delishpot:

Men ain't fighting for rights. They had rights. Moral of this message is.,..Extremes leads to extreme. Yes, if you always bully someone, your victim when he pushd the o the wall or seek to curb YOUR excesses would take his to the extreme too. Let us all manage to live with others as we would want other to live with us.
Dominating someone and it feels good but when story is reversed you start saying oh... In the time past I was the lord and all. Now I am treated like a servant. Now you know how those you were treating unfairly feel.(Note, I don't mean you personally)

Its not fair, I have witnessed a situation whereby the woman always threatened to stab the husband and the man several times had to run away from her. But one day he had to face her cos he was given opportunity to run, of course fight ensues ,I heard the sound of the woman crying judged the man as mad, but when I heard the full gist wthe man and confirmed by the mother in law(the wife's mum) I was speechless the wan was quick to blackmail the man in our area with her tears

Many of this happens, many men dies in silence some for the fear of been seen as weak in the society, my neighbour was reporting to the family instead and they kept.on settling it 'amicably'

sainty2k3:

Its not fair, I have witnessed a situation whereby the woman always threatened to stab the husband and the man several times had to run away from her. But one day he had to face her cos he was given opportunity to run, of course fight ensues ,I heard the sound of the woman crying judged the man as mad, but when I heard the full gist wthe man and confirmed by the mother in law(the wife's mum) I was speechless the wan was quick to blackmail the man in our area with her tears

Many of this happens, many men dies in silence some for the fear of been seen as weak in the society, my neighbour was reporting to the family instead and they kept.on settling it 'amicably'

I know many men are abused and I encourage them to speak out just as women do and I strongly believe that the woḿen involved should be punished accordingly. I know of a family where the man and woman are both stubborn. The man tries to use his fist and his woman carries a knife because she does not stand a chance with her fist only. The man runs out of the house and they both exchange words through the window. he said he will reach her not to carry knife again when they fight. One they they started to fight again. She carried a knife as ussual and asked him to hit her if he dare, he rushed at her and in that fight, she actually stabbed his leg. He no dey hear word, she too no dey hear word. He went to report to the police, she claimed self defense. True true if she no carry one, that man for beat her like pounded yam insid motar. They're​ still married, beating has stopped but they still argue and quarrel sha. Me, I don't know how they do it. But I believe they deserve each other.make Dem no carry that crase go marry innocent people. I don't know any man's family that will settle amicably a case where his wife wants to kill their son. Unless he does something that they believe if he stops doing, she would not react the way she does. If na my brother, I will suggest sepperation for a while at least.

Na money and ppl in high places.
If it was an unknown person nobody woulda been interested

LoveJesus87:
God has answered your prayers dear. Dat spirit just tell me say am d one

Hahahaha. I laugh in Swahili

expertman:
God told Me to marry you.

I am your right man, I will never beat you but........ In the other room.


Oya follow me

Ok. Following u.....

edlion57:
my dear ... Social media is not the best way to seek for advice or revenge....no marriage is perfect...think of dis ....y is it dat our female celebrities marriage doesn't last long.... social media helped dem in destroying it...

She didn't asked social media for advice blogger's are the ones carrying d news up-and-down.

WenysAD:


Hahahaha. I laugh in Swahili

walai up till now sef sister Wendy, E still dey tell me, e say make i send u pm 1st. dey who God has join together...

delishpot:


How soon should she have waited? Don't you know the influence Nigerian society esp family, friends And religious bodies have in domestic abuse. The first time it happens they say maybe you did not park well, go and build your home. where do you want to go to? Do you think others out there are better? Think about what Christ would have done, think about the kids etc., they encourage you to forgive and forget. If you say NO, they say you were not even ready for the marriage, you are a bad husband/wife etc. You keep enduring until the last straw and then you are so angry you want to get justice for every time you were used or abused. Some can overlook and move on with their lives, while some want justice. Just as some overlook the cases where doctors kill their loved ones, burry them and move on. Whereas some want justice served and there want it served hot. I will not judge anyone for their approach to situation, it's them that were abused, As long as the pursue it legally.

