freecocoa:
You gotta be kidding me.

Why would I be kidding?
Marriage is a life time commitment and there's no price for early marriage.

OlajumokeBread:
Why wouldn't she dump you when you act and think like a 5 year old kid ??

If she wants to dump you, that's fine, did you two sign a contract that you must marry her ?? Married couple who were married for 40 years do get divorced and move on with their lives and you're here crying about a girl you don't even know her her parents

What are you gonna do about it ?? Go to your room, cry about it, eat some ice cream and watch cartoons

You are the reason why some women do this nonsense shiit to some men because you're soft and emotional


Why would a man be financially stable before he can marry ??

Why can women be financially stable and marry those financially unstable guys ??

Let me tell you the naked truth, she doesn't love you and this is how God wanted it to happen, you will remember about this incident in the next 20 years from now and just laugh


Stop crying like a little girl and man up

I pity any girl that would dump me or think that she broke my heart because i don't give a flying and running fucck

There are millions of good girls out there you can marry and avoid unnecessary trouble

Men can get any girl in the world

Beyonce married Jay Z
Nicki Minaj is dating Meek Mill
Nick Canon married Mariah Carey


You can marry any girl you want

Brother, ko le toh yen now

This is very easy. Marry her or let her go. Marry her if you can't live without her or let her go if you can live without her. She must really love you to wanna do this even with your small income...

She no come count bridge for Lagos biko

OlajumokeBread:
Why wouldn't she dump you when you act and think like a 5 year old kid ??

If she wants to dump you, that's fine, did you two sign a contract that you must marry her ?? Married couple who were married for 40 years do get divorced and move on with their lives and you're here crying about a girl you don't even know her her parents

What are you gonna do about it ?? Go to your room, cry about it, eat some ice cream and watch cartoons

You are the reason why some women do this nonsense shiit to some men because you're soft and emotional


Why would a man be financially stable before he can marry ??

Why can women be financially stable and marry those financially unstable guys ??

Let me tell you the naked truth, she doesn't love you and this is how God wanted it to happen, you will remember about this incident in the next 20 years from now and just laugh


Stop crying like a little girl and man up

I pity any girl that would dump me or think that she broke my heart because i don't give a flying and running fucck

There are millions of good girls out there you can marry and avoid unnecessary trouble

Men can get any girl in the world

Beyonce married Jay Z
Nicki Minaj is dating Meek Mill
Nick Canon married Mariah Carey


You can marry any girl you want

Bro,
I no see any Naija couple for all d names you mentioned up there fa.....,
Besides,all those foreign celebrities get money ooooo,
And like bro Blackboot dey talk here,
"Owonikoko"
He never see alert na.....
It is well o.....

daewoorazer:
If you dare marry her and she starts feeding you.. While it must last for a while, it means

1. You are a pu. Ssy
2. She must use am abuse you someday
3. She can only do it for d tym being... She will get tired soon and perhaps start...... Fill. In. D. Gap


This is a voice from d street... #streetAdvice

OP listen to this advice, I no fit wish you bad...

My advice here is a two way side. It's not easy for her to hold on because age is not on her side and you not ready to face the financial responsibility. If she live in search for a man that is ready..she can not predict along it might take her..may b 1yrs or 2yrs or even 3yrs more years and she can be lucky to find the right man in 6months or less....And in your own case, it like you aren't ready to take marriage responsibility due to your financial status, you might be lucky to marry her and things turn around for better and you might not be the other way....just try and take a deep thought about it. I believe it something you both can trash within yourselves.

These are some salient questions you should ask yourself to enable you make an informed decision;

Is she the one? (Can you live with or without her?)
Is your income presently an issue in the relationship?
What are your plans to secure a better job?
Do you see yourself getting a better job any time soon?
Is age a barrier in your relationship? (Seems she's a bit older)
How much pressure is she putting on you for marriage?
How long do you think she can wait for you to get your ish together?
If she was your sister, will you ask her to wait?

Honestly I think you're an anchor to her relation-ship goals. Let her go if you're not ready. Or man up and start making plans to do the needful.

Olufunmi0806:
Egbon, if your income is not enough I'll advise you allow her go and wait for your own woman. My take home b4 wedding was just 10k per month, my wife to be then, was doing well in her trade. She promised to forget about my own 10k, that she was ready to take care of the home pending the time a better offer comes. She pressured me till I had my hand in marriage, though a week to my wedding I got another job for 45k. I must confess, even with that 45k I almost regret getting married. The truth is this, they are ready to endure any situation to achieve their aims, once they secure it, they are different creatures entirely. Dis is a true and even recent testimony. Take your stand bro and allow her to leave if she wishes. To be a responsible husband is not a mere play.

