₦airaland Forum

Richy4:
what if your kid call the police for you for abuse?

emmymdk:
Nigerian Police will come and arrest the kid, and request for your permission to reset the asshole back to factory setting with Koboko!

sisisioge:
Ma broh, no be only naija we dey, na him papa born am. He no fit try that here as he no be omooale

Inanna:
[color=Teal]What happened to the good old hangers, belts, shoes, sticks, canes, wires(both thin and fat), slippers, ladle(for turning garri), bucket, mopstick, hand, fists, fan, walking stick, broom etc that has been resetting us back to default since time immemorial?
The problem is, Nigerian parents of today are pûssies. They're all forming the bullshit new generation parenting skills that believes beating a child is abuse and dialogue is the best way to correct an erring child. That's why there are so many wayward and incorrigible children around.
God knows I'm going to beat the the stupidity out of my children if they ever go astray. If I wasn't beaten as a child/teenager, only God knows what I'd have turned into.[/color]

sisisioge:
Wetin you dey write? I'm still in naija biko...I could still slap the taste outta my smart mouthed teenagers. I remember the day I finished my 6:2f seventeen years old male cousin. I beat him up like we were in a ring. The rule is you must not raise your hands back. Afterwards, he adjusted himself and we didn't have a repeat. The guy forgot that I used to jump fences and play football...he didn't see the strength of my attack coming.

A slap first, then tons of heavy blows while he was recovering...yi o ba iya lai! Who be your mate

earthcrust:
The Bible says foolishness dwells in the heart of a child but the rod of correction will drive it far from him

DarkRebel69:
Lots of the dissenting remarks to OP's post prove one thing, that many Africans are still animals at heart. We might wear tuxedos, red bottoms, make-up, use iPhones, and whatnot, but underneath all that layer of civility is an animalistic proclivity waiting to break to the surface. Such a shame.

Pangea:
My brother
For this america, what i always do is to cut off their internet!
Come and see begging!
They have to promise not to commit the offence again, then i on it again for them!
That has kept them in line!

It's like an addiction for them,
There's this app called Snapchat, you have to use it in 24hrs or you lose your score, teens are obsessed with that app, just tell them you will take their phone and they will fall in line so fast, another one is barbing skin for them that's basically social execution

VirtueDigest:
One cool evening, I watched as my neighbour refused to grant permission for his adolescent son to attend a party with his friends. With an equally stern face the son responded “hell no, I must be at the party!” My neighbour’s son is developing a “smart mouth” and an attitude to go with it. He is very disrespectful, especially in public and in the presence of guests. I flashed back to my days as a teenager; I could not talk back at my parents for any reason and most especially in public and in the presence of visitors. Eons ago in Nigeria, we lived a communal life where the neighbour could correct a defiant teenager in the absence of his/her parents. In Nigeria today, family structures are not as strong as they used to be. There are too many distractions and a general breakdown of discipline coupled with the fact that parents are generally busy with career pursuit.
Teenagers are confronted daily with choices. They struggle to make good decisions and are held accountable for it. Adolescence is that time in which they go through a major transformation in their lives; emotional, mental and biological changes are taking place. This is one of the major reasons for their unpredictable behaviour. As a parent/guardian, how do you get your teen to stop the snide and rude back talk? Here are seven smart suggestions:



1. TELL IT TO JESUS: It could be challenging to have a rebellious teenager, but remember the hymn “I must tell Jesus all of my trials.” Indeed, Jesus is readily available when you lay your issues bare before Him. Ask the Holy Spirit to give you His love for your child and to help you to nurture him/her in the way of the Lord. Ask God to help you see one or two good aspects in your child that you can praise. Always find an encouraging saying, quote or Scripture verse to leave your child with as he/she walks out the door to school every day.



2. RESPECT YOUR TEEN: Respect is reciprocal. If you expect your child to respect you, show some respect too. This way you will be able to play the part of a role model. Be involved, but don’t interfere too much. At the same time, don’t indulge them; don’t give in to unreasonable demands. Give your child the same respect that you would like and try to refrain from name-calling or labeling with such words as, “spoiled brat.” Instead, keep the focus on the behaviour that you would like to change.



3. DO NOT SHOUT/CURSE YOUR TEEN: The more you shout or curse your teen, the more he/she will shout or curse back. When you get angry and shout or curse your teen, you undermine your authority. Remember, you are your child’s greatest influence in terms of nurturing the right kind of behaviour in him/her. When you shout at your teen, they may feel like they are under attack and may not be open to make adjustments. If your teen ignores you, you can also try to ignore them back. Do not negotiate with your child, back down, or let her draw you into an argument about the discipline that you are enforcing. Discipline is the goal and shouldn’t be up for discussion or argument. If your child feels like s/he can argue or negotiate a discipline, s/he’ll be more likely to continue an undesired behaviour and would likely argue even more the next time around.



4. COMMUNICATE: If your teen is out of control, one of the best things to do with them is to sit him/her down and have a talk. There are always different aspects to a story and you might discover that probably you are the one at fault. Do not assume that your teen is stupid and immature. Discuss the rules with your child. Explain why you are setting rules and be prepared to give answers for your ideas because most children will question you. One common catchphrase from teens is, “You don’t understand!” Do not further frustrate your child by saying, “Yes, I do!”, or “I went through exactly what you are going through now.” We all like to think of experiences as unique. Instead of asserting a “been there, done that” stance, help your child practice communicating without being rude by responding, “I may not understand, but I do want to try to understand what you are feeling. Can we talk about it later when we’re both calmer?”



