misssclassy:
First of all you should bear in mind that we live in a contemporary African society. And as such we have cultures and traditions that we live by.
As much as I would opine that a woman shouldn't be the one doing all the house chores and all that , you can't deny the fact that there are some certain things that is expected to be performed by an African wife.

You don't expect the man to be the one cooking dinner when the wife is around or the husband should be the one washing his own clothes when he has a wife.
These things are primary roles a wife is supposed to tend to.

However, this doesn't mean the husband should try to lend a hand in the chores around the house. But there are primary obligations a wife should fulfill. It's has and has always been our culture and it shouldn't change.

The importation of western material especially through media is one of the major reasons why women these days are beginning to have a change of mindset, which isn't supposed to be so.
The westerners have their culture and we have ours. We shouldn't throw away ours just because we feel their's is cool.

misssclassy:
First of all you should bear in mind that we live in a contemporary African society. And as such we have cultures and traditions that we live by.
As much as I would opine that a woman shouldn't be the one doing all the house chores and all that , you can't deny the fact that there are some certain things that is expected to be performed by an African wife.

You don't expect the man to be the one cooking dinner when the wife is around or the husband should be the one washing his own clothes when he has a wife.
These things are primary roles a wife is supposed to tend to.

However, this doesn't mean the husband should try to lend a hand in the chores around the house.
And some men could be so lazy and inconsiderate most times and just sit and watch as their wife does everything.

But like I stated earlier, there are primary obligations a wife should fulfill. It's has and has always been our culture and it shouldn't change.

The importation of western material especially through media is one of the major reasons why women these days are beginning to have a change of mindset, which isn't supposed to be so.
The westerners have their culture and we have ours. We shouldn't throw away ours just because we feel their's is cool.

misssclassy:
First of all you should bear in mind that we live in a contemporary African society. And as such we have cultures and traditions that we live by.
As much as I would opine that a woman shouldn't be the one doing all the house chores and all that , you can't deny the fact that there are some certain things that is expected to be performed by an African wife.

You don't expect the man to be the one cooking dinner when the wife is around or the husband should be the one washing his own clothes when he has a wife.
These things are primary roles a wife is supposed to tend to.

However, this doesn't mean the husband should try to lend a hand in the chores around the house.
And some men could be so lazy and inconsiderate most times and just sit and watch as their wife does everything.

But like I stated earlier, there are primary obligations a wife should fulfill. It's has and has always been our culture and it shouldn't change.

The importation of western material especially through media is one of the major reasons why women these days are beginning to have a change of mindset, which isn't supposed to be so.
The westerners have their culture and we have ours. We shouldn't throw away ours just because we feel their's is cool.

ronald4lif:
This stem from the deep rooted culture that has been in place for ages that a man is meant to be a bread winner while the woman stay at the confines of the home performing house chores. But all that seem to be changing as women are ambitious and career driven.

Although most women still prefer to observe household chores as their traditional role, it's tasking combining house chores after a vigorous day at work. A man should assist in ensuring the chores and household is conducive. A man can cook, clean and wash their plates too. It doesn't make him any less of a man.

I've realised some women actually don't mind if their men don't share in household work, they are comfortable performing them but needs some form of appreciation from their man for keeping the home tidy. Let's admit it, we all need to feel appreciated after a job well done. But some men are too bossy to do this and think it's a woman's job after all. Appreciation and encouragement goes a long way to making a woman moan less about chores.

Your friend is fortunate, he's got a good wife. Most women wouldn't condone domestic abuse and would have ring the police. He'd have been in a hot soup.

slimmy05:
Exactly, this is US and not Nigeria. Thanks for the Insight

misssclassy:
First of all you should bear in mind that we live in a contemporary African society. And as such we have cultures and traditions that we live by.
As much as I would opine that a woman shouldn't be the one doing all the house chores and all that , you can't deny the fact that there are some certain things that is expected to be performed by an African wife.

You don't expect the man to be the one cooking dinner when the wife is around or the husband should be the one washing his own clothes when he has a wife.
These things are primary roles a wife is supposed to tend to.

However, this doesn't mean the husband should try to lend a hand in the chores around the house.
And some men could be so lazy and inconsiderate most times and just sit and watch as their wife does everything.

But like I stated earlier, there are primary obligations a wife should fulfill. It's has and has always been our culture and it shouldn't change.

The importation of western material especially through media is one of the major reasons why women these days are beginning to have a change of mindset, which isn't supposed to be so.
The westerners have their culture and we have ours. We shouldn't throw away ours just because we feel their's is cool.

