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Hello Op,
Good writing skills you've got up there. I still don't get it because from your write-up you are neither supporting the act nor against it. If you had been offered 5 million naira, which will settle your flight ticket. you will spread the legs and the doctor will insert the 8 inches stuff enduring the pain and already thinking how things will change when you receive the money.

But for crying out load stuffs of that nature is volunteered by already settled house wives with kids already, who is actually not expecting any child birth anymore. It's a lesson here not to take decisions that will destroy your sweat looking future.

If you had done it now and later in the future u couldn't have kids, you start running from one doctor to another seeking for help, running from one church to another praying with 21days of fasting. The innocent guy with you then will start to crack his brain on where he got it wrong (God help the us!!).

Finally, don't be too desperate to shoot yourself in the leg to get money, we have a bad economy right now but still there will always be a way out to survive.

Shalom!

Op message me.

deathcomestoall:
Now, while what I am about to say might be shameful for many because it is shrouded in secrecy, I am not ashamed because, you can never know the extent to what you will do when pushed or pulled to the brink. 99% of the reason why many young Nigerian women donate their egg is for the meagre(yes I said meagre) monetary compensation attached to it. And most of these fertility clinics know that if they do not attach any form of benefit, almost no one would willingly donate.

In the U.S., egg donation can cost as much as 5000 to 10000 dollars. So if you are going to donate, at least you know it's worth the pay. Unlike nigeria who don't pay the donors, they only COMPENSATE and this ranges from 120000 to 150000.

The egg donation process itself starts with an interview by an organization or clinic sourcing for donors for the clinic and then a series of blood tests for genotype, blood group and STDs are carried out after which if you are cleared of any of these, you proceed to the next stage which is to check for lumps in your breast, throat, pain in your lower abdominal region and then a vaginal scan. If you pass all these tests, then you will be given 21 injections which you will inject by yourself for 21 days and during these days, you will visit the clinic for series of vaginal scanning to check if you are producing enough eggs. After the 21 days, you will be given another 6 injections for 6 days after which you are due for the egg collection.
Now I cannot go into details of how the whole process is done because I do not want to make my post too lengthy as the essence of my post is to merely educate and share my story.

Born a synthetic orphan( I have parents who I don’t live with and don't care for me), freshly graduated from the University with a reasonable amount saved during my university days, I had wanted to go into food business but I was unfortunately robbed by my own blood. I have always held the notion that to make money, you must spend money. So with the little money I had left, I started looking for options on what to do, every single one failed. I had applied for more than 619 jobs and still counting, no success. After exhausting all my ideas, I was googling ways to make money and then came a list of six of which one took my interest which was egg donation. I called a couple of fertility clinics and booked an appointment with two. I went to only one of them which is located somewhere in Lagos.

Before making this decision, I thought to myself, why am I doing this, my answer was the money. I had just gotten an American visa and am trying to raise the money for a ticket as everyone reading this knows the situation of the country.

On getting to the clinic, I met a young lady who asked my age, race, education, job and some other things. She explained the process to me and asked if I lived with my parents, I answered yes. And then she proceeded to bullying me that what if my parents saw me injecting myself daily that they would seize the injections. I was displeased with her statement because I had earlier told her I went to a private university. She probably thought I was a spoilt kid who needed quick money. I immediately shut her up and told her I pay the rent and then proceeded to bullying her(I am a very opinionated person). As we were talking, I noticed some other females come into the office. One of them had come for a vaginal scan and wasn’t producing any eggs so the process had to be stopped for her and hence no compensation of any sort not even her transport fare. Just a thank you. Then I started asking questions( my transport there cost nothing less than a thousand a day). I asked her what information of mine would be given to the receiver, she said it would be an anonymous donation. I asked if any complication arises, who will be responsible for my treatment, she said the clinic. I then asked about the procedure itself. I asked what kind of sedative would be used for the egg retrieval process, then she became defensive and said I was a reporter and she won't be continuing the process. I stood up to leave, then she called me back and said she would take a risk with me. I then told her I wasn't a reporter just because I am confident and would ask questions. I proceeded to the clinic lab and did a blood test for my genotype and blood group. Before I left for the lab, she started whining me that 120000 is a lot of money, you can start a business with it. I just looked at her and nodded. I never even asked her how much it was.

Few days later, I was called for a second blood test for STDs, I went for it and also was cleared. Then I was called for a vaginal scan. Before getting there, I thought why am I really doing this. I have had more than 120000, is it really worth risking my own fertility. I would have to sell my eggs for up to 5 times to raise money for my flight. With the current economic situation, this money is almost nothing for the emotional trauma. Another reason why I wanted to do this wasn't for the money alone. I have remained a virgin for a long time and had gotten tired. Being a virgin has impeded me in many ways. I am constantly judged because of it. Every guy I date sees it as a prize. And even if I wanted to lose my virginity and become a prostitute, I didn't want to lose it to the first man that pays me and I don't have a boyfriend who will do it. Aged 18, I tried to lose my virginity but the shock and pain was too much for me to handle. He hadn't even entered, I had already began screaming. I must admit I bled due to the stress placed on the outer walls of my v****a but he never entered.
That was my first and last experience at experimenting with sex. I was happy tho I could claim I was a virgin and not a virgin, no one would know. Another reason is I am an introvert, I don't have any friends neither do I go out to where I can meet people besides I don’t even have the money and I know I am not getting married anytime soon and this is the most fertile years of my life(I am 22) and genuinely if I could help someone become a mother, I would.

On the day of the vaginal scanning, I went to the clinic, was asked a lot of questions after which I waited for a very long time before proceeding to the scanning room. The nurse then told me to get undressed and asked if I was a virgin. I couldn't lie, I said yes and she said they don't take virgins then I said I was a secondary virgin, I tried it years ago even though I knew I was lieing. Then I told her it wasn't an issue, she should call the doctor. The doctor came in brought out a long instrument about 8 inches put a condom on it with lube. I mean this was me here never had sex before, I freaked out. When she tried to put it in, I screamed. I said I couldn't do it. The pain was excruciating. She then put more lube, I still couldn't. It wouldn't enter. The doctor even had to ask if I was raped because of my shock. I thought I lost my hymen years back. In the moment of the pain, I thought all these for a meagre 120000 minus the stress of giving myself 27 needle scars and the emotional trauma I would suffer from it. The doctor then said we could try again. I said no. I could barely walk, I apologized for wasting their time. And dressed up and left. The lady who interviewed me lamented on what would be done about the money they spent on tests for me. Oh please, it's an organization, I'm sure they suffer loses. They should deal with it. I wasn't the first and I wouldn’t be the last.

