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Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by postmann: 1:16pm On May 20, 2016 |
Ishilove: Hey darling, I wish I could trade truth for acceptability. I simply don't know how to be economical with vital facts. Until I see a woman who hasn't been taken by empty sweet words, until I see a woman who has reigned over her hormones and emotions and is lead by pure logic, then I'm afraid, I can't withdraw my statement. Women have vulnerable minds. Does that make me a sexist? Then by all means call me one. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by raumdeuter: 1:18pm On May 20, 2016 |
Ishilove Don't women themselves claim they are emotional creatures and swayed by what they hear? |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by postmann: 1:25pm On May 20, 2016 |
cococandy: You were the first to call me sexist. So I'm not surprised. My words, as unsavoury as they may come, hold more truth than most female mind could carry comfortably. I won't compromise. Now sing me that stale song once again, only this time make it louder: #PostmannIsSexist 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by joseph1832(m): 1:28pm On May 20, 2016 |
lezz:You meant places? I'm sure most ladies wouldn't mind the feel of an Ice Cube on their _nipples |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Nobody: 1:28pm On May 20, 2016 |
bukatyne:against it. |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by lezz(m): 1:38pm On May 20, 2016 |
joseph1832: lolz, I meant "ice" for her cold and aloof deportment. "Thawed" for the sudden, animated and heated surge and outflow of her emotions which has always been "cold". Who could ever believe such a carefree statement will become the causative agent to unlock her passionate side? Bwahahaha Your active mind sha. |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by postmann: 1:40pm On May 20, 2016 |
Ishilove: |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by postmann: 1:40pm On May 20, 2016 |
lezz: Hey bro, back off!!! 1 Like |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by joseph1832(m): 1:50pm On May 20, 2016 |
lezz:LOL. My active mind likes being active. |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by lezz(m): 1:53pm On May 20, 2016 |
postmann:What are you talking about? Drawing up inference randomly? Hehehehe he. Love, love love. Oya I don go. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Ishilove: 2:47pm On May 20, 2016 |
cococandy:You are very correct. I will call a spade. By what it is 1 Like |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Ishilove: 2:48pm On May 20, 2016 |
lezz:Oyibo girama. I never knew there are so many sexists on Nairaland 1 Like |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Ishilove: 2:50pm On May 20, 2016 |
joseph1832:I am female so I am included in his sweeping statement. He said THE female mind is vulnerable, not 'some' female minds. |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Ishilove: 2:54pm On May 20, 2016 |
lezz:You and joseph1832 are such lechers |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Ishilove: 2:56pm On May 20, 2016 |
joseph1832:.
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Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Ishilove: 2:58pm On May 20, 2016 |
postmann:So women giving vent to their emotions makes them vulnerable? I do hope you realise that the term 'vulnerable' is highly subjective? You really are a sexist, like the typical African man with a gargantuan ego 1 Like |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by cococandy(f): 2:59pm On May 20, 2016 |
But that's what you are. postmann: 1 Like |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Nobody: 3:00pm On May 20, 2016 |
bukatyne: There's nothing he can possibly proffer in rebuttal. When parallels are drawn, the circumstances prevalent in the two things in comparison - in this case in the two different eras - have to be brought to the front and centre, and have to, in spades, bear similitude before it can be bucketed as a reasonable line of argument. I thought this was entitled: 'What is the African marriage about and what is its values?'. Discussions as usual have gone off at a tangent with little to nothing to take home. |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Ishilove: 3:01pm On May 20, 2016 |
raumdeuter:True, but how does that make us vulnerable? Mind you, some, not all women are swayed by what they hear. |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by cococandy(f): 3:03pm On May 20, 2016 |
I don't even know what to tell you. My point is that I and some discerning people are not blind to the fact that people like you only wake up to start claiming gender neutrality when someone says something bad (even if true) about Nigerian guys' behavior. But somehow you manage to be silent when (as is the custom on this sexist forum) Nigerian women are being demonized. I'm not fooled. No one is. raumdeuter: 1 Like |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Nobody: 3:03pm On May 20, 2016 |
