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Nigeria where being gay will get you 14years in prison but a Randy lecturer get a slap on the wrist for sexual assault.(misplaced priorities)

EduRegard:
“In order to escape accountability for his crimes, the perpetrator does anything in his power to promote forgetting. If secrecy fail the perpetrator attacks the credibility of his victim. If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries to make sure no one listens.” - Judith Lewis Herman.

“I lost my virginity to my lecturer! I was just 22years old and he was a 40years old recently honored professor. Number of times he called me to his office are too many to remember, Number of times he sexually abused me still haunts me. I was able to report the assault to the school management and no disciplinary actions was taken against him. Since then, I have been so disgusted with myself.” - Anonymous.

The official campus statistics on sexual violence as posted by a social scientist, JENNIFER J. FREYD shows that approximately 1 in 5 females experiences sexual violence in higher institutions. The reports from lecturers across universities in Nigeria on rape, sexual assault on female students rises, it was recorded that it rose by almost 50 percent in 2015.

Sexual misconduct maybe a violation of the state criminal law and of higher institution policies. Sexual misconduct is a broad term and by definition means any sexual act, unwanted sexual comments or advances that is committed without consent or by force, intimidation, coercion or manipulation regardless of the relationship between the perpetrator and victim. It can be committed by a person of any gender, strangers or acquaintances including people involved in an intimate or sexual relationship.

Consequently, one can define SEXUAL MANIPULATION as the usage of psychological influences, coercion and also physical/superior influences over a person to engage in sexual activities which includes sexual glances, touching and making sensitive comments which is against a person’s will. A sexual manipulator is an individual who perfectly and gently manipulates and coordinates the situation and the feelings of people to get a sexual satisfaction of any kind.

Sexual manipulation in higher institution occurs mainly between lecturers and students, especially male lecturers and female students. Lecturers generally are seen as life motivators, mentors, heroes, parents and most especially leaders who thrive not to teach only but to make influences on students, while some lectures remains a good role models others choose to take advantages instead.

Male lecturers with sexual manipulative minds manipulate female students to engage in sexual activities for some educational benefits or political posts and make threats that rejecting such offer will carry deadly consequences on the victim’s education and safety on campus. Most of the times, the victims are denied of good educational performances and are made uncomfortable for educational activities. Female students sometimes are not left out of the blame, there are recorded cases of female going to lecturers to ask for grades and offer sex in return. They use their feminine tricks, make sexual advances and dress provocatively to seduce male lecturers; where some lectures may decline, others will gladly accept such offer.

Lecturers with sexual manipulative minds are very good at their games and are so confident that they do all their misconducts in such a way that the victim might not be able to say that it is their complete fault. They seduce, tame, give subtle compliments, play dirty little games, and when they notice that their victim is suspicious, they tend to create all sorts of explanations, make excuses and at worst cases intimidate and make deadly threats like failure thereby shutting the mouth of the victim. Sexual manipulators generally are sometimes addicts, aggressive and do not concern themselves with law/legality, they are totally blind and act blindly to the consequences of their misconducts.

They have no concern for the best interests of their victims and tend to be pushed by their sexual disposition to do things impulsively, sexual manipulators (lecturers in this case) are not so hard to identify, one just need to pay attention, they are generally dominating individuals, eloquent smooth talkers, smart, deceptive, and are very good at unnecessary compliments. They are very fast at finding peoples weak/soft spot and deceitfully use it for their manipulations.

The persistence of sexual manipulation in higher institution is alarming. Sexual manipulation remains a sensitive topic that is difficult to deal with because it is often not reported. Victims of sexual manipulation may not report it, they are often reticent about making official reports and most times when they do, they face the danger of suffering negative reactions, victimizations, psychological imbalances, embarrassments and existential questions such as “WHY ME”? Subsequently, colleges and universities have an important way of discouraging sexually victimized students from reporting assaults to prevent the reputation of the institution and that of the perpetrator from being soiled.

They try as much as possible to invalidate, punish and even shame the victims thereby making the sexual act go unreported. Many a time, they conspire with societal forces to cover up the sexual violence. Victims of sexual manipulation needs a trustworthy confidant and if they do not feel they can safely report, the assaults will go unchecked and as a result cause additional harm to them.

