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zinosleek:
Black beauty. This thread don make me dey enter pple profile. Wld hv uploaded pic but I'm not fine

softysparky:
Upload jooor .

MizMyColi:
Well personally, I stopped uploading my DP on NL because I found that I kept visiting my profile.
Checking out the number of likes, and if I found that the likes weren't as forthcoming, I'd take it down and change to another.
It even got more annoying when my "hard earned" likes got subtracted as a result of the new picture.

I told myself the hard truth, that in addition to people's general approval of my comments, I wanted them to approve my face too.
And with each picture I uploaded, I somehow felt inadequate.
Those times turned out to be my first real practical lessons on self acceptance/approval.


Second and most important.....despite my openness as an individual, I am not always comfortable with the fact that my face is out there.
The longest lasting DP I ever used on this forum was one where I had my face downwards, staring right into my bag.

So, yes, I think that most times...when we upload and upload different styles and pictures of ourselves, we trying to fill a void.... #HardTruthThough

That said, my thoughts aren't an absolute.
Different strokes, Different folks.

Kachisbarbie:
lols.
This is very true. Everyone has been guilty of this at some point in his/her e-life.

MizMyColi:
Well, I just gotta admit that the more we are think we know, the more we don't.

I'm at that phase where I am learning (kai! It's hard ehn) how to be wholly accepting of self, whether I wear fine clothings or not. Whether I make up or not.

More important I am learning how to ask, will I like him/them?
Instead of the stereotypical "will he/they like me?"

MizMyColi:
Well personally, I stopped uploading my DP on NL because I found that I kept visiting my profile.
Checking out the number of likes, and if I found that the likes weren't as forthcoming, I'd take it down and change to another.
It even got more annoying when my "hard earned" likes got subtracted as a result of the new picture.

I told myself the hard truth, that in addition to people's general approval of my comments, I wanted them to approve my face too.
And with each picture I uploaded, I somehow felt inadequate.
Those times turned out to be my first real practical lessons on self acceptance/approval.


Second and most important.....despite my openness as an individual, I am not always comfortable with the fact that my face is out there.
The longest lasting DP I ever used on this forum was one where I had my face downwards, staring right into my bag.

So, yes, I think that most times...when we upload and upload different styles and pictures of ourselves, we trying to fill a void.... #HardTruthThough

That said, my thoughts aren't an absolute.
Different strokes, Different folks.

shaboti:
you have inspired me

ammyluv2002:
I love you....you're very honest. Keep it up gal!

MizMyColi:
Well personally, I stopped uploading my DP on NL because I found that I kept visiting my profile.
Checking out the number of likes, and if I found that the likes weren't as forthcoming, I'd take it down and change to another.
It even got more annoying when my "hard earned" likes got subtracted as a result of the new picture.

I told myself the hard truth, that in addition to people's general approval of my comments, I wanted them to approve my face too.
And with each picture I uploaded, I somehow felt inadequate.
Those times turned out to be my first real practical lessons on self acceptance/approval.


Second and most important.....despite my openness as an individual, I am not always comfortable with the fact that my face is out there.
The longest lasting DP I ever used on this forum was one where I had my face downwards, staring right into my bag.

So, yes, I think that most times...when we upload and upload different styles and pictures of ourselves, we trying to fill a void.... #HardTruthThough

That said, my thoughts aren't an absolute.
Different strokes, Different folks.

MizMyColi:
It is the Lord's doing dear
Thank You

Macmilla:
Please, could you tell me the deep way to look at it?

softysparky:
Upload jooor .

MizMyColi:
Well personally, I stopped uploading my DP on NL because I found that I kept visiting my profile.
Checking out the number of likes, and if I found that the likes weren't as forthcoming, I'd take it down and change to another.
It even got more annoying when my "hard earned" likes got subtracted as a result of the new picture.

I told myself the hard truth, that in addition to people's general approval of my comments, I wanted them to approve my face too.
And with each picture I uploaded, I somehow felt inadequate.
Those times turned out to be my first real practical lessons on self acceptance/approval.


