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eezeribe:
What else is the function of a wife...
A man provides for everything in the home, some even pay salary to their wife, some wives even find it difficult to wash their husband's clothes.Some husbands even settle for dry cleaners or buy washing machine for their wife(which would also be of benefit to her).
Most husbands leave for work on empty stomach and come back late to meet cold food which has been grudgingly served by the wife or in most cases... The maid
Marriage is a woman's Asset and a Man's Liability
After paying so much as bride price and bearing the cost of the wedding which she made more expensive... At least the least he can get is a good food at home.No wonder the divorce rate keeps going up and Many single and Eligible people don't want marriage commitment.

WHAT DO HUSBANDS EVEN GAIN FROM WIVES

SirShymexx:
Lol, the simps on this forum and the uncanny way they pander to women reeks of desperation and a way to mask the fact that they aren't getting no play in the real world. And the internet is the last bastion for that. These nyggahs are frauds, yo.

If you're a woman and you can't cook - you need to slap yourself for being a failure in life. That is the most basic thing a woman needs to learn how to do. It isn't even for the man - it's the economics and being able to provide well cooked meals for your kids. If you can't cook, then your ability to be a good mother, is also questionable.

No amount of simp pandering in desperation by frauds can change that. Learn how to cook.

eezeribe:
What else is the function of a wife...
A man provides for everything in the home, some even pay salary to their wife, some wives even find it difficult to wash their husband's clothes.Some husbands even settle for dry cleaners or buy washing machine for their wife(which would also be of benefit to her).
Most husbands leave for work on empty stomach and come back late to meet cold food which has been grudgingly served by the wife or in most cases... The maid
Marriage is a woman's Asset and a Man's Liability
After paying so much as bride price and bearing the cost of the wedding which she made more expensive... At least the least he can get is a good food at home.No wonder the divorce rate keeps going up and Many single and Eligible people don't want marriage commitment.
If Not for Religion, person like me for dey marry and discard any misfit of a wife Annually.

WHAT DO HUSBANDS EVEN GAIN FROM WIVES

everyone is free to voice their opinion. I have just said my opinion like the Op has said his. If you are pained by my comment, Remember there are over 1000 ways to die...CHOOSE ONE

eezeribe:
What else is the function of a wife...
A man provides for everything in the home, some even pay salary to their wife, some wives even find it difficult to wash their husband's clothes.Some husbands even settle for dry cleaners or buy washing machine for their wife(which would also be of benefit to her).
Most husbands leave for work on empty stomach and come back late to meet cold food which has been grudgingly served by the wife or in most cases... The maid
Marriage is a woman's Asset and a Man's Liability
After paying so much as bride price and bearing the cost of the wedding which she made more expensive... At least the least he can get is a good food at home.No wonder the divorce rate keeps going up and Many single and Eligible people don't want marriage commitment.
If Not for Religion, person like me for overtake King Solomon.

WHAT DO HUSBANDS EVEN GAIN FROM WIVES

babythug:
I feel men in Nigeria and Africa as a whole are inhibited by their mindsets and culture as against being practical!

There have been many occasions where I could be caught up in traffic till late and hubby has returned home early but he won't start dinner or even feed himself because "his wife should do the cooking"

Where of course it's more practical for the men to cook they still won't! Funny thing is African men who live in the diaspora embrace this your school of thought far better than those residing in Africa!!!!

Christane:
I prefer Bad cook bt good in bed.. Bt good cook with a good heart nd good in bed is a blessing 4rm God himself.

TheArchangel:
These are the functions of a maid/ house help.
God created women to be a companion to men.

Empredboy:
For the past 5 years that i have been married and still counting i will say 3 things is what will make a woman GOOD
(1) she must be a good cook
(2) she must be good in bed
(3) she must be submissive and respectful to people.
Any lady who have it is lucky and any man who finds such woman is the luckiest of all.

profmallory:
men go to war when one arises, provide for the family and even when we boil inside society does permit us to display it. So is it too much to ask to have a wife that can cook good food, why is this our generation so disillusioned with this "free life style attidude" and its not an 'African thing', most women across the globe cook for their families.

babythug:
I feel men in Nigeria and Africa as a whole are inhibited by their mindsets and culture as against being practical!

