1. Successful Women Never Ignore Their Fears

If you want to move up, and ahead, you need to confront your fears head-on. Never waste valuable energy trying to avoid them; instead, use mental toughness to manage your thoughts, emotions, and behavior in ways that will set you up for success in business and life.
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Suppressing a negative feeling only gives it more power, fueling our fears and slowing us down. In fact, trying to control what we fear will increase the likelihood it will happen.

2. Successful Women Never Run From Conflict

As a female FBI agent, I got burned by conflict, criticism, and unfairness—just like everyone else. The difference is that I did not cower into accommodating others to avoid enduring those negative feelings again.

People who shy away from conflict assume that conflict always looks aggressive, overbearing, and disrespectful. This is not true because conflict can camouflage itself in many forms. We need to be alert for any behavior from others that is attempting to manipulate our emotions or thoughts. Once we recognize conflict for what it is, we make a choice on how we respond to it, rather than react out of fear or ignorance.

3. Successful Women Never Listen To Their Inner Critic

I needed to nip that inner critic in the bud and eliminate inner voices of doubt and anxiety. I did this by choosing to focus my attention on positive feedback and constructive criticism—limited as it might be at times.

Mental toughness is being able to control how your mind thinks, rather than letting your mind control you. The key is learning how to manage your emotions with self-talk and using the right (and positive) words when controlling your thoughts.

4. Successful Women Never Expect Perfect Circumstances

Forget about finding the perfect job or waiting for perfect conditions before making a leap. Learn to differentiate between the pain of growing and the pain of suffering.

It’s easy to say that conditions are poor, nothing is going your way, and that you’ve been dealt an unfair hand. These are all excuses as you move further down the road of surrender.

Use what is at your disposal to keep moving forward in life—take a tip from MacGyver and learn to make the best of your situation. Mental toughness is approaching your circumstances with the right perspective and not expecting a break.

5. Successful Women Never Look At Their Past As A Mistake

I made a lot of mistakes as a new agent. At times it was embarrassing, but I vowed to learn from each one of them.

Some mistakes from our past can be painful or bad, but instead of wallowing in misery, look at them as opportunities to learn something that you didn’t know before it happened. Walk beside friends and colleagues who have made mistakes—you can learn from them, too.

The past does not define us, it simply prepares us for our journey toward success and wisdom.

6. Successful Women Never Miss Opportunities To Shine

I knew that many times the best way to be successful was to do what others were unwilling to do.

Identify those things that others hesitate to take on. It can be small and simple—it doesn’t matter. Whatever it is, do it well and you will instantly differentiate yourself from the pack.

Then keep going because you never know where it will lead; often, we don’t know what opportunity looks like until we’re closer to it.

7. Successful Women Never Fail To Keep Their Cool

No matter my situation, I knew I was in total control of my life.

One of my favorite quotes is from St. Ignatius of Loyola: “Pray as if God will take care of all; act as if all is up to you.”

Many people make excuses for themselves by saying luck determines whether they are successful or not. Mentally strong leaders are in control of their own luck because they see success or failure as something over which they are in control. Luck may have had some role in their present circumstances, but they don’t waste mental energy by worrying about what might happen.

Control your own luck by seizing opportunities to improve your life and situation. The result will either be a lucky break or the regret of a road not taken.
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8. Successful Women Never Fail To Do Their Research

When I interviewed a suspect, I made sure I knew what I was talking about.

When you are meeting with potential investors, clients or customers, make sure you know what you are talking about—know where the landmines are before you open your mouth.

Do your homework; be polished, poised, and prepared.

9. Successful Women Never Say Quit

No matter how hard the investigation or how difficult the assignment, “quit” was the only four letter word I never heard in my 24 years in the FBI.

When you say “quit” or “can’t,” you are sacrificing ownership and control over your attitude and behavior. It shows you have created your own boundaries. When you say quit, you are sending a message about your fear of failure and a lack of grit in testing your limits.



By LaRae Quy

Very true....

Women o!!! OP don lie against una... na true him yan?






























OP forgot to add that "successful women never look down and jealous their fellow women for no reason"

eazisky:
Women o!!! OP don lie against una... na true him yan?





























OP forgot to add that "successful women never look down and jealous their fellow women for no reason"

hehe he said it as it is , and your 'jealousy' point make sense too.
There's no reason to be jealous of someone actually.

10. A woman who wants to be a Successful woman shouldn't reject guyz on Nairaland.

FP? smfh

1 successful women don't see men as their ATM machine.


successful women don't believed, without taking from men they can't make it.

Thank God there is no mention of men in that article. We have had enough of hearing that we can't exist without them.

Op You forget a very important point !!!


Successful Women don't use their pu***y as a bargaining chip

Yea... Correct and true

All highly effective mindsets

successful woman know her worth.

Same apply to men

No successful woman is complete without a man..
''quote me and die''

You can't do without a man.
For comfort, security and pleasure. You need a man just like you need water. You can't do without it.
If there was no man, there won't be a woman. God created man then made woman.
No Linda without Seun.
Life without a man is a total waste. You will murder yourself.

fellis:
Thank God there is no mention of men in that article. We have had enough of hearing that we can't exist without them.

True and I respect all successful women out there but there are so many lazy naija girls out there who will only want to sleep and expect the guy to do everything for them and then you start to wonder what is really going on in their lazy brains

If a woman is independent... I see her becoming successful not the above crap...

all the 9 tips articulated by the op can equally be helpful to a man,so guyz read with an open mind and pick all valid points and trust me der can just b d push u need...

While other women are looking for a successful husband, I'm here working towards becoming a successful wife. Nice points OP.




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And my ex's anthem was send me credit, buy me beautiful back gown, buy me bag, buy me that..... That's more like pest......

That means she does not dream of success....

God help her.

True

Kennitrust:
1 successful women don't see men as their ATM machine.


successful women don't believed, without taking from men they can't make it.

true

okay

Successful women behave mature and apply intelligence to all they do in such a way that when they make mistakes u will hardly see there mistake.

Successful women knows how to handle there relationship with family n business.

Successful women don't argue n avoid trouble especially if its not gonna earn her money.

A successful woman tolerate people n doesn't gossip.

Emeskhalifa:
10. A woman who wants to be a Successful woman shouldn't reject guyz on Nairaland.

Yua own successful pass definition of success

Been independent makes a woman more successful...

Sucessful women are smart thinkers. Nothing trips me more than a successful woman.
Shout out to the ladies who are determined to make success in their given careers /fields. I gat ur back

Successful women don't give blowjobs

Feanah:
hehe he said it as it is , and your 'jealousy' point make sense too.
There's no reason to be jealous of someone actually.

What oh holy jealousy?

Nice one op.

Emeskhalifa:
10. A woman who wants to be a Successful woman shouldn't reject guyz on Nairaland.

lwkmd ooo