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Celebrity stylist and fashion entrepreneur, Swanky Jerry has a word for women and it’s a quite thoughtful piece.

He wrote;

‘When a Man is best dressed at a wedding, he trends ,the designer of his outfits gets more clients, women will shower praises at him , the internet and the entire country will praise him and everybody will be happy.
When a Woman is best dressed at a wedding or slays hard at events
This same women who praised the Man , will jump out and you see comments like , haba is it your wedding , this is to much , she is desperate,she wants to outshine the bride , husband snatcher , doing the most ,they will curse out the woman for being pretty they will look for every possible way to make the woman look BAD just for dressing nicely to a wedding .
When a man gets a new achievement,regardless of what it is a lot of women will still dance with him and equally sing his praises. ie say a man buys a house or set up a business or buys a car . You will only see things like congratulations, you work so hard, you deserve it etc .
When a woman gets her own new achievement the same women will jump out and say , tah who dash her ? Where did she get the money ? Who paid for it ? She can’t afford to buy this house or buy this car, it’s a gift , how long has she been working , it’s impossible etc .
When a Man rocks designers Shoes , Watches , clothes,etc you see comments from women saying , wow, shine bright , those glasses are killing , you look dope , enjoyment, etc nobody complains .
When a Woman buys a bag for herself or shoe or even dress these same women who glorified the Man for his latest designer will jump out Enh I know this bag is worth bla bla how did she buy it? Who gave her money ? What unbelievable, she spent that on a bag ? On a shoe ? On a dress ? On glasses ? Her job can’t make her so much . Women you’ll need to do better for yourselves.
Tomorrow you’ll be out looking for equality between men and women,But you don’t support the next woman. You don’t help the next woman to grow all you do is bring DOWN . Women are successful too as much as Men . Even in the old days when daddy has no money or way out mummy has saved plenty money somewhere to save the situation. Women try to lift each other at every given opportunity. Love each other.

Source:- http://www.exclusivepp.com.ng/swanky-jerry-word-women-thought-provoking/

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Women are their own worst enemies....take it or leave it..........

U are right. We re in a society where men are a protected class. It shd be no one's business how men get successful, we should be happy for them. Everyone must play to this gallery. If u dare ask questions, many would come for ur head esp if its a woman questioning d status quo.
(maybe that's why some women go overboard in criticising women nd granting men a pass? Just to "overfit" in?)

This is so right. We need to love and respect each other. Support each other. Don't let jealousy cloud your judgement.

It is this same problem that is affecting our Nigerian female Music Industry. They don't support each other, they're so divided and hate on each other on a daily basis. You hardly see a woman to woman collabo, pride and jealousy wan kill them. Unlike the males, who stand together and climb higher together despite all odds.

He is right oo... kudos to jerry...jealousy too much amongst them....when a woman is going higher...one jealous one will just sit there and stir rumors all cause they cant get to her level..

LuvU2:
U are right. We re in a society where men are a protected class. It shd be no one's business how men get successful, we should be happy for them. Everyone must play to this gallery. If u dare ask questions, many would come for ur head.

Nope..Men are not the protected class,they are just the class that have over the many years of human existence constantly rebelled against society in order to get what they want.. That hunger for success is what made society associate all success aquired by men as an achievement and a norm
Now ask yourself how many women are ready to rebel against society?
How many women drop out of school to chase their dreams in order to achieve success? Come to think of it do women even have dreams and aspirations for success?
The rebels are the ones we see on TV,the ones who invent new ideas and trends,the one's who wake up everyday to go and hustle or work and those are the ones that don't get clapped at for flaunting their success
So if you wanna know why women get jealous when they see other women doing good, it's cos they know that these women are a constant reminder of what they wouldn't dare to do,cos they are too scared of the unknown so they hide under the conventional rule and let the men take care of them and stuff
So until women break away from the social convention then this is how things will be,so get used to it

I guess women are naturally more envious than men. I think we also have more women backstabbers than men. We get threatened a lot of our achievements by our own folks.

Most of the time, a woman can successfully be your "friend" as long as you are beneath her or equal with her. The moment you start to surpass/climb higher, problems set in. Jealousy, possessiveness, envy, hatred, greed, covetousness & evil start manifesting.

Munae:
This is so right. We need to love and respect each other. Support each other. Don't let jealousy cloud your judgement.

It is this same problem that is affecting our Nigerian female Music Industry. They don't support each other, they're so divided and hate on each other on a daily basis. You hardly see a woman to woman collabo, pride and jealousy wan kill them. Unlike the males, who stand together and climb higher together despite all odds.

True @woman to woman collabo.

MissJoy29:
I guess women are naturally more envious than men. I think we also have more women backstabbers than men. We get threatened a lot of our achievements by our own folks.

Most of the time, a woman can successfully be your "friend" as long as you are beneath her or equal with her. The moment you start to surpass/climb higher, problems set in. Jealousy, possessiveness, envy, hatred, greed, covetousness & evil start manifesting.

Straight to the point... Well said

EmperorHarry:
Nope..Men are not the protected class,they are just the class that have over the many years of human existence constantly rebelled against society in order to get what they want.. That hunger for success is what made society associate all success aquired by men as an achievement and a norm
Now ask yourself how many women are ready to rebel against society?
How many women drop out of school to chase their dreams in order to achieve success? Come to think of it do women even have dreams and aspirations for success?
The rebels are the ones we see on TV,the ones who invent new ideas and trends,the one's who wake up everyday to go and hustle or work and those are the ones that don't get clapped at for flaunting their success
So if you wanna know why women get jealous when they see other women doing good, it's cos they know that these women are a constant reminder of what they wouldn't dare to do,cos they are too scared of the unknown so they hide under the conventional rule and let the men take care of them and stuff
So until women break away from the social convention then this is how things will be,so get used to it

Lol protecting men again. It just has to be women's fault only.. Men cnt be a huge contributing factor.

EmperorHarry:
Straight to the point... Well said

Thanks

Women are their own worst enemy