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Good evening all.. I'm a 24 yr old mother of 1: expecting my second baby in less than 3mnths. I reside in uyo.
I've bn married for a year and 10mnths. I've been thru a lot as a young mom: of course it happens in most homes.

It's heart wrenching to know my husband is having affairs with 80% of single ladies on his facebook page and I've tried my best to talk him out of such lifestyle all to no avail. Just within 2wks of our marriage last yr, he had already taken 3 to a guest house. 3months after, one of them added me up on facebook, I accepted D request n asked her if I know her but she said no. And I asked her if she added me up to tell me how she shamelessly opened her legs 4 my husband.. Hmmmm this girl insulted D hell out of me. Was I supposed to pretend I knew nothing?

Now, he's going out with a serving Corp member in my town and I need to let him know I'm not a fool.
Would reporting the Corp member to NYSC make me a wicked person? If no, how do I go about it?
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Your husband has zero respect for you and his Marriage.
I want to believe there must be signs when you both were dating.

This one is just plain disrespect

Thanks for your response but we never dated. And about the Corp member?

mazimee:
Your husband has zero respect for you and his Marriage.
I want to believe there must be signs when you both were dating.

This one is just plain disrespect

fweshy:
Thanks for your response but we never dated. And about the Corp member?

You never dated? How then did you guys knew each other? Was it arranged or something?

The Corp member is not the problem, fighting her will get you dirty, I am sure you may not want to play Dirty.
Besides, she can easily get away with it even when you report her.

madam let me tell u one hard secret - u may not accept it but believe me thats the secret to ur happiness in marriage.

STOP MONITORING YOUR HUSBAND. STOP CHECKING ON WHO HE IS WITH. DOING THESE THINGS WILL LEAD TO A SAD BROKEN HOME OR WORST TO YOUR EARLY GRAVE.

LEARN TO ACCEPT HIM AS YOUR HUSBAND ONLY WHEN HE IS HOME WITH YOU. GIVE HIM YOUR BEST OF CARE AND LEAVE THE REST. LEARN NOT TO GIVE A FUK ABOUT WHAT HE DOES OUT THERE - BELIEVE ME ITS A WAR YOU CANT FIGHT. FOR YOUR OWN GOOD AND THE GOOD OF YOUR CHILDREN, PLS LEARN TO LET HIM BE NO MATTER HOW HARD IT IS.

ITS NOT EASY ON MEN NOW - ESPECIALLY MEN WHO ARE A LITTLE BIT COMFORTABLE. GIRLS ARE SO DESPERATE NOW AND SEEMS TO PREFER MARRIED MEN TO SINGLE GUYS - I CAN CONFIDENTLY TELL YOU THAT 70% OF SINGLE GIRLS OUT THERE HAVE HAD ONE THING OR THE OTHER WITH A MARRIED MAN - MAY BE EVEN YOU ONCE HAD IT WITH A MARRIED MAN WHEN YOU WERE SINGLE.

checking on your husbands life and what he does outside is like dipping your finger in the anus - you will find either shit or mess or both and you will agree with me that none of them is pleasant to smell.

THE HONEST TRUTH IS - NO MAN HOLY PASS - SOME HOW WE ARE ALL HE-GOATS - SOME ARE JUST GOOD AT HIDING THEIR HE-GOAT SMELL OR DOESN'T HAVE THE MONEY TO FUND THEIR 'HE-GOATNESS'!

Thanks, I appreciate

nwaanambra1:
madam let me tell u one hard secret - u may not accept it but believe me thats the secret to ur happiness in marriage.

It's actually my first time and I appreciate you 2 for your time and responses. I'll sure heed to yo advice. Thanks

fweshy:
Good evening all.. I'm a 24 yr old mother of 1: expecting my second baby in less than 3mnths. I reside in uyo.
I've bn married for a year and 10mnths. I've been thru a lot as a young mom: of course it happens in most homes.

It's heart wrenching to know my husband is having affairs with 80% of single ladies on his facebook page and I've tried my best to talk him out of such lifestyle all to no avail. Just within 2wks of our marriage last yr, he had already taken 3 to a guest house. 3months after, one of them added me up on facebook, I accepted D request n asked her if I know her but she said no. And I asked her if she added me up to tell me how she shamelessly opened her legs 4 my husband.. Hmmmm this girl insulted D hell out of me. Was I supposed to pretend I knew nothing?

Now, he's going out with a serving Corp member in my town and I need to let him know I'm not a fool.
Would reporting the Corp member to NYSC make me a wicked person? If no, how do I go about it?
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You women always pick up a fight with the lady or woman your husband is sleeping with.

You easily forget that no lady goes about begging men to sleep with her. It's these same men that approach them and keep bugging them day and night sending them gifts for months till they are finally left with no option than to give in to the man.

Some even say no and yet these married men force them into the sexual act.

If your husband is sleeping with your househelp or a lady outside, the person to confront is your husband and not the innocent lady that has used every means to say no and the evil man persists.

From your response, u seem to be a lady. In case u don't know, most women beg for it and if a man bugs u day and night, u still have an option. Why would a man force you into a sexual act if reject his gifts. My dear, that's no good response

GraGra247:
You women always pick up a fight with the lady or woman your husband is sleeping with.

You easily forget that no lady goes about begging men to sleep with her. It's these same men that approach them and keep bugging them day and night sending them gifts for months till they are finally left with no option than to give in to the man.

Some even say no and yet these married men force them into the sexual act.

If your husband is sleeping with your househelp or a lady outside, the person to confront is your husband and not the innocent lady that has used every means to say no and the evil man persists.

nwaanambra1:
madam let me tell u one hard secret - u may not accept it but believe me thats the secret to ur happiness in marriage.

