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Ladies and gentlemen please assist a sister........she has been in a 7yrs relationship with a south African guy then they have been separated for 2yrs now and during that separation she met a Yoruba guy and they are in a relationship but the Yoruba guy still chase after ladies to an extent they fight every weekend over different girls that he brings to the house(they live separately)…..He has introduced her to his mom over the phone so she feels if she is to separate it would be disappointing him and his family and when they talk about his wayward ways he denies it and upsets himself to make her feel guilty……… then the SA guy now realised that he wants her back as his wife and is ready to settle........please advise and give reason and only mature responses please….What would you advice she do

Love z a force dats nt by force.Let her pray to GOD 4 directn

If the ex loves and respects her and she still loves him too she is better off with him.

He loves her but she is not sure with her feelings for him cause a lot happened in the past but he is focused now and know what he wants he even bought her an engagement ring last month she said she wanted to think about it.......Think she loves the Naija guy and their culture

Moana:
If the ex loves and respects her and she still loves him too she is better off with him.

Uzukoor1:
He loves her but she is not sure with her feelings for him cause a lot happened in the past but he is focused now and know what he wants he even bought her an engagement ring last month she said she wanted to think about it.......Think she loves the Naija guy and their culture

so clearly she wants the Yoruba cheat of a guy for husband....no need to waste my time typing an epistle.
i will save it for 2 years time when she comes back here posting "stories that touch" about how her horseband (yelzz Horseband!!) is cheating on her and how she is always fighting girls bla bla bla....
When will ladies learn, what you see a man doing whilst dating is WHO HE IS. Dont expect him to change because he is married. If he was cheating whilst dating expect him to carry on when married (some of them might just become more discreet about it)

You cannot build a house with straw and expect it to stand. An introduction over the phone is not a proper introduction so it is not binding on her in any way.
How can she be thinking about disappointing the man and his family? The most important issue here is the stability of the union she is about to go into.
So much to the yoruba man.

I cannot really advice her on whom to choose but she has to reflect on the implication of marriage and of having a family.
Marriage is not something you rush into especially not when the materials with which you want to build your home are self destructive.
It is like building a house with a time bomb and then lamenting when the bomb explodes.
A broken home brings pain and trauma to the parties and also to innocent ones that are not to blame. It can affect the lives of the children for ever. Please let her not use sentiments alone but like a wise builder make sure that the materials she wants to build with can build a solid home that can stand the test of time,

Thank you so much this is so true and straight to the point

natasha:
so clearly she wants the Yoruba cheat of a guy for husband....no need to waste my time typing an epistle.
i will save it for 2 years time when she comes back here posting "stories that touch" about how her horseband (yelzz Horseband!!) is cheating on her and how she is always fighting girls bla bla bla....
When will ladies learn, what you see a man doing whilst dating is WHO HE IS. Dont expect him to change because he is married. If he was cheating whilst dating expect him to carry on when married (some of them might just become more discreet about it)

Wooow this is the best advice I am even crying on the truth spoken here thanks

mutter:
You cannot build a house with straw and expect it to stand. An introduction over the phone is not a proper introduction so it is not binding on her in any way.
How can she be thinking about disappointing the man and his family? The most important issue here is the stability of the union she is about to go into.
So much to the yoruba man.

I cannot really advice her on whom to choose but she has to reflect on the implication of marriage and of having a family.
Marriage is not something you rush into especially not when the materials with which you want to build your home are self destructive.
It is like building a house with a time bomb and then lamenting when the bomb explodes.
A broken home brings pain and trauma to the parties and also to innocent ones that are not to blame. It can affect the lives of the children for ever. Please let her not use sentiments alone but like a wise builder make sure that the materials she wants to build with can build a solid home that can stand the test of time,

Please don't marry that yoruba man unless you want to come here crying how your husband cheats on you with so many girls. ..
You should be more concerned about your happiness than what his family or whoever will think.... You should be happy you found out about his cheating ways before tying the knot...

Meanyl, do you have any evidence that he cheats?

I don't know about the SA guy, like whether he's truly changed or not. .so no comment. ..

Yes he cheats she has found so much evidence and its one story after the other even used condoms.....

MarvellousGod:
Please don't marry that yoruba man unless you want to come here crying how your husband cheats on you with so many girls. ..
You should be more concerned about your happiness than what his family or whoever will think.... You should be happy you found out about his cheating ways before tying the knot...

Meanyl, do you have any evidence that he cheats?

I don't know about the SA guy, like whether he's truly changed or not. .so no comment. ..