₦airaland Forum

No matter how the society expects us to behave, we are humans first. No matter the status we are bestowed, it cannot take from us that we have blood running through our veins and flesh fattening our bones, we are humans first. We are humans, prone to mistakes, bound to fail, quest to be stronger. We are only humans. As the social media is agog with the outbursts of the husband of the most vocal female artiste in Nigeria, Tunji ‘Teebillz’ Balogun and the reactive missile fired by his wife, Tiwa Savage, many people have taken an arm chair analyst’s position to pass the blame to either of them, even those who are afraid to tread where this couple have plunged into. It is sad and it is a shame. Marriage is the first institution instituted by God; it is very sacred but time without numbers it has proven to be the Achilles heels for many men across history. Why do we fall in love? Don’t judge this couple harshly, they are humans after all.
When I woke up reading Teebillz outcry on social media last Thursday, I knew it was a moment of fury, the last card to make or mar the relationship. It is unfortunate that the latter is more prominent from the views of those who have comment on the issue that has caused untoward pains and deep wounds in the hearts of these people who once professed love for each other. Love happens; it can glow and can go. I still do not believe the one between Tiwa and Teebillz is gone, it is only fading and can either be restored gradually or extinguished painfully. Many people have questioned the rationality behind Teebillz’s outburst but I would rather defend him, though not supporting all his actions. This man was doing fine before meeting Tiwa, the record can attest that he was averagely known in the entertainment circle, at least. Tiwa rode on his pedigree to fame. It happens, we do things for love and sometimes we do not like what we get out of it. I see Teebillz as someone who has bottled a lot in order to protect his marriage and his woman’s fame. We live in a society where a man is expected to be the alpha and omega of his home and you know what, money makes the world go round, especially in entertainment circle where you have to oppress your inner man to impress the public. Psychologically, if you bottle up so many grudges, pains set in and it takes little time to explode. The explosion is the gory aspect the victim live to regret, yet it could not be helped some times.
It shall be foolhardy of us to exclude Tiwa from all of this drama, she is not completely clean and she should have been better at home than in her music. She chose her musical career over fighting for her son, Jamil. True mothers fight on, no matter what. When they both signed the dotted line at the registry, they were told they have become one and not two. Life is funny, that our song bird seems like the breadwinner of the house after she has achieved stardom does not make her the husband of the house. The Germany Chancellor is a woman and I believe she has a man who is not one tenth popular as she is, yet she has not been involved in marital scandal. That is not to say she does not have her own baggage but she manages it better. Beauty can earn you a dreamed marriage but only character earn you an enduring matrimonial home. Unfortunately, this is what we have nowadays. From Tiwa’s planned interview, she noted Don Jazzy and other artistes at Mavin Records do commend her for concealing what she is passing through in her marriage, then I dare say the interview was organized by Don Jazzy to fester his interest in Tiwa Savage but trust women for their vulnerability, she fell for it, bare it all and exposed her husband, herself and her son to ridicule. While Teebillz can continue to claim that his Instagram account was hacked, though we would not take him serious, Tiwa Savage cannot refute all she has said because it is now on record. That interview will continue to haunt her. I only pity the innocent little boy who has not understood the gravity of his parents’ stupidity for now. Another thing I would not subscribe to in Tiwa’s interview is that of their baby’s food. Haba! How much does the little boy consume that you cannot cater to save your little boy from this disgrace? If you can offset his father’s bills at the clubs, paying his father’s N45m debt, what is the child’s food in your blessings? I do not buy into it. Tiwa Savage, if you can involve this little boy, then you are only trying to destroy your husband completely, your interview is ill-thought.
As for Teebillz, he will be remembered as a man who failed to come to the reality that he is destined to be the backbone of his wife. Instead, he chose to be at the forefront. I was never into Teebillz at first, I would rather prefer a man to watch his wife’s stardom managed by another professional. He gave himself out to ridicule and he should accept the blame instead of trying to commit suicide. You are a coward, man. A real man fights back after retreating. We do not win always, Teebillz should have retreated and fired back to prove them wrong but he is no brainer. He is softer than his woman. Well, I don’t blame him. Money can make a man safe from anything in this world but not from the woman he loves. I am not perfect in the chess game of love too. Samson with all his muscles fell for Delilah’s lap, Solomon with all his wisdom fell for Queen Sheba, and history is full of how men lost the grip because they loved their woman beyond limit. This is an emotional war, I wish both Tiwa and Teebillz quick recovery. While these two adults can either learn to clean the mess they have created for themselves, somebody should help me watch after Jamil. He is my hero in all of this, he has been silence where his parents have tried to outsmart one another to curry public sympathy. I love you, Jamil.

Singing ‘Olorun mi’ by Tiwa Savage, dedicated to Jamil.

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