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I Had An Affair With A Married Woman. I Am An Awful Person. by ChurchLeaders(op): 2:56pm On Aug 08, 2017

It's a long story but I'll make it as short as I can - I will ask everyone to be non-judgmental.....(I'm already feeling deeply negative, emotionally).

A woman at my church (I'll call her Wendy,) is married. I had an affair with her (although, technically, no sex was involved.)

We had liked each other two years ago and I had asked her out, but she opted to go with a different man instead (whom we'll call Jeff.) Wendy and Jeff got married one year ago, although Wendy wasn't enthusiastic about the marriage; she was being pressured to marry him.

A few months ago, Wendy started telling me about all the woes in her marriage. Despite my giving warnings about how this would lead to an affair, I myself did not heed my own advice and I allowed us to go further and further.

We never had sex, thankfully - as bad as an emotional affair is, extramarital sex would be that worse of a sin yet. (Wendy did kiss me on the cheek, but not on the lips.) But there was definitely an emotional affair going on and she told me she loved me and I told her I loved her.

(Jeff, Wendy, and I are all Christians attending the same church, and of the same approximate age; around 30.)

I know I have committed a really, really, grave sin. And I am asking for advice as to what is the path forward.

1. Jeff knows that Wendy likes me; she had told him so directly. So, it might make sense to confess to Jeff himself, because if I don't, he might think things are actually worse than what they are (he might think we've been having sex, when we haven't, etc.) Plus, he is the offended party so to speak. And to top it all off, I am on the worship team, and I do not think it is right for me to lead worship when a brother has something against me (as Jesus said.) I am leading worship in 6 days from now. But I don't know how Jeff will react, and don't know if this is a good idea. I'm willing to do it if need be, but don't know if it's wise.

2. I would prefer not to get pastors, etc. involved, but if someone thinks it is good advice to do so, I am ears for that, too.

3. Obviously, I should stay well and far away from Wendy. That much is obvious. Repentance is repentance. And it's worth noting that Wendy does not feel bad about this and does not feel that the affair we've been having is sinful.

What to do? Another other recommended course of action?

Thank you all for being non-judgemental......... I don't know if there is anyone else on the Internet I could have asked for advice about this.

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