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He is not financially buoyant but has promised to marry my sister. The little he is earning, he has used it to demonstrate what he'd have done if he has excess money.
He has come to meet me one on one to plead for my sister's hand in marriage. This was after I warned my sister that they must follow due process if they want to marry.
Now the girl is staying with him and the young man has even contributed in her education pursuit in one of the polytechnics.
This is even when he has not come to do the tradition of the land. Folks, what is the approach to this type of situation?

Give him your consent but should be financially stable before they get married.

When he was demonstrating what he'd have done if he has excess money via spending on your sister and contributing to her education _you didn't know that's not the tradition of the land?
No man will go about spending on woman he doesn't see in his future, he isn't UNESCO. He definitely has her best interest at heart.

What did you tell him when he came to beg for her hand in marriage? Give them your consent, make things easier for them. Maybe you tried complicating the process _so, they decided to use a non-traditional formula.

If he can contribute to her education, he can wife her. Call them one-on-one and advise them, they don't have to do anything extravagant, our good old bride price ceremony is okay.

PaperLace:
When he was demonstrating what he'd have done if he has excess money via spending on your sister and contributing to her education _you didn't know that's not the tradition of the land?
No man will go about spending on woman he doesn't see in his future, he isn't UNESCO. He definitely has her best interest at heart.

What did you tell him when he came to beg for her hand in marriage? Give them your consent, make things easier for them. Maybe you tried complicating the process _so, they decided to use a non-traditional formula.

If he can contribute to her education, he can wife her. Call them one-on-one and advise them, they don't have to do anything extravagant, our good old bride price ceremony is okay.

The problem with girls that are approaching thirties is that they are in a hurry to marry. The girl in question has made up her mind.
As for me, I'm only writing this because I don't buy the idea.

Ezi39:
He is not financially buoyant but has promised to marry my sister. The little he is earning, he has used it to demonstrate what he'd have done if he has excess money.
He has come to meet me one on one to plead for my sister's hand in marriage. This was after I warned my sister that they must follow due process if they want to marry.
Now the girl is staying with him and the young man has even contributed in her education pursuit in one of the polytechnics.
This is even when he has not come to do the tradition of the land. Folks, what is the approach to this type of situation?

Why s he coming to you? Is your dad not present?
I think this is a decision for your dad or the oldest male member of the family with your input