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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Onliie(m): 5:41am On Jun 04, 2017
istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.
You know he will send you packing, you still want to tell him. You're just looking for a way to move out of your husband's house.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by AlwaysUltraPad: 5:41am On Jun 04, 2017
istoctober:


l have asked a pastor and he said l shouldn't confess but am worried cos he told me on Sunday that his uncle who is a native doctor will know if l am cheating on him.

maybe, you're not remorseful enough and really want to confess out of fear of the discovery the native doctor would make.

You know what, your countenance most times will give him hints that you're cheating cos you're already troubled on the inside. Your husband is indeed a strong man; he has a very strong spirit.


If you are sure you won't do it again, don't confess cos it will definitely break you and your home. Ask God for forgiveness and move on. I don't know why Christianity teaches you can only be forgiven if you confess your sins in the open.

Once you offend someone, you seek their forgiveness. If you offend God, you seek his forgiveness. God will not forgive what you did to your husband, but your husband himself.

In this case, since your life and marriage depends on this, don't confess.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Efewestern: 5:41am On Jun 04, 2017
Onegai:
By the way, nobody should have friends of opposite sexx in Marriage. Nobody should have Pastor of opposite sexx in Marriage. Stop deceiving yourself because it is very hard to have boundaries once you justify it with labels like "Friend" and "Pastor". God intended your spouse to have those labels and wear those crowns, which is why it is easiest to cheat within those groups.

Katyamizotta I'm good, hope your kids are good too smiley

God bless you, I was telling my girl this and she said am childish, why will a married man or woman keep the opposite sex as "Best friend"?

Ogini, they will definitely be tempted.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Andrewkinggg: 5:43am On Jun 04, 2017
obataokenwa:
from all my observations on your replies and story... the relationship resulted to a baby and that's the one killing you cos I'm not sure a sin of three years ago will hold you down this way. That child spirit is not in the right home and that's what's killing you. If the child is not his, you need divine intervention. and you have really told several people around you seeking for advice... you've compounded everything. Say the truth and we can handle it spiritually and maturely also... but for now you kept us in the dark. Sex of 2014 can't keep you so guilty like this Abeg. tell us, did it result to a baby?

C'mon why making this more difficult for her? She had the courage to come out to the internet to confess her sins and you are making seems like it's bout the baby. She claimed she cheated on her hubby 3 years ago of course a sex from 3 years ago if it had resulted to a pregnancy the baby ought to have been born. Stop all the superstitious of baby spirit and all that....
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by SweetyZinta(f): 5:46am On Jun 04, 2017
Honest2:
I always want to be the 1st to comment but before I know it I don see many comments

Those people that use to comment fast,fast ..where are they living,?
What are they eating?
How many fingers they have?
How many head they have?

next time, book space first by just using fullstop
later you can modify it
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by LyfeJennings(m): 5:47am On Jun 04, 2017
Roseey0:

See ashewwo calling another Cheater
What are you?

I'm a guy
U a lady
Madam, it is a man's world
I can fück anyone and get away but U dare not
OK! !!
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by JAZIK(m): 5:48am On Jun 04, 2017
God is always willing to forgive us.
just try and forgive yourself.
try and forget about the past...u can never change it no matter how hard you try.
make your home lively again.
light the love once again.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Roseey0(f): 5:49am On Jun 04, 2017
LyfeJennings:


I'm a guy
U a lady
Madam, it is a man's world
I can fück anyone and get away but U dare not
OK! !!
Really...
Don't worry
Your daughters will grow up one day.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by MrsPhysics: 5:49am On Jun 04, 2017
Roseey0:

You didn't read my post
Desist from quoting me
King Adulterer
No he didn't read it.
I read it and you were just saying the truth. For me, there is no issue again. According to her, God have forgiven her but she is yet to forgive herself. Well, the possibility of not forgiven yourself after God have forgiven you will come from the fact that she may be denying him sex, not giving it to him the way he wants.

On a serious note, ladies are shallow in thoughts, any girl that ask her to confess is shortsighted. Follow the advice of most men here. Majority have told you not to confess, so since you have made it with God, please let it be. You might be thinking of doing good to your husband, he might start suspecting that it was the pastor that owns those children.

Abeg, be happy. When God forgives, please don't seek any other forgiveness. If death can make us path ways, then we are more indebted to God than man.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by AlwaysUltraPad: 5:49am On Jun 04, 2017
istoctober:


l feel has forgiven me, but l have not forgiven myself. l have changed from such life ever since then.
you cheated on him just once?
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by mikeycharles(m): 5:51am On Jun 04, 2017
Ishilove:

Ummm...
correct gyal grin grin cheesy

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Chicksy(f): 5:52am On Jun 04, 2017
Please do not confess oo.it doesn't change what has happened, you will lose a lot if you do.what need is forgiveness from God..Take ur mind off it,never ever repeat it and live like it never happened(defense mechanism).. My thought
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Nobody: 5:53am On Jun 04, 2017
istoctober:


l have asked a pastor and he said l shouldn't confess but am worried cos he told me on Sunday that his uncle who is a native doctor will know if l am cheating on him.

his uncle who's a native doctor might have told him and he being a man has been keeping to himself for 3yrs, waiting for you to confess, confess and he'll forgive u
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by decub: 5:53am On Jun 04, 2017
istoctober:


l have asked a pastor and he said l shouldn't confess but am worried cos he told me on Sunday that his uncle who is a native doctor will know if l am cheating on him.