YOU SEE? ANOTHER GOOD ADVICE

Emasel:


The guy is just dulling!

I am telling you bro.. I use tell people, our parents started from somewhere and it was never easy..

He finds a good partner finds a good thing..

I believe he is more worried now than before..

Why do you think you can be rich in this recession? You think sey to get job na moi moi? Shebi her own job would not promote her? The more she turn professional, the more you become a mediocre/small fry in her eyes. How you wan tey earn reach her?

If you wan marry, marry, If you nor wan marry, go joor.

How is she your fiance? Or do you mean girlfriend? ..if she dumps you so what. .probably that's why you are still earning N 30k. ..you are still doing love while you mates are hustling

blackboot:
Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

Your gf believes in you and see a bright future between you two , she wants to stay with you even with your current income , but sadly you don't believe in yourself..
Hian...

God ahead with your marriage plans, God will open a way for you. since she's has made up her mind for you.. 30k can never be a barrier. No marriage is perfect but with proper understanding it will be fine..

steppin:
Let her go. The marriage won't even work anyway.
Without money, a young marriage is just a time bomb waiting to explode.

This advice too, OP reason am. I be your brother I no fit lie give you. I know say the love don cover ya eye, but the fact remains that anything worth doing is worth doing well. Think with your head, not your heart.

The job of your heart is to pump blood. Shikena.

Blessedward:
please assume you are the lady..will u b able wait that long at 29 when suitors are trooping in??
she has told u she will remain with u regardless of ur income becos she loves and believes in u but it seems u want to personally oversee the wrecking of the ship u are boarded...if u are destined to be rich u can't evade that as long as u remain faithful to her.

help me tell him oooo

Yieldings:
You say you're not financially-stable and thus, not ready for marriage. That's your intuition speaking. Never ignore your intuition. She might be saying you will manage your income together when you get married, but that might change when you do get married and more financial responsibilities or obligations arise. Finances are always a huge cause of marital issues.

As a man, you should get married when you know you're ready, not when your girlfriend or anyone is pressuring you to marry her.

She says she can't wait for you anymore, then let her go.



T

this post is super sensible, am a girl and will advice u to let her go. She's still telling u all these we can manage because u guys have not gotten there, wait till d bills start coming that's when u will realize how she can change overnight. Let her go, dont be pressured into wat ur not ready for she's not urs let her go, and believe God for urs

SALARY....
The poorest group of people in the world are Salary earners. They live in a vicious cycle of poverty. Salary is continuously being awaited every month and any slight delay brings about heartbreaking anxiety and disappointment.

Salary alone cannot solve your money problems. You need a Secondary Source of income to balance.

Salary is the MEDICINE for managing POVERTY, it doesn't CURE it. Only your BUSINESS or INVESTMENT Cures Poverty

I therefore urge our youths who scavenge for white collar jobs for Salary to be FINANCIALLY INTELLIGENT and delve into entrepreneurship because Salary is a lifetime disappointment!

leveljames:
Bro, my cousin sister got married to her man wen d guy has nothing, not even a gud job n both of dem are graduates. dey have one kid now n pregnant for d second child. so just think of it very well weda to leave her to marry a rich dude or better still, stick wit her forever since she admits she loves u and she wil manage wit u.

"my cousin sister got married when they had nothing"Enough of all these Cinderella stories abeg.IN CASE YOU DON'T KNOW NIGERIA IS NOT WHAT IT WAS 24HRS AGO THINK ABOUT IT.

youngest85:
Person go deh worry hmsef coz of kpekus weh full everywhr.......

Bruhh u wicked

blessoyeboy:
help me tell him oooo

thanks bruv..I just told him

Olasco93:
For the lady to have said all these things means she loves you. You're just being afraid of the future which means you don't even believe in yourself. You're a man and don't act like a woman. Before I forget Marriage come with blessings if you believe it, you can pertake of it.
#Don't loose what you have in your palm, you might not meet her type anymore till rapture. A word is enough for the wise...

@bolded,

Are you saying there are not many lovely women out there?

go ahead n wife her bro beta dayz ar ahead jst wrk hard to change job! older ladies ar more understandin. if d love n respect is deeer jst do d needed

blackboot:
Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

Brother, how many years more will u continue surviving with your #30000 as u wait for that posh job u dream of ? 3 years after NYSC u earn #360000 each per year.
Why not take a break and find a way to get a bus and attach yourself with a transport company for now. The income u are going to generate from the business will be far better than what u are currently earning.
Consider trips like Abuja to Owerri , Abuja to Benin, Abuja to Lagos , Benin to Owerri, Lagos to PH, Enugu to Lagos depending on your location.

op dont let anyone rush u into marriage unless u want to rush out of it. she says she loves you, yet she has the intention to leave you for another man jst because u are not ready. what kind of love is that? i dont think that kind of love can stand the test of time. any lady who doesnt believe in you doesnt deserve u @blackboot.

hadura29:


Bro you dey dull yourself, you see committed person wey ready settle down with your salary and hers join together you are not even happy.

