₦airaland Forum

BrotherJesu:
apart feom his monthly salary, whixh camt be accounted for i think mumcy pushed him out am a guy too i cant be blind to d truth kus i love my mum.

Ezniteadin:
What you have just described is the prevalent circumstances in most home, women have gone besirck, the modern world have increased the demonic influences around the homes and most women are actually more possessed

They may go to church but not because they love God
The unregeneted heart is actually a heart possessed with demons but they call it other name
Pride is one evidence of demonic possession, it eventually results in rebellion, some of its attendants are anger and bitterness, revenge, unforgiveness

When you see a woman who behave in such manner, it is indicative of deep spiritual problems and a home with these manifestation is not likely to succeed

Only and only when a man (generic) is truly born again can he begin to learn obedience according to the word of God
Your dads patience is commendable that is how to handle such rebellion but you have a demonic situation in hand with what you describe
1 Samuel 15:23 "Rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft"

AFONAMARO:
Never said she should hand over the keys to the hubby, neither did I say the man is responsible. But let's not preach what we can't do in our individual homes.
I bet you can't behave like the wife in your matrimonial home.

As for the wife showing off which you are supporting, my car and properties have me and my wife's names on it. I did not mean mr and mrs, my first name, her first name and our surname is on all the documents. So forgive me if I see it as unusual for her to be making known that it's her personal property.

I trust you equally read were the son said he was instructed my his mom not to allow his dad use the car. When there are issues or differences at home, let's keep the kids out of it, rather than teaching them hatred and bad blood.

BrotherJesu:
Your father is the problem here not your mother. How old are you ? You father I must confess is a very irresponsible man if he truly earn 400K monthly and your mom still need to foot any bill. It does not matter if she's richer or not. She should be allowed to live her while your father can continue fornicating at his old age I beg. That's the only viable solution for the two of them.

eyinjuege:
I don't see a car as such a valuable to attach so much sentiments to. That's me personally.
The only reason she probably instructed her son not to allow his father drive the car she bought with her money is so that he doesn't carry his new baby mama and child in it.
I feel that's fair enough, as most people will not want their wives to carry her lovers in a car they bought for her.
So it's not really about turning the OP against his father.
Allowing the father drive her car (and he'll definitely carry his new family in it) is just like rubbing salt/pepper on a fresh wound.
The Ops mother has her blames, but so does the father.
The only reason the OP still has any respect for his father is because his mother is successful enough to meet all his needs, so he has never really experienced any lack.
If all his mother's hustles didn't pay off, and he's had to struggle to feed, clothe, pay school fees despite his father earning reasonably well I'm very sure he would probably be saying a different story about his dad.
Like I said, hunger is no man's friend, and those who struggled with irresponsible parents are the best to give an objective view of this. I see a lot of threads on NL attesting to such.

grafixdon:
You're a man and you're talking this way. I pity u. How do you know he 'shy' away from his responsibilities? I'm sure that man is trying his best for his family but you can never satisfy women, he can still afford good car with 400k monthly salary yet he has none. If you like cut ur head for women, they will still complain. That woman has completely destroyed her husband ego, the man needs to quit the marriage to get his sanity back.
If the woman is responsible, even if she's super rich than the husband nobody would notice.

EgunMogaji:
Maybe your Dad hired Spyder880 to secretly build a mansion in the village for you guys and was going to surprise your mum.

Well, the side chick and your step sibling will live in there now.

BrotherJesu:
My mum is very beautiful, and successful yoruba woman but dosent regard her husband a bit,
Trouble got out hands when she got her first car and her husband who is an engineer doesnt have one yet,she then became pompous and over protective of the car that even those around; church and family knew that popxy doesnt own the car. Mumc is an established fashion designer and holds several positions in Nigerian Union ofTailors, as a result of this she comes home very late not givin any excus. As time goes by she stopped cooking him as she is always busy with work or travelling on state sponsored trips she does not bother to notify her husband whenever she is travelling.
There was a day i was so angry kus even my friends have started to take note and it becoming embarrasing, so i spoke with her, while talking she broke down in tears, she said she is the one responsible for 80 percent of the house expenses that popcy recieves 400k monthly bt always complaining of bin broke, she said other things i cant really type here.
This went own for a long time, they soon became enemies in the same house everyone going there way doing things differently, admist all these popsy has never rised his voice on her even when mumcy somethings did very annoing stuffs.
In the heat of this, popsy impregnated another babe although i have never seen the woman nor the child since birth which is close to two years. He apologised and promised to never bring them to interfere in our lives.
However this literary set our house on fire. While mumc was gettin over the haertbraek, she promised to get back at him which i didnt undesrand then.
Early this year, mumc bought 2 cars at ones, i was very surprised as she normally tell me her moves, she gave me one while she uses the other one. What broke myy hear was that she kept the one she was using before under cover when i asked her why she didnt allow popxy have that one she said she he should go buy his own and warned me that the day she will see him use my car na problem .
For sometime now she has been joking about moving us out of the country without his knowlege.
Popxy right now has facilitated his tramsfer to delta state.
Now they dont even see neida do they communicate again
the whole thing is driving me insane as i dont see popman coming to the house again pls guys help a brother what do i do
excuse my typo and coherence.

larrypourl:
You all blaming d woman continue ooo,when you get there you'll understand how it feels.

