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In a society where there are both wealthy and
not-so-wealthy people, it is not strange to find
ladies attaching themselves to wealthy men for
financial gain. They stick to these men to be
financially stable and also to assist their families.
Most times, these well-to-do men gain
permission from the lady's parents to fund her
education and in return the man expects her to
marry him. An agreement could also be signed to
ensure that promises are kept.
Sometimes, a man could just fall in love with a
girl who isn't well educated and decide voluntarily
to fund her education. He may not have any high
expectations concerning this investment. The
funding begins and a few years later...
The girl graduates from the University and when
the guy proposes to her, she refuses and breaks
up with him instantly. Why did she do this? Is this
actually fair or not? Let's look at some possible
scenarios before we conclude:
1. Maybe she met someone else and fell in love
with him during the course of her education.
2. Maybe she feels she is too good for the man
who funded her education.
3. Maybe she has gotten a better offer elsewhere.
4. It could be that she doesn't love the man and
therefore doesn't intend to marry him as payback
for his assistance.
5. Finally, it is possible she is not ready to get
married yet.
All these are possible reasons a Lady could
present for refusing to marry a man who
sponsored her education. Whether she is right or
wrong, I cannot say. It is not in my place to judge
the actions of others. I think we would all behave
differently when faced with certain challenges.
If a single Lady has the choice of rejecting a
marriage proposal from her sponsor, how about
the married ones who still leave their sponsors
several years after marriage?
http://www.momentswithjenny..co.ke/2016/04/is-it-right-to-fund-your-partners.html?m=1

@op speak for yourself pls.

Don't portray women as self-centred leeches in parasitic relationships.

Some of us work hard and single handedly funded our education.

Cc: Mindfulness.

EfemenaXY:
@op speak for yourself pls.

Don't portray women as self-centred leeches in parasitic relationships.

Some of us work hard and single handedly funded our education.

Cc: Mindfulness.

Let me read the original post.

[size=3pt]Who do you think liked your post before you edited it? [/size]

If you want to help your girlfriend with her education, do it because you love / like / appreciate her and not because you expect her to pay you back and not because you think that it is normal to buy a wife and do it only IF you can afford it.

I was taught to do good without expecting anything in return and I taught myself to do it without having to sacrifice my own well-being so that I won't end up bitter and acting like anyone owns me anything or - worse - like I own anyone like a slave.

Mindfulness:
Let me read the original post.

[size=3pt]Who do you think liked your post before you edited it? [/size]

[size=1pt]I dunno ma. Put moi outta ma misery 'n tell me pls...[/size]

EfemenaXY:
@op speak for yourself pls.

Don't portray women as self-centred leeches in parasitic relationships.

Some of us work hard and single handedly funded our education.

Cc: Mindfulness.

Efe, please get off op's back. She has just stated what is true in the huge majority of cases.

The question is, should people train their potential partners in college with the hope of marrying them?

By the way, the op added that women also fall victim of this crap from guys

EfemenaXY:
[size=1pt]I dunno ma. Put moi outta ma misery 'n tell me pls...[/size]

[size=3pt]Someone who appreciates your contributions here more than anyone else. [/size]

JonTal:
Efe, please get off op's back. She has just stated what is true in the huge majority of cases.

The question is, should people train their potential partners in college with the hope of marrying them?

By the way, the op added that women also fall victim of this crap from guys

Victim? So you think someone who thinks that he can sponsor another and by doing so owns them is a victim?

Mindfulness:
Victim? So you think someone who thinks that he can sponsor another and by doing so owns them is a victim?

What do you think is the reason that a well to do girl sponsored her poor boyfriend in the university and ended up killing him afterwards upon being dumped by the guy?

JonTal:
Efe, please get off op's back. She has just stated what is true in the huge majority of cases.

The question is, should people train their potential partners in college with the hope of marrying them?

By the way, the op added that women also fall victim of this crap from guys

Don't tell me what to post and what not to.

Her post is offensive to say the least and downright degrading to hardworking women out there.

What statistics have you got to back up your claim of "majority"?

JonTal:
What do you think is the reason that a well to do girl sponsored her poor boyfriend in the university and ended up killing him afterwards upon being dumped by the guy?

Is this question an answer to my question?

Mindfulness:
[size=3pt]Someone who appreciates your contributions here more than anyone else. [/size]

[size=1pt]Mindfulness, mein schatz..[/size]

There's no right or wrong in funding anyone's education.
If you decide to do so, have it at the back of your mind that you may not get repaid the way you expected.
When it comes to matters of the heart, there should be no *tulasi* (by force) inside.

Because you didn't sponsor a woman thru school does not mean she won't marry you and because you sponsor her does not mean she will marry you.
A lot of marriages are being conducted in Naija without the man contributing a dime to the ladies education.

If you decide to, know its a risk. You win some, and lose some. The world will not end.

yes.