Ishilove: Emotions makes everyone vulnerable , no human is a robot, we are all emotional and vulnerable, it depends on what certain factor triggers our emotions. and that's the truth. anyone not emotional is a monster, anyone not vulnerable is not human. |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by cococandy(f): 3:15pm On May 20, 2016 |
darkenedrebel: That's because no one has anything to offer except the usual women be submissive unto death. "Accept cheating because your mothers did." Stop 'making' him beat you. Bla bla bla According to NL standards, That's what African marriage is all about. The man, his whims and nothing else. It's that simple. If they knew something else to say, someone would have said it. I'll love to wake up one day and see a change in popular opinion to tune of "African marriage is all about mutual respect (not only husband respect), understanding, Love and mutual sacrifice (not one-sided sacrifice). I'll love to see the day when and if something bad happens, people will condemn it for what it is and not say "this is Africa not the west" thereby implying that it is okay for us to accept rubbish in the name of culture. 5 Likes |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by raumdeuter: 3:15pm On May 20, 2016 |
cococandy: What is gender neutrality or what does it mean? If what you say is true then I would expect you to avoid them and marry one of the other 2billion men in the world. Anyone that demonizes Nigerian women should marry foreign women, you cant be saying Nigerian women are evil and while you are in a foreign country still seek the few Nigerian women as partners, Thats hypocritical Same for the womenfolks. There are many guys here who would say Nigerian women are evil and end it with "Thats why I only date whites/Asians/Ghanaians" etc. Those ones would be logical But to say Nigerian women are evil and be switching from one Naija woman to another especially when you are in an environment where other races exist Majority of ladies complaining about Naija men are currently married to those Naija men and all at least here claim to have good if not perfect relationships. Its either you are enjoying your Naija men and are trying to scare others away from the same thing you are enjoying, Or You are suffering with your Naija man and pretending to be enjoying it 4 Likes |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by cococandy(f): 3:19pm On May 20, 2016 |
I'll call on you to type that when the demonizing begins. raumdeuter: 2 Likes |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by raumdeuter: 3:20pm On May 20, 2016 |
cococandy: You are in US, Would you leave that Naija man and go for the non Naija man who are in the majority? 2 Likes |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by cococandy(f): 3:24pm On May 20, 2016 |
raumdeuter:If you bring up a post of mine where I stated that all Nigerian or even most Nigerian men are bad, I'll answer your question. I can't defend what I didn't say because of how you chose to understand it. 2 Likes |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Nobody: 3:46pm On May 20, 2016 |
cococandy: That's because the large majority of them reason in a circle. I can count the number of sensible posters here with my fingers and still have a couple of phalanges to spare. The rest just attempt to belie their lack of intellect with Faustian language which is in most cases, not usually germane to the topic being pared. And other times their waffle is just cobblers at peak. cococandy: Nairaland is populated by Nigerians, so if it's NL standard then it's Nigerian standard. I wouldn't entirely premise on the crass & misogynistic displays on NL as most online personas are rarely mirror images of their realities(I stand to be corrected). I still strongly believe that relationships should be a two-way street. You can't eat your cake and have it. cococandy: Same here. We still have a long way to go then. If the so-called educated ones still cling tightly to trite apothegms that have no bearing in these latter-days, then how much more the unlettered and everyday Joe Bloggs and Jane Doe - Corruptio optimi pessima. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Ishilove: 4:23pm On May 20, 2016 |
pcguru1:True, but postmann makes it seem like men don't have emotions, hence men are not vulnerable |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Nobody: 4:36pm On May 20, 2016 |
Ishilove: no one is without emotions. only sick people are void of emotions, unless he means men don't act on emotions |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by MrPresident1: 4:37pm On May 20, 2016 |
Ishilove: You are looking for 'oko Gbewudani' abi Ok, kwantinue |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by postmann: 4:56pm On May 20, 2016 |
cococandy: I don't mind being called a sexist by most 21st century women who have an insatiable crave for ungodly freedom. 1 Like |
Re: What Is African Marriage About And What Is It Values? by Titilayooni(f): 5:37pm On May 20, 2016 |
darkenedrebel:Thank you,just what was on my mind. |
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