I been lik asking this question for long
thank God it hit FP . I was on call with my mum asking how is she o na so one Yoruba woman jejely allow me finished my call, next thing na to attack me o ;Dsay me no get respect na hin I com ask her how hmmm next thing na to refer back to my conversation with mum,she de listen to my talk can u imagine say me de ask my mum "how are u"i beg is there any crime asking the well bein of my maami....

It depends on the usage of the word. Some people use it derogatorily to slight someone esp. When you feel u cannot respect the person I mean here in Nigeria. Infact someone said same to me last week and it didn't go down well with me I .must confess though I didn't show him I was angry but replied him back with "how is it" just to show him I know the motive behinde his "How are you". After all is not someone am so familiar with. Respect is reciprocal o.

[quote author=24sqm post=57269055]That was disrespectful jare, why will you ask your lecturer such a question [/quote)
U are razz!

hoe about it he should have asked this way


How are you doing today sir?.


I think it comes very polite that way because people might be educated but their mentality to ways of life is low.

Mcreloaded:
I know for certain that girls hate that question especially if its coming from their age mates or even friends

Inot the reverse bros; females love to ask someone that question just to feel important

how about if he should have asked this way


How are you doing today sir?.


I think it comes very polite that way because people might be educated but their mentality to ways of life is low.[/quote]

kayceeD2:

Can u tell ur Dad " How are u?

Of course my brother....I can tell my dad" daddy how are you, I hope you are fine?"...provided he is educated and civilised

mredwifeosband:
how was your night?

Kini big deal? Isn't it JUST A SIMPLE QUESTION. JUST SAY I ENJOYED MY SLEEP OR MY NIGHT WAS GREAT IF YOU EXERCISED YOUR WAIST VERY WELL AT NIGHT ON THE BED

If you know what I mean

Whether you are wife or husband don't harass me with that greeting this morning .
Anyway , my night was good.

coolcharm:


I think because English is not our native tongue, and because the african culture ascribe astronomic regard to respect for elders, it is difficult for a typical unexposed Nigerian 'elder' to digest that question.

In his mind, he is like 'who the hell do you think you are to ask me such?'

Lol.

There is an inflated ego in the Nigerian elder that that question Punctures.

In fact, if you want to drive him nuts to the point where he will want to go hug a transformer, add his first name to it.

E.g, How are you Buhari?

U re almost onpoint abt d culture tin. Bt I tink its english culture to as hw are u. So also, in d north its nt bad too (as some1 can even ask u hws ur wife, children, cows, chicken, work, etc). Wat I see is dat a particular culture in 9ja made d hw re u Q a taboo

I remembered a scenario in my place of work.
My colleague and a Supervisor;

As soon as the supervisor stepped into the office

Colleague: well done sir

Supervisor: Puis, What did you say now?(frowning )

Colleague: I said "welcome sir"!

After the supervisor had gone we all bust into laughter...my colleague was like ,"that man na mumu o".

The lecturer needs to be lectured

Naver u ask me how are u sir, as my junior cause I will never ever forgive u.

smardray:
hey you two, i'm a yoruba nd like seriously i jst came back from a long term ban for spewing some really ill words... Don't get on my nerves... And do ur family a favour of not disgracing them here

Pls you guys shld get some chills ; lets brainstorm on this "respect" saga in Naija

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You can always ask me "How are you?" No Problem at all and my reply is always " I'm very well thank you".

What I hate however, what I detest , what annoys me, what I find offensive, what gets me mad , is the ignorant and illogical silly greeting/question which goes like this - " How was your night?". This question sends me into a rage I often - actually always don't know what to say as a response but my whole day can be ruined by that stupid meaningless and ignorant nonsensical illiterate greeting. [/quote
]


But sir, I don't see anything wrong about the question, "how was your night?"

ennytcathy:
I been lik asking this question for long
thank God it hit FP . I was on call with my mum asking how is she o na so one Yoruba woman jejely allow me finished my call, next thing na to attack me o ;Dsay me no get respect na hin I com ask her how hmmm next thing na to refer back to my conversation with mum,she de listen to my talk can u imagine say me de ask my mum "how are u"i beg is there any crime asking the well bein of my maami....

why you no ask am say wetin consain am and walk away. You for give am one nice ela and walk away

Sometimes, you don't need to type epistle (like the guy that first comment) before you have many likes.