While in pain in a public transit on my way home, I thought of all the losses I have experienced both financially and emotionally. I mean I started questioning my self if it was really worth it. Yes I want to travel out of the country and give my most fertile years to whoever I can but asides this I had no other genuine reason. The most important tho was the money. I lost my dog because I couldn't pay his veterinary bills. This would have been a better reason for me to have sex with an electronic gadget. I mean I would save my dog by going through this painful process if I could take back the hands of time. I am happy I went through with it to this stage but losing my virginity to a stick or bearing the pain to put a smile on another's face while my own morality is being questioned to me isn't worth it. Now I am not judging anyone who does it. They obviously aren't virgins and are in dire monetary needs so GOOD LUCK.

MY OBSERVATIONS
I stated earlier that when I was being interviewed for the first time, I noticed some other females come into the office. Honestly, only if people knew the kind of people that come to donate their eggs, many people would rather remain childless. Most of these women are stark illiterates. Some have bleached their skin so much. Most of which I noticed are your typical fish and pepper sellers with ridiculous eyebrows. Not to sound condescending, but it is the truth.

Another observation is that these acclaimed CHARITY organizations that source for donors, aren't doing any charity. They are only buying your eggs at a very reduced rate. Many of them don't care how you look or what you are even if you are mentally challenged or unstable. They neither carry out proper tests or interviews for viable donors. As long as you produce eggs for them to sell, you qualify. And I also noticed how the interviewers intimidate the women who are not properly educated. There was a point I even questioned the so called foundation on the kind of women they accept as egg donors. They know most of us are in for the money so they won't even bother asking you too much questions, I mean sarcastically, most people are there to help(for the money obviously).

I failed to mention this, on the day of my vaginal scanning while waiting in the office, a girl my age was being questioned. I was moved by her story. May be she saw how confident I was and was probably trying to speak English but she obviously couldn't hide her naivety. No one asks about your family, they don't even care. You can even lie about your identity. They do not ask for any form of identification. The girl talked about how she lost her parent at 7 and how her uncle gave up on her. She was still in school and needed money. I wonder if she's a virgin like me I mean not to be silly but if I wasn't a virgin, I wouldn't be selling my eggs(it's still a sin to me). I commend her tho for not sleeping about for the money or who knows whether market is not paying well. Ok I'm sorry for that statement but I was moved to tears. Even tho I am a synthetic orphan, I haven't experienced the loss of any family member.

Giving up your eggs is not a quick money making scheme. It is traumatic. Everytime you go for a scan during your injection period, you will be inserted with that 8 inches thing(dunno what to call it) and the retrieval process is even worse, a needle would be inserted into you and can pierce your womb or infect you. You are given antibiotics tho but who e epp. You are just another tool.

MY SUGGESTION

In other to prevent losses on both sides, I would suggest, fertility clinics in Nigeria start paying donors for real and stop exploiting young women so you know the risk is equal the cost. Then no one would have to pull out of the programme as most donors do pull out of the process and huge losses are suffered on both sides because no one gives you transport fare and the injections are very expensive. You are only paid I repeat only paid when they collect your eggs.

MY ADVICE

I wish I could go through with the process but I cannot. I am not judging anyone who does it for whatever reason. Just make sure you read those forms well before appending your signature on it as most are not in your interest incase complications arise.

Do not risk your own fertility for another woman's infertility(no one knows what she did or why she's that way)

Do not think you are selling your eggs. The money is not worth a single egg. If you want to donate, donate with the mind that you are doing it for free because you actually are. May people go with the mindset that they are selling their eggs for 120000. And if you choose to do this process as a source of income, always go to the highest bidder. There are people that pay more than 120000.

I still am looking for a way to get out of this country. I am damn scarred but I won't have sex for money or get money with issues concerning my … To get money by any means is not easy truly. I don't care about being a virgin tho. Infact it means nothing to me but I won't take so much pain for any one. The pain has left and now I'm thinking if I should go back lol.

Nice write-up but this issue of your virginity, I think you have lost your virginity. You went to quack fertility hospital.

How does the inability to read and write affect intelligence?

Ranchhoddas:
Intelligence has a genetic disposition.

Deathcomestoall

Very interesting write up
You re obviously very intelligent with an inquisitive mind
I hope you find something that works for you

Oh puhlease...this is just nonsense, a write up you made to exult your so called virginity and education...there is absolutely no risk in donating eggs as there is in any other gynaecologist examination...the instrument couldn't penetrate because you were tense,Im sure if you were satisfied with the amount you were offered it would have said in easily...what is emotionally traumatizing about it again,unless your scared of needles...you inject yourself with what I assume are hormones to aid your egg production for a few weeks... So what... Don't discourage others because you didn't like the pay... If certified healthy, a mad woman can donate eggs...educate your stuck-up self

what is the moral lesson of your tale? I can't believe I read your lies,word for word.Anyways sha,I think you want people to know that you are a virigin and you will be willing to sacrifice it for your ticket money.Trust some Nairaland guys,they will form caring and nice too suddenly
My dear,Dont try acquiring riches you can't share the source. You are a graduate(at least your grammar and sentence construction make sense),think of what you can offer to the general public,try a little job and be dedicated.If this your story is true,well I see a great person in your tomorrow......

deathcomestoall:
Now, while what I am about to say might be shameful for many because it is shrouded in secrecy, I am not ashamed because, you can never know the extent to what you will do when pushed or pulled to the brink. 99% of the reason why many young Nigerian women donate their egg is for the meagre(yes I said meagre) monetary compensation attached to it. And most of these fertility clinics know that if they do not attach any form of benefit, almost no one would willingly donate.

In the U.S., egg donation can cost as much as 5000 to 10000 dollars. So if you are going to donate, at least you know it's worth the pay. Unlike nigeria who don't pay the donors, they only COMPENSATE and this ranges from 120000 to 150000.