I wonder why he would tell you his uncle would know if you are cheating on him or not! What could have given rise to this kinda statement? Looks like you've given him reasons to suspect you!

I'm convinced that whatever would have led to that threat would influence his decision to send you packing if he eventually discovers(either himself or confession).

I will advise you let it be your secret, save your marriage since you have truly repented. Live your life with happiness and love him more. I will also advise you stop sharing sensitive details like the one I just quoted cos somehow, this thread might get to him(search engine or through a friend).
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Yourbest(m): 5:53am On Jun 04, 2017
*sighs* I really feel bad for u because there's no easy way out of this. If u confess your marriage would face hell probably for the rest of it! If u don't your conscience would pork u almost everytime u see him, worst part is the truth always comes out and may be worst but I think taking ur chances at this point is best maybe u shouldn't tel him.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Ade3000yrs(m): 5:53am On Jun 04, 2017
useless gossip. Go and farm garri
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Roseey0(f): 5:54am On Jun 04, 2017
Efewestern:


God bless you, I was telling my girl this and she said am childish, why will a married man or woman keep the opposite sex as "Best friend"?

Ogini, they will definitely be tempted.
I join her in saying this is childish. Shows you can't even control yourselves.
Just draw your boundaries
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by LyfeJennings(m): 5:54am On Jun 04, 2017
Roseey0:

Really...
Don't worry
Your daughters will grow up one day.

Weyrey
Olosho, I won't have daughters like U
Tufiakpa!!!!!
Hell fűcckin NO
God no go let am happen
In fact all my kids will be men
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Iyke216(m): 5:55am On Jun 04, 2017
Excuse me madam....You are big fool...all these yeye girls wey no fit keep their pussy one place even after marriage.Your conscience don de flog you abi?..So you carry your ashawoness enter husband house ....Oloshos everywhere. I have just one advice for you...

Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Roseey0(f): 5:58am On Jun 04, 2017
LyfeJennings:


Weyrey
Olosho, I won't have daughters like U
Tufiakpa!!!!!
Hell fűcckin NO
God no go let am happen
In fact all my kids will be men
Let me just quote you
Plz refer to this post whenever the sperm you are spreading now fails to deliver the Y cells. You have exhausted it in your sharing formular. Only XX remain. Just keep the quote in your record
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by AlwaysUltraPad: 5:58am On Jun 04, 2017
Efewestern:


God bless you, I was telling my girl this and she said am childish, why will a married man or woman keep the opposite sex as "Best friend"?

Ogini, they will definitely be tempted.
my girlfriend knows we can't get married , but insist we will be friends when we are with our respective partners. I told her NO. I can't go and continue what we do now . It can be tempting. God forbid me to touch another man's wife.
Women are easily lured. If I hear say my wife get any male friend. Na divorce.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by megafone: 5:59am On Jun 04, 2017
Koolmak:
First and foremost l must say you are a very good Christian with the kind of remorse you feel for your sin.

It was only Jesus that forgave that adulterous woman, Apostle Paul and your pastors won't even see anything wrong in your husband sending you out. So please stop telling them about it.

You just do yourself and your husband a very good favor by making a resolution to never fall into adultery again, you have suffered enough punishment for your sin already, don't impose more punishment on yourself by telling him about it.

Stop thinking about suicide, that will be your greatest mistake.

We are all flawed, me, your husband, the pastors and every nairalander and Seun too.

Try and gear up, listen to messages, listen to radio, watch movies, chat with friends and enjoy life.

Most of all be happy.

This is enough counsel for you. What again do you not need?
Free yourself from condemnation! Most of the people throwing questions at you here are actively adulterous but you have repented!
Who told you that your husband has no confession he has been battling with underlying the beautiful smiles?
A neighbor took his life, I doubt if his wife has not had sex since!

Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Chicksy(f): 5:59am On Jun 04, 2017
I know cheating is bad o,but do you think if he did the same thing he will confess to you.I pity you,guys ehn even if he says he has forgiven u he will still use it against you....leme give u one small gist,in the past I did something bad,I had a new boyfriend and I told him everything have done this before done that all my past.I was chatting with my dad one day he now asked if I ever told my bf about my past,nd I was like yes..if you know the kind of insult I received, he told me never to that again,he said he wont make him love you more,it doesn't change anything and he wouldn,t do the same....
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by MrsPhysics: 6:01am On Jun 04, 2017
Roseey0:

Really...
Don't worry
Your daughters will grow up one day.
Please do not mind him. Regardless of what the society says, you have the right to your choice of life.

Please, ignore such comments from men.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by sisisioge: 6:03am On Jun 04, 2017
Wowzerful!