Second and most important.....despite my openness as an individual, I am not always comfortable with the fact that my face is out there.
The longest lasting DP I ever used on this forum was one where I had my face downwards, staring right into my bag.

So, yes, I think that most times...when we upload and upload different styles and pictures of ourselves, we trying to fill a void.... #HardTruthThough

That said, my thoughts aren't an absolute.
Different strokes, Different folks.

softysparky:
I no get anything naaa.

Osyxcel:
U say??

softysparky:

Amazing how even trolls bullies and bigots claim maturity because they don't change dp lol.

softysparky:
Osy that your nose no be hereooo

bxcode:
We know them, forming maturity with dp only. Nice dp by the way

Kachisbarbie:
This topic alongside some memes has been trending on my bbm/whatsapp. It's fast becoming a trite cliche, people tag changing of display pictures with immaturity. It's common here on NL too.

Isn't one's display picture supposed to be his/her personal business or a means of self-expression/admiration?

What's your say?

Bobopupa:
Priceless!

blublahd:
changing your clothes everyday is an awful comparison to excessive changing of dps.
p.s:I careless about how frequent dps are changed, if at all, it keeps me entertained.

MizMyColi:


I asked google...here's what she told me.

The frequent DP changers

"People who keep on changing their profile pictures are insecure, lack in confidence and are often very flippant in their decisions. Such people are also found to be suspicious and don't trust others easily. Some even show traits of split personality and always remain dissatisfied with their decisions," said psychologist Amool Ranjan. "This trait shows that a person is suffering from identity crisis and actually wants to explore himself in the views of others. They are also attention seekers," said another psychologist Kaptan Singh Sengar.

Those with pictures of celebrities

Said Ranjan, "It shows that the person is carefree. Such people like to idolize others and are not too successful in life. They are not confident and often seek other's opinions. They are introvert and are hesitant in disclosing their personal matters." Sengar added, "Usually such individuals' world is very limited. Their desire and wishes remain hidden somewhere deep within. By uploading someone else's picture, they feel projected. They are dreamers and like to remain in the fantasy world."

Those who upload intimate photos

"Such people are usually attention seekers and are insecure in their relationships. They suffer from inferiority complex. To conceal it, they try and be more expressive," shared Ranjan. Said Sengar, "This behaviour shows sheer immaturity and urge to seek attention. Such people lack in self esteem and can hardly be trustworthy in relationships. It also shows that they have suffered setback in relationships at some point of their lives."

Users of slang in status messages

Said Ranjan, "They are frustrated souls who have faced lots of failures and criticism in life. So to compensate that they hurt others by being offensive. They might be weak in their communication skills. They try and make it up by being offensive." Another psychologist, Suprakash Chaudhary said, "It shows the amount of failure they have faced in life. To make up for it, they use social media as the medium to abuse masses at one go without being subjected to legal proceedings."

Frequent status message changers

"In a bid to sound expressive and extrovert, people keep on updating their status messages. Sometimes they even end up revealing their private lives. But it just shows how much of an inferiority complex the person has. In such a case, the views of others matter more and that shows a lack of self-confidence. Such people are weak in their judgmental abilities. They can never stick to their decisions," said Ranjan. Chaudhary said this trait can be seen as part of being defensive. "Such people believe in saying more but end up doing little. They are bad adjudicators," he said.

Those always on busy mode

Said Ranjan, "Some people do it purposely. But when it becomes a habit, it shows a person's social withdrawal symptoms. They don't want to interact with people or are only concerned about their own interests." On this trait, Chaudhary said, "Such netizens don't need society's approval. They are not bothered about rules and regulation and live life on their terms. But sometimes the continued ignorance may lead to depression."

Gothic art as DP

Said Ranjan, "Such people are complex and mysterious. It's very difficult to understand them and that's what they enjoy. They are reserved and don't share too much with people. They try to solve their problems themselves." Sengar agreed, saying, "Though the person might be perfectly alright, they always feel they aren't well. These people are concerned about their physical appearances. That's the reason they often find faults with their health."

