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Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by Etizz: 9:49pm On May 05, 2017
Chukazu:
What he is saying is the gospel(bitter) truth but unfortunately our religious and crude mindset won't allow us reason with him
u are so so right, seriously, u read d whole body of his msg, its not like u will ignore your parent, but d word pension he used is OK......
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by tete7000(m): 9:50pm On May 05, 2017
Another mad one on the loose. Social media has given every rabid dog a voice.
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by KevinDein: 9:51pm On May 05, 2017
PaperLace:
I am sure people insulting him didn't read his write up_they read only the heading, but it's normal for Nairalanders grin.

Truth is bitter, very bitter...
He was a bit hard, went off at some point but he made some sense.

Modified: Before insulting, take your time to read the post without bias. Forget he is gay, sieve out his message_then comment. If you still don't get the message, then you need to walk in the shoes of some Nigerian first sons/daughters.

This set of people labour for years training their younger ones(that may number up to 4) and helping out their parents too. The guys most times would keep on struggling to please his family, pausing his own life. He might finally get married and start his own family in his mid-late 30s.
The ladies sometimes move on to get married, the innocent son-inlaw might end up carrying unnecessary expenses.

Everyone should make plans for his/her retirement. Don't be overly independent on your kids. Some kids will give, some might not even have to give, some will totally disappoint you...it happens.
It's clearly stated that if you have _give, but don't fall for emotional blackmails aimed at ripping you off. But then _the black man doesn't read.
I thought they said the female child take care of her parents more often than the male counterparthuh

The mindset of the first two female commenters in comparisonsl to the first few male commenters probably dispel that myth.
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by Nobody: 9:51pm On May 05, 2017
oga bisi, hope ur ass can still hold shit after all the you know....



anyways

Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by Nobody:
KevinDein:
I thought they said the female child take care of her parents more often than the male counterparthuh

The mindset of the first two female commenters in comparisonsl to the first few male commenters probably dispel that myth.
Don't play the gender card with me, I am way above that. There are guys that have agreed with him, you ignored them and jumped on my post.

If you have a sensible opinion, let's hear it. In the absence of that, read the post again_slowly and with understanding. wink
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by Acidosis(m): 9:56pm On May 05, 2017
Nigerians are too temperamental, backward, and archaic. A result of negative religious indoctrinations.


There's nothing wrong in taking care of the aged, but the joy of parenthood is to be able to cater for yourself by working out a survival and retirement plan. Frustrating the hell outta your kids shouldn't be anything any parent should wish for.

It is actually demonic and satanic for any parent to raise children for PENSION purposes.
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by EmmanuelCena(m): 9:56pm On May 05, 2017
xynerise:
Only a prodigal and cursed child will have this mentality.

So if your parents are suffering and you are financially buoyant, you will tell them this?
Did you read the write up at all?
If you did,then you didn't take time to assimilate what he said

In summary this Is what he said

"Parents should not totally rely on their kids to take care of them in their old age. They should have a back up plan."
"Whereas it is good to cater for your parents, do not let them get your mumu Button"


I hope you're clear now.
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by Malakh: 9:58pm On May 05, 2017
I would have loved to explain but the scriptures and letters says a parent should lay for their children,its backward for the child to take care of their parents, its not supposed to be so, i'll try to give examples lets look at our kings in the book all these kings left their inheritance for their children, if im to take care of my parents that means they didn't do what they were supposed to do in their youth, we are their responsibility and not vice versa wanna explain more but gast to enjoy the weekend
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by idris4eva(m): 10:00pm On May 05, 2017
Raalsalghul:
Not as if I don't plan to take care of my parents in their old age, but to an extent he's right.
bros you just say my mind finish
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by kolafolabi(m): 10:00pm On May 05, 2017
The guy white husband has really brainwashed him. What do you expect from a guy that married a guy? Nonsense and rubbish..
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by divinelove(m): 10:00pm On May 05, 2017
OfficialNNB:
Nigerian gay activist, Bisi Alimi, has written an epistle telling Nigerians that it is not their responsibility to take care of their parents, neither is it the right of their parents. According to him, a child owes his/her parent nothing, as he/she never begged them to have sex.