The egg donation process itself starts with an interview by an organization or clinic sourcing for donors for the clinic and then a series of blood tests for genotype, blood group and STDs are carried out after which if you are cleared of any of these, you proceed to the next stage which is to check for lumps in your breast, throat, pain in your lower abdominal region and then a vaginal scan. If you pass all these tests, then you will be given 21 injections which you will inject by yourself for 21 days and during these days, you will visit the clinic for series of vaginal scanning to check if you are producing enough eggs. After the 21 days, you will be given another 6 injections for 6 days after which you are due for the egg collection.
Now I cannot go into details of how the whole process is done because I do not want to make my post too lengthy as the essence of my post is to merely educate and share my story.

Born a synthetic orphan( I have parents who I don’t live with and don't care for me), freshly graduated from the University with a reasonable amount saved during my university days, I had wanted to go into food business but I was unfortunately robbed by my own blood. I have always held the notion that to make money, you must spend money. So with the little money I had left, I started looking for options on what to do, every single one failed. I had applied for more than 619 jobs and still counting, no success. After exhausting all my ideas, I was googling ways to make money and then came a list of six of which one took my interest which was egg donation. I called a couple of fertility clinics and booked an appointment with two. I went to only one of them which is located somewhere in Lagos.

Before making this decision, I thought to myself, why am I doing this, my answer was the money. I had just gotten an American visa and am trying to raise the money for a ticket as everyone reading this knows the situation of the country.

On getting to the clinic, I met a young lady who asked my age, race, education, job and some other things. She explained the process to me and asked if I lived with my parents, I answered yes. And then she proceeded to bullying me that what if my parents saw me injecting myself daily that they would seize the injections. I was displeased with her statement because I had earlier told her I went to a private university. She probably thought I was a spoilt kid who needed quick money. I immediately shut her up and told her I pay the rent and then proceeded to bullying her(I am a very opinionated person). As we were talking, I noticed some other females come into the office. One of them had come for a vaginal scan and wasn’t producing any eggs so the process had to be stopped for her and hence no compensation of any sort not even her transport fare. Just a thank you. Then I started asking questions( my transport there cost nothing less than a thousand a day). I asked her what information of mine would be given to the receiver, she said it would be an anonymous donation. I asked if any complication arises, who will be responsible for my treatment, she said the clinic. I then asked about the procedure itself. I asked what kind of sedative would be used for the egg retrieval process, then she became defensive and said I was a reporter and she won't be continuing the process. I stood up to leave, then she called me back and said she would take a risk with me. I then told her I wasn't a reporter just because I am confident and would ask questions. I proceeded to the clinic lab and did a blood test for my genotype and blood group. Before I left for the lab, she started whining me that 120000 is a lot of money, you can start a business with it. I just looked at her and nodded. I never even asked her how much it was.

Few days later, I was called for a second blood test for STDs, I went for it and also was cleared. Then I was called for a vaginal scan. Before getting there, I thought why am I really doing this. I have had more than 120000, is it really worth risking my own fertility. I would have to sell my eggs for up to 5 times to raise money for my flight. With the current economic situation, this money is almost nothing for the emotional trauma. Another reason why I wanted to do this wasn't for the money alone. I have remained a virgin for a long time and had gotten tired. Being a virgin has impeded me in many ways. I am constantly judged because of it. Every guy I date sees it as a prize. And even if I wanted to lose my virginity and become a prostitute, I didn't want to lose it to the first man that pays me and I don't have a boyfriend who will do it. Aged 18, I tried to lose my virginity but the shock and pain was too much for me to handle. He hadn't even entered, I had already began screaming. I must admit I bled due to the stress placed on the outer walls of my v****a but he never entered.
That was my first and last experience at experimenting with sex. I was happy tho I could claim I was a virgin and not a virgin, no one would know. Another reason is I am an introvert, I don't have any friends neither do I go out to where I can meet people besides I don’t even have the money and I know I am not getting married anytime soon and this is the most fertile years of my life(I am 22) and genuinely if I could help someone become a mother, I would.

On the day of the vaginal scanning, I went to the clinic, was asked a lot of questions after which I waited for a very long time before proceeding to the scanning room. The nurse then told me to get undressed and asked if I was a virgin. I couldn't lie, I said yes and she said they don't take virgins then I said I was a secondary virgin, I tried it years ago even though I knew I was lieing. Then I told her it wasn't an issue, she should call the doctor. The doctor came in brought out a long instrument about 8 inches put a condom on it with lube. I mean this was me here never had sex before, I freaked out. When she tried to put it in, I screamed. I said I couldn't do it. The pain was excruciating. She then put more lube, I still couldn't. It wouldn't enter. The doctor even had to ask if I was raped because of my shock. I thought I lost my hymen years back. In the moment of the pain, I thought all these for a meagre 120000 minus the stress of giving myself 27 needle scars and the emotional trauma I would suffer from it. The doctor then said we could try again. I said no. I could barely walk, I apologized for wasting their time. And dressed up and left. The lady who interviewed me lamented on what would be done about the money they spent on tests for me. Oh please, it's an organization, I'm sure they suffer loses. They should deal with it. I wasn't the first and I wouldn’t be the last.

While in pain in a public transit on my way home, I thought of all the losses I have experienced both financially and emotionally. I mean I started questioning my self if it was really worth it. Yes I want to travel out of the country and give my most fertile years to whoever I can but asides this I had no other genuine reason. The most important tho was the money. I lost my dog because I couldn't pay his veterinary bills. This would have been a better reason for me to have sex with an electronic gadget. I mean I would save my dog by going through this painful process if I could take back the hands of time. I am happy I went through with it to this stage but losing my virginity to a stick or bearing the pain to put a smile on another's face while my own morality is being questioned to me isn't worth it. Now I am not judging anyone who does it. They obviously aren't virgins and are in dire monetary needs so GOOD LUCK.

MY OBSERVATIONS
I stated earlier that when I was being interviewed for the first time, I noticed some other females come into the office. Honestly, only if people knew the kind of people that come to donate their eggs, many people would rather remain childless. Most of these women are stark illiterates. Some have bleached their skin so much. Most of which I noticed are your typical fish and pepper sellers with ridiculous eyebrows. Not to sound condescending, but it is the truth.