There have been many occasions where I could be caught up in traffic till late and hubby has returned home early but he won't start dinner or even feed himself because "his wife should do the cooking"

Where of course it's more practical for the men to cook they still won't! Funny thing is African men who live in the diaspora embrace this your school of thought far better than those residing in Africa!!!!

DarkRebel101:
With the exemption of Christ who fasted for forty days and forty nights, what man and what woman can do without food? The answer to that is as plain as a pikestaff. No man, no woman, no earthenware vessel under the sun can do without food.

It's an established fact that feeding is a basic necessity for human survival; why then would one shortchange him-herself by not learning this simple yet vital life skill which is almost as essential as the very air we breathe?—the skill of cooking that is.

Why do men believe the process of nourishing themselves is effeminate and a task so inferior that it must be exclusively reserved for the office of womanhood? Isn't that a rather obtuse way of looking at it?

Why are husbands who lend helping hands to their wives in the kitchen said to be henpecked and of the sissy variety? Is the raiment of masculinity to be shorn of tenderness and the capacity for love and care?

Why are our sons dissuaded from being with their mothers in the kitchen where they might pick up these crucial culinary skills? Why do we believe it's mandatory that our daughters be immersed in the art of cookery, but that it isn't necessary for our sons to be?
Are we implicitly stating that our daughters are worthy of knowing how to go about in feeding themselves, but that our sons aren't?

Don't we think it's unwise if one is incapable of slaking his-her hunger unless he-she is to rely on the efforts of others? Isn't that akin to having to urinate with another person's gënitals?

Why is it customary that all women should know how to cook but not all men? Is it that they cook better? – surely that cannot be true -- after all, many of the top chefs in the world are males.

Can we say women have a heightened sense of taste and smell which enables them to cook better than men? Is it that they were born with cooking genes which makes them immanently adept at knowing just how much salt, and how much curry, and how much grinded pepper would suffice in making that pot of stew capable of exciting even the most apathetic taste buds? Surely that is not the case as well.

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The purpose of this piece is to upend the notion that bad cooks make bad wives, and to encourage men to put on those dazzling aprons and learn how to cook—even if it's only the staple delicacies of the climes in which they are domiciled.

We – men – would realise just how numerous the benefits of knowing how to cook are when we give it some thought.

Think of it, if you happen to have just had a huge quarrel with your wife and you know how to cook, you wouldn't have to wait until she comes around before you regale yourself with a nice meal.
Knowing how to cook would also reduce the workload for your wife and anneal the emotional connection betwixt the twain of you, and believe me you when I say your wife would greatly appreciate your contributions and adore you the more.

For the bachelors inept in cooking, do you mean to say that you would live solely on junk food and continue to patronise eateries and ‘Mama Put’ until you decide to take the plunge? Not only is this unhealthy, it's also a major economic misfiring.

This – cooking – is also a skill that could generate lots of income if mastered to an expert degree. There's never a time or season when Caterers and Cooks never flourish – especially in a party-loving, owambe-ridden country such as ours where each week is characterised by the efflux of wedding parties, birthday parties, naming ceremonies, school parties, office parties, etcetera. Why deprive yourself of something which promises such prolific dividends?

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I'm sure some people must have asked us this about our bride-to-be: ‘Can she cook?’. We must have also heard statements like: ‘A woman had better know how to cook, otherwise she would lose her husband to other women’.

Are men now such ‘self-controless’ and debauched beasts that mere food would drive them to infidelity?

[...]

Being the curious philosopher and true-blue adherent of Cartesian skepticism that I am, one of my life's purposes has always been to scrutinize social mores and practices of dubious provenance which we've embraced without questioning, and also in unearthing the reeking worms of falsehood that have bored their slimy selves into the tapestry of our lives—lives which our arbitrary, man-made cultural precepts and conventions have made even more difficult than they are supposed to be. It is for this reason, doubled up with an innate cynicism, that I decided to reevaluate society's stance on the topic of cooking—the pulse-beat of domesticity.