Your dad isn't responsible and sorry if that statement hurts you. I'm a man and once you refuse to take up your responsibilities as a man without been handicapped in terms of finance and others then you've failed and you'll begin to loose it gradually till it explode as the case of your family. For Christ sake what's your dad doing with 400k monthly without including his family in his plans that your mum will have to cater for 80% of your family running cost.

My brother just be thankful to God your mum have u children at heart and bought you guys car for family movement just to cover up your dad's inadequacies and taking up responsibilities meant for him.

You complained of mum not cooking for him again, when a woman happened to be the bread winner of a family, you as the man must face your ego and try supporting her because you don't expect her to return from long trips and then rush to the kitchen and like you said she now moves on state sponsored trips, all your dad needs is to support and look out for ways of making money through her by persuading her to connect him with contracts and tap from other opportunities if he had kept his ego thou. and to make matter worse he impregnated someone again, no matter the forgiving spirit in her,she'll never forget because her efforts in trying to make the family live comfortably had been shattered with that singular act and so she'll feel there's no need updating your dad about her movements and plans anymore. Trust isn't built overnight and may be difficult to fix once it's compromised.

Carry your dad with the car and when she complains let her understand he's your father and you're responsible to both of them. I'm sure she won't want to loose you as d only child.
Why you no go carry your papa if u see meet am for road.?

My advice for you is to manage the relationship between your dad and mum with wisdom so you don't loose all, don't be biased, and be objective enough in your thinking.

Enjoy the rest of your day and manage my typo or grammatical errors as I dey rush type

Filmdirect:
Honestly i am shocked at the number of Nigerian men that are covered by their wives. I just never knew this, but honestly i have now seen a lot of homes and men showing off that are really not the bread winners and are using their wives money to feel manly. What i have noticed is that some cultures in Nigeria really frown on divorce or leaving and so the women just deal with it. I mean strong looking, handsome and vibrant men! I'm amazed.

Nancy2016:
What about the illegitimate child? Isn't that a constant reminder that your father broke his marital vows? Do you think that is something easy to forgive? What does he do with his salary? Probably spend it on other women. Before you remove the speck from your mother's eye, you should remove the log from your dad's.

BrotherJesu:
My mum is very beautiful, and successful yoruba woman but dosent regard her husband a bit,
Trouble got out hands when she got her first car and her husband who is an engineer doesnt have one yet,she then became pompous and over protective of the car that even those around; church and family knew that popxy doesnt own the car. Mumc is an established fashion designer and holds several positions in Nigerian Union ofTailors, as a result of this she comes home very late not givin any excus. As time goes by she stopped cooking him as she is always busy with work or travelling on state sponsored trips she does not bother to notify her husband whenever she is travelling.
There was a day i was so angry kus even my friends have started to take note and it becoming embarrasing, so i spoke with her, while talking she broke down in tears, she said she is the one responsible for 80 percent of the house expenses that popcy recieves 400k monthly bt always complaining of bin broke, she said other things i cant really type here.
This went own for a long time, they soon became enemies in the same house everyone going there way doing things differently, admist all these popsy has never rised his voice on her even when mumcy somethings did very annoing stuffs.
In the heat of this, popsy impregnated another babe although i have never seen the woman nor the child since birth which is close to two years. He apologised and promised to never bring them to interfere in our lives.
However this literary set our house on fire. While mumc was gettin over the haertbraek, she promised to get back at him which i didnt undesrand then.
Early this year, mumc bought 2 cars at ones, i was very surprised as she normally tell me her moves, she gave me one while she uses the other one. What broke myy hear was that she kept the one she was using before under cover when i asked her why she didnt allow popxy have that one she said she he should go buy his own and warned me that the day she will see him use my car na problem .
For sometime now she has been joking about moving us out of the country without his knowlege.
Popxy right now has facilitated his tramsfer to delta state.
Now they dont even see neida do they communicate again
the whole thing is driving me insane as i dont see popman coming to the house again pls guys help a brother what do i do
excuse my typo and coherence.

GoodFaith:
The man is treated like nobodyin the house
MAYBE the wife stop sleeping with him or treat him like trash
Other woman might be the one that listen to all is problem at home and take the presure off him

cococandy:
Your dad was using his 409k salary to finance his mistresses/concubines. Now one had a child for him.
Yes somehow your mom was supposed to be the bread winner, home keeper and stil bow down to him and his wandering peenis.