U ar kind of right sha, just that I love letting by-gone be gone. Once I've forgiven my spouse for an offence, no point bringing it up again months or years later just because we separated.
Ask urself, if they were still together, would she have pressed the charges? It shows that it's not just about the beatings but the separation.

kindredspirit:


Bro, there are two types of cases : Criminal and Civil.

Judging by the severity of the injury suffered by Mercy Aigbe, with proof, the case is being treated as a Criminal case.

In a Criminal case, the complainant dosent have to press charges. When it gets to the Police station, it's not in the hands of the complainant anymore. As it is right now, it is not Mercy Aigbe vs Lanre Gentry, but the Lagos State government vs Lanre Gentry. The state effectively takes over prosecution. In fact, Mercy Aigbe CAN NOT even withdraw the case even if she wants to. She has ABSOLUTELY no hand in Lanre Gentry's prosecution.

Ok, thanks for ur lecture, sir. But, if I may ask, who took the case to the police? When was it taken? If it was taken then when the going was sweet, why is it now that they ar separating that the police decided to resurcitate the case?

nwamehn:


U ar kind of right sha, just that I love letting by-gone be gone. Once I've forgiven my spouse for an offence, no point bringing it up again months or years later just because we separated.
Ask urself, if they were still together, would she have pressed the charges? It shows that it's not just about the beatings but the separation.

Far as I know, she innitiated the sepperation not him. She pressed charges because he went too far this time around and she wanted to take the legal route to resolve her situation. If your driver or someone close to you has been robbing you but you kept on forgiving and looking the other way, and then one day he steals again which to you is the last straw, you decide to involve the police as well as sack him, do you think people have the right to ask you why you did not arrest and sack him since when he was still working for you? Claiming pained hence your involving the police?
I believe the government once involved would want to see the case to the end.. So even if she did not plan to drag it this far, as soon as govt take up the mater, I can't say. Esp after he ran his mouth after his bail. Do you remember aunty Kemi? Mouth running is a very punishable offence nowadays o.

TSOM:
Good. The uncultured, petty women should realize that, turn down our advances, not pressure us into commiting to the relationship then around to make our lives hell.

Still not a criteria to make heaven. Lol

LoveJesus87:
walai up till now sef sister Wendy, E still dey tell me, e say make i send u pm 1st. dey who God has join together...

No be small "sister". Na Una wey dey do brother and sister in d Lord dey dash babes belle

delishpot:



Ifou read a book with superiority in it, then it is the devil's book. I do not care what the book is called.

That life woman in the past lived, would you wish it for your daughter's and all the females in your lineage? Should they cower and endure throughout their lives? Would you personally be happy to live that way? If no, why not fix it?

i lik people lik yu,,think u know ,,u think civilization is fair nd God is not .... this is wat yu shuld know ... read Gen3:16... "and thy desire shall b to thy husband, and he shall RULE over thee..." not to talk of eph 5:22-23 ...." wives SUBMIT urselves unto ur husband as unto thy lord "
"husband is the head of the wife.... " i want 2 believe bible naa book of God
with words lik "RULE" ,"SUBMIT","HEAD" ...i nid the Phd,.MSc,,BSc holders of this world to cum proof the term Equality amidst those highlighted.
i dnnt n wonnt support maltreat or domestic violence ,,contrary to ur view ... insubordination of woman will only turn a real man to beast jus a matter of time,,,,best choice throw her out or move on...in otherwords INSUBORDINATION is the root of most cases where a man is seen to beat a woman..
i wonnt even beg any gurl to b submissive yu wana proof equality stay in fathers house or kip bearing his name ..#no b by force.

ericsmith:


i lik people lik yu,,think u know ,,u think civilization is fair nd God is not .... this is wat yu shuld know ... read Gen3:16... "and thy desire shall b to thy husband, and he shall RULE over thee..." not to talk of eph 5:22-23 ...." wives SUBMIT urselves unto ur husband as unto thy lord "
"husband is the head of the wife.... " i want 2 believe bible naa book of God
with words lik "RULE" ,"SUBMIT","HEAD" ...i nid the Phd,.MSc,,BSc holders of this world to cum proof the term Equality amidst those highlighted.
i dnnt n wonnt support maltreat or domestic violence ,,contrary to ur view ... insubordination of woman will only turn a real man to beast jus a matter of time,,,,best choice throw her out or move on...in otherwords INSUBORDINATION is the root of most cases where a man is seen to beat a woman..
i wonnt even beg any gurl to b submissive yu wana proof equality stay in fathers house or kip bearing his name ..#no b by force.

