₦airaland Forum

TheInkheart:
I know by now, some guys are already hissing and cursing me probably but it is undeniable that many Nigerian guys have terrible attitudes that make them really undesirable husband materials. I mean, it is tough enough we have to cope with the many issues in the country, men problems should not be added to our weighty wahala. We deserve men who understand us (at least to a reasonable extent), shower us with the affection we need, pamper us and make us feel very special and loved but how many Nigerian men can beat their chests that they can be the man of our dreams or at least, part of the dreams?!!

Some questions, and I hope you answer them as objectively as possible:

1. What exactly is it about you that makes you deserving of an understanding and affectionate man?

2. Why can't you pamper and make yourself feel very special and loved?
Are you saying that only a man can do this for you? This is interesting because it seems you need a man to boost your self-esteem and confidence even more than you can do for yourself.

3. You asked how many Nigerian men can beat their chest and say they're men of women's dreams...
So I'm curious, Is being the man of one woman's dreams supposed to be a life ambition or a goal men should work towards?

Innocent questions, not trying to stir up anything...

ApexTitan:
The OP is being crafty. This topic with its click bait title is primarily aimed at generating traffic for her blog.

In dealing with women the key is to pay attention to what they do not what they say. While the OP is here listing reasons why members of her gender should stay clear of Nigerian men, dozens if not hundreds of women, despite countless warnings about how men are dogs etc, will be rushing to the altar to marry these men every Saturday.

Good, bad or evil, the fact remains that women need to get married to men. Especially Nigerian women. Marriage to a Nigerian man is the best chance for the average Nigerian woman to attain to that level of respectability that society, nay women themselves, have place on themselves. Through marriage she significantly increases her chances of living the "good life", the man is obligated to provide for her and her kids in exchange for sex or intimacy. For almost all women living in Nigeria their best options for marriage lie with the Nigerian man and despite all the campaign by people like the OP, he is a prized commodity.
All he needs is a bit of personal success or the appearance of it and women will be all over him like white on rice.

Crap. Prized commodity my foot.

ireneidiva:
Crap. Prized commodity my foot.

Lol. Why are you mad aunty?

....Most of them are exactly like the op outlined..sad fact

ApexTitan:
Lol. Why are you mad aunty?

I'm not mad uncle. The Nigerian man is no 'prized commodity'.

As much as I hate to agree with you, some of ur points are quiet true, but they are improving.

If u are lucky enough to meet the ones teachable , then life is easier.

ireneidiva:
I'm not mad uncle. The Nigerian man is no 'prized commodity'.

You think so? The vast majority of women will not agree with you because their very actions indicate that he is very much prized. Consider all the long hours women spend at the salon and beauty parlours trying to look beautiful just for him. They invest heavily in fashion, go on diets and work out in the gym so as to attract or retain his much sought after attention. Those who can afford will even subject themselves to the knives of plastic surgeons so with their bodies his attention will be theirs. I can list the very many things Nigerian women do just for the Nigerian man that suggest that he is prized...

Or... ... are you saying its not the man himself these women are after but what he represents, what he can do for the woman that they seek after him so? ... Hmmm... You might be on to something, really.

ApexTitan:
You think so? The vast majority of women will not agree with you because their very actions indicate that he is very much prized. Consider all the long hours women spend at the salon and beauty parlours trying to look beautiful just for him. They invest heavily in fashion, go on diets and work out in the gym so as to attract or retain his much sought after attention. Those who can afford will even subject themselves to the knives of plastic surgeons so with their bodies they his attention will be theirs. I can list the very many things Nigerian women do just for the Nigerian man that suggest that he is prized...

Or... are you saying its not the man himself these women are after but what he represents, what he can do for the woman that they seek after him so? ... Hmmm... You might be on to something, really.

Women all round the world do those sir.

ireneidiva:
Women all round the world do those sir.

They do this for men, no? Nigerian men belong to this group of men, no?

ApexTitan:
They do this for men, no? Nigerian men belong to this group of men, no?

They do this for themselves and not for men. If I don't gym, won't I be fat and have heart diseases? Is it me or my man that will suffer it? Most of the people that do surgeries do it for themselves to look good. So you see, we don't all live for a man. Especially not the nigerian controlling man. Ciao

It is only coincidental that some of what women do to hold the attraction of men aligns with the dictates of healthy living. Males are drawn to fertile, healthy disease free females, it is such a female that ensures the best chances of survival of his offspings. At the heart of it all one cannot divorce the desire for man's attention from all of the activities that women engage in to keep herself in shape/look good.