In addition to all this, there some chores that are specific for a certain gender and it would seem awkward if the opposite gender performs.
For example, it would be awkward for a woman to wake up in the morning and start washing the cars, something like this is restricted to a male.

misssclassy:

But like I stated earlier, there are primary obligations a wife should fulfill. It's has and has always been our culture and it shouldn't change.

The importation of western material especially through media is one of the major reasons why women these days are beginning to have a change of mindset, which isn't supposed to be so.
The westerners have their culture and we have ours. We shouldn't throw away ours just because we feel their's is cool.

In addition to all this, there some chores that are specific for a certain gender and it would seem awkward if the opposite gender performs.
For example, it would be awkward for a woman to wake up in the morning and start washing the cars, something like this is restricted to a male.

misssclassy:
First of all you should bear in mind that we live in a contemporary African society. And as such we have cultures and traditions that we live by.
As much as I would opine that a woman shouldn't be the one doing all the house chores and all that , you can't deny the fact that there are some certain things that is expected to be performed by an African wife.

You don't expect the man to be the one cooking dinner when the wife is around or the husband should be the one washing his own clothes when he has a wife.
These things are primary roles a wife is supposed to tend to.

However, this doesn't mean the husband should try to lend a hand in the chores around the house.
And some men could be so lazy and inconsiderate most times and just sit and watch as their wife does everything.

But like I stated earlier, there are primary obligations a wife should fulfill. It's has and has always been our culture and it shouldn't change.

The importation of western material especially through media is one of the major reasons why women these days are beginning to have a change of mindset, which isn't supposed to be so.
The westerners have their culture and we have ours. We shouldn't throw away ours just because we feel their's is cool.

MarvellousGod:
Aahhhhh?? Thought you said you were a feminist? ? ... No be you dey yarn for the other thread few days ago about equality et al? .. Now I believe some of these feminists on nl are jokers and don't do what they preach..

Sorry, but this is what I feel...

FrancisTony:

I think she has a personality disorder.

Preach one on a thread, Preach differently on another.....

MarvellousGod:
Aahhhhh?? Thought you said you were a feminist? ? ... No be you dey yarn for the other thread few days ago about equality et al? .. Now I believe some of these feminists on nl are jokers and don't do what they preach..

Sorry, but this is what I feel...

slimmy05:
Different perspectives and opinion on this matter has been raised, but I still ask, is there any correlation between gender and chores? I mean like specific chores were meant for specific gender?

I received a call 2 hours ago and it was a friends' wife that called. She complained how she has been beaten severally for not cooking as early as possible for the husband. I rushed to the house as it was just 3 blocks away from mine, knocked and the husband who is a very close friend from Nigeria refused to let me in. I had to threaten him that if he doesn't allow me in I'll call 911, he finally opened the door. The scene was nothing to write home about. I called him out and asked what actually went wrong, he complained that the wife is lazy and slow, in his words "she no fit wash plate quick quick, she no fit cook fast fast make man chop, abi she dey expect me make I wash plate or cook?". I was silent for 2 minutes as I gazed at him with annoyance and asked him, if you wash the plate or assist with the cooking will your manhood stop functioning? We talked and settled it amicably. I've never been pissed at a mans useless egoistical attitude like I did today.

I remember vividly last year, I was in a bus going home after work angry at my unpaid salary. The guy at the backseat was screaming at his phone (I later found out he wasn't shouting, its just the way he talks, you know those mungo park that would receive call screaming like those pot belly thick Igbo men harassing their debtors on phone or like baba bisi calling his wife to make sure there is "gbegiri" soup). As much as I didn't care about his conversation, his loud voice didn't help. He was criticizing his girlfriend/ wife for not cooking. I wasn't going involve myself in another couples issue, but the fact that the guy kept repeating the statement "it is your job" as a woman to cook got me perplexed, are there domestic job meant for specific genders? Like she cooks and I mop the room? She washes the dishes and I watch TV?

Are domestic chores gender sensitive? I am not championing feminism, but we can make it happen #choreequality

MarvellousGod:
As in eehhh

Washing husband's clothes primary responsibility ko, wonder who shared the chores. ..
If she works 8-6pm, then has some children.. she no go talk primary responsibility. .

mecussey:
In Africa, it is the job of the woman to cook unless sick or helpless. if you try assist her all the time, you have automatically become a kitchen assistant and any day you refused to assist, na wahala be that. Op abeg, no bring western package here, make we dey manage watin Telemundo and ETV don cause already.

freecocoa:
And someone was talking crap about me wanting to be superior or whatever, when I say that not all who claim 'feminist' actually know what they are on about, una don see am na.

Jamean:


Lmao...primary, secondary and university responsibilities.

In this time and age