Babes, if you commit the crime, you should be ready to do the time. However, since you are repentant and remorseful the court pardons you. Pls do not tell your bobo...forgive yourself and move on. Guys find it extremely hard to deal when their women cheat. Biko, forgive yourself and sin no more...you bobo needs not hear it.

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by MrsPhysics: 6:04am On Jun 04, 2017
Chicksy:
I know cheating is bad o,but do you think if he did the same thing he will confess to you.I pity you,guys ehn even if he says he has forgiven u he will still use it against you....leme give u one small gist,in the past I did something bad,I had a new boyfriend and I told him everything have done this before done that all my past.I was chatting with my dad one day he now asked if I ever told my bf about my past,nd I was like yes..if you know the kind of insult I received, he told me never to that again,he said he wont make him love you more,it doesn't change anything and he wouldn,t do the same....
Women think that telling guys about their body count amounts to sincerity. It's very bad. How shallow minded women are yet they think they are wise.

If you tell me about your past, I won't trust you again, because you do not know what I value and what I hate

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Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by famosh: 6:04am On Jun 04, 2017
Poster, stop deceiving yourself & let posters here deceive you that God has forgiven you when you haven't confessed to the person you offended. You didn't offend God but your husband, & until you ask for forgiveness from him now (when it's not that he's dead), you CANNOT be forgiven by God.
You being scared he'll throw you out is not an excuse not to confess; you cannot commit such a sin & still dictate how the person you offended should feel & react. Confess & let him decide what to do. If he sends you out, it's the repercussion of your sin. You should have thought about it before doing it.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by LyfeJennings(m): 6:05am On Jun 04, 2017
Roseey0:

Let me just quote you
Plz refer to this post whenever the sperm you are spreading now fails to deliver the Y cells. You have exhausted it in your sharing formular. Only XX remain. Just keep the quote in your record

Sorry to bust ur bubbles
Na Y cells full my body pass
Even the doctor ask me why
Ako logidan bi
Na men I go get
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Roseey0(f): 6:05am On Jun 04, 2017
MrsPhysics:

Please do not mind him. Regardless of what the society says, you have the right to your choice of life.

Please, ignore such comments from men.
I just want him to pour out his frustrations. It's good to know the extent some men reason.
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by mizthorlu(f): 6:07am On Jun 04, 2017
istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

something's are better left unsaid my sister. what makes you think the man hasn't cheated on you too? what makes you think he is righteous?
lemme ask you, are you still cheating? if it was just that 2014, then forget it and guard that secret to your grave.

I don't know what you are trying to prove with your I want to confess o...
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Davindal(m): 6:10am On Jun 04, 2017
Madam you are very stupid and evil to have cheated on your husband. What the Bleep are you telling us? Listen and listen good, you adulterous woman; of you don't confess to your husband, God will punish you Idiot to death.

Madam...See, I reject your type as my future wife...God forbid! God knows, that I have vowed to be 100% faithful to any woman that I finally Settle down with in marriage.

Paradventure my future wife cheats on me, God forbid oo, I will have no option than to spray and riddle her body with hot bullets. Yes, I will kill her, for she has sinned against me and God.

Let me state it again, I hate evil, and wouldn't want evil to be meted out to me. Once I become married, I promised God that I would never look at any other woman other than my wife. When I go on business trip, I shall go on maximum trust that my wife would never cheat on me in my absence, and I shall give her my very sincere assurance and confidence that am not gonna cheat on her, no matter the circumstance. I shall, let her know in all honesty that whenever I emback on any trip, be it biz tour, Church Programm, military oriented tour, etc, that it is 100% concentration on what I am traveling for.
Even now that I am single, though, I keep female friends biz each time I try meeting other girls aside my Main girl, I find it difficult being in their company. I Do feel deep sense of guilt, that I often regret ever stepping out with any other girl, because when I love it is 100%. If my love, a 19yr old, decides to cheat on me, good. I won't touch her, because I have yet to marry her. But once, I get married to her, and start getting information that she cheats on me; I wouldn't react. I would just have to hold my Chills till I confirm and catch her red-Händed in the act..., and once my type do...y'all know what? She will have to pay wiff her life...simple.

Guys Don't get me wrong. I am calm, and reserved but not foolish. I am very hot-tempered(ill-tempered). I love instant Justice, hence dont hasitate to serving it instanta to err-pins.

I am a 25 yr old man, and my girl is already aware of my attributes. I told her that once we are married, it gonna be strictly on both of us, and no one else, that then should she do anyhow(cheat), am no gonna hasitate in taking her out, including the idiat that gonna be with her on that, God forbid, ill-fated day, because in my own path, I shall be a faithful and loving husband that surd gonna be the envy of other ladies. I made her understand that she is free to go her separate now, If she knows that she no gonna play by marital rules when the time comes, but she obliged and promised that such will never happen. Now we are good to go in highest 2yrs time from now.

As for you Madam...go and die, you slut. #NONSENSE!!!
Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Ishilove: 6:10am On Jun 04, 2017
uboma:




Your response is epic.

I love it
Thanks dear

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