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Emeskhalifa:
10. A woman who wants to be a Successful woman shouldn't reject guyz on Nairaland.

jagugu88li:
Yua own successful pass definition of success

Kennitrust:
1 successful women don't see men as their ATM machine.


successful women don't believed, without taking from men they can't make it.

Mariojane:
1. Successful Women Never Ignore Their Fears

If you want to move up, and ahead, you need to confront your fears head-on. Never waste valuable energy trying to avoid them; instead, use mental toughness to manage your thoughts, emotions, and behavior in ways that will set you up for success in business and life.
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Suppressing a negative feeling only gives it more power, fueling our fears and slowing us down. In fact, trying to control what we fear will increase the likelihood it will happen.

2. Successful Women Never Run From Conflict

As a female FBI agent, I got burned by conflict, criticism, and unfairness—just like everyone else. The difference is that I did not cower into accommodating others to avoid enduring those negative feelings again.

People who shy away from conflict assume that conflict always looks aggressive, overbearing, and disrespectful. This is not true because conflict can camouflage itself in many forms. We need to be alert for any behavior from others that is attempting to manipulate our emotions or thoughts. Once we recognize conflict for what it is, we make a choice on how we respond to it, rather than react out of fear or ignorance.

3. Successful Women Never Listen To Their Inner Critic

I needed to nip that inner critic in the bud and eliminate inner voices of doubt and anxiety. I did this by choosing to focus my attention on positive feedback and constructive criticism—limited as it might be at times.

Mental toughness is being able to control how your mind thinks, rather than letting your mind control you. The key is learning how to manage your emotions with self-talk and using the right (and positive) words when controlling your thoughts.

4. Successful Women Never Expect Perfect Circumstances

Forget about finding the perfect job or waiting for perfect conditions before making a leap. Learn to differentiate between the pain of growing and the pain of suffering.

It’s easy to say that conditions are poor, nothing is going your way, and that you’ve been dealt an unfair hand. These are all excuses as you move further down the road of surrender.

Use what is at your disposal to keep moving forward in life—take a tip from MacGyver and learn to make the best of your situation. Mental toughness is approaching your circumstances with the right perspective and not expecting a break.

5. Successful Women Never Look At Their Past As A Mistake

I made a lot of mistakes as a new agent. At times it was embarrassing, but I vowed to learn from each one of them.

Some mistakes from our past can be painful or bad, but instead of wallowing in misery, look at them as opportunities to learn something that you didn’t know before it happened. Walk beside friends and colleagues who have made mistakes—you can learn from them, too.

The past does not define us, it simply prepares us for our journey toward success and wisdom.

6. Successful Women Never Miss Opportunities To Shine

I knew that many times the best way to be successful was to do what others were unwilling to do.

Identify those things that others hesitate to take on. It can be small and simple—it doesn’t matter. Whatever it is, do it well and you will instantly differentiate yourself from the pack.

Then keep going because you never know where it will lead; often, we don’t know what opportunity looks like until we’re closer to it.

7. Successful Women Never Fail To Keep Their Cool

No matter my situation, I knew I was in total control of my life.

One of my favorite quotes is from St. Ignatius of Loyola: “Pray as if God will take care of all; act as if all is up to you.”

Many people make excuses for themselves by saying luck determines whether they are successful or not. Mentally strong leaders are in control of their own luck because they see success or failure as something over which they are in control. Luck may have had some role in their present circumstances, but they don’t waste mental energy by worrying about what might happen.

Control your own luck by seizing opportunities to improve your life and situation. The result will either be a lucky break or the regret of a road not taken.
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8. Successful Women Never Fail To Do Their Research

When I interviewed a suspect, I made sure I knew what I was talking about.

When you are meeting with potential investors, clients or customers, make sure you know what you are talking about—know where the landmines are before you open your mouth.

Do your homework; be polished, poised, and prepared.

9. Successful Women Never Say Quit

No matter how hard the investigation or how difficult the assignment, “quit” was the only four letter word I never heard in my 24 years in the FBI.

When you say “quit” or “can’t,” you are sacrificing ownership and control over your attitude and behavior. It shows you have created your own boundaries. When you say quit, you are sending a message about your fear of failure and a lack of grit in testing your limits.



By LaRae Quy

Feanah:
hehe he said it as it is , and your 'jealousy' point make sense too.
There's no reason to be jealous of someone actually.

Emeskhalifa:
10. A woman who wants to be a Successful woman shouldn't reject guyz on Nairaland.

Luckymay:
Being jealous is a harmless normal feeling. You should be talking about "envy'

mamajaz:
What oh holy jealousy?

komododragons:
and how many successful women do we have in naija if going by your list?

Lordkylie:
hmmn Nl guys that are supporting rape?You might fall into the wrong hands and people will tell you you got served.
Anyway nice article,i'm definitely storing this

Cathony:
"some NL guys"

olagift:
Please we have a lot of successful women in Nigeria. It is just that most times their success is being attributed to their husbands by the people e.g when you see a woman driving a car, the first thing that comes to the mind of those that see her is that it is a man or the husband that owns or buy it. That is just one out of uncountable examples. On the other hand some husband does not want their woman talking about her success because it makes him feel inferior. Moreso some women doesn't like talking about it because it makes their husbands look inferior to them. Talking from experience.

Feanah:
Not really sister...If you check the definition of jealousy,it always has the words :'unhappy', 'painful' or 'angry' describing it;and envy is actually a synonym of jealousy.
Moreover , it leads to comparison and competition.You keep comparing your life to the other person's and shunning your own blessings.

Lordkylie:
hmmn Nl guys that are supporting rape?You might fall into the wrong hands and people will tell you you got served.
Anyway nice article,i'm definitely storing this

Emeskhalifa:
10. A woman who wants to be a Successful woman shouldn't reject guyz on Nairaland.

pheyimen:
bros seems women dn turn u 2 gtbank in ur 1st life?

Feanah:
Sister which one be holy jealousy again?

emrain:
Nice one op.

komododragons:
from experience women don't talk about there success but brag about it and make their man feel inferior by bragging. I have seen a whole lot of successful women whose there husband later leave them because of there attitude and bragging.

more over, successful women don't come out talking about it but with there action you shall know them.