Escaping sexual manipulation is not so hard but victims of sexual manipulations should know that outsmarting a manipulator is not easy. Female students who are already in a wrong sexual relationship should try as much as possible to stay away from the manipulator, seek help, confide in a trusted friend or superior and be blunt to the negative reactions that might follow as a result if they are already experiencing intimidations and threats. Relating with an expert in the field of sexual violence is also advisable.

There is no denying the fact that female students sometimes are the seductress, they should therefore be mindful of their mode of dressings and relationships with male lectures. Most importantly government should establish a separate court for female sexual assault where this violence can be closely addressed. There should be provision for sex psychologists on campuses to handle the case of traumatized victims. The management body of colleges and university should establish a disciplinary committee to bring any lecture found wanting to justice and to forbid any form of intimacy between male lectures and female students.

Again, government should punish colleges and universities who tries to prevent the report of any sexual assault because if there are strong regulations to which citizens will adhere to, which will serve as guardian through sexual violence, sexual violence perpetrator will greatly reduce. Consequently, if victims feel safe to enough to make reports, I believe sexual manipulations would be curbed and then we can have a better society free from traumatized students and sex addict lectures.

Conclusively, Sexual misconducts whether with the same or opposite sex remains a major problem in large part of the world, this violence brings with it some long-term consequences both socially and psychiatrically. It is a grievous crime and it calls for urgent attention from all segments of the society. This issue of sexual violence which includes manipulation has been ignored until now, ignoring it further will not be acceptable. It therefore becomes crucial to acknowledge that it is a grievous crime that needs to be addressed.

SOURCE : http://eduregard.com.ng/male-lecturers-female-students-sexual-manipulations-escape-routes-olabimpe-samaih/

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In university of Witwatersrand South Africa, a male lecturer was dismissed for this same act of sexual harassment no be say him fork the girls o. I wonder if Nigerian universities can ever dismiss a lecturer on that note ...SMH

fredoricko:
A time you did what??

Izit your Leaded ?

I blame the ladies. They visit the lectures with skimpy dress.

Lecturer and student

Some people HOD own worse sha! *i no call name oo*

Randy100:
I blame the ladies. They visit the lectures with skimpy dress.

guy forget that thing... The lecturers are pure he-goats

sweetboiy:
guy forget that thing... The lecturers are pure he-goats

The serious one's has no business with lecturers.

nice write up...... quite informative unlike MMM and ponzi news making FP.
pls help bring more beneficial info onto FP.
lest I forget, sometimes, I begin to wonder what the position of nairaland admin is in the fight against ponzi.



NL admin, pls.......pls stop confusing us........just come clean.

The day a lecturer will try to sexually exploit my daughter is the day I'll gut someone out live....but ladies have to be decent too and study for their grades

Barristers Obumneme Okafor and Nwabueze Ugwu amongst others from the Enugu State University of Science and Technology come to mind.

Mznaett:
Hmm

It seems u've something to say

Speak up

See example here: https://www.nairaland.com/3617624/kogi-sociology-lecturer-beats-girlfriend#53527449

OP, it takes two to tangle. I know of some vivid examples where lecturers have been sexually harassed by female students and at that point, it takes the grace of God to escape.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
most of these ladies are sometimes the cause, they see these lecturers as small gods, and VIPs compared to their fellow male students.

i know what am saying, in their mind because this lecturer has power and ofcourse wisdom at that moment, in their mid they wish the man can whisk them away and enter into them. that is the reality. they just cant help themselves, if you wanna confirm, observe the way they are crazy about Ramsey** and Desmon** you will understand


why would these girls dress seductively to see their lecturers in the first place,

U are very right, the way these girls dress at times to school and to see lectures is very tempting and sexually intimidating. so what do u expect. The both parties contributes to sexual assault not just one sided.....

As a young lecturer, I can tell you authoritatively that ladies of this generation are morally corrupt. They harass LECTURERS as well.

pedrilo:
As a young lecturer, I can tell you authoritatively that ladies of this generation are morally corrupt. They harass LECTURERS as well.

where do you lecture?