And it was during one of my brooding sessions that I segued into an oasis of inward calmness and clarity of mind which led me to the pearly gates of this interestingly revealing epiphany:

“Before the early men accidentally dropped meat into fire and figured it smelt and tasted better than the raw meat which they ate hitherto -- before that inadventent discovery, the burden of cooking never rested on the shoulders of women. Women were never relied upon for feeding.”

It was in that Eureka moment I realized that women aren't naturally disposed to cooking, they were only socially-engineered to see it as a task requisite to being a valid member of the female gender. In other words, society conditioned women to see the art of cooking as one of the cardinal gender roles which they must embrace.

Now that we know women are not born with cooking genes, men should never use a woman's cooking skills as a yardstick when wife-hunting. Cooking skills should never be used as parameters in judging a woman's personality or character. A man that cannot cook is just as guilty as a woman that cannot.

Now that we know women have no cooking genes, parents should ensure that both their sons and daughters learn how to cook while they are still young and tender. Our sons should not be handled with a free-wheeling hand in this regard.

Now that we know women have no cooking genes, no husband should expect his wife who has returned home after a long day, and who has been treated to the numbing biffs of lassitude, to waddle her way into the kitchen and conjure up a meal in that rest-deprived state. Why couldn't he have fixed himself a plate? Because he didn't know how to cook? What's stopping him from learning?

Now that we know women have no cooking genes, a woman who knows how to cook but doesn't like cooking should not be subjected to derision and name-calling—feminist devil, liberal witch, left-winged Jezebel, Betrayer of the African tradition, etcetera. A woman who knows how to cook but doesn't enjoy it is no different from the man who knows how to cook but shirks from doing so because he derives no pleasure from it.

I cook fairly well too – thanks to my loving grandmother – but were it optional, I'd rather choose not to cook—the heat, the tardiness of the process, the steam, the almost-neurotic stirring and tasting of soup...All these are why I never like to cook except on special occasions. So you should understand why some women, though are excellent cooks, are not smitten in the least by the idea of cooking.

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The ideal thing, especially in this fast-paced, digitalized age where the percentage of housewives dwindles by the minute, is for men to dispose of the notions inherited from our forbears, to let go of the vestiges of the remote and irrelevant past, and to make bold tectonic shifts toward a more progressive and bespoke mind-set—a mind-set specifically tailored for this era, a mind-set which sees clearly the inanity in what society has beguiled us into believing for centuries – the inanity in the belief that cooking is out-and-out a woman's job and that a man need not know how to cook.

[...]

Who says a woman cannot cook from Monday to Friday while her husband takes care of the cooking during the weekends? See? -- now that's what we call a cohesive and tandem partnership.


Happy cooking...

SirShymexx:
Lol, the simps on this forum and the uncanny way they pander to women reeks of desperation and a way to mask the fact that they aren't getting no play in the real world. And the internet is the last bastion for that. These nyggahs are frauds, yo.

If you're a woman and you can't cook - you need to slap yourself for being a failure in life. That is the most basic thing a woman needs to learn how to do. It isn't even for the man - it's the economics and being able to provide well cooked meals for your kids. If you can't cook, then your ability to be a good mother, is also questionable.

No amount of simp pandering in desperation by frauds can change that. Learn how to cook.

freecocoa:
I think I agree with you on her ability to be a good mum being in question, if she can't cook, then again, every teenager should know how to cook, let alone adults.

daygee12:
Dont tag it as African mindset, i had dis discussion with an italian colleague yesterday, he said he respects ladies dat can cook dat he can never marry a girl dat cant cook. He said he was upset wen he(italian) visited his friend and finds out dat his friend's girlfriend doesnt want to cook. this is not African mindset only indians and Arab countries respect ladies dat can cook.

Pidgin2:
Who wrote the African laws? And if women were not included or our views not sort after why should we abide by these rules

TheArchangel:
These are the functions of a maid/ house help.
God created women to be a companion to men.

omonnakoda:
Men are better cooks anyway and it is just a form of federal character in the home that makes us cede this function to women.iF you think about itA man invented moinmoin,suya, dodo,Edikaikong and so on

Mindfulness:
And the greatest chefs all around the world are male by the way.