Hian! Pamper yourselves and buy yourselves any kind of leaf you want and leave us alone. Na by force to be marriageable?

Too late o!
To marry a Nigerian man, just fasten your seat belt and enjoy "the ride'!

Shikena!

No shaking! Just dish as much as they give!

EfemenaXY:
Another his 'n hers thread.

But I've got to admit a lot of what was posted here is true. Annoyingly true. For those to whom some (or all of these) are applicable, pls make the necessary changes.

yhusiee:
Your gist no hold water, abeg. Who knows, maybe you're a Xenophobic Southafrican.

Best reply. instead of her to just come clean and tell us her mum was abused by her father, she dey here dey misyarn. Many people are not living their dreams because they are living their fears. i don't listen to all the trash of no perfect woman.. am like oh yeah my wife aint gon be a perfect woman, she is going to be a female martian in that case... eh gals of nowadays have a heart of stone, am like oh yeah her heart would be the finest gem i ever picked then.

for me, most of life's curses could be gifts if we are determined. to [quote author=TheInkheart post=33285423][/quote]keep living your fears

dis na story for my village gods... any oda news?

IF YOUR DAD HAD TOLD YOUR MUM TO ABORT YOU YEARS AGO YOU FOR NO DEY HERE DEY TALK TRASH

THE GUY SAID 'OPINIONS' NOT AFFIRMATIVE. Let him enjoy jare.The guy try

dis one na story for my village gods... any oda news?

Everything on the list is shamefully true.
I completely agree.

Hahahaha and extra ha

TheInkheart:
Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man

It is no doubt that Nigerian men make wonderful lovers; they are sweet, kind, thoughtful, maybe not very romantic but romantic still and good in bed too. It is also no doubt that these men are very rare to come by in Nigeria. Maybe by default or societal conditioning, most Nigerian men are so not it; they are egoistic, chauvinistic and make terrible husband materials. You wonder why I think Nigerian men; at least most of them, won't make good husbands, read the reasons listed below:

-They Are Chauvinists: pardon the strong word "chauvinists" but Nigerian men prefer to stick to their bias opinion about women and their responsibilities in the home. The take the "head" duty way too serious and often push the women aside expecting them to follow their will and do as they say. If you marry a Nigerian man, you will probably end up as the less important voice in the home or wherever the man rather than as a partner you are to him.

- They Are Polygamous In Nature: In Nigeria, some men believe men are entitled to as many women as they can handle and so, they are free to marry more than one wife or have affairs with other women. With a Nigerian man, it is never certain that you will be the only woman in his life. To save yourself the heartbreaks of discovering condoms and hotel receipts in his pocket or worse, finding out he has secret children, please do not marry a Nigerian man.

- They Are Not Romantic: you want flowers, a guy to follow you to the salon, exotic lunches, dinners, vacations, chocolates and breakfast in bed? Then, a Nigerian man is not the man you should marry. They often consider these things as cheesy and unneccesary. Maybe they will try on your birthdays and valentine's day (that's if they don't come up with excuses to forget). The most romantic thing some Nigerian men will ever get for you is packs of food from an eatery or drinks and few back/foot rubs just right before sex.

- You Will Be A Nanny To A Grown Man: if God blesses you with a Nigerian man and a somehow scattered one, you are in soup. You've just graduated to being a nanny to a full grown man. You will pick his socks, shirts and what not after him when he gets back from work, even flush the toilet when he's done. Be ready to face a sulking man if the food is not ready on time or you try to get him to do something for you when his favourite game or tv show is on. You will have to pet and stroke his ego almost all the time to make him happy.

- They Have The Wife Beating Syndrome: either by societal conditioning or home training, some Nigerian men believe it is very normal to hit a woman; that is the only way to put them back on track when they are wrong. It is no secret that some Nigerian men will beat their wives and feel no regret about it; it is somehow the woman's fault the man is so angry to the extent he has to hit her. If you're not ready to lose your fine skin to the itchy palms of a man, please steer clear of Nigerian men.

