NoLotty7:
Hello nairalanders,after four years of training two of your children in the unversity at the same time you discover one day that both of them don't attend classes not to talk more of bringing certificate back home.however,during their first year,they always bring all admission's scripts and slips.you gave them their school fees,feeding allowances,buy clothes and many other items for their comforts throughout the four years.

Less l forget, if any of them is having party celebration e .g birthday,street is full with different busty ladies and flashy guys called themselves as course mates.

Note:they are male and female.second and third in the family of 5 children. If you are one of the parents or the guardians, what will do to them. I heard it one day in a bus. Let us hear you.

God forbid that one experience such, the adage says a parent cannot give the child to a lion to kill. Simply mean have to re adjust, what is it they want to really do with their lives? I had seen someone rusticated in part 3 coming back to start at hundred level, go through the process to 500 level & graduate with certificate, now doing okay abroad. I had seen someone graduate with bad certificate in quote & when parent got discouraged I only encourage to send him abroad & now has a masters, also doing fine here in Nigeria.

The question is do you just give money without checking their habits, if so, the parents should re adjust. They can still be bent now before they become a reproach totally. May God help us, i had seen many cases turn around, even the one in final year NDA that was expelled. Is not enough to give cash, when you observe a child act or behave reckless, monitor such better.

Remember to bring them to the knowledge of God. Fear of God is the difference.

Jesus is Lord

How e tey concern me? Na me born dem? I dey mind my business o. Got enough wahala of my own.

Kzdguru:
What type of parent would not check up his or her children activities in schools, both moral and academic in these present day time.

yeye parents breed yeye children

I have the best parents in the world but
My parents didn't for ones come to my school for good 5yrs.

FAMILY NEEDS DELIVERANCE.....
WHATS THE SOURCE OF THE MONEY USED IN TRAINING THOSE KIDS

dguizman:
there is nothing I can do to them o my bro,just leave them to move around the street.as a parent,u have done your part and that is what they choose to offer their self.

This is likely to be true as I have seen similar thing although it was just one person.

Same thing happen to my very close pal's girl friend back then in school, this girl was advice to withdraw from school due to poor grade in two hundred level, but the girl continue to stay in school for two more years without doing anything and graduated with her mate without result. I and my friend went to their department with a letter from the girl's parent to confirm what they told the parent and they were able to open her file for us to see copy of the withdrawal letter but they refuse to give us, when my friend confronted the girl, she deny at first but latter admitted.

Just too painful, may God never give us such children.

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homesteady:



You can't really just put the whole blame on the parent expect if you dig more into the matter and find out that it was the parents negligence that caused.
There is a lack of feedback system to make parents know that their wards are in school and doing well or bad. In private universities, I heard that they send the students results to their parents.

Parenting is all about taking responsibility of a child and when you are responsible for something, every fault that the thing has become your fault. That is what responsibility means. or are you saying that parents aren't responsible for their kids.

Also about feedback system, a true parent who is responsible for their kids will know how the child behaves normally and foresee possible anomalies if the child is sent to a school far away, so he will put someone there to watch over him. There was a guy in the army watching over me while I was in school and reporting to my father.

So don't tell me about feedback system.

Ruggedfitness:
First, the parents deserve the blame for what is called negligence. Most parents these days give excuses and assume things when training their children. They claim their work is taking a toll on them and they can't provide the necessary attention the child needs.

The ones that provide the attention do it wrong, they don't know that the world has changed and children are easily deluded compared to the past, there are more vices than before and in this world, the only thing that truly exists as fun is immoral things. Most parents neglect these things and say "who want spoil go spoil"...

For me, I don't know what to do because I can't imagine myself in such situation. But I advise the parents to start introducing corrective measures to bring the children to the right path, it will be harder now that they are grown, but you can make them succumb if you make them understand what they have brought on themselves.

Children don't just go bad or behave badly for no reason, they are drawn to it.

....ur quick to blame my guy...for u,hw mny times did ur parents visit u in skl tru your 4 years in skl..y didn't u become a brat.y did u graduate with cert.lemme tell u,they are adult. that's what they prefer,uv done yours as parents. even dou it's painful to parents. they shld b left to face d consequences. nonsense children

leksmedia:
I will blame the parents. So your child is studying in a University for 4 years and you don't think its important to visit the child at School.

here are things every responsible parent should do
1. Visit your in school at least 4 times a year
2. Pay surprise visits on weekends
3. Have their time table so you can easily predict where they are having lectures and pay them a visit during lecture (though I wont advise you go in to look for them, It can be embarassing)
4. Have people that can help you monitor them , be careful you are not putting them in wrong hands
5. Have someone old and responsible like a fatherly or motherly figure they can be accountable to, this has its own disadvantage too, you just
6. Call them often especially at night, you can easily track whether they are in or out
7. Be friendly with your children, give them some flexibility to express themselves

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NoLotty7:
Hello nairalanders,after four years of training two of your children in the unversity at the same time you discover one day that both of them don't attend classes not to talk more of bringing certificate back home.however,during their first year,they always bring all admission's scripts and slips.you gave them their school fees,feeding allowances,buy clothes and many other items for their comforts throughout the four years.

