unforgiveness” and Retaliation: Most Urhobo people have the heart of keeping any hurt or wrong done to them by someone in the past and they will never let go. They will keep the hurt with them looking for a day to retaliate or revenge. Usually, the revenge could be more hurtful and devastating. And since the other person(s) equally has/have the heart to keep things, they will record this event in their heart till such a time that they will revenge against the people who hurt them together with their children, etc. It is a vicious cycle that has no end. Sometimes that was the beginning of wars between communities and nations.

Where it does not result into physical war, it could be a social or psychological war between the groups concerned. That is why we often hear that in a town, one part is against the other part to the point that they must never cross each other or else heads will roll. Or in one street one compound is ostracised that whenever they are doing something, people from other parts of the street must not partake with them.

10. Conservatism and Intolerance: Following on from the problem of unforgiveness and retaliation is intolerance. This is rooted in the tendency for an average Urhobo person to be very conservative. People’s beliefs from generation to generation remain as what dictate their behaviour towards another person. This is related to the phrase: “naware rhe”. So what our forefathers did in the time past must remain to be done exactly so today without change. Any person causing a deviation or introducing a change (for better) is not tolerated and must be stopped or ostracised.

11. Pride and Arrogance: An average Urhobo person is naturally proud. There is positive pride which is being proud to be what and who you are. So it is good to be proud to be an Urhobo. But negative pride which people detest is arrogance. This is where a person considers him/herself to be above and better than every other person and looks down on the others. This attitude is very unsociable and it produces disunity.

12. Ignorance and Inferiority Complex: This is a very subtle canker in the life of most people. They are ignorant and have inferiority complex or lack of self-confidence but they pretend to know everything. Worse still is the fact that when someone tells them about their problem, they bask in their pride/arrogance to say that they don’t have any problem. This category of people is those who don’t know that they don’t know but they think that they know. There are many Urhobos in this category and they are very difficult to work with.

13. Cowardice, Gossiping and Backstabbing: Some Urhobo people are cowards. They will not say anything in the presence of someone they are in disagreement with. But they will go behind the person to say all sorts of things about the person. On the other hand, they will say “good” things to the person and behind the person they will say nasty things about him/her. That is backstabbing and it is very dangerous.

14. Hypocrisy: This is the bane of our present day society. People preach “Unity” but they are actually practising “Disunity”. So what shall we do?

waffiboi:
1. Selfishness or Egocentricity: An average Urhobo person is selfish or egocentric. This is the act of believing only in self. The propensity to satisfy self at the expense of others. Being self-centred. In the process of trying to satisfy self only, the individual begins to become greedy by accumulating more and more to him/herself alone. E.g. some Urhobo elites in position of influence tend to turn away from other Urhobos when Urhobo language is spoken around them in the office or when they are needed to help an Urhobo person to succeed, they don’t bother to help because they are thinking this person is going to take their seat or is going to get better and their influence will diminish. This trait is very devastating.

2. Jealousy or Rivalry: This is deeply rooted in our polygamous family setting where a man marries two or more wives. In most cases, the wives engage in unhealthy competition among themselves with one trying to outclass the other. This could lead to hatred of one wife against the other. It could lead one wife wishing the other evil or even death especially when one is getting more prosperous than the other. The poorer one would start to despise the other by making derogatory statements like; “what does she think she is ?” or “what kind of rubbish wealth she thinks she has?” and so forth. This behaviour or attitude is then passed down to their children (male or female) that sometimes one wife and her children could form a “union” against the other wife and her children. And for generations this unhealthy co-existence remains. Something has to be done to abate this trend.

This phenomenon is directly linked to the “Avwebọ” (amebọ) and “Avwiorọvwe” that husbands create within the family. In other words, it is the husbands that caused the rivalry and jealousy. (There is a lot written about this by Professor Peter Ekeh for those who want to read further about the topic)

3. Avarice or Covetousness: The product of selfishness and greed is avarice. This is where someone is so self-centred that he/she continues to acquire material wealth to him/herself without minding any other person. They can sell or even kill the other person in the process of acquiring what they want.

4. Hatred, Malice and Bitterness: The result of greed, jealousy and rivalry is hatred. The person who is greedy is hated by the people around because s/he never helps anyone. And over time, this hatred leads to bitterness that is deeply rooted in the heart of the people against the person. And the real product that is lacking among the people is love for one another. Genuine affection is not there so people can keep malice of the other in mind for as long as possible.

5. Miscommunication: Since there is no genuine affection between the people, the line of communication is also not thorough. This creates communication gap which in turn creates misunderstanding of each other and later leading to suspicion.