STOP MONITORING YOUR HUSBAND. STOP CHECKING ON WHO HE IS WITH. DOING THESE THINGS WILL LEAD TO A SAD BROKEN HOME OR WORST TO YOUR EARLY GRAVE.

LEARN TO ACCEPT HIM AS YOUR HUSBAND ONLY WHEN HE IS HOME WITH YOU. GIVE HIM YOUR BEST OF CARE AND LEAVE THE REST. LEARN NOT TO GIVE A FUK ABOUT WHAT HE DOES OUT THERE - BELIEVE ME ITS A WAR YOU CANT FIGHT. FOR YOUR OWN GOOD AND THE GOOD OF YOUR CHILDREN, PLS LEARN TO LET HIM BE NO MATTER HOW HARD IT IS.

ITS NOT EASY ON MEN NOW - ESPECIALLY MEN WHO ARE A LITTLE BIT COMFORTABLE. GIRLS ARE SO DESPERATE NOW AND SEEMS TO PREFER MARRIED MEN TO SINGLE GUYS - I CAN CONFIDENTLY TELL YOU THAT 70% OF SINGLE GIRLS OUT THERE HAVE HAD ONE THING OR THE OTHER WITH A MARRIED MAN - MAY BE EVEN YOU ONCE HAD IT WITH A MARRIED MAN WHEN YOU WERE SINGLE.

checking on your husbands life and what he does outside is like dipping your finger in the anus - you will find either shit or mess or both and you will agree with me that none of them is pleasant to smell.

THE HONEST TRUTH IS - NO MAN HOLY PASS - SOME HOW WE ARE ALL HE-GOATS - SOME ARE JUST GOOD AT HIDING THEIR HE-GOAT SMELL OR DOESN'T HAVE THE MONEY TO FUND THEIR 'HE-GOATNESS'!

I'll advice a married woman to take this your advice, if and only if the husband is not physically abusing her and if he's taking good care of her and her children while keeping his droves of mistresses outside.

But as is usually the case, most men that keep ladies outside their marriage usually don't have much left to bring back home and take care of their wife and kids. Also they usually physically abuse their wives.

In such case I'll advise the woman to find her way.

fweshy:
From your response, u seem to be a lady. In case u don't know, most women beg for it and if a man bugs u day and night, u still have an option. Why would a man force you into a sexual act if reject his gifts. My dear, that's no good response

I'm a man and tell you what I've observed from experience and from different men and friends I know over the years when I used to be irresponsible.

To put you to test and to confirm this truth, tell me if you've ever begged a man for sex whether married or married.

But I bet you can't even count the droves of men that have used different methods to beg to sleep with you from your childhood till even now that you're married.

You be the judge.

I have never begged a man for sex but that doesn't mean there are no women out there who do that

In this case, I'm not referring to just but a married man
Fine, so many married men begged me for sex but none ever forced me. What does a woman expect wen she follows a married man to his house or hotel? Old don't misunderstand me but If u don't need anything from him, u shouldn't paz boundaries. Do men forcefully sex women on the road, social media etc? It's only went u pass your boundaries

GraGra247:
I'm a man and tell you what I've observed from experience and from different men and friends I know over the years when I used to be irresponsible.

To put you to test and to confirm this truth, tell me if you've ever begged a man for sex whether married or married.

But I bet you can't even count the droves of men that have used different methods to beg to sleep with you from your childhood till even now that you're married.

You be the judge.

fweshy:
I have never begged a man for sex but that doesn't mean there are no women out there who do that

In this case, I'm not referring to just but a married man
Fine, so many married men begged me for sex but none ever forced me. What does a woman expect wen she follows a married man to his house or hotel? Old don't misunderstand me but If u don't need anything from him, u shouldn't paz boundaries. Do men forcefully sex women on the road, social media etc? It's only went u pass your boundaries

Thanks for confirming what I just said. Do you know how many months or even years these ladies continue to say no and yet these men continue to bombard them with different methods of deceptive lies, money and gifts before they finally bow to pressure.

Some of these men tell such lies that their wife is a devil and they're about to divorce her and they love the lady and will marry her afterwards.

Who's to blame here, the lady that followed him to hotel or the man that decieved her with convincing lies and showered her with gifts and begging after months of telling him no.

Some even point blank lie to the ladies that they're single.

Be objective and say the truth. Not just because you never were a victim of deceiving men.

Don't dig deep... if you do you will be disappointed

Lol... You're making a general judgement and mine is from my post. If you are on his page, u can't lie about not knowing about his marital status.

About your question, a woman should be blamed not a man. A woman is in a better position to make findings before she settles for a man who's been married before.

Talking about being a victim, I was wen I was single but a married man never deceived me coz once they come around, I know way they are after. Just D single guys who I believed were ready

So, my own advice is, if u are not interested in a married man, don't accepts gifts and don't give dem D chance.. Hahahha.. Enough of the argument pls. I surrender
Thanks for your time

GraGra247:
Thanks for confirming what I just said. Do you know how many months or even years these ladies continue to say no and yet these men continue to bombard them with different methods of deceptive lies, money and gifts before they finally bow to pressure.

Some of these men tell such lies that their wife is a devil and they're about to divorce her and they love the lady and will marry her afterwards.

Who's to blame here, the lady that followed him to hotel or the man that decieved her with convincing lies and showered her with gifts and begging after months of telling him no.

Some even point blank lie to the ladies that they're single.

Be objective and say the truth. Not just because you never were a victim of deceiving men.