this is the zoo for u

it just that some people go on like it is a norm

the country is pure evil

Movingcoil:
From my experience in the academia, when you've got noting to offer, I mean when you have no intellectual bargaining power then as a female you know the next thing na. The lecturers who are involved in all these illicit sexual escapades are hollow minded, they are the ones who get sorted by male students since they don't have punnina but insist to sleep with the female folk. If a lady knows her rights, does the right thing by writing her exams well then I don't think all these randy lecturers will have any excuse to say nonsense to you. My sister wanted to go into acting because she had passion and flair for it, I sat her down and made her know that if she just wanders into that lane without being equipped sufficiently that all these morally dead stinking producers and directors with no dignity with use her punnani for field day, she listened and now by Gods grace she is doing her dream course of film studies in unn. Even I personally is having the same issue, one of my lecturers rushed to collect one of our courses to teach but never in any day entered class to teach, what is his aim, h knows most people who do masters here are already in jobs and just need to certificate for the certificate case, what they forgot is that some of us fresh graduates who are doing it want to further our studies, these lecturer just wants us to fail then to come and sort, even though I wasn't understanding the mathematical part of the course, but I did well in the theory side and can't pay a dime to buy marks , the saying that if you can't beat them that you join them is what I hate because I can't behave like others.
What am saying is that these lecturers will take advantage of you when you've got noting to offer simple and when you make yourself cheap to them.

forget lecturer way want Bleep u go Bleep u

frenchwine:
The article is apt and largely true. However did the author take the pain to find out what percent of student-lecturer sexcapades were student initiated or following from student seductions?
Truth is that lecturers would after the first exams,look at the ladies struggling academically. These ones are easy prey.
They would also more often than not approach ladies who leave nothing to the imagination with their dressing.
Many of these ladies even seek out the lecturers for 's-explanations' or 'help'.
Sexual harassment in whatever form is condemnable but it takes two to fvck.
Ladies should ffs sit their sorry arses down and study hard. This would reduce to a great extent, sexual harassment by lecturers.
My 2Kobo

I don't think you're in the right position to make such comments about issues like this, since its probably obvious that you've never had first hand experience regarding thus issue.
I have heard and experienced first hand a situation where you're dressed in your most decent attire to a lecturers office in order to submit an assignment, only for the lecturer to start hitting on you or making some sort of sexual advances towards you.
You also seem to forget that in a Tertiary institution there's no way you can totally avoid a lecturer's office.
Even the most brilliant students are not left out. Coz some lecturers can just knowingly fail you just to make sure they get what they want.
Our school system does not even make any genuine provisions for matters like this, so female students always run the risk of falling into some silly lectures trap.
So, please next time you want to make assumptions about things you know little or nothing about, do have a rethink!

ashewoboy:
where do you lecture?

The information you seek is not relevant for or related to the topic of discuss. Kindly use the Personal Message channel. Thanks.

fbtowner:
No b today.


This thing really affected me and my friends in my days in uni


only for us to find out that it's the lecturers girlfriend in our class that marks our exam script and also record CA for us

this was just a tip of the eyeball

in my dept u dear not call for ur script only if you don't want to graduate and u would put all your course mate in trouble too


there was a time I lead a team to investigate why me and my friends failed a course. A particular lecturer warned us to drop it and accept faith but we didn't. Indeed it gave some of us extra

it's the major reason i give zero value to B.Sc expecially in my school.

we can see why you were in trouble!

BUHARImyDOG:
Somewhere,Someplace,right Now, my future wife is planning valentine with one idiot Father lord pls destroy their plans...

AMEN.

Toshiba49ja:
It seems u've something to say

Speak up

Actually,I've got so much to talk about... But permit me to

The Association of American Universities conducted a survey that asked about 150,000 students at 27 universities about their experiences with sexual assault and sexual misconduct in 2015. More than 20 percent of female undergraduates in American universities claimed to be victims of sexual assault and misconduct, I don`t want to believe it`s the same survey that desperate bloggers are presenting here as Nigeria`s

Mznaett:
Actually,I've got so much to talk about... But permit me to

With ol pleasure....

Fire on

seems like these gehs enjoy flaunting thier assets before the lecturers with pleasure

frenchwine:
The article is apt and largely true. However did the author take the pain to find out what percent of student-lecturer sexcapades were student initiated or following from student seductions?
Truth is that lecturers would after the first exams,look at the ladies struggling academically. These ones are easy prey.
They would also more often than not approach ladies who leave nothing to the imagination with their dressing.
Many of these ladies even seek out the lecturers for 's-explanations' or 'help'.
Sexual harassment in whatever form is condemnable but it takes two to fvck.
Ladies should ffs sit their sorry arses down and study hard. This would reduce to a great extent, sexual harassment by lecturers.
My 2Kobo

guy leave dat thing. You never hia wia prof wan fork alhaja in full hijab