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Go to one church!
A family that prays together stays together!

bukatyne:
If you know that your church is very important and you both do not reach a compromise, Please forget the marriage

I wonder when Some men would learn the art of persuasion

Forget the marriage
Auntie na wa

There are couples where the husband goes to the mosque and the wife goes to church so there should not be an issue if a married couple go to separate churches.

My question would be - why are there so many different churches if the so-called 'word of god' is the same.

I think both should attend the same church.

It is not wrong if there is understanding

Didn't he know the church you attend in the first place before he took the decision of marrying you? Don't change

16 And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God:17 Where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried: the Lord do so to me, and more also, if ought but death part thee and me.

Ruth 1: 16

bubatasu:
Didn't he know the church you attend in the first place before he took the decision of marrying you? Don't change

Did u read the post at all?

Joy1706:
What if I'm not feeling the presence of God in his church? Will I continue like that for the rest of my life?

must you marry him??

Bootybuttchic:
So when you get married you want to attend a different church right?is he worshiping a lesser God in his church or is there a network connection that makes prayer get to God faster in ur church,cos i dont think God uses network to hear,u just have a common nigerian issue too,muslims and christians hardly go into marriage together due to religion differences...,now you in a christian to christian relationship is having issue just because of differences in place of worship,are you worshiping the church or God?do they mark register in your church?did ur pastor meet his wife (who am sure stands/sits on the alter with him every sunday)in his church before marriage?i dont know how many of u christians think?church to worship shouldnt be an issue,if u trully love your man and you take his as ur bone of bone like your pastor wil tel u when your wedding,,i dont see why you would want to go seperately to church,imagine attending church a day after wedding people start asking where is ur husband ...and if u feel you have ur church click/members that u still want to be see-ing,then you guys can make it two sundays in your church and two in his'....anyhow how it suits you.....and if u feel because he wants u to attend his church when u marry,means he doesnt love then goodluck,break up with him,that ur church brother will come soon,and if he doesnt and u clock 30, ,please dont come to nl to shed mgeke tears and open threads on" please how do i find the right man":-D :-Dansa= HE Is by the left

Well said.

Lemmie add:
My late friend was fond of saying; "common sense is a default application but some people have deleted theirs"

bukatyne:
If you know that your church is very important and you both do not reach a compromise, Please forget the marriage

I wonder when Some men would learn the art of persuasion

Chief adviser,,I salute you,,
So because her fiance wants her to join him in his own church after wedding,,thats enough reason for her to dump him,,is it that easy to dump a partner at the slightest disagreement? Nawa o

You're not ready for marriage.

dafuturis:
You're not ready for marriage.

Tell d silly gal

bubatasu:
Didn't he know the church you attend in the first place before he took the decision of marrying you? Don't change

Ok bubatasu, when you get married eh, pls do as you adviced.

Go to your husbands church. In short start now. We serve only one God or at the op is the guy attending a white garment church that it somehow difficult to blend? If no go to his church. It love

Mmmmm! What can I say

When you say "I do", you change certain things about yourself like your last name, etc. Church too must be changed if you don't want a divided home afterwards. What kind of message will that be passing to your children eventually? For the sake of the love you have for your spouse, and for the sake of unity afterwards, attend the same church.


My humble opinion

It is an issue. yes, we worship the same God but our mode of worship differs. As a catholic I don't see myself worshipping in any other church. I've been to other churches but it wasn't the same, I didnt feel comfortable. There a lot of things the catholic church does that other churches don't do mass, ash wednesday, lent, rosary i can go on and on and salvation is a personal thing, he should allow u worship God the way u feel comfortable with...it's not something he'll force u to do.

Very neccessary buh ain't a mandate...

Very wrong.!

Joy1706:
I told him even as my husband, he can only ask me to change my church after marriage but that the decision is mine to take. And that religion is a very personal issue, it's not something that can just be decided for a person esp an adult.

Then he says it seems like I won't be a submissive wife bla bla bla. Did I say something wrong?

U are wrong. If you are a true Christian, u will know that the Bible makes the man the head of the home so the wife nd children are to follow his leading. Leave the man now and let him go and look for someone who will help him keep his family together in one place. This 'my church' mentality will not do u any good. NB. My baby is from a diffrnt church and a very dedicated one. We did our wedding in her but we are whorshiping in mine today.

adami:
It is an issue. yes, we worship the same God but our mode of worship differs. As a catholic I don't see myself worshipping in any other church. I've been to other churches but it wasn't the same, I didnt feel comfortable. There a lot of things the catholic church does that other churches don't do mass, ash wednesday, lent, rosary i can go on and on and salvation is a personal thing, he should allow u worship God the way u feel comfortable with...it's not something he'll force u to do.

No big deal then, just marry a Catho

@op please and please it is not a must that you attend the same church as your husband to be but if he insist after you both have discussed the issue and you feel that you can make the switch then for the sake of peace, you can switch. but make sure you talk it out before you marry and not after he's married to you.

