₦airaland Forum

We guys feel the same, just as the ladies are scared to love again... Some along the line joins the league of game player since that's what its all about...ok...then let's not
forget an adage that says, "when you close your eyes for the bad people to pass, you may not know when the good person will pass..." This is how aunty bimbo turned
single @40... What about them?

Let's not think we also are perfect than these
people we broke up from, the problem of love in these country naija is "fantasy"...
We Imaginary fantasize on life that only exist in the movie... Why not work on your understanding, why not
give yourself a break? Study the relationship and people,it will give you the wisdom &
open eyes to know what you need and how to go about it,
some of you claiming I don't need heartbreak anymore, am afraid of these, am tired of that are even the architect of the problem that
has been happening in your previous relationships, awful
behavior, hot temper,
domestic violence insulting, nagging, not being romantic enough to keep your spouse
& so on...but like they say, "A wicked man knows he's wicked but waiting for someone to tell them"... fact, you can't get that 75%
perfection but work on your behavioral actions,
endurance and tolerance... In as much as am scared and aint
into a relationship but that doesn't mean my eyes are closed, instead I exercise some studies about life and relationship while am on
break... The problem is, we want it in a rush, because of you & that person is really good at chat and conversation does not make them perfect that your relationship with them will be fabulous, we pretend a lot that's the problem, some of us will hide his/her awful
behavior behind the
friendship when they finally gets you, they start misbehaving instead of working on it; since you can pretend to that level of
knowing what's really good, why not maintain it? Is there any joy in being violence? So you see, we don't need to
rush them because your conversation with them is perfect and entertaining, give it more time, 3-6months
is worth waiting, you don't need to be scared they might find someone else within that period of observation, God will make a way, whatever is yours will be... Naija people needs enough time to observe them, but don't expect too much and don't close your eyes too much...



Thank you...

Op pls send me ur account number!

Cutehector:
Op pls send me ur account number!

lol. May my Jesus forgive you .

shegsky:
lol. May my Jesus forgive you .

cuz of say wetin hapen

You are very correct.

Most people have unstable personality which often rubs off wrongly on their partner ending their relationships abruptly. Most times, these undesirable character traits are shaped under poor environmental conditions. Nigerians live and operate under extreme stress conditions stemming from hardship, poverty, deplorable living conditions. The natural reaction of man to these deplorable environmental stimuli is violence.

You see people shouting at each other, over reacting over little matters. It is obvious most ladies will like to date gentle men who would not shout at them or molest them. Now, what is the environment that will shape these gentle man that these ladies want to date or marry ? Harsh business climate, one room apartment, dubious business partners, multiple tax collectors, poor transportation infrastructure, bad roads for those who own cars. You see the young man making calls and shouting on top of his voice over annoyance, business gone bad, bad temper or noisy environment. Now the lady walks up to him to say something and in this chaotic situation, he gives her a harsh response consequent upon the stimuli in his immediate environment.

On the side of ladies, some of them start engaging in runz, those ones with the fear of God become beggarly, though they won't sell their bodies, they learn different tricks to extort money from unsuspecting men who they feel no iota of love for. They need to make their hair, feed, dress neatly and remain in school. One cannot dissociate the current hardship in Nigeria from the incessant collapses in relationships.

That is why most ladies will still choose to marry a banker, medical doctor or oil worker. Men who work in corporate environment are better mannered than their partners in business, eg. Civil engineers, architects, lawyers and contractors. Why ? ENVIRONMENT !

How many men will like to marry a girl who grew up in the market square even if she is a virgin ? You won't be able to stand her verbal arsenal when she wants to attack you. Having been with people from all walks of life, operated in corporate environment as well as private sector, one can say what to expect.

It still boils down to personal decision, discipline and working on ones self to be the best of what one can ever be. I will still chose a gentle lady who acts like a lady over an achiever who acts like a man.

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There's no such thing as love in this world and even if such a thing exists it most certainly doesn't exist in africa.

A very BIG fantasy!
Black man can NEVER understand such concepts as "love" in the face of overwhelming poverty o!

Belle must full f"O"st o!
Any NIGGA wey tell you say im love you wan PHOCK you.

Period!

I lovvvvvit!!!

Me sef wan PHOCK too! Haba!!!!

Only a"fantasy"? Abeg h-add COKE-ansy join o!