Abeg, point where I said someone should abuse her husband because of civilisation. Biko, show me so that I can correct it. That stupid passage you quoted is a trap set by the devil himself. God has no hands in the text. Even Jesus told the makers of those laws that they worship their father the devil. God in the 10 commandments never sepperated males from females. Because he created them uniquely and equally. If God saw the need for superiority and inferiority, he would have included it in the 10 comandmnts. That was why the killed Jesus. Bible is not the book God, neither is the Qur'an it is a book created by men to guide people of a particular religion. Islam claims God said chopping the heads off apostates, Bible said kill a witch why does God not handle those things instantly if he was so interested. Why ask humans to do the dirty work? Because those txts are customs woven to sound like God gave those orders. God does not care for people's blood. I am sure of that. God will not send someone to go shed blood for him. Anyone or book that tells you otherwise, even Jesus himself rejects.
Do you know that the Jews who mad those laws hate Jesus? They call him a bastard and an apostate. Because he rejected their stupid laws .

delishpot:

Far as I know, she innitiated the sepperation not him. She pressed charges because he went too far this time around and she wanted to take the legal route to resolve her situation. If your driver or someone close to you has been robbing you but you kept on forgiving and looking the other way, and then one day he steals again which to you is the last straw, you decide to involve the police as well as sack him, do you think people have the right to ask you why you did not arrest and sack him since when he was still working for you? Claiming pained hence your involving the police?
I believe the government once involved would want to see the case to the end.. So even if she did not plan to drag it this far, as soon as govt take up the mater, I can't say. Esp after he ran his mouth after his bail. Do you remember aunty Kemi? Mouth running is a very punishable offence nowadays o.

Let me use myself as an example, I really cannot bring myself to taking my spouse to court or arresting her for instance even if I want to divorce her. I can easily divorce her and move on, why pressing charges again? I really don't see what she stands to gain by pressing charges against the man after initiating divorce aside cutting her own pound of flesh, which rather looks childish.
I also understand ur point but I honestly don't get this ur idea of people having right to ask her why she didn't sack whoever whenever. If I can understand u well, u mean I don't have the right to comment on why she didn't press charges before their separation, then why exactly did u quote me the first time since u know quite well that I don't have the right to discuss this issue?

delishpot:


Abeg, point where I said someone should abuse her husband because of civilisation. Biko, show me so that I can correct it. That stupid passage you quoted is a trap set by the devil himself. God has no hands in the text. Even Jesus told the makers of those laws that they worship their father the devil. He said Fred them and their laws. God in the 10 commandments never sepperation makes from females. Because he created them uniquely and equally. Leave custom out f religion. That was hy the killed Jesus .

wtf!!! God as no hand in a passage that is found in his own acclaimed book!! even ur great great grand father dnnt av 0.5% wisdom to match d bible ...nt to talk of yu ..i z insubordination ddnt even rmember to add abuse..
you see the way i made references..... u quote jesus own passage where he said otherwise ,,emphasizin EQUALiTY. i gave u a ref. frm old&new testament pls do same.
dear, custom n religion are both guidances to our way of life..
gender aside ,,man to man we aint equal if my attributes superceeds the other man ..#reality dear

iamloyalty:

He better a woman throw her beast of a husband to jail and breakup the marriage than for her to end up dead while beast will go and remarry another woman.

this is d reason why men dnnt want there woman that successive ,,, whats d difference btw a man that beat his wife & a wife that throws her hubby into jail ... insanity ..
gender equality shuld be equal opportunities to offers,,opportunities,,academics but not in relationships nt to talk of marriage ..
their is a reason why a ship wil alway hav one captain ,,try two n d ship wil sink.,,
if their is no equality in firms chain of command,,nt in mosques or church ,,nt even in political hierachy of power ,,why is civilization skeptical abt equality in marriages ..