He went further to disclose that a child, is not an old age pension scheme. He went further to tell Nigerians not to succumb to emotional blackmail from their parents, or they will milk them dry.

Here's what he wrote;

"Nigerians, doomed financial vicious circle is when your parents brought you up so you can be their cow to milk, while you look forward to doing same to your children.
I understand that the system is bleeped, pension money is being embezzled by stupid greedy politicians, the same ones you worship and bow to, and there is no guarantee for old age, but Bleep, the system won't fix itself. If you don't resist, you will be consumed.


The idea that it is the responsibility of the struggling young to take care of the struggling old is a myth sold to you by the corrupt politicians who have stolen the resources of your commonwealth.


Remember, one rich man among 100 poor men will eventually end up being poor.
You only have two commitments in life; yourself and your children and that's until they are old enough to be kicked out of the house.

You do not, I repeat, you do not owe your parents any pay back unless you are still living with them, which means get the Bleep out or start paying rent and bills.

Remember, you didn't beg them to have sex, they wanted to have children, it's their choice, you should not be their old age pension scheme.
Only do it if you can and have the resources to, but even with that, know the limit or they will emotionally blackmail you and milk you dry."
What can one expect from a demonic gay dude

My parents have a strong right to everything I earn
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by JustCurious: 10:02pm On May 05, 2017
Awon alaini kan se loun so wi pe, 'this is absolutely correct'. Mschew!

(Those that feel bothered already are the ones supporting this motion). Smh.
Not every article is worth reading.
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by Acidosis(m): 10:03pm On May 05, 2017
We all curse Buhari today even at 73 for simply desiring to work for the good of the citizens.


That's a 73 year old man, still working and earning more than ALL his kids.

Meanwhile, at age 45, some African parents already want to retire to old peoples home or gossip around neighborhood to complain about the son or daughter that failed to send last month's PENSION duty.
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by ststyreal(f): 10:05pm On May 05, 2017
PaperLace:
I am sure people insulting him didn't read his write up_they read only the heading, but it's normal for Nairalanders grin.

Truth is bitter, very bitter...
He was a bit hard, went off at some point but he made some sense.

Modified: Before insulting, take your time to read the post without bias. Forget he is gay, sieve out his message_then comment. If you still don't get the message, then you need to walk in the shoes of some Nigerian first sons/daughters.

This set of people labour for years training their younger ones(that may number up to 4) and helping out their parents too. The guys most times would keep on struggling to please his family, pausing his own life. He might finally get married and start his own family in his mid-late 30s.
The ladies sometimes move on to get married, the innocent son-inlaw might end up carrying unnecessary expenses.

Everyone should make plans for his/her retirement. Don't be overly independent on your kids. Some kids will give, some might not even have to give, some will totally disappoint you...it happens.
It's clearly stated that if you have _give, but don't fall for emotional blackmails aimed at ripping you off. But then _the black man doesn't read.
For being gay alone, he is cursed! So I expect nothing good from him. It is my responsibility to take care of my parents and no theory on earth can change that for me.
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by xynerise: 10:07pm On May 05, 2017
EmmanuelCena:
Did you read the write up at all?
If you did,then you didn't take time to assimilate what he said

In summary this Is what he said

"Parents should not totally rely on their kids to take care of them in their old age. They should have a back up plan."
"Whereas it is good to cater for your parents, do not let them get your mumu Button"


I hope you're clear now.
I am not clear. What about parents that are old and retired?
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by Nobody: 10:10pm On May 05, 2017
Acidosis:
We all curse Buhari today even at 73 for simply desiring to work for the good of the citizens.