If your mom is serious about traveling abroad make sure you support her and if you have any siblings under 18 they can benefit from that by going along with her automatically.

If you really love your mom, you wouldn't want her slaving away for your father and his mistress/es to enjoy. God forbid one of them kills her, you will see how fast his total loyalty will shift to the new pucci and the children that came from there. Don't be your own enemy.

Nancy2016:
All what you said are "maybes". There is no evidence that is what happened and even if the wife stopped sleeping with him, he could have filed for divorce, instead of impregnating another woman.

Nancy2016:
All what you said are "maybes". There is no evidence that is what happened and even if the wife stopped sleeping with him, he could have filed for divorce, instead of impregnating another woman.

Filmdirect:
Honestly i am shocked at the number of Nigerian men that are covered by their wives. I just never knew this, but honestly i have now seen a lot of homes and men showing off that are really not the bread winners and are using their wives money to feel manly. What i have noticed is that some cultures in Nigeria really frown on divorce or leaving and so the women just deal with it. I mean strong looking, handsome and vibrant men! I'm amazed.

Filmdirect:
Honestly i am shocked at the number of Nigerian men that are covered by their wives. I just never knew this, but honestly i have now seen a lot of homes and men showing off that are really not the bread winners and are using their wives money to feel manly. What i have noticed is that some cultures in Nigeria really frown on divorce or leaving and so the women just deal with it. I mean strong looking, handsome and vibrant men! I'm amazed.

GoodFaith:
when you travel a path
You will have more understanding of life
Experiences is the best teacher

BrotherJesu:
My mum is very beautiful, and successful yoruba woman but dosent regard her husband a bit,
Trouble got out hands when she got her first car and her husband who is an engineer doesnt have one yet,she then became pompous and over protective of the car that even those around; church and family knew that popxy doesnt own the car. Mumc is an established fashion designer and holds several positions in Nigerian Union ofTailors, as a result of this she comes home very late not givin any excus. As time goes by she stopped cooking him as she is always busy with work or travelling on state sponsored trips she does not bother to notify her husband whenever she is travelling.
There was a day i was so angry kus even my friends have started to take note and it becoming embarrasing, so i spoke with her, while talking she broke down in tears, she said she is the one responsible for 80 percent of the house expenses that popcy recieves 400k monthly bt always complaining of bin broke, she said other things i cant really type here.
This went own for a long time, they soon became enemies in the same house everyone going there way doing things differently, admist all these popsy has never rised his voice on her even when mumcy somethings did very annoing stuffs.
In the heat of this, popsy impregnated another babe although i have never seen the woman nor the child since birth which is close to two years. He apologised and promised to never bring them to interfere in our lives.
However this literary set our house on fire. While mumc was gettin over the haertbraek, she promised to get back at him which i didnt undesrand then.
Early this year, mumc bought 2 cars at ones, i was very surprised as she normally tell me her moves, she gave me one while she uses the other one. What broke myy hear was that she kept the one she was using before under cover when i asked her why she didnt allow popxy have that one she said she he should go buy his own and warned me that the day she will see him use my car na problem .
For sometime now she has been joking about moving us out of the country without his knowlege.
Popxy right now has facilitated his tramsfer to delta state.
Now they dont even see neida do they communicate again
the whole thing is driving me insane as i dont see popman coming to the house again pls guys help a brother what do i do
excuse my typo and coherence.

Adaumunocha:
Thereby making the man seem weak before others? Two becomes one.

eyinjuege:
I've seen more than enough

That's why I'm surprised when the e-warriors on NL keep insulting Nigerian women. Don't they see what I see almost everywhere? Are they so oblivious of what Nigerian women contribute to the homes?
It's not even a big deal, as I believe couples should protect each other and look after one another, for the common good.
The problems start to arise when they're no longer on the same page, and one starts feeling cheated..

eyinjuege:
The problem with Nigerians is that we worship wealth too much, and equate wealth with respect. That's why the likes of Evans will always be amongst us.
Why would you say a man is weak because he couldn't afford to buy a car, and his wife is able to? That's a wrong mindset to carry about o.
There's more to life than money. There a lot of values a man can carry than wealth please.

Nancy2016:
Bla bla bla. How do you know what path I have travelled?

Adaumunocha:
You don't get the gist. I seriously don't see myself driving a car and my husband trekking it! Impossible. Won't have anyone laugh at my family. Mind you the wife bought 3 Cars o...

eyinjuege:
My dear, that's if your husband hasn't impregnated another woman outside.
Who will want their spouse who stabbed them in the back to carry his lover in a car she bought with her money?
Do you really expect the love for her husband to be that strong especially since he not only had an affair, but came home with A1 score? A child from another woman.
Please reason this n.a., she's also human