ericsmith:


wtf!!! God as no hand in a passage that is found in his own acclaimed book!! even ur great great grand father dnnt av 0.5% wisdom to match d bible ...nt to talk of yu ..i z insubordination ddnt even rmember to add abuse..
you see the way i made references..... u quote jesus own passage where he said otherwise ,,emphasizin EQUALiTY. i gave u a ref. frm old&new testament pls do same.
dear, custom n religion are both guidances to our way of life..
gender aside ,,man to man we aint equal if my attributes superceeds the other man ..#reality dear

Okay, the Jewish custom is not my custom hence it has nothing to do with me. My ancestors had knowledge and wisdom as much as the Jewish a people maybe yours were not wise but not mine were. Where I am from, women are respected and they inherit property. We here have our own story of creation. Our women don't feel scared or worry that they are looked upon as inferior. Inshort they wonder why women are treated Ilike camels in the Jewish book. I also told you that Jesus also does not believe in those oppressive laws. What more do you want from me Oga.
Man to man we are equal you may have knowledge in one field while another man has knowledge in another field. Your contribution to the society may be important but it doesn't mean you should lift yourself above others. If you believe that all gifts come from God, and God that gave can take it at anytime when pride sets in(ie when you start to feel more important than others) then you would not dare say you are more important than anyone. Because God gives to anyone and can take at anytime. What has that bible been teaching you? Power struggle is born out of ego and greed. Not out of the word of God.
You are still asleep. We can't discuss about this. I wish you well bro.

nwamehn:


Let me use myself as an example, I really cannot bring myself to taking my spouse to court or arresting her for instance even if I want to divorce her. I can easily divorce her and move on, why pressing charges again? I really don't see what she stands to gain by pressing charges against the man after initiating divorce aside cutting her own pound of flesh, which rather looks childish.
I also understand ur point but I honestly don't get this ur idea of people having right to ask her why she didn't sack whoever whenever. If I can understand u well, u mean I don't have the right to comment on why she didn't press charges before their separation, then why exactly did u quote me the first time since u know quite well that I don't have the right to discuss this issue?

Well, he beat her up and maybe was threatening her to do some more damage. She decided to report the case to the police to seek restraining order. He prolly went against it and she had to report him again. The police arrested him for not adhering to the order. He was late released on bail. But by then, the govt has taken up the case. Besides, not everyone is like you. Even in your family, not every sibling would be like you. So she decided to report her abuse is not a crime likewise your decision to let your abusive wife go Scot free even after attempting to harm you is not a crime too. People handle things differently. She should not be victimised because she decided to pursue her case. My opinion though.

My point is no one has a right o insist she doesn't things the way they want her to do. You can advise her but not insist she does things as you believe she should. In as much as she is doing it legally and not abusing him innocently because she has the means to do so.

WenysAD:


No be small "sister". Na Una wey dey do brother and sister in d Lord dey dash babes belle

no oo sister wendy me ayam genuine brother o walai. Me I Neva dash anybody belle before . try me and see for yourself

delishpot:


Okay What has that bible been teaching you? Power struggle is born out of ego and greed. Not out of the word of God.
You are still asleep. We can't discuss about this. I wish you well bro.

i almost wondered which planet u escape frm ,, if yu eva pass thru d gate of any institution ... a project witout no reference is jus a shit-story... fvckin jew.
i blieve sum1 is reading our conversations ,... i want them to learn either frm me or frm yu .... if yu cannt get a reference to back ur point shut up 4 life jare

delishpot:


Well, he beat her up and maybe was threatening her to do some more damage. She decided to report the case to the police to seek restraining order. He prolly went against it and she had to report him again. The police arrested him for not adhering to the order. He was late released on bail. But by then, the govt has taken up the case. Besides, not everyone is like you. Even in your family, not every sibling would be like you. So she decided to report her abuse is not a crime likewise your decision to let your abusive wife go Scot free even after attempting to harm you is not a crime too. People handle things differently. She should not be victimised because she decided to pursue her case. My opinion though.

My point is no one has a right o insist she doesn't things the way they want her to do. You can advise her but not insist she does things as you believe she should. In as much as she is doing it legally and not abusing him innocently because she has the means to do so.