Another observation is that these acclaimed CHARITY organizations that source for donors, aren't doing any charity. They are only buying your eggs at a very reduced rate. Many of them don't care how you look or what you are even if you are mentally challenged or unstable. They neither carry out proper tests or interviews for viable donors. As long as you produce eggs for them to sell, you qualify. And I also noticed how the interviewers intimidate the women who are not properly educated. There was a point I even questioned the so called foundation on the kind of women they accept as egg donors. They know most of us are in for the money so they won't even bother asking you too much questions, I mean sarcastically, most people are there to help(for the money obviously).

I failed to mention this, on the day of my vaginal scanning while waiting in the office, a girl my age was being questioned. I was moved by her story. May be she saw how confident I was and was probably trying to speak English but she obviously couldn't hide her naivety. No one asks about your family, they don't even care. You can even lie about your identity. They do not ask for any form of identification. The girl talked about how she lost her parent at 7 and how her uncle gave up on her. She was still in school and needed money. I wonder if she's a virgin like me I mean not to be silly but if I wasn't a virgin, I wouldn't be selling my eggs(it's still a sin to me). I commend her tho for not sleeping about for the money or who knows whether market is not paying well. Ok I'm sorry for that statement but I was moved to tears. Even tho I am a synthetic orphan, I haven't experienced the loss of any family member.

Giving up your eggs is not a quick money making scheme. It is traumatic. Everytime you go for a scan during your injection period, you will be inserted with that 8 inches thing(dunno what to call it) and the retrieval process is even worse, a needle would be inserted into you and can pierce your womb or infect you. You are given antibiotics tho but who e epp. You are just another tool.

MY SUGGESTION

In other to prevent losses on both sides, I would suggest, fertility clinics in Nigeria start paying donors for real and stop exploiting young women so you know the risk is equal the cost. Then no one would have to pull out of the programme as most donors do pull out of the process and huge losses are suffered on both sides because no one gives you transport fare and the injections are very expensive. You are only paid I repeat only paid when they collect your eggs.

MY ADVICE

I wish I could go through with the process but I cannot. I am not judging anyone who does it for whatever reason. Just make sure you read those forms well before appending your signature on it as most are not in your interest incase complications arise.

Do not risk your own fertility for another woman's infertility(no one knows what she did or why she's that way)

Do not think you are selling your eggs. The money is not worth a single egg. If you want to donate, donate with the mind that you are doing it for free because you actually are. May people go with the mindset that they are selling their eggs for 120000. And if you choose to do this process as a source of income, always go to the highest bidder. There are people that pay more than 120000.

I still am looking for a way to get out of this country. I am damn scarred but I won't have sex for money or get money with issues concerning my … To get money by any means is not easy truly. I don't care about being a virgin tho. Infact it means nothing to me but I won't take so much pain for any one. The pain has left and now I'm thinking if I should go back lol.

At 22?

Story storey

Chinwem:
Deathcomestoall

Very interesting write up
You re obviously very intelligent with an inquisitive mind
I hope you find something that works for you

thank you

Petroking:
Op message me.

is there something more to this?

deathcomestoall:
Now, while what I am about to say might be shameful for many because it is shrouded in secrecy, I am not ashamed because, you can never know the extent to what you will do when pushed or pulled to the brink. 99% of the reason why many young Nigerian women donate their egg is for the meagre(yes I said meagre) monetary compensation attached to it. And most of these fertility clinics know that if they do not attach any form of benefit, almost no one would willingly donate.

In the U.S., egg donation can cost as much as 5000 to 10000 dollars. So if you are going to donate, at least you know it's worth the pay. Unlike nigeria who don't pay the donors, they only COMPENSATE and this ranges from 120000 to 150000.

The egg donation process itself starts with an interview by an organization or clinic sourcing for donors for the clinic and then a series of blood tests for genotype, blood group and STDs are carried out after which if you are cleared of any of these, you proceed to the next stage which is to check for lumps in your breast, throat, pain in your lower abdominal region and then a vaginal scan. If you pass all these tests, then you will be given 21 injections which you will inject by yourself for 21 days and during these days, you will visit the clinic for series of vaginal scanning to check if you are producing enough eggs. After the 21 days, you will be given another 6 injections for 6 days after which you are due for the egg collection.
Now I cannot go into details of how the whole process is done because I do not want to make my post too lengthy as the essence of my post is to merely educate and share my story.

Born a synthetic orphan( I have parents who I don’t live with and don't care for me), freshly graduated from the University with a reasonable amount saved during my university days, I had wanted to go into food business but I was unfortunately robbed by my own blood. I have always held the notion that to make money, you must spend money. So with the little money I had left, I started looking for options on what to do, every single one failed. I had applied for more than 619 jobs and still counting, no success. After exhausting all my ideas, I was googling ways to make money and then came a list of six of which one took my interest which was egg donation. I called a couple of fertility clinics and booked an appointment with two. I went to only one of them which is located somewhere in Lagos.

Before making this decision, I thought to myself, why am I doing this, my answer was the money. I had just gotten an American visa and am trying to raise the money for a ticket as everyone reading this knows the situation of the country.

On getting to the clinic, I met a young lady who asked my age, race, education, job and some other things. She explained the process to me and asked if I lived with my parents, I answered yes. And then she proceeded to bullying me that what if my parents saw me injecting myself daily that they would seize the injections. I was displeased with her statement because I had earlier told her I went to a private university. She probably thought I was a spoilt kid who needed quick money. I immediately shut her up and told her I pay the rent and then proceeded to bullying her(I am a very opinionated person). As we were talking, I noticed some other females come into the office. One of them had come for a vaginal scan and wasn’t producing any eggs so the process had to be stopped for her and hence no compensation of any sort not even her transport fare. Just a thank you. Then I started asking questions( my transport there cost nothing less than a thousand a day). I asked her what information of mine would be given to the receiver, she said it would be an anonymous donation. I asked if any complication arises, who will be responsible for my treatment, she said the clinic. I then asked about the procedure itself. I asked what kind of sedative would be used for the egg retrieval process, then she became defensive and said I was a reporter and she won't be continuing the process. I stood up to leave, then she called me back and said she would take a risk with me. I then told her I wasn't a reporter just because I am confident and would ask questions. I proceeded to the clinic lab and did a blood test for my genotype and blood group. Before I left for the lab, she started whining me that 120000 is a lot of money, you can start a business with it. I just looked at her and nodded. I never even asked her how much it was.