5. NEVER RESORT TO VIOLENCE. This will aggravate the problem, making your teenager more unruly. Never confront them with hostility and anger which may lead to violence in an extreme case. Be confident, firm, and consistent.



6. BE FLEXIBLE: Flexibility might turn out to be a huge advantage. Be willing to have conversations (rather than fights) about adjusting the rules and consequences every few months as your teenager gets older and can take on more responsibility. You may have to participate in some odd-seeming activities—and maybe at odd hours – to be part of his or her world. Really try to relax and bring humour to the daily interactions and challenges of having a teenager. It will make a difference!



7. COMPLIMENT YOUR TEEN: Also try to notice and point out the positives in your teen. S/he really needs your affirmation and encouragement. Remember to praise the child for what they do right before focusing on the wrong.

On a final note, children are like sponges. Whatever you throw in their direction they will surely pick up.

http://virtuedigest.com/7-ways-deal-teen-talks-back/

Vanquay:
It's like an addiction for them,
There's this app called Snapchat, you have to use it in 24hrs or you lose your score, teens are obsessed with that app, just tell them you will take their phone and they will fall in line so fast, another one is barbing skin for them that's basically social execution

Durentt:
someone pitied you and you're here claiming rubbish.

He would have uprooted your womb, stupide woman.

Don't go and face your family.

DarkRebel69:
Lots of the dissenting remarks to OP's post prove one thing, that many Africans are still animals at heart. We might wear tuxedos, red bottoms, make-up, use iPhones, and whatnot, but underneath all that layer of civility is an animalistic proclivity waiting to break to the surface. Such a shame.

sisisioge:
Arindin. Folks in my household actually know their father.

Durentt:
gbam. Very foolish people. They claim to discipline kids with barbaric wayz yet the most evil and non-trusthworthy people come from nigeria. Yahoo boys from nigeria, cultist, nigeria. Very stupid country dumb rubbish

baridamben:
It's unfortunate that most Nigerians don't know the act of parenting, this explains their reaction to this post. What is explained here is all I'd been doing and it's worked for me. The one small thing to add is that you must also discipline them, using different methods, overall teach them the meaning of consequences.
Add this to the rest of the post and you're good to go.

cooljude:
Una go just dey copy and paste without considering our local factor. This advise wasn't made for Nigeria. As I old reach dem never born me well talk back to my Father or Mother.

DarkRebel69:
Lots of the dissenting remarks to OP's post prove one thing, that many Africans are still animals at heart. We might wear tuxedos, red bottoms, make-up, use iPhones, and whatnot, but underneath all that layer of civility is an animalistic proclivity waiting to break to the surface. Such a shame.

Inanna:
[color=Teal]What happened to the good old hangers, belts, shoes, sticks, canes, wires(both thin and fat), slippers, ladle(for turning garri), bucket, mopstick, hand, fists, fan, walking stick, broom etc that has been resetting us back to default since time immemorial?
The problem is, Nigerian parents of today are pûssies. They're all forming the bullshit new generation parenting skills that believes beating a child is abuse and dialogue is the best way to correct an erring child. That's why there are so many wayward and incorrigible children around.
God knows I'm going to beat the the stupidity out of my children if they ever go astray. If I wasn't beaten as a child/teenager, only God knows what I'd have turned into.[/color]

DarkRebel69:
Lots of the dissenting remarks to OP's post prove one thing, that many Africans are still animals at heart. We might wear tuxedos, red bottoms, make-up, use iPhones, and whatnot, but underneath all that layer of civility is an animalistic proclivity waiting to break to the surface. Such a shame.

Pangea:
lol
My own kids are yet discover social media,
Their fixation now is Netflix, Amazon Videos and Youtube
Where they can binge on their regular shows and cartoons.

Oluwainnie:
See ehn, times have changed. It all bounce back to parents discipline

publicenemy:
The 7 ways to deal with that situation that I am sure will only work is..

1. Beat him
2. Beat him very well
3. Beat the hell out of him
4. Beat him and rub grinded pepper on his d1ck or her pusi.
5. Tie him/her up and do the first 4.
6. After doing the first 5 sit him down and advice him.
7. While advising him if he grumbles start from number 1 all over.



Believe me by the time you do this... His brain will go back to factory settings.

I am 33yrs old and I dare not talk back to my father or my boss or anyone in authority who is older than me...

imma2:
I'm not against putting a stance on discipline but I'm concerned at how what you coin "discipline" can easily be "abuse"

Most Nigerian adults don't know they were simply abused as children.

publicenemy:
The 7 ways to deal with that situation that I am sure will only work is..

1. Beat him
2. Beat him very well
3. Beat the hell out of him
4. Beat him and rub grinded pepper on his d1ck or her pusi.
5. Tie him/her up and do the first 4.
6. After doing the first 5 sit him down and advice him.
7. While advising him if he grumbles start from number 1 all over.

Believe me by the time you do this... His brain will go back to factory settings.

I am 33yrs old and I dare not talk back to my father or my boss or anyone in authority who is older than me...