Less l forget, if any of them is having party celebration e .g birthday,street is full with different busty ladies and flashy guys called themselves as course mates.

Note:they are male and female.second and third in the family of 5 children. If you are one of the parents or the guardians, what will do to them. I heard it one day in a bus. Let us hear you.

Egbon where you dey Go and where You dey come from.... You think this write up or you watch am for Yoruba movie.... This thing dey happen for your family or your neighbor's family..... am not getting this.... �

leksmedia:
I will blame the parents. So your child is studying in a University for 4 years and you don't think its important to visit the child at School.

here are things every responsible parent should do
1. Visit your in school at least 4 times a year
2. Pay surprise visits on weekends
3. Have their time table so you can easily predict where they are having lectures and pay them a visit during lecture (though I wont advise you go in to look for them, It can be embarassing)
4. Have people that can help you monitor them , be careful you are not putting them in wrong hands
5. Have someone old and responsible like a fatherly or motherly figure they can be accountable to, this has its own disadvantage too, you just
6. Call them often especially at night, you can easily track whether they are in or out
7. Be friendly with your children, give them some flexibility to express themselves

For your website design , ecommerce websites and blog design, visit www.leksmediaconcept.com or call 08173091370

my bro. . let's use ourselves as a case study. . not all these write ups to promote websites and blogs. pikin wey im mama and papa train well no fit go school go cast. . if at all e cast, at least he go come back with 3rd class or pass. but at all all my brother, this wan no be winch ooo na bad parenting since childhood. shikena

this one no be ordinary problem

bigpicture001:
....ur quick to blame my guy...for u,hw mny times did ur parents visit u in skl tru your 4 years in skl..y didn't u become a brat.y did u graduate with cert.lemme tell u,they are adult. that's what they prefer,uv done yours as parents. even dou it's painful to parents. they shld b left to face d consequences. nonsense children

My father only visited once, but he made sure he put in place someone from the army to watch my movements, he also made sure I made friends with a lecturer and give him the lecturers number so that he can communicate with him anything he wants.

So, bro that is what I call watching over a child, so I blame the parents

Monjerk:


This is likely to be true as I have seen similar thing although it was just one person.

Same thing happen to my very close pal's girl friend back then in school, this girl was advice to withdraw from school due to poor grade in two hundred level, but the girl continue to stay in school for two more years without doing anything and graduated with her mate without result. I and my friend went to their department with a letter from the girl's parent to confirm what they told the parent and they were able to open her file for us to see copy of the withdrawal letter but they refuse to give us, when my friend confronted the girl, she deny at first but latter admitted.

Just too painful, may God never give us such children.

amen

yea we are saying the same thing, The parents didnt do a good job

chaarly:



my bro. . let's use ourselves as a case study. . not all these write ups to promote websites and blogs. pikin wey im mama and papa train well no fit go school go cast. . if at all e cast, at least he go come back with 3rd class or pass. but at all all my brother, this wan no be winch ooo na bad parenting since childhood. shikena

NoLotty7:
Hello nairalanders,after four years of training two of your children in the unversity at the same time you discover one day that both of them don't attend classes not to talk more of bringing certificate back home.however,during their first year,they always bring all admission's scripts and slips.you gave them their school fees,feeding allowances,buy clothes and many other items for their comforts throughout the four years.

Less l forget, if any of them is having party celebration e .g birthday,street is full with different busty ladies and flashy guys called themselves as course mates.

Note:they are male and female.second and third in the family of 5 children. If you are one of the parents or the guardians, what will do to them. I heard it one day in a bus. Let us hear you.

my dprnt 5 years

Ayodejioak:


It chills my blood to hear people tell their life stories like these and still lie in the end. OP, you Did not hear it in any bus. These are your kids, admit it. Han Han, Mr lion

ogbeni,l never marry o,l'm just an SSCE Holder.And besides,here is a public forum that anybody can drop a topic either it's affecting him/her or find it educative for everybody to air their view.NOTE:most of the questions l post here don't affect me in life.

