I stumbled on this piece written by Muyiwa Afolabi, a career coach. This is one issue that has being; and would continue to trend unabated if the society, government institutions and even private institutions decides to overlook. It has no gender, however, it is on the record that women are more at the receiving end. Here we go!

TOP 10 THINGS TO DO IF YOU ARE A VICTIM OF WORK PLACE SEXUAL HARASSMENT




1.Don’t Ignore The Harassment.

If you believe that you are the victim of sexual harassment in the workplace, don’t ignore the problem. Studies show that individuals who sexually harass other people at work do not stop simply because their victim does nothing. Ignoring such behavior may actually make the harasser escalate his or her behavior. Talking about sexual harassment can be uncomfortable, but you can empower yourself by talking with other employees who may also be experiencing harassment by speaking up.

2. Make It Clear To The Harasser That The Conduct Is Unwelcome.

An essential element of a sexual harassment claim is that the conduct must be “unwelcome.” Harassers sometimes contend that their victims welcomed and enjoyed their words and actions. Although it can feel uncomfortable or even frightening to object, you must tell the harasser unequivocally to stop the behavior. There is no special way to do this or magic words to use; but you must make it clear that the behavior is unwelcome. You may want to put your position in writing, perhaps in an email. By doing so, you will have proof that the conduct was unwelcome if the harassment doesn’t stop.

3. Not All Offensive Behavior Is Sexual Harassment Under The Law.

What constitutes unlawful sexual harassment is determined under various statutes and hundreds of court cases interpreting those statutes. These criteria evolve through statutory amendments and new court opinions. Not all offensive behavior is unlawful sexual harassment. Whether certain offensive behavior constitutes sexual harassment is considered on a case-by-case basis. It’s especially hard to know where to draw the line when you’re experiencing behavior in the workplace that you find obnoxious, disgusting, or frightening. This makes it especially important to talk to a lawyer who knows about sexual harassment law and about how to deal with such behavior.

4. Keep Careful Notes On What Happened, But Not On Employer Owned Equipment.

Keep any notes, memos, letters, gifts, or other tangible evidence from the harasser. And keep a diary or notes of any incidents or other information that may be relevant to your concerns about sexual harassment. But be careful how and where you record your evidence. Your communications using company equipment are not confidential and can be used against you. Many employers monitor their employees’ communications at work, including documents prepared on company computers, emails and text messages sent and received, websites visited, and even phone numbers called. Also, be aware that employers, just like anyone else, may access any public website that may contain your personal information (i.e., Facebook and MySpace). Even personal emails sent from your own account may be traced by your employer if you accessed your provider through the employer’s server. Thus, always assume that you are being monitored while at work or while using employer-owned equipment off premises. You may want to document your experiences in handwritten notes or in notes on a computer that you own; but don’t leave them at your place of employment.

5. Report The Conduct.

Reporting sexual harassment may feel threatening and disruptive, but your report does two important things. It gives your employer an opportunity to correct the problem, i.e. make the harassment stop; and if the conduct does not abate, you have proof that your employer knows about the problem. Once your employer is on notice of the harassment, it should investigate and, if warranted, take prompt remedial action to address the problem. But if you do not inform your employer about the harassment, it might contend that it did not know about the problem and therefore is not responsible for the conduct of the harasser; this is particularly true if the harasser is a co-worker and not a supervisor. Although it may be hard, you need to cooperate in the employer’s investigation. Fear of retaliation generally is not a sufficient reason to avoid reporting harassment.

6. Remember: Anything You Tell Human Resources Can Be Revealed To Others In The Company.

Human resources personnel may present themselves as your advocate or friend. And in fact they may act to protect you and other employees. But keep in mind that they work for and are loyal to the company. Don’t assume that anything you tell them is going to be kept confidential. They may report your complaint to their supervisors and to other managerial employees.