InZA:
A lady that changes dp regularly wouldn't make a good wife... Honestly, there's are many things I find unsettling about a lady that changes her dp every 30mins. One of such is the suggestion that she's a noise maker in real life.... and I can't stand a woman who makes noise. There's this drop living gorgeous lady on my bbm, I had been nursing the idea of sending her my application (if you think I'm talking about a job you're on a long thing). But I noticed this lady changes dp like every 30mins, I thought it was a one off thing so I was ready to let it slide, but later on I realized it was a habit.... Suffice to say, I used the application paper to wrap akara


At the very basic level excessive dp changing reeks of inferiority complex, I can say so because I used to deal with it too but mine was not dp changing, rather it was putting my "bbm songs" on so that my contacts could see what I was playing because I wanted them to validate my taste in good songs, more so because I played only christian songs. But later on, I just had to be truthful to myself.


MizMyColi.... Your honesty is a virtue worth celebrating... and as it's said in my church- I celebrate you

MizMyColi:


I asked google...here's what she told me.

The frequent DP changers

"People who keep on changing their profile pictures are insecure, lack in confidence and are often very flippant in their decisions. Such people are also found to be suspicious and don't trust others easily. Some even show traits of split personality and always remain dissatisfied with their decisions," said psychologist Amool Ranjan. "This trait shows that a person is suffering from identity crisis and actually wants to explore himself in the views of others. They are also attention seekers," said another psychologist Kaptan Singh Sengar.

Those with pictures of celebrities

Said Ranjan, "It shows that the person is carefree. Such people like to idolize others and are not too successful in life. They are not confident and often seek other's opinions. They are introvert and are hesitant in disclosing their personal matters." Sengar added, "Usually such individuals' world is very limited. Their desire and wishes remain hidden somewhere deep within. By uploading someone else's picture, they feel projected. They are dreamers and like to remain in the fantasy world."

Those who upload intimate photos

"Such people are usually attention seekers and are insecure in their relationships. They suffer from inferiority complex. To conceal it, they try and be more expressive," shared Ranjan. Said Sengar, "This behaviour shows sheer immaturity and urge to seek attention. Such people lack in self esteem and can hardly be trustworthy in relationships. It also shows that they have suffered setback in relationships at some point of their lives."

Users of slang in status messages

Said Ranjan, "They are frustrated souls who have faced lots of failures and criticism in life. So to compensate that they hurt others by being offensive. They might be weak in their communication skills. They try and make it up by being offensive." Another psychologist, Suprakash Chaudhary said, "It shows the amount of failure they have faced in life. To make up for it, they use social media as the medium to abuse masses at one go without being subjected to legal proceedings."

Frequent status message changers

"In a bid to sound expressive and extrovert, people keep on updating their status messages. Sometimes they even end up revealing their private lives. But it just shows how much of an inferiority complex the person has. In such a case, the views of others matter more and that shows a lack of self-confidence. Such people are weak in their judgmental abilities. They can never stick to their decisions," said Ranjan. Chaudhary said this trait can be seen as part of being defensive. "Such people believe in saying more but end up doing little. They are bad adjudicators," he said.

Those always on busy mode

Said Ranjan, "Some people do it purposely. But when it becomes a habit, it shows a person's social withdrawal symptoms. They don't want to interact with people or are only concerned about their own interests." On this trait, Chaudhary said, "Such netizens don't need society's approval. They are not bothered about rules and regulation and live life on their terms. But sometimes the continued ignorance may lead to depression."

Gothic art as DP

Said Ranjan, "Such people are complex and mysterious. It's very difficult to understand them and that's what they enjoy. They are reserved and don't share too much with people. They try to solve their problems themselves." Sengar agreed, saying, "Though the person might be perfectly alright, they always feel they aren't well. These people are concerned about their physical appearances. That's the reason they often find faults with their health."