Drop your contact or chat me up on whatsapp

Starboywrites:



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NoLotty7:
Hello nairalanders,after four years of training two of your children in the unversity at the same time you discover one day that both of them don't attend classes not to talk more of bringing certificate back home.however,during their first year,they always bring all admission's scripts and slips.you gave them their school fees,feeding allowances,buy clothes and many other items for their comforts throughout the four years.

Less l forget, if any of them is having party celebration e .g birthday,street is full with different busty ladies and flashy guys called themselves as course mates.

Note:they are male and female.second and third in the family of 5 children. If you are one of the parents or the guardians, what will do to them. I heard it one day in a bus. Let us hear you.

The parent is at fault, nothing stop them from visiting the school without informing them or seeing the course coordinators of his children

leksmedia:
yea we are saying the same thing, The parents didnt do a good job

yes oo brotherly. but that part of visiting the child or tracking/monitoring them. . . no be by those ones o Bros. to be honest, how many times did your parents visit u in school? dem no visit me o

well. . on this other side, I will keep on saying this to parents. . don't rush your children in universities especially federal unis. allow them mature well before dem enter school. . so many teenagers in unis now adays dun cast finish.

No surprise visits?

No academic discourse?

Abbycite:
I think this is a true life story of the op.........judging by the english ;DI think this is a true life story of the op.........judging by the english

MR JUDGE,it may surprise you for me to say this,"l have never cross a university's gate before".l'm an SSCE Holder but very brilliant Boy,Time-keeper(primary school),Time-keeper(SS1-2),Senior Prefect(SS2-3) in a school with a population of 250 candidates seat for WAEC during my time.

Freethought:


And will that bring back the money you spent on them?!

No it will teach them a lesson in accountability and appreciating the sacrifice of others!

I would not advice disowning such a child. There is room for one more opportunity.

ednut1:
Withnessed one. The guy no cross for 100l but he stayed with us for my hostel compound till we graduated. Na to disown am o

There's one thing for certain
There's a reason
U might choose to overlook buh there's a reason

We use to call them NAS ie non academic students. Most of them say they can't go home after dropping out of thier courses , some are there because thier girl freinds got admission, some are jambites that couldn't secure admissions so refused to go back home etc, until when thier so called classmates graduates, then
they also graduate themselves after 4 years.
Then in the process of waiting for NYSC at home all kinds of stories will come up how some lecturers are victimising them and don't want them to graduate. FIN

Parents are to be blame, pay attention to the dumbest thing your child does.
If your child turns out wayward when he grows there are traces he must have shown or displayed at childhood. Some parents will overlook demm and say " Omode lo shei won, e fi won so le".
Parenting is very hard, it takes a lot of patience, perseverance, love, attention and care.
God help all the upcoming parents.

Ghostmode2two:
Though as a parent, I would have paid them visits in their various schools to know how they are performing but since it has come to this, I will send them abroad or they have to learn one trade or the other so as to avoid further nuisance to the society and family

but a child in your care that fails to follow ur instruction, how would such child be able to make it abroad with no guardian?

leksmedia:
I will blame the parents. This is the height of bad parenting, So your child is studying in a University for 4 years and you don't think its important to visit the child at School. You didnt care to ask for their result, or receipt for every payment, even after seeing receipt, you should even verify.

here are things every responsible parent should do
1. Visit your in school at least 4 times a year
2. Pay surprise visits on weekends
3. Have their time table so you can easily predict where they are having lectures and pay them a visit during lecture (though I wont advise you go in to look for them, It can be embarassing)
4. Have people that can help you monitor them , be careful you are not putting them in wrong hands
5. Have someone old and responsible like a fatherly or motherly figure they can be accountable to, this has its own disadvantage too, you just
6. Call them often especially at night, you can easily track whether they are in or out
7. Be friendly with your children, give them some flexibility to express themselves

For your website design , ecommerce websites and blog design, visit www.leksmediaconcept.com or call 08173091370

All these one u dey talk na story. Na primary sch wey u expect to ask for result? To dey go visit at will. Even with your visit, na the thing wey pikin want you to see you go see.

leksmedia:
Drop your contact or chat me up on whatsapp

07034802789 on whatsapp.

Freethought:
It's quite unfortunate but the truth is, no time is too late to start over..

If I'm the parent, 1st i ll gt them a psychologist for at least a year, after which I will ask them what dey are willing to do next and I'll fully support them

You are a wise man

Sterope:
I would not advice disowning such a child. There is room for one more opportunity.

tell me more, a child that deceives his parents for 4 years does not deserve anoda opportunity na