Few days later, I was called for a second blood test for STDs, I went for it and also was cleared. Then I was called for a vaginal scan. Before getting there, I thought why am I really doing this. I have had more than 120000, is it really worth risking my own fertility. I would have to sell my eggs for up to 5 times to raise money for my flight. With the current economic situation, this money is almost nothing for the emotional trauma. Another reason why I wanted to do this wasn't for the money alone. I have remained a virgin for a long time and had gotten tired. Being a virgin has impeded me in many ways. I am constantly judged because of it. Every guy I date sees it as a prize. And even if I wanted to lose my virginity and become a prostitute, I didn't want to lose it to the first man that pays me and I don't have a boyfriend who will do it. Aged 18, I tried to lose my virginity but the shock and pain was too much for me to handle. He hadn't even entered, I had already began screaming. I must admit I bled due to the stress placed on the[b] outer walls of my v****a but he never entered. [/b]
That was my first and last experience at experimenting with sex. I was happy tho I could claim I was a virgin and not a virgin, no one would know. Another reason is I am an introvert, I don't have any friends neither do I go out to where I can meet people besides I don’t even have the money and I know I am not getting married anytime soon and this is the most fertile years of my life(I am 22) and genuinely if I could help someone become a mother, I would.

On the day of the vaginal scanning, I went to the clinic, was asked a lot of questions after which I waited for a very long time before proceeding to the scanning room. The nurse then told me to get undressed and asked if I was a virgin. I couldn't lie, I said yes and she said they don't take virgins then I said I was a secondary virgin, I tried it years ago even though I knew I was lieing. Then I told her it wasn't an issue, she should call the doctor. The doctor came in brought out a long instrument about 8 inches put a condom on it with lube. I mean this was me here never had sex before, I freaked out. When she tried to put it in, I screamed. I said I couldn't do it. The pain was excruciating. She then put more lube, I still couldn't. It wouldn't enter. The doctor even had to ask if I was raped because of my shock. I thought I lost my hymen years back. In the moment of the pain, I thought all these for a meagre 120000 minus the stress of giving myself 27 needle scars and the emotional trauma I would suffer from it. The doctor then said we could try again. I said no. I could barely walk, I apologized for wasting their time. And dressed up and left. The lady who interviewed me lamented on what would be done about the money they spent on tests for me. Oh please, it's an organization, I'm sure they suffer loses. They should deal with it. I wasn't the first and I wouldn’t be the last.

While in pain in a public transit on my way home, I thought of all the losses I have experienced both financially and emotionally. I mean I started questioning my self if it was really worth it. Yes I want to travel out of the country and give my most fertile years to whoever I can but asides this I had no other genuine reason. The most important tho was the money. I lost my dog because I couldn't pay his veterinary bills. This would have been a better reason for me to have sex with an electronic gadget. I mean I would save my dog by going through this painful process if I could take back the hands of time. I am happy I went through with it to this stage but losing my virginity to a stick or bearing the pain to put a smile on another's face while my own morality is being questioned to me isn't worth it. Now I am not judging anyone who does it. They obviously aren't virgins and are in dire monetary needs so GOOD LUCK.

MY OBSERVATIONS
I stated earlier that when I was being interviewed for the first time, I noticed some other females come into the office. Honestly, only if people knew the kind of people that come to donate their eggs, many people would rather remain childless. Most of these women are stark illiterates. Some have bleached their skin so much. Most of which I noticed are your typical fish and pepper sellers with ridiculous eyebrows. Not to sound condescending, but it is the truth.

Another observation is that these acclaimed CHARITY organizations that source for donors, aren't doing any charity. They are only buying your eggs at a very reduced rate. Many of them don't care how you look or what you are even if you are mentally challenged or unstable. They neither carry out proper tests or interviews for viable donors. As long as you produce eggs for them to sell, you qualify. And I also noticed how the interviewers intimidate the women who are not properly educated. There was a point I even questioned the so called foundation on the kind of women they accept as egg donors. They know most of us are in for the money so they won't even bother asking you too much questions, I mean sarcastically, most people are there to help(for the money obviously).

I failed to mention this, on the day of my vaginal scanning while waiting in the office, a girl my age was being questioned. I was moved by her story. May be she saw how confident I was and was probably trying to speak English but she obviously couldn't hide her naivety. No one asks about your family, they don't even care. You can even lie about your identity. They do not ask for any form of identification. The girl talked about how she lost her parent at 7 and how her uncle gave up on her. She was still in school and needed money. I wonder if she's a virgin like me I mean not to be silly but if I wasn't a virgin, I wouldn't be selling my eggs(it's still a sin to me). I commend her tho for not sleeping about for the money or who knows whether market is not paying well. Ok I'm sorry for that statement but I was moved to tears. Even tho I am a synthetic orphan, I haven't experienced the loss of any family member.

Giving up your eggs is not a quick money making scheme. It is traumatic. Everytime you go for a scan during your injection period, you will be inserted with that 8 inches thing(dunno what to call it) and the retrieval process is even worse, a needle would be inserted into you and can pierce your womb or infect you. You are given antibiotics tho but who e epp. You are just another tool.

MY SUGGESTION

In other to prevent losses on both sides, I would suggest, fertility clinics in Nigeria start paying donors for real and stop exploiting young women so you know the risk is equal the cost. Then no one would have to pull out of the programme as most donors do pull out of the process and huge losses are suffered on both sides because no one gives you transport fare and the injections are very expensive. You are only paid I repeat only paid when they collect your eggs.

MY ADVICE

I wish I could go through with the process but I cannot. I am not judging anyone who does it for whatever reason. Just make sure you read those forms well before appending your signature on it as most are not in your interest incase complications arise.

Do not risk your own fertility for another woman's infertility(no one knows what she did or why she's that way)

Do not think you are selling your eggs. The money is not worth a single egg. If you want to donate, donate with the mind that you are doing it for free because you actually are. May people go with the mindset that they are selling their eggs for 120000. And if you choose to do this process as a source of income, always go to the highest bidder. There are people that pay more than 120000.