7. Don’t Quit Your Job.

Sexual harassment is against the law. You do not have to endure a sexually hostile work environment; your employer is legally required to make it stop. Don’t just quit to get away from the offensive environment. Quitting might enable the employer to argue that you didn’t give it time to fix the problem; quitting could adversely affect your ability to recover for lost income; and quitting might make it harder to collect unemployment benefits, because your employer could contend that you abandoned your job. If you feel that the harassment is intolerable, talk to an employment lawyer before you make any decisions. An alternative to quitting might be to take sick or disability leave while the problem is being addressed. An objective, knowledgeable lawyer can help you make the best possible plan to deal with the situation.

8. Retaliation Is Illegal - And Sometimes Easier To Prove Than The Actual Harassment.

Even if you can’t prove that unlawful sexual harassment occurred, you might have a strong retaliation claim if you make a reasonable good faith complaint of harassment to your employer and your employer then takes any “adverse action” against you because of your complaint. Adverse actions can include a demotion in job title, a cut in pay, a negative change in your performance evaluations, a transfer to a less desirable location/department or less desirable duties, further harassment or mistreatment by your co-workers, or termination of your employment.

9. Keep Doing Your Job Well.

You might have a valid sexual harassment claim, but don’t use that as an excuse to stop doing your job well! Making a complaint about sexual harassment doesn’t give you permission to stop doing your job to the best of your ability or excuse you from the same standards you had to meet before the conduct started or you complained. You or your lawyer may need to negotiate with your employer for what you want, and you should preserve all your options until the situation is resolved.

10. Get Legal Advice From Someone Who Knows About Sexual Harassment Law.

If you think you’re being sexually harassed, talk to a lawyer who’s experienced in sexual harassment cases. This is especially important if you’re considering quitting your job. Meeting with a lawyer does not mean that you are going to sue your current or former employer. An employment lawyer can advise you about what the law considers to be unlawful sexual harassment; counsel you about how to handle the situation (i.e., making a proper complaint, trying to preserve your job, gathering proof of the harassment, or dealing with the stress); and if matters escalate an attorney can advise you about your legal options.

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Good write up

If you don't have an alternative don't give advise

another end product of poverty....lot of people have been suffering from sexual harassment in silence but dare not voice it out especially the female folks....

Sounds wonderful...

But if the harassment is coming from your CEO
Then you know what to do..

Noted

I've noticed that most guys can't be sexually harassed..... How can you harass the harasser

How about u tell the ladies to stop putting on those skimpy thight fitting clothes that make the directors trousers bulge upon sighting them. In MI's voice "himself e b human being oh"

Pls who is this essay for? Oya if e concern u enjoy.

WELL SAID BY MUYIWA AFOLABI

reach out to nairaland if you are helpless. Nairalander gives hope to the voiceless/helpless

Nice write up....but if u try all diz and it didn't work, try local method, just put Maagun on ur body, I promise u d harrasser will not come again...Some ogas in d office can b so naughty

yomsad:
FTC, dedicating this to all nairalanders

This is unnecessary. Why would an educated person struggle to comment first only to post nonsense?


At topic
Sexual harassment is difficult to prove especially if the victim is a man.

Noted

Another frontpage nice piece of advice

@OP wat u wrote is wat i called expensive italian made thrash. u can only do dat if that person doesnt have the power to sack u, if u do daT to the owner of the company or the management, probably u don get another job somewhere.

Its easy, especially if the person is the boss, just take enough evidence of the harrassment, keep it for future use, then one day that the person will try to sack you, bring out all the freaking evidence put on his table and tell him you have 200 extra copies of those documents that if anything ever happens to you someone will send it to all the media houses in Nigeria plus (this is my favorite part) you are going on a 2 month vacation all expense paid by the company, and you can never be fired for no reason except you want to leave, (your attorney will be glad to do the paper work)

informative topic judging from the subject but..

I just love being harassed.

chai, dem don they spoil parole for all those bad boss

She should continue. I am not complaining