6. Distrust or Suspicion: With the issue of rivalry in the family, people begin to suspect the actions (or inaction) of the other person. When this becomes someone’s attitude, they exhibit it beyond the family to the community.


7. Nepotism and Tribalism: Resulting from the self-centredness within the rivals in the family, pockets of “unions” or “cliques” begin to develop and this grows into where people now identify with one another with undue patronage to one another just because they are relations. The common Urhobo adage, “Uwevwi a g’obọ vwiyọ” is purely an act of nepotism and not UNITY as people think. The attributes of nepotic attitude on a larger scale is tribalism. It could also be the root of racism at international scale.

8. Separatism: This is the result of nepotism. As people get into grouping based on who they are related to, others soon see it as a form of fraternity to relate closely with one’s relations and less with those we are not related to. Such advocates always see line of demarcation between one person and another because of their family background. These separatists easily see why some group of people should not belong to a union and soon create a division among the people. There are many separatists among the Urhobo people.

9. “Unforgiveness” and Retaliation: Most Urhobo people have the heart of keeping any hurt or wrong done to them by someone in the past and they will never let go. They will keep the hurt with them looking for a day to retaliate or revenge. Usually, the revenge could be more hurtful and devastating. And since the other person(s) equally has/have the heart to keep things, they will record this event in their heart till such a time that they will revenge against the people who hurt them together with their children, etc. It is a vicious cycle that has no end. Sometimes that was the beginning of wars between communities and nations.

Where it does not result into physical war, it could be a social or psychological war between the groups concerned. That is why we often hear that in a town, one part is against the other part to the point that they must never cross each other or else heads will roll. Or in one street one compound is ostracised that whenever they are doing something, people from other parts of the street must not partake with them.

10. Conservatism and Intolerance: Following on from the problem of unforgiveness and retaliation is intolerance. This is rooted in the tendency for an average Urhobo person to be very conservative. People’s beliefs from generation to generation remain as what dictate their behaviour towards another person. This is related to the phrase: “naware rhe”. So what our forefathers did in the time past must remain to be done exactly so today without change. Any person causing a deviation or introducing a change (for better) is not tolerated and must be stopped or ostracised.

11. Pride and Arrogance: An average Urhobo person is naturally proud. There is positive pride which is being proud to be what and who you are. So it is good to be proud to be an Urhobo. But negative pride which people detest is arrogance. This is where a person considers him/herself to be above and better than every other person and looks down on the others. This attitude is very unsociable and it produces disunity.

12. Ignorance and Inferiority Complex: This is a very subtle canker in the life of most people. They are ignorant and have inferiority complex or lack of self-confidence but they pretend to know everything. Worse still is the fact that when someone tells them about their problem, they bask in their pride/arrogance to say that they don’t have any problem. This category of people is those who don’t know that they don’t know but they think that they know. There are many Urhobos in this category and they are very difficult to work with.

13. Cowardice, Gossiping and Backstabbing: Some Urhobo people are cowards. They will not say anything in the presence of someone they are in disagreement with. But they will go behind the person to say all sorts of things about the person. On the other hand, they will say “good” things to the person and behind the person they will say nasty things about him/her. That is backstabbing and it is very dangerous.

14. Hypocrisy: This is the bane of our present day society. People preach “Unity” but they are actually practising “Disunity”. So what shall we do?

Spydamannn:
who's this rat

OchukoisBlack:
Urhobo Mena....... Ovuovo.
Olorogun Mathais, OP re akpo na edje! I greet you.
Emo re Urhobo ekpen evu re thread nana, waadoooooo......

Urhobo and Proud!!!!

jessiecah:
Lol...no be only boo na bae

waffiboi:
1. Selfishness or Egocentricity: An average Urhobo person is selfish or egocentric. This is the act of believing only in self. The propensity to satisfy self at the expense of others. Being self-centred. In the process of trying to satisfy self only, the individual begins to become greedy by accumulating more and more to him/herself alone. E.g. some Urhobo elites in position of influence tend to turn away from other Urhobos when Urhobo language is spoken around them in the office or when they are needed to help an Urhobo person to succeed, they don’t bother to help because they are thinking this person is going to take their seat or is going to get better and their influence will diminish. This trait is very devastating.

2. Jealousy or Rivalry: This is deeply rooted in our polygamous family setting where a man marries two or more wives. In most cases, the wives engage in unhealthy competition among themselves with one trying to outclass the other. This could lead to hatred of one wife against the other. It could lead one wife wishing the other evil or even death especially when one is getting more prosperous than the other. The poorer one would start to despise the other by making derogatory statements like; “what does she think she is ?” or “what kind of rubbish wealth she thinks she has?” and so forth. This behaviour or attitude is then passed down to their children (male or female) that sometimes one wife and her children could form a “union” against the other wife and her children. And for generations this unhealthy co-existence remains. Something has to be done to abate this trend.