Nigerian men are also good liars. They smoke and drink heavily and blame it on the society's deteriorating condition; they have to "keep body and soul together". Many Nigerian men have money problem; it is either they are misers or heavy spenders. Some prefer to show off the wealth they do not possess by living way beyond their standards. And the most annoying part is that many Nigerian men are Mr nice guy in public and Mr stingy in their homes which you will agree is not a very attractive trait especially in someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I know by now, some guys are already hissing and cursing me probably but it is undeniable that many Nigerian guys have terrible attitudes that make them really undesirable husband materials. I mean, it is tough enough we have to cope with the many issues in the country, men problems should not be added to our weighty wahala. We deserve men who understand us (at least to a reasonable extent), shower us with the affection we need, pamper us and make us feel very special and loved but how many Nigerian men can beat their chests that they can be the man of our dreams or at least, part of the dreams?!!


more articles n www.theinkheartblog.com and www.360nobs.com/author/alice-temitope-dako/

I dey sure say your mama no born you, na shiite she shiite you for toilet. As she won flush her shiite, she come see you dey cry for inside toilet

No problem. Go n look for a south African man

TheInkheart:
Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man

It is no doubt that Nigerian men make wonderful lovers; they are sweet, kind, thoughtful, maybe not very romantic but romantic still and good in bed too. It is also no doubt that these men are very rare to come by in Nigeria. Maybe by default or societal conditioning, most Nigerian men are so not it; they are egoistic, chauvinistic and make terrible husband materials. You wonder why I think Nigerian men; at least most of them, won't make good husbands, read the reasons listed below:

-They Are Chauvinists: pardon the strong word "chauvinists" but Nigerian men prefer to stick to their bias opinion about women and their responsibilities in the home. The take the "head" duty way too serious and often push the women aside expecting them to follow their will and do as they say. If you marry a Nigerian man, you will probably end up as the less important voice in the home or wherever the man rather than as a partner you are to him.

- They Are Polygamous In Nature: In Nigeria, some men believe men are entitled to as many women as they can handle and so, they are free to marry more than one wife or have affairs with other women. With a Nigerian man, it is never certain that you will be the only woman in his life. To save yourself the heartbreaks of discovering condoms and hotel receipts in his pocket or worse, finding out he has secret children, please do not marry a Nigerian man.

- They Are Not Romantic: you want flowers, a guy to follow you to the salon, exotic lunches, dinners, vacations, chocolates and breakfast in bed? Then, a Nigerian man is not the man you should marry. They often consider these things as cheesy and unneccesary. Maybe they will try on your birthdays and valentine's day (that's if they don't come up with excuses to forget). The most romantic thing some Nigerian men will ever get for you is packs of food from an eatery or drinks and few back/foot rubs just right before sex.

- You Will Be A Nanny To A Grown Man: if God blesses you with a Nigerian man and a somehow scattered one, you are in soup. You've just graduated to being a nanny to a full grown man. You will pick his socks, shirts and what not after him when he gets back from work, even flush the toilet when he's done. Be ready to face a sulking man if the food is not ready on time or you try to get him to do something for you when his favourite game or tv show is on. You will have to pet and stroke his ego almost all the time to make him happy.

- They Have The Wife Beating Syndrome: either by societal conditioning or home training, some Nigerian men believe it is very normal to hit a woman; that is the only way to put them back on track when they are wrong. It is no secret that some Nigerian men will beat their wives and feel no regret about it; it is somehow the woman's fault the man is so angry to the extent he has to hit her. If you're not ready to lose your fine skin to the itchy palms of a man, please steer clear of Nigerian men.

Nigerian men are also good liars. They smoke and drink heavily and blame it on the society's deteriorating condition; they have to "keep body and soul together". Many Nigerian men have money problem; it is either they are misers or heavy spenders. Some prefer to show off the wealth they do not possess by living way beyond their standards. And the most annoying part is that many Nigerian men are Mr nice guy in public and Mr stingy in their homes which you will agree is not a very attractive trait especially in someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I know by now, some guys are already hissing and cursing me probably but it is undeniable that many Nigerian guys have terrible attitudes that make them really undesirable husband materials. I mean, it is tough enough we have to cope with the many issues in the country, men problems should not be added to our weighty wahala. We deserve men who understand us (at least to a reasonable extent), shower us with the affection we need, pamper us and make us feel very special and loved but how many Nigerian men can beat their chests that they can be the man of our dreams or at least, part of the dreams?!!


more articles n www.theinkheartblog.com and www.360nobs.com/author/alice-temitope-dako/

Foolish girl... we would be surprised you are married and have 2 kids already...