I still am looking for a way to get out of this country. I am damn scarred but I won't have sex for money or get money with issues concerning my … To get money by any means is not easy truly. I don't care about being a virgin tho. Infact it means nothing to me but I won't take so much pain for any one. The pain has left and now I'm thinking if I should go back lol.

Change your topic to VIRGINS and egg donation
And by the way,

YOU ARE NOT A VIRGIN!
STOP FOOLING YOURSELF!
YOU ARE JUST AFRAID OF SEX.

virtual3xpert:
You almost made me cry with this, but what if there's really nobody to help? or those who promised to help in the past all disappointed you? You just gotta figure it all out on your own; story of my life.

bro their is noting like no help that what we intoverts think it might not be cash but believe me in connections their is some one ready to help her let me use my self as an example when i was looking for my sch fees for this semester and pale told me that he had no money because for this and that and most especially the economy i had to call one of my class mate like in sec school who help me contacted his uncle who knew a guy that was a construction engineer sharp sharp he told me to come and i went their and bam i started carrying sand and block for 3grand a day even if i worked or not the man paid mefor my work you know why he did that cause i called out for help and a solution came today i have paid my sch fees and also i had gain a bit of skill about brick laying .
I am not saying she should go and do bricklayer work oooo but am sure someone has a solution to hers i swear.
NB:-this guy we barely talk back then oooo but because of the little bond i had with him its what helped me:

blazer234:
Did this happen to u lady or you copied it?

Please be sincere; I'm asking this question for a very good reason. I mean very good reason.

it happened over the course of two weeks with yesterday being the last.

Gewezzy1:
My dear i think you went to the wrong clinic either its not recognized or sumfin. Fertility clinics don't do all you said above, about them not checking thoroughly for a donors health, dts not true. All i see you doing is just judging people with Fertility issues, I cant believe a lady would say " Do not risk your own fertility for another woman's infertility
(no one knows what she did or why she's that way)" That is just shallow and wrong. I pray you don't experience such, do you think its evry bin wayward is wt causes infertility? The fact that you dnt have a good experience wn u did urs dsnt meant that's the way the system works. Btw I wish you all the best in traveling out, even though you need to know that you are no longer a virgin, wthr or not he dnt entr well dsnt mean u haven't had sex. You are free to quote me whr wrong

Best comment.

Virgin my left ball.

deathcomestoall:
Now, while what I am about to say might be shameful for many because it is shrouded in secrecy, I am not ashamed because, you can never know the extent to what you will do when pushed or pulled to the brink. 99% of the reason why many young Nigerian women donate their egg is for the meagre(yes I said meagre) monetary compensation attached to it. And most of these fertility clinics know that if they do not attach any form of benefit, almost no one would willingly donate.

In the U.S., egg donation can cost as much as 5000 to 10000 dollars. So if you are going to donate, at least you know it's worth the pay. Unlike nigeria who don't pay the donors, they only COMPENSATE and this ranges from 120000 to 150000.

The egg donation process itself starts with an interview by an organization or clinic sourcing for donors for the clinic and then a series of blood tests for genotype, blood group and STDs are carried out after which if you are cleared of any of these, you proceed to the next stage which is to check for lumps in your breast, throat, pain in your lower abdominal region and then a vaginal scan. If you pass all these tests, then you will be given 21 injections which you will inject by yourself for 21 days and during these days, you will visit the clinic for series of vaginal scanning to check if you are producing enough eggs. After the 21 days, you will be given another 6 injections for 6 days after which you are due for the egg collection.
Now I cannot go into details of how the whole process is done because I do not want to make my post too lengthy as the essence of my post is to merely educate and share my story.

Born a synthetic orphan( I have parents who I don’t live with and don't care for me), freshly graduated from the University with a reasonable amount saved during my university days, I had wanted to go into food business but I was unfortunately robbed by my own blood. I have always held the notion that to make money, you must spend money. So with the little money I had left, I started looking for options on what to do, every single one failed. I had applied for more than 619 jobs and still counting, no success. After exhausting all my ideas, I was googling ways to make money and then came a list of six of which one took my interest which was egg donation. I called a couple of fertility clinics and booked an appointment with two. I went to only one of them which is located somewhere in Lagos.

Before making this decision, I thought to myself, why am I doing this, my answer was the money. I had just gotten an American visa and am trying to raise the money for a ticket as everyone reading this knows the situation of the country.

On getting to the clinic, I met a young lady who asked my age, race, education, job and some other things. She explained the process to me and asked if I lived with my parents, I answered yes. And then she proceeded to bullying me that what if my parents saw me injecting myself daily that they would seize the injections. I was displeased with her statement because I had earlier told her I went to a private university. She probably thought I was a spoilt kid who needed quick money. I immediately shut her up and told her I pay the rent and then proceeded to bullying her(I am a very opinionated person). As we were talking, I noticed some other females come into the office. One of them had come for a vaginal scan and wasn’t producing any eggs so the process had to be stopped for her and hence no compensation of any sort not even her transport fare. Just a thank you. Then I started asking questions( my transport there cost nothing less than a thousand a day). I asked her what information of mine would be given to the receiver, she said it would be an anonymous donation. I asked if any complication arises, who will be responsible for my treatment, she said the clinic. I then asked about the procedure itself. I asked what kind of sedative would be used for the egg retrieval process, then she became defensive and said I was a reporter and she won't be continuing the process. I stood up to leave, then she called me back and said she would take a risk with me. I then told her I wasn't a reporter just because I am confident and would ask questions. I proceeded to the clinic lab and did a blood test for my genotype and blood group. Before I left for the lab, she started whining me that 120000 is a lot of money, you can start a business with it. I just looked at her and nodded. I never even asked her how much it was.