This phenomenon is directly linked to the “Avwebọ” (amebọ) and “Avwiorọvwe” that husbands create within the family. In other words, it is the husbands that caused the rivalry and jealousy. (There is a lot written about this by Professor Peter Ekeh for those who want to read further about the topic)

3. Avarice or Covetousness: The product of selfishness and greed is avarice. This is where someone is so self-centred that he/she continues to acquire material wealth to him/herself without minding any other person. They can sell or even kill the other person in the process of acquiring what they want.

4. Hatred, Malice and Bitterness: The result of greed, jealousy and rivalry is hatred. The person who is greedy is hated by the people around because s/he never helps anyone. And over time, this hatred leads to bitterness that is deeply rooted in the heart of the people against the person. And the real product that is lacking among the people is love for one another. Genuine affection is not there so people can keep malice of the other in mind for as long as possible.

5. Miscommunication: Since there is no genuine affection between the people, the line of communication is also not thorough. This creates communication gap which in turn creates misunderstanding of each other and later leading to suspicion.

6. Distrust or Suspicion: With the issue of rivalry in the family, people begin to suspect the actions (or inaction) of the other person. When this becomes someone’s attitude, they exhibit it beyond the family to the community.


7. Nepotism and Tribalism: Resulting from the self-centredness within the rivals in the family, pockets of “unions” or “cliques” begin to develop and this grows into where people now identify with one another with undue patronage to one another just because they are relations. The common Urhobo adage, “Uwevwi a g’obọ vwiyọ” is purely an act of nepotism and not UNITY as people think. The attributes of nepotic attitude on a larger scale is tribalism. It could also be the root of racism at international scale.

8. Separatism: This is the result of nepotism. As people get into grouping based on who they are related to, others soon see it as a form of fraternity to relate closely with one’s relations and less with those we are not related to. Such advocates always see line of demarcation between one person and another because of their family background. These separatists easily see why some group of people should not belong to a union and soon create a division among the people. There are many separatists among the Urhobo people.

9. “Unforgiveness” and Retaliation: Most Urhobo people have the heart of keeping any hurt or wrong done to them by someone in the past and they will never let go. They will keep the hurt with them looking for a day to retaliate or revenge. Usually, the revenge could be more hurtful and devastating. And since the other person(s) equally has/have the heart to keep things, they will record this event in their heart till such a time that they will revenge against the people who hurt them together with their children, etc. It is a vicious cycle that has no end. Sometimes that was the beginning of wars between communities and nations.

Where it does not result into physical war, it could be a social or psychological war between the groups concerned. That is why we often hear that in a town, one part is against the other part to the point that they must never cross each other or else heads will roll. Or in one street one compound is ostracised that whenever they are doing something, people from other parts of the street must not partake with them.

10. Conservatism and Intolerance: Following on from the problem of unforgiveness and retaliation is intolerance. This is rooted in the tendency for an average Urhobo person to be very conservative. People’s beliefs from generation to generation remain as what dictate their behaviour towards another person. This is related to the phrase: “naware rhe”. So what our forefathers did in the time past must remain to be done exactly so today without change. Any person causing a deviation or introducing a change (for better) is not tolerated and must be stopped or ostracised.

11. Pride and Arrogance: An average Urhobo person is naturally proud. There is positive pride which is being proud to be what and who you are. So it is good to be proud to be an Urhobo. But negative pride which people detest is arrogance. This is where a person considers him/herself to be above and better than every other person and looks down on the others. This attitude is very unsociable and it produces disunity.

12. Ignorance and Inferiority Complex: This is a very subtle canker in the life of most people. They are ignorant and have inferiority complex or lack of self-confidence but they pretend to know everything. Worse still is the fact that when someone tells them about their problem, they bask in their pride/arrogance to say that they don’t have any problem. This category of people is those who don’t know that they don’t know but they think that they know. There are many Urhobos in this category and they are very difficult to work with.

13. Cowardice, Gossiping and Backstabbing: Some Urhobo people are cowards. They will not say anything in the presence of someone they are in disagreement with. But they will go behind the person to say all sorts of things about the person. On the other hand, they will say “good” things to the person and behind the person they will say nasty things about him/her. That is backstabbing and it is very dangerous.

14. Hypocrisy: This is the bane of our present day society. People preach “Unity” but they are actually practising “Disunity”. So what shall we do?