I'm Catholic, so are all other member of my family except my father who's Methodist. we only attend his church when he has family harvest and same goes for him when we have family thanksgiving in the Catholic church. not every family or couple can come to that understanding. my dad even went as far as getting baptised in the Catholic church just so he could marry my mother.

Joy1706:
What if I'm not feeling the presence of God in his church? Will I continue like that for the rest of my life?

I get u totally.

adami:
It is an issue. yes, we worship the same God but our mode of worship differs. As a catholic I don't see myself worshipping in any other church. I've been to other churches but it wasn't the same, I didnt feel comfortable. There a lot of things the catholic church does that other churches don't do mass, ash wednesday, lent, rosary i can go on and on and salvation is a personal thing, he should allow u worship God the way u feel comfortable with...it's not something he'll force u to do.

Religion again? They can not even agree amongst each other and yet they keep being condescending to atheists, you would think their belief is the best thing since slice bread.

Joy1706:
I told him even as my husband, he can only ask me to change my church after marriage but that the decision is mine to take. And that religion is a very personal issue, it's not something that can just be decided for a person esp an adult.

Then he says it seems like I won't be a submissive wife bla bla bla. Did I say something wrong?

firstly, its a common knowledge in Nigeria that the lady moves over to the husband's church

secondly, whats the name of his church and yours?

I ask because a member of Christ embassy will have issues with a member of deeper life or scripture union because of differences in idealogy.

hope you get the picture, u can replace CE with any new generation church

the person from deeper life will probably take the actions of those from christ embassy as sin while the other will take their action as being old
fashioned.


I'm not viewing this from the submission angle but that of ideology. if you know you dont like his church and you cant win him over, well i guess u know what you should do

if you insist on going to your church, what happens when junior shows up, which of the church will he go to?

do you think a man that attends a pentecostal church or even the catholic church, will allow his wife to continue with white garment church or allow her take the kids there?

pls do not misconstrue my post, my post has not in any way shown the supremacy of denominations or which is church is real or fake, I'm just painting a picture of the commotion that can occur

finally,

1.you said boyfriend & not fiance, should i take it that you are still young and marriage is not in view at all

2.the things that are considered norm in the Nigerian culture, should you have a difference in opinion kindly make sure your spouse has such mentality like yours

Dont just come up with your own way of life which is against what is normally obtainable and be surprised when you meet opposition

So its all about changing church and not the God you serve that has become a problem for you?
Are you sure you want to get married now or ever?Because if you do,then know that marriage is all about compromise and understanding.
Remember God will be blessing you with children. Are you going to drag where to baptise them too?
Assuming you only have one car at home.Will you go your separate way to trek or enter keke to your own church?
A family that prays together stay together. Don't start creating holes in your home even before you marry..

Its nt gud husbn. N wife 2b goin diff church at d early mariage, if u lov him, u must lov his church, refusin 2do his wish afta marriage is a disobedient, which is also a sin in d eye of God. Gen 3v16

Joy1706:
I told him even as my husband, he can only ask me to change my church after marriage but that the decision is mine to take. And that religion is a very personal issue, it's not something that can just be decided for a person esp an adult.

Then he says it seems like I won't be a submissive wife bla bla bla. Did I say something wrong?

not all this ones you are writing here on NL. The moment you marry, the few things you do then would be a thing of the past. The moment you marry, you are to obey him. This current generation of couples, I do not know why they do not learn from their parent... They are too stubborn...

Joy1706:
I told him even as my husband, he can only ask me to change my church after marriage but that the decision is mine to take. And that religion is a very personal issue, it's not something that can just be decided for a person esp an adult.

Then he says it seems like I won't be a submissive wife bla bla bla. Did I say something wrong?

Your boyfriend would be best served by changing his girlfriend before marriage !


TV^MIC

Bootybuttchic:
So when you get married you want to attend a different church right?is he worshiping a lesser God in his church or is there a network connection that makes prayer get to God faster in ur church,cos i dont think God uses network to hear,u just have a common nigerian issue too,muslims and christians hardly go into marriage together due to religion differences...,now you in a christian to christian relationship is having issue just because of differences in place of worship,are you worshiping the church or God?do they mark register in your church?did ur pastor meet his wife (who am sure stands/sits on the alter with him every sunday)in his church before marriage?i dont know how many of u christians think?church to worship shouldnt be an issue,if u trully love your man and you take his as ur bone of bone like your pastor wil tel u when your wedding,,i dont see why you would want to go seperately to church,imagine attending church a day after wedding people start asking where is ur husband ...and if u feel you have ur church click/members that u still want to be see-ing,then you guys can make it two sundays in your church and two in his'....anyhow how it suits you.....and if u feel because he wants u to attend his church when u marry,means he doesnt love then goodluck,break up with him,that ur church brother will come soon,and if he doesnt and u clock 30, ,please dont come to nl to shed mgeke tears and open threads on" please how do i find the right man":-D :-Dansa= HE Is by the left

Girl u nailed it

I'm also in D's kind of stuff ooo. she b Jehovah witness and I'm a living faith member . we av both talked abt it and we both agreed to go for wateva we want but d children will choose who to follow .