Op just commited "fallacy of generalisation" ...too bad

Lol....too many generalizations in your post...its your opinion...every mallam to his kettle

Now I get it, you want to practice what u watch on movie huh BTW, if I get u flower on ur birthday as a typical nigerian girl, would u prefer it to Ferrari cruiser

TheInkheart:
Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man

It is no doubt that Nigerian men make wonderful lovers; they are sweet, kind, thoughtful, maybe not very romantic but romantic still and good in bed too. It is also no doubt that these men are very rare to come by in Nigeria. Maybe by default or societal conditioning, most Nigerian men are so not it; they are egoistic, chauvinistic and make terrible husband materials. You wonder why I think Nigerian men; at least most of them, won't make good husbands, read the reasons listed below:

-They Are Chauvinists: pardon the strong word "chauvinists" but Nigerian men prefer to stick to their bias opinion about women and their responsibilities in the home. The take the "head" duty way too serious and often push the women aside expecting them to follow their will and do as they say. If you marry a Nigerian man, you will probably end up as the less important voice in the home or wherever the man rather than as a partner you are to him.

- They Are Polygamous In Nature: In Nigeria, some men believe men are entitled to as many women as they can handle and so, they are free to marry more than one wife or have affairs with other women. With a Nigerian man, it is never certain that you will be the only woman in his life. To save yourself the heartbreaks of discovering condoms and hotel receipts in his pocket or worse, finding out he has secret children, please do not marry a Nigerian man.

- They Are Not Romantic: you want flowers, a guy to follow you to the salon, exotic lunches, dinners, vacations, chocolates and breakfast in bed? Then, a Nigerian man is not the man you should marry. They often consider these things as cheesy and unneccesary. Maybe they will try on your birthdays and valentine's day (that's if they don't come up with excuses to forget). The most romantic thing some Nigerian men will ever get for you is packs of food from an eatery or drinks and few back/foot rubs just right before sex.

- You Will Be A Nanny To A Grown Man: if God blesses you with a Nigerian man and a somehow scattered one, you are in soup. You've just graduated to being a nanny to a full grown man. You will pick his socks, shirts and what not after him when he gets back from work, even flush the toilet when he's done. Be ready to face a sulking man if the food is not ready on time or you try to get him to do something for you when his favourite game or tv show is on. You will have to pet and stroke his ego almost all the time to make him happy.

- They Have The Wife Beating Syndrome: either by societal conditioning or home training, some Nigerian men believe it is very normal to hit a woman; that is the only way to put them back on track when they are wrong. It is no secret that some Nigerian men will beat their wives and feel no regret about it; it is somehow the woman's fault the man is so angry to the extent he has to hit her. If you're not ready to lose your fine skin to the itchy palms of a man, please steer clear of Nigerian men.

Nigerian men are also good liars. They smoke and drink heavily and blame it on the society's deteriorating condition; they have to "keep body and soul together". Many Nigerian men have money problem; it is either they are misers or heavy spenders. Some prefer to show off the wealth they do not possess by living way beyond their standards. And the most annoying part is that many Nigerian men are Mr nice guy in public and Mr stingy in their homes which you will agree is not a very attractive trait especially in someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I know by now, some guys are already hissing and cursing me probably but it is undeniable that many Nigerian guys have terrible attitudes that make them really undesirable husband materials. I mean, it is tough enough we have to cope with the many issues in the country, men problems should not be added to our weighty wahala. We deserve men who understand us (at least to a reasonable extent), shower us with the affection we need, pamper us and make us feel very special and loved but how many Nigerian men can beat their chests that they can be the man of our dreams or at least, part of the dreams?!!


more articles n www.theinkheartblog.com and www.360nobs.com/author/alice-temitope-dako/

If u ar a Nigerian writing ds den u a fool n bias. If u a foreigner den u ar mentally blind......all men/women ar dsame all ova d world in all things, d dfrence is a matter of undastand btw a man n his woman n ds undastandn comes by knowledge of demselves n wot dey want in life.........

OP: you just want us to go to your blog... abi?

ehh... gan marry your Zimbabwean man naa...

cococandy:
It is quite a big generalization but some of them are true.
You guys should stop complaining and work on the few ones that apply to you on that list.
If by any chance all of them apply to you, pls don't marry o so that you won't kill someone's daughter

Question for you Ma, have you dated any man that has any of the above?