That's how someone I am 7 years older than sent me "hi, how are you" on whatsapp and I ignored him. I have been thinking maybe I'm just old-fashioned. But when I translated it into Yoruba, what I could come up with was "Pele, bawo ni". Then I felt justified

rattlesnake:


The Lecturer na ODE

If you are beefed about a junior person asking you, how are you, just throw the question back.

yvesboss:
Nigerian Mentality.

Reminded me of when i first joined this company and the culture was to call people by first name, even the MD/CEO. Omo mehn..it took time for me to adjust ooo but since thats the culture, i eventually adjusted.

In Nigeria, you will hear stuffs like Mama Brother Afeez because Afeez is way your senior and you cant call Mama Afeez to show respect for Afeez...funny Tradition

Lolll... my neighbour tried to explain it to me. That as long as Afeez is older than you,you cannot call him by name even when addressing his mum.
I was stunned. What?!

24sqm:
That was disrespectful jare, why will you ask your lecturer such a question

what is disrespectful about that??

BBBlaze:

Of course my brother....I can tell my dad" daddy how are you, I hope you are fine?"...provided he is educated and civilised

This is Nigeria my brother... Devil go puch to talk am when him dey angry...d kind slap u go collect enhhh

24sqm:
That was disrespectful jare, why will you ask your lecturer such a question

wetn you smoke today again ?

I remember greeting my previous boss "Good Morning". she replied with "Good morning SIR" and went hard on me that I've stopped respecting her since i stopped working with her...

i was shell shocked mehn...

So far as naija is concerned.. The statement "HOW ARE YOU" is asked by an elder one to a younger one and/or for lovers

kayceeD2:

This is Nigeria my brother... Devil go puch to talk am when him dey angry...d kind slap u go collect enhhh

My friend; erase that Naija mentality from your head...don't forget about "individual differences"...
Not all parents are the same thing!

Maybe your dad might do that to you; but my parent would not do that to me because they are well schooled and enlightened.

Its our culture oooooooooooooooooooooooko!


When the white man Bleep a fellow man literary. Do u all complain of disrespect.?

nobleblood:
Its our culture oooooooooooooooooooooooko!


When the white man Bleep a fellow man literary. Do u all complain of disrespect.?

Thats a different ball game my friend.

Talking about culture; then we should stop copying things from the western world such as clothing, music, lifestyle etc, and go back to our so called culture that we have even forgotten how to practice it. Shekina!

[quote author=BBBlaze post=57313095][/quote]

I'm sorry , may be I'm exeggerating my disgust. But the truth is that this is not an English greeting. The morning greeting in English is simply - Good Morning and the response is also good morning or simply - morning.

nagoma:


I'm sorry , may be I'm exeggerating my disgust. But the truth is that this is not an English greeting. The morning greeting in English is simply - Good Morning and the response is also good morning or simply - morning.

Ayam not understanding bros!

Please permit me to ask, "how do you mean?" because it seems you are diverting From the bone of contention here, sir!

BBBlaze:


Ayam not understanding bros!

Please permit me to ask, "how do you mean?" because it seems you are diverting From the bone of contention here, sir!

Have ever heard an English man, or an American or Australian , Canadian or any English speaking country saying - "How was your night?"

nagoma:


Have ever heard an English man, or an American or Australian , Canadian or any English speaking country saying - "How was your night?"

please i have heard severally, most often black Americans!

This is a very touchy subject because majority of Nigerians see the 'stereotype' in asking or answering this question.
We (i inclusive..unconsciously dat is..lol) temd to see this question as 'de-meaning' rather than gratifying as is intended or shd be intended by the questioner. Infact, like op has stated, this question as rhetorical as Nigerians ask it-has fetched some individuals thier fair share of slaps!
However, it is a harmless question that will require both the questioner & questionee a great deal of patience, maturity & understanding to handle.