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shirazlova:
Im a regular contributor here on Nairaland but have had to create a new profile for the sake of being anonymous

My problem is that all my life I've struggled to make or maintain female friendships due to one reason or another. Distance, change of location, falling out/unresolved conflict, jealousy, fake friends etc.. It's something I'm ashamed of and I often feel sad that I don't have my clique of friends especially now that I'm about getting married. It saddens me that at this time of my life where I'm supposed to be joyous and be surrounded by girlfriends helping me with wedding preparations, choosing a dress etc, I have no one to call on. I've had to shop for my dress alone which was quite a depressing experience. Everytime my parents or aunties ask of my friends I come up with one story or another or just change the topic completely.

My fiancée is very much aware of my lack of friends but he's not bothered by it at all. I'm in my early/mid twenties and I feel so saddened to see other girls my age with lots of girlfriends. I have a big family however most of my cousins are male.

How do I go about doing my wedding with no bridesmaids whatsoever! It'll be such a mortifying experience for my wedding guests and family members to notice I have no friends.
What do I do about this?
I'd appreciate matured responses pls.

temifisayo:
is this evina?

Tallesty1:
You are a regular commentor here and you wonder why you lack female friends?

I didn't buy the excuse you gave because I know why.

Thing is, many of the ladies on here have made internet their only friend. They spend all their time here, no time for their families or friends.

Sha, things are changing so I believe they will soon be able to buy husbands or friends from olx when they need it.

netizenbuzz:
Can you not? You use every opportunity you get to bash women. Is that your purpose in life? Can't you make a mature and coherent comment for once in your life?

mamziii:
I swear same tot came 2my mind

Evina:
LOL.
I'm amazed you and temifisayo would think the OP is Evina. Maka why?

mamziii:
evina darling don't mind me. Was just pulling ur legs. Winks

Evina:

ferhyntorlah:
Kulyie Kulyie Kulyieeeee! (I hope I got the name right?) Phahahhahahahahahaha @ your assumptions!

You should understand that some just don't fancy having many friends; they prefer to be alone.

Like I said, I grew up without having barrage of friends and this has influenced my way of life-by keeping to myself. What I have are more of acquaintances.

Keeping friends is just not in me. I'm not disputing the value of friendship but I just prefer being alone at time. I have just a few friends (2-3) and we communicate when the need arises. Kulyieeeeee, u ehn!

One more thing: I believe we meet people for a REASON and SEASON. Once that has been accomplished, it's time to move on.
Takia

mamziii:
. Waiting 2c ur wedin pictures dear

SAMBARRY:



happy Sunday and happy mother's day

Tallesty1:
If telling them the truth is same as bashing then I will continue bashing them.

Most people have replaced their offline friends with online friends. It is a fact.

Secondly I don't lick assess or sugar-coat words to please anybody. If need something that's sugarcoated then buy a doughnut.

I say things as they are and I don't give a hoot about you and your opinion.

Sons and daughters of truth appreciate me, those that do not have truth in them hate me but it doesn't matter.

I have nothing to tell you concerning the other stupid and silly things you said up there. That's just what you think so it is your business and not mine.

netizenbuzz:
Hate you lol? You are such a kid.

netizenbuzz:
You honestly think I have the time and energy to hate some random person I don't know on the internet?

netizenbuzz:
Sorry to disappoint you, I dont hate you.

netizenbuzz:
What you said is no truth. It's just stereotype you are trying to generalise. Being constantly online and having many good friends are not mutually exclusive

netizenbuzz:
And don't go changing your words now that I called you out. You were specifically referring to womem in your comment and not "most people". There's a clear difference.

netizenbuzz:
Finally Mr no sugarcoat, I respect your opinion, just don't get worked up whenever I call you out on your silliness.

1Sharon:
Yikes..This is gonna be me...

Im a regular contributor here on Nairaland but have had to create a new profile for the sake of being anonymous

My problem is that all my life I've struggled to make or maintain female friendships due to one reason or another. Distance, change of location, falling out/unresolved conflict, jealousy, fake friends etc.. It's something I'm ashamed of and I often feel sad that I don't have my clique of friends especially now that I'm about getting married. It saddens me that at this time of my life where I'm supposed to be joyous and be surrounded by girlfriends helping me with wedding preparations, choosing a dress etc, I have no one to call on. I've had to shop for my dress alone which was quite a depressing experience. Everytime my parents or aunties ask of my friends I come up with one story or another or just change the topic completely.

My fiancée is very much aware of my lack of friends but he's not bothered by it at all. I'm in my early/mid twenties and I feel so saddened to see other girls my age with lots of girlfriends. I have a big family however most of my cousins are male.

How do I go about doing my wedding with no bridesmaids whatsoever! It'll be such a mortifying experience for my wedding guests and family members to notice I have no friends.
What do I do about this?
I'd appreciate matured responses pls.