Few days later, I was called for a second blood test for STDs, I went for it and also was cleared. Then I was called for a vaginal scan. Before getting there, I thought why am I really doing this. I have had more than 120000, is it really worth risking my own fertility. I would have to sell my eggs for up to 5 times to raise money for my flight. With the current economic situation, this money is almost nothing for the emotional trauma. Another reason why I wanted to do this wasn't for the money alone. I have remained a virgin for a long time and had gotten tired. Being a virgin has impeded me in many ways. I am constantly judged because of it. Every guy I date sees it as a prize. And even if I wanted to lose my virginity and become a prostitute, I didn't want to lose it to the first man that pays me and I don't have a boyfriend who will do it. Aged 18, I tried to lose my virginity but the shock and pain was too much for me to handle. He hadn't even entered, I had already began screaming. I must admit I bled due to the stress placed on the outer walls of my v****a but he never entered.
That was my first and last experience at experimenting with sex. I was happy tho I could claim I was a virgin and not a virgin, no one would know. Another reason is I am an introvert, I don't have any friends neither do I go out to where I can meet people besides I don’t even have the money and I know I am not getting married anytime soon and this is the most fertile years of my life(I am 22) and genuinely if I could help someone become a mother, I would.

On the day of the vaginal scanning, I went to the clinic, was asked a lot of questions after which I waited for a very long time before proceeding to the scanning room. The nurse then told me to get undressed and asked if I was a virgin. I couldn't lie, I said yes and she said they don't take virgins then I said I was a secondary virgin, I tried it years ago even though I knew I was lieing. Then I told her it wasn't an issue, she should call the doctor. The doctor came in brought out a long instrument about 8 inches put a condom on it with lube. I mean this was me here never had sex before, I freaked out. When she tried to put it in, I screamed. I said I couldn't do it. The pain was excruciating. She then put more lube, I still couldn't. It wouldn't enter. The doctor even had to ask if I was raped because of my shock. I thought I lost my hymen years back. In the moment of the pain, I thought all these for a meagre 120000 minus the stress of giving myself 27 needle scars and the emotional trauma I would suffer from it. The doctor then said we could try again. I said no. I could barely walk, I apologized for wasting their time. And dressed up and left. The lady who interviewed me lamented on what would be done about the money they spent on tests for me. Oh please, it's an organization, I'm sure they suffer loses. They should deal with it. I wasn't the first and I wouldn’t be the last.

While in pain in a public transit on my way home, I thought of all the losses I have experienced both financially and emotionally. I mean I started questioning my self if it was really worth it. Yes I want to travel out of the country and give my most fertile years to whoever I can but asides this I had no other genuine reason. The most important tho was the money. I lost my dog because I couldn't pay his veterinary bills. This would have been a better reason for me to have sex with an electronic gadget. I mean I would save my dog by going through this painful process if I could take back the hands of time. I am happy I went through with it to this stage but losing my virginity to a stick or bearing the pain to put a smile on another's face while my own morality is being questioned to me isn't worth it. Now I am not judging anyone who does it. They obviously aren't virgins and are in dire monetary needs so GOOD LUCK.

MY OBSERVATIONS
I stated earlier that when I was being interviewed for the first time, I noticed some other females come into the office. Honestly, only if people knew the kind of people that come to donate their eggs, many people would rather remain childless. Most of these women are stark illiterates. Some have bleached their skin so much. Most of which I noticed are your typical fish and pepper sellers with ridiculous eyebrows. Not to sound condescending, but it is the truth.

Another observation is that these acclaimed CHARITY organizations that source for donors, aren't doing any charity. They are only buying your eggs at a very reduced rate. Many of them don't care how you look or what you are even if you are mentally challenged or unstable. They neither carry out proper tests or interviews for viable donors. As long as you produce eggs for them to sell, you qualify. And I also noticed how the interviewers intimidate the women who are not properly educated. There was a point I even questioned the so called foundation on the kind of women they accept as egg donors. They know most of us are in for the money so they won't even bother asking you too much questions, I mean sarcastically, most people are there to help(for the money obviously).

I failed to mention this, on the day of my vaginal scanning while waiting in the office, a girl my age was being questioned. I was moved by her story. May be she saw how confident I was and was probably trying to speak English but she obviously couldn't hide her naivety. No one asks about your family, they don't even care. You can even lie about your identity. They do not ask for any form of identification. The girl talked about how she lost her parent at 7 and how her uncle gave up on her. She was still in school and needed money. I wonder if she's a virgin like me I mean not to be silly but if I wasn't a virgin, I wouldn't be selling my eggs(it's still a sin to me). I commend her tho for not sleeping about for the money or who knows whether market is not paying well. Ok I'm sorry for that statement but I was moved to tears. Even tho I am a synthetic orphan, I haven't experienced the loss of any family member.

Giving up your eggs is not a quick money making scheme. It is traumatic. Everytime you go for a scan during your injection period, you will be inserted with that 8 inches thing(dunno what to call it) and the retrieval process is even worse, a needle would be inserted into you and can pierce your womb or infect you. You are given antibiotics tho but who e epp. You are just another tool.

MY SUGGESTION

In other to prevent losses on both sides, I would suggest, fertility clinics in Nigeria start paying donors for real and stop exploiting young women so you know the risk is equal the cost. Then no one would have to pull out of the programme as most donors do pull out of the process and huge losses are suffered on both sides because no one gives you transport fare and the injections are very expensive. You are only paid I repeat only paid when they collect your eggs.

MY ADVICE

I wish I could go through with the process but I cannot. I am not judging anyone who does it for whatever reason. Just make sure you read those forms well before appending your signature on it as most are not in your interest incase complications arise.

Do not risk your own fertility for another woman's infertility(no one knows what she did or why she's that way)

Do not think you are selling your eggs. The money is not worth a single egg. If you want to donate, donate with the mind that you are doing it for free because you actually are. May people go with the mindset that they are selling their eggs for 120000. And if you choose to do this process as a source of income, always go to the highest bidder. There are people that pay more than 120000.

I still am looking for a way to get out of this country. I am damn scarred but I won't have sex for money or get money with issues concerning my … To get money by any means is not easy truly. I don't care about being a virgin tho. Infact it means nothing to me but I won't take so much pain for any one. The pain has left and now I'm thinking if I should go back lol.

You wrote very well. You really wrote from your mind hence the write up looking judgemental. Many of us act differently from what goes on in our minds.

Send me an email if you are interested in making money.