Court Na 25k to 30k. Una don wed. Every other ceremony, Na una wan feed people. Iyawo won lode ooooo.. use your head bro.. God bless..

In some cultures, the traditional ceremony is the main thing that the family recognizes. After all that's where the bride price is paid. You gast to spend somehow somehow. Who court EPP in such a situation?

Anything worth doing is worth doing well biko.

maxwell60:
so you mean everyone should follow your lifestyle righ? Marrying poor and later hoping to get more? You are confused IS ONLY A FOOL THAT WILL GET MARRIED WHEN HE HAS NOTHING BECAUSE MARRIAGE IS NOT AN ACHIEVEMENT IT IS JUST A NECESSITY THAT IS NOT COMPULSORY..PLZ NEXT TIME STOP ADVISING PEOPLE TO MARRY WHEN THEY DON'T HAVE NOTHING BECAUSE MONEY WILL NOT FALL FROM HEAVEN BECAUSE YOU ARE MARRIED, AND MARRIAGE, DON'T GIVE ANYBODY MONEY.

Bros take am easy nah, what if they had fixed the wedding date before he lost his job, should he call it off, definitely will go ahead, since he's not lazy, things will be fine.

Op has Job, he's only saying it's won't be enough to take care of the family, which I think it's only a real man that takes that into consideration, some Men don't give a Bleep. Thank God the fiancee is working, if she can support the family, fine, if not then I will say the Op should let her go. Cause Marriage no be moinmoin o. Bills will shoot up o, she might want to complain. Better still make op pray o. Nothing pass prayer.

If she has a good paying job and desperately wants to settle down, then let her support you or sponsor the wedding nah..of she can't do that and you can't afford to settle down then chances are she'll leave your sorry ass as soon as she finds a guy with better income.

blackboot:
Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

The real issue here is not you or your job.It is her.

If from your own estimation she is the kind of woman who will still respect you and besubject to you.in spite of earning more than you then proceed with marriage immediately.

If she is a pro nagger, you should stall for a little time while you come up with plan for a good business that will help your earn better.Afterwards,proceed to marriage,then use her financial assistance to start the business before the pro-naggin starts.

If you are a christian pray and ask got to guide you concering the issue,then follow his guidance.

Mr. Oga, Yoruba adage says; ti oba ko iwaju sie ki ota, ti oba ko eyin sie ki ota , ti oba ku iwo nikan ki otun ero arare pa......

Many people will come here to tell you about their uncle's sister's younger aunty that got married with #2 as salary and that today they are living in Lekki. They'll tell you stories about couples who were jobless but got a mouth watering job immediately after wedding. But they won't tell you about the countless number of marriages that have broken because the man couldn't provide for his family. They won't tell you about men that have committed suicide due to the humiliation that followed their inability to provide for their wife.

If your fiancy is so bothered about her age and threatens to leave you, I can deduce the following from her character;

1. If after marriage you don't get a job she'll also get tired of feeding you.
2. If after wedding, her marriage isn't the type she sees in nollywood movie due to ur inability to provide money she'll be tired.
3. If after wedding you are still on God will do it, the friends that are advising her to leave you today would still tell her to think about her life.

I am not sayin love does not conquer all situation, I am not saying it is not possible for God to bless you beyond measure after wedding but the truth is .....ignoring reality of the moment is an invitation to regret and humiliation of the future.....

I'll end this with the best quote I av seen ....."if you love something, set it free. If it's yours, it will come back. If it doesn't , it never was"

lol

My cousin's salary was like 1/4 of his wife's when they married (and lived with his wife for a while with his roomie before getting there own apartment),you will never know,after about five years before his salary started measuring up,

thank God you have something doing at all,look to excel but if you find that one person,that special one willing to go "through the wire" with you,wife her and see her success as a challenge every morning that you should do better and see how successful you will be.

Evaluate her and pray about it,then WIFE THAT BAE

waywardpikin:


In some cultures, the traditional ceremony is the main thing that the family recognizes. After all that's where the bride price is paid. You gast to spend somehow somehow. Who court EPP in such a situation?

Anything worth doing is worth doing well biko.

Bros I tend to agree with you, but these days, them dey prize marriage ooo, and it all depends on the bride's father though and the relationship the bride has with her dad. Is something they can work out if she truly loves him though..

If not, make she go and he should move on with his life.. like others has been saying women plenty for street..