That's a 73 year old man, still working and earning more than ALL his kids.

Meanwhile, at age 45, some African parents already want to retire to old peoples home or gossip around neighborhood to complain about the son or daughter that failed to send last month's PENSION duty.
Arggghhhh!!!!
Thank God there are still Nairalanders that read to understand!!!
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by xynerise: 10:12pm On May 05, 2017
MARKETfund:
I don't quite agree 100% with him but sometimes there's sense in nonsense.

God forbid that I abandon my parents financially even though they still hold I still give. However today's parents should learn to plan before producing. Give birth to the number of children you can comfortably raise and still be able to set something aside for retirement. Problem is that African parents don't retire till they enter grave. They make too much sacrifices in raising children thereby short-changing themselves. Truth is that this is avoidable only if they plan.

As for me I can't come and go and kill myself. I must plan for my retirement and not hope on some kid you may make all the sacrifices for and at the end of the day you become a burden to him/her. God forbid!

You my friend, pls plan on something to fall back on upon old age even if you are a business man. Don't think of doing that business until you enter grave. Work with a certain age in mind to retire and strive to do so exactly at that age. Life is sweetest in old age. Nothing is satisfying as seeing your grant kids play outdoors and even go outing with you cos you are ageing gracefully cos of having done the right thing.
I obviously didn't read the entire article...my bad. smiley


Thanks
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by pussyeater(m): 10:13pm On May 05, 2017
stanliwise:
I guess you didn't read the post, He never implied that, toward the end of the post he advice to help if you only have the resources.
His comprehension level is below 0. His head is full of coconut water undecided
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by pacino26(m): 10:15pm On May 05, 2017
Nigerian gay activist, Bisi Alimi

I think we Nigerians are the ones to blame here. People like bobrisky and this dude don't deserve the attention they get on SM.

That being said, the bolded alone should tell you he's a moral misfit and as such doesn't understand what a family is or how the African family work. I can't take him serious whether speaking in favor of family values or against.
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by Funkybabee(f): 10:19pm On May 05, 2017
oloshi omo jatijati fobo jona omo I regrets he came from my tribe .

I cannot blame him, because his parents didn't teach him the way of God and life.
Bible said teach ur children in the way of Lord so that whenever they are growing they won't leave the way!!!!


after sleepless night,after suffering, crying because of my deadly sick.now am a woman one omo oshi kan will now tell me not to take care of her,even if Bible don't say so I know my right to do.she will always be my pride and happiness May God bless me abundantly so that they will forget their suffering over me.
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by Habeyy(m): 10:28pm On May 05, 2017
dude is an example of mistake made in the dark ....he's lusting after cheap publicity . ..the senile slowpoke is forming some effeminate mannerism....continuuu...





abeg...next topic jare
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by calliope(f): 10:29pm On May 05, 2017
I think every one is entitled to their opinion.
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by Funkybabee(f): 10:30pm On May 05, 2017
PaperLace:
I am sure people insulting him didn't read his write up_they read only the heading, but it's normal for Nairalanders grin.

Truth is bitter, very bitter...
He was a bit hard, went off at some point but he made some sense.

Modified: Before insulting, take your time to read the post without bias. Forget he is gay, sieve out his message_then comment. If you still don't get the message, then you need to walk in the shoes of some Nigerian first sons/daughters.

This set of people labour for years training their younger ones(that may number up to 4) and helping out their parents too. The guys most times would keep on struggling to please his family, pausing his own life. He might finally get married and start his own family in his mid-late 30s.
The ladies sometimes move on to get married, the innocent son-inlaw might end up carrying unnecessary expenses.