Op so what if the donors are stark illiterates.....that is the shallowest thing I have heard all year......you are an illiterate if you haven't learnt to read and write. And not because your mom is/was one

33bandit:
lemme clarify you one issues here ...
_donating your eggs don't mean you gon be infertile in the future .your eggs can't finish .you gon keep producing em till u reach menopause .
_donating eggs is not jest for anybody on the streets .your -complexion matters
-height
-limb development .such as hands and legs ."those ones with yam legs not allowed hehehehe"
-skull size "those with natural big heads hmm"
_the fear you have developed for sex is out of this world .have u thought of giving birth at all .
_test results are not done in a day .for example ."in the lay mans language .blood needs to settle ...ehen before the serum is tested ."so that drama dem do with your pussy na wash .
_ all instruments inserted into your pussy are not gone injure u .they are mainly for retrieving the eggs .
_and lastly leaving the country is not the best option .baba buhari would settle things soon lol

have you read about ovarian hyper stimulation where a woman injected with fertility drugs produces about 20, 40 to 60 mature eggs as opposed to 1 mature egg which the body produces with normal hormone levels. If not treated, the womb builds up fluid and can be fatal to the person and affects your fertility. When the needle for the retrival process enter your womb, it enters a sterile area and bacteria is introduced into the body(you are given antibiotics for this). If the needle pierces the vagina wall or womb, you risk infection, infertility and death. While most clinics make it sound like it's safe and with minimal risk, it is not. A woman is born with 1.5 to 2 million eggs, it can't finish but suppressing your natural hormones(noone knows the dosage the give if it's to over stimulate for maximum benefit to them) can completely seal off your fertility. Remember people react differently and there are no test for allergies or whatever. They assume everyone can donate.

hmmmmm.... i'm humbled by what some women go through!

If you ask me, I'll say the reason why the OP didn't really give in fully into donating her eggs was because of the mere 120,000 Naira involved.

If the money was 5,000 or 10,000 dollars like the OP said clinics in U.S pay egg donors, she would have donated hers.

5 things your story says about you (i dont hv time to elaborate; some ppl have done that)

...you are a judgemental person
...you dont know much about business
...you are too emotional yet lack empathy
...you are, like you said, opinionated, and like you denied, condescening.
...you are kind of frustrated.

Goodluck

I hope this message I am about to post gets through to everyone calling me judgemental.

I talked about illiterate women donating. Now while this is not inheritable, I merely wanted to say that if psychological evaluation are carried out, many women like my self and the so called illiterate women who are in it for only the monetary benefits wouldn't pull through there by reducing losses on both sides. Only blood tests and scans are carried out. I was misconstrued.

Alphaoscar:
That's tonyebarcanista's code at the critical point of konji.




But Aunty, e be like say you sef be Madoo for the game o. I can't just stop laughing at that phrase ' Just let me put the tip "

lol so u dnt about it abi hehe

deathcomestoall:
Thank you @tomakint

girl you are really a strong woman. I do not intend to judge you but if you had destroyed your womb. you would have turn your husband to a prayer warrior. meanwhile you know deep in your mind you caused it.

you're too ambitious. anyway, God loves you.

deathcomestoall:
I hope this message I am about to post gets through to everyone calling me judgemental.

I talked about illiterate women donating. Now while this is not inheritable, I merely wanted to say that if psychological evaluation are carried out, many women like my self and the so called illiterate women who are in it for only the monetary benefits wouldn't pull through there by reducing losses on both sides. Only blood tests and scans are carried out. I was misconstrued.

My dear like i said you went to an unrecognized clinic o. People that work at real government approved fertility clinics would tell you, they can use like a month to find out about you, even secretly to know you more, and they give you transportation fare for the stress, n what to use for the pain. It's obvious you didn't go to the right place my sister. XOXO

reminiscing:
what is the moral lesson of your tale? I can't believe I read your lies,word for word.Anyways sha,I think you want people to know that you are a virigin and you will be willing to sacrifice it for your ticket money.Trust some Nairaland guys,they will form caring and nice too suddenly
My dear,Dont try acquiring riches you can't share the source. You are a graduate(at least your grammar and sentence construction make sense),think of what you can offer to the general public,try a little job and be dedicated.If this your story is true,well I see a great person in your tomorrow......

ladies that lost their virginity before marriage tends to be judgemental like you.

Gewezzy1:
lol so u dnt about it abi hehe

You wan spoil me ni ? I be small boy o but tonyebarcanista is a pro in that game.

Gewezzy1:
My dear like i said you went to an unrecognized clinic o. People that work at real government approved fertility clinics would tell you, they can use like a month to find out about you, even secretly to know you more, and they give you transportation fare for the stress, n what to use for the pain. It's obvious you didn't go to the right place my sister. XOXO

it's not unrecognized. It is a foremost clinic. It's the first anyone would recommend to you.

deathcomestoall:
I hope this message I am about to post gets through to everyone calling me judgemental.

I talked about illiterate women donating. Now while this is not inheritable, I merely wanted to say that if psychological evaluation are carried out, many women like my self and the so called illiterate women who are in it for only the monetary benefits wouldn't pull through there by reducing losses on both sides. Only blood tests and scans are carried out. I was misconstrued.

Nothing seems to me as being judgemental in your write up. As regard your experience, well constructed and properly articulated above, i will suggest you associate with people more, make more friends, being an introvert myself i know its very hard, but just try. God will see you through.

daretodiffer:
How does the inability to read and write affect intelligence?

You dey find argument? It's an attempt at ''erring on the side of caution''.

deathcomestoall:
it's not unrecognized. It is a foremost clinic. It's the first anyone would recommend to you.

hmmmm issokay Sha. Thr are other ways to get money, thr ar groups on fbk that you can join that would help, for example, thrs ds one I joined n the lady taught me how to make skincare products at just 1k.n I can tell you have taught other people too online and i make money steady, even though i only teach when am broke lol. Like they say IF MOUNTAIN NO GO MEET CLIMBER, CLIMBER SEF GATS GO MEET THE MOUNTAIN hehe dnt mind the saying. Anyway if you are interested go to your Facebook search for LADIES ADVERTISE YOUR BUSINESS. All the best xoxo

I'm still tryna understand what does selling pepper have to do with egg donation...
Do you know how good those same people would look if they were rich