I have gone over and over my posts again and I can't locate anywhere I INSISTED that she does things the way I want. In my first post, I was only saying that it's not all about the beating if not it wouldn't have been now that the case would be resuscitated again. In my subsequent posts, I only advised using myself as example which was entirely my opinion, same way u have been saying ur opinion which I completely understood. I can't locate any place I INSISTED on anything.
So I still wonder the essence of that ur statement where u were insinuating that I have no right to comment on her letting go or not.

ericsmith:


i almost wondered which planet u escape frm ,, if yu eva pass thru d gate of any institution ... a project witout no reference is jus a shit-story... fvckin jew.
i blieve sum1 is reading our conversations ,... i want them to learn either frm me or frm yu .... if yu cannt get a reference to back ur point shut up 4 life jare

Whatever. Na ya fingers ordinary Google can help anyone who desires to learn. I do not have time to spoonfeed you. Go and research and find proof of where Jesus told the Jewish leaders they serve their father the devil. You are too lazy and quick to insult. If those reading this are as lazy as you are, then I can't help it.
Proo? if you read that bible you claiming to believe in. Those lines I mentioned would not sound foreign to you. Inshort as you Cary it for head reach, you should be able to quote the book, chapter and verse before finish quoting the text.

nwamehn:


I have gone over and over my posts again and I can't locate anywhere I INSISTED that she does things the way I want. In my first post, I was only saying that it's not all about the beating if not it wouldn't have been now that the case would be resuscitated again. In my subsequent posts, I only advised using myself as example which was entirely my opinion, same way u have been saying ur opinion which I completely understood. I can't locate any place I INSISTED on anything.
So I still wonder the essence of that ur statement where u were insinuating that I have no right to comment on her letting go or not.

Did I say you have no right to comment? Abeg quote it and show me let me correct it. You made a suggestion and I said yes, we all react differently but we sure can not make her take actions the way we would do. So she has done her thing the way she wants to do it. Did I in anyway try to degrade you or make you feel attacked? If so, no vex abeg. Na beg I dey beg you.

delishpot:


Did I say you have no right to comment? Abeg quote it and show me let me correct it.

"......do you think people have the right to ask you why you did not arrest and sack him since when he was still working for you?"

U used the context of I and my stealing driver to illustrate mercy and her husband. In that contest of I and my stealing driver, if u meant that people shouldn't have the right to ask me why I didn't arrest and sack him earlier as u implied in the above statement, then it also implies that u mean that people shouldn't have the right to ask her why she didn't press charges earlier. And the people here would be me that is asking her why she didn't press charges earlier.
U see how u indirectly insinuated that I shouldn't have the right to comment on why she didn't press charges earlier?

nwamehn:


"......do you think people have the right to ask you why you did not arrest and sack him since when he was still working for you?"

U used the context of I and my stealing driver to illustrate mercy and her husband. In that contest of I and my stealing driver, if u meant that people shouldn't have the right to ask me why I didn't arrest and sack him earlier as u implied in the above statement, then it also implies that u mean that people shouldn't have the right to ask her why she didn't press charges earlier. And the people here would be me that is asking her why she didn't press charges earlier.
U see how u indirectly insinuated that I shouldn't have the right to comment on why she didn't press charges earlier?

Oh that part is where you are mad about. Okay maybe I did not put it well, I meant to say, do you think people have the right to insist that because you did not sack him since, you must have a score to settle with him now hence your decision to call the police when he commited the offence that you consider to be the last straw. Don't you reserve the right to take things legally without people saying you are just out to punish him? Even if you are out to make him pay for his crimes, isn't it your right? I hope I have fixed it now? I clearly stated over and over again that we may suggest how she should handle it but we can't insist she handles it the way we would. That we are all different. I never knew my driver and Oga analogy was bitting that deep. Sorry No vex o.

delishpot:


Oh that part is where you are mad about. Okay maybe I did not put it well, I meant to say, do you think people have the right to insist that because you did not sack him since, you must have a score to settle with him now hence your decision to call the police when he commited the offence that you consider to be the last straw. Don't you reserve the right to take things legally without people saying you are just out to punish him? Even if you are out to make him pay for his crimes, isn't it your right? I hope I have fixed it now? I clearly stated over and over again that we may suggest how she should handle it but we can't insist she handles it the way we would. That we are all different. I never knew my driver and Oga analogy was bitting that deep. Sorry No vex o.

Hahaha. Apology accepted!

nwamehn:


Hahaha. Apology accepted!

Thank you