Everyone should make plans for his/her retirement. Don't be overly independent on your kids. Some kids will give, some might not even have to give, some will totally disappoint you...it happens.
It's clearly stated that if you have _give, but don't fall for emotional blackmails aimed at ripping you off. But then _the black man doesn't read.
Are u a Lady or guy self? do you pray to work and have no gain.

if NO,what u are talking about here is totally nonsense. And don't quote me back if u don't have sensible thing to say!!! because I wish ur parents can see what u wrote down here and also when ur mate children is buying good thing for their parents none will come from ur own yours and see how it feels

nobody on earth lay their hand on business and don't want positive results, we came here to sell and gain do u understand.
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by bukatyne(f): 10:31pm On May 05, 2017
Acidosis:
Nigerians are too temperamental, backward, and archaic. A result of negative religious indoctrinations.


There's nothing wrong in taking care of the aged, but the joy of parenthood is to be able to cater for yourself by working out a survival and retirement plan. Frustrating the hell outta your kids shouldn't be anything any parent should wish for.

It is actually demonic and satanic for any parent to raise children for PENSION purposes.
@bold: Lols!

@OP: I agree.

To actually think the Bible says a 'godly man will leave an inheritance for his children'.

All the godly people in the Bible left wealth and morals for their generations.

Heck, we the 'children of Abraham' still tap into his blessings.
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by Nellybank(m): 10:36pm On May 05, 2017
My person abeg no vex o. Any other delivish and dangerous word apart from "Officially mad"?
Smellymouth:
This dude is officially mad.

Pls, over there. Carry this werey oshi go there..

That place , na where dem dey keep all the chronic mad people..
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by Nobody: 10:36pm On May 05, 2017
I don't know why we give people like this so much liberty to talk and have opinions. This ones life is wasted I'm sure his parents are dead or have disowned him.
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by RealHaute: 10:37pm On May 05, 2017
PaperLace:
I am sure people insulting him didn't read his write up_they read only the heading, but it's normal for Nairalanders grin.

Truth is bitter, very bitter...
He was a bit hard, went off at some point but he made some sense.

Modified: Before insulting, take your time to read the post without bias. Forget he is gay, sieve out his message_then comment. If you still don't get the message, then you need to walk in the shoes of some Nigerian first sons/daughters.

This set of people labour for years training their younger ones(that may number up to 4) and helping out their parents too. The guys most times would keep on struggling to please his family, pausing his own life. He might finally get married and start his own family in his mid-late 30s.
The ladies sometimes move on to get married, the innocent son-inlaw might end up carrying unnecessary expenses.

Everyone should make plans for his/her retirement. Don't be overly independent on your kids. Some kids will give, some might not even have to give, some will totally disappoint you...it happens.
It's clearly stated that if you have _give, but don't fall for emotional blackmails aimed at ripping you off. But then _the black man doesn't read.
PaperLace, you know math. And maybe lace....and paper; but you don't know life. You best believe it.
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by alezzy13: 10:44pm On May 05, 2017
Funkybabee:
[s]
Are u a Lady or guy self? do you pray to work and have no gain.

if NO,what u are talking about here is totally nonsense. And don't quote me back if u don't have sensible thing to say!!! because I wish ur parents can see what u wrote down here and also when ur mate children is buying good thing for their parents none will come from ur own yours and see how it feels

nobody on earth lay their hand on business and don't want positive results, we came here to sell and gain do u understand.[/s]
Did you read what he wrote at all, I doubt it
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by jojothaiv(m): 10:50pm On May 05, 2017
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Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by Believe7(m): 10:53pm On May 05, 2017
see his ugly face..children obey ur father nd mother..for this is d only commandment wit a promise. ..dat it might be well wit u. nd u sha live long..
Re: It Is Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Parents -Bisi Alimi by charlesucheh(m): 10:54pm On May 05, 2017
It is not compulsory but expedient I look after them! I don't know if this E-diot has any idea on the sacrifices most parent take to make sure life becomes juicy at the end for their children!!!I don't blame him sha! I blame NL for making FP out of a Mad man's write up! And i'd be here everyday! Sweating my life out with highly intellectual posts, just to discover that the thing no go even smell FP!!!
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