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| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Xmen149(m): 10:11pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
Enter Europe ,US . meet a bae, tell her you want to marry her. meet the family and they like you(usually invite you to dinner),they be like:he is an honest man,earns a living and can take care of a family. arrange with a priest and fix a date,wed the fvck out o her. throw very small indoor dinner party (if you want oh) and have beutiful babies. meet nigerian babe after all the wahala tell her you want to marry her. meet her family (you must go with gift oh),they will check if you have a car,house or staying abroad(they will surly like you if you have a talking pocket),(bearing in mind this one will train emeka or kunle for us  )U come with immediate family (and goodies)come collect list choose if you bring everything in list once or not and u must bring am (money go comot) when you are done,then traditional marriage(an party you go pay). then white wedding will follow(with party u go pay) then court marriage(them fit pity you comot party,but u must feed people that went with u) then go with your wife (and start expecting either Esther,emeka or bayo that will later come and live with you that u must sponsor) Thenn carry all your inlaw problem for head like gala 15 Likes |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Newboss(m): 10:12pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
What a shame that the females still open their mouth to defend the errors some men seek to fix.  It's obvious that when a lady is being beaten by her lover, you should just mind your business because the lady can kill you in the name of defending her lover. I've always known that marriage is a scam, right from the "creation stories" in ALL religious books. Women are BASICALLY tools for men. Absolute second class humans. It all stems from religion I hope someday up to 80% of women in Africa will see that bride price is simply a man acquiring himself a new tool that has pussy 4 Likes |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by ehissi(m): 10:13pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
chiommy123: What is there to answer name......  If you think say E hard like that, then send me your email let me send you list for my "groom price". Lemme just be changing the name right away......  1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Nobody: 10:13pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
zicoraads: Screenshot this thread let's see the phone you're using. Biafranbushboy was right. Go and do something useful with your life instead of trying to impress unknown females who don't give a damn about your existence. He can't even afford an iOS device yet you won't allow people to hear word. |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Bignuell(m): 10:14pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
flyDixon:correct talk my guy. 3 Likes |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by dominique(f): 10:16pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
milemimi93: Why aren't parents compensated for training their sons? Why daughters only? There's no justification for this slave trade practice called bride price. It's makes no sense to place a price tag on a human being. It's about time this crazy tradition is scrapped for good but greedy families will never let that happen. 12 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Acidosis(m): 10:19pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
chiommy123: Like wtf?! Please get ready to accept anything your husband throws at you in the name of culture. You're not a zombie, you can coin and design your own culture. Your village people do not own you. 4 Likes |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Acidosis(m): 10:21pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
milemimi93: Stfu!! Men don't get trained in your village?? 3 Likes |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Lizilicious(f): 10:22pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
I don't know the part of Akwa ibom she's talking abt oo, but what I saw my dad gave to my Inlaw as list wasn't even up to one and half page.. And u can still come and argue if u think that's too much.. Pipo Shud get their facts right mbok, don't use ur village wahala to come and Spoil people's future marriages.. Kneel ko, roll ni 1 Like |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Xmen149(m): 10:28pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
Acidosis:  my brother!if the villagers(elders) actually tell u how marriage must go after the man finished all the rites slay queen of now days no go gree. The women actually become slave in the actual culture after the rites (address the husband as their lord,do all choors,have their own farm they work on,cook,fetch water etc) (watch things fall apart) ladies choose which part of the culture to accept that favors them and abolish the one they dnt like hypocrisy 3 Likes |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by bigplayerz(m): 10:28pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
Na dem type dey kneel down for DOGGY position pass ..but yet she can not kneel (showing a form of submission to the man) in public. Chai the world is about to END really....even female animals submit to male animals (they are lesser to us in hierarchy), also the bible , quoran , other books and even God/Allah put man before woman...Truly some are WOE UNTO MAN. 1 Like |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Nobody: 10:31pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
dominique: It's not about families,it's about men. The bride price is eaten by the lady's father and male folks not the bride herself or her mother. The inhumane traditions were created by men. Women shouldn't be enslaved because of the stupidity of their fathers, that's why ladies need to stand up and fight this culture. I'VE ALWAYS SAID IT THAT THE ONLY WAY THIS WORLD CAN BE FREE OFF VIOLENCE AND ALL SORTS OF INHUMANE ACTS IS TO GET RID OF MEN(This statement might sound stupid but that's the raw truth) 3 Likes |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by CAPSLOCKED: 10:32pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by milemimi93(m): 10:37pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
Acidosis:They are trained differently.. |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Nobody: 10:39pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
CAPSLOCKED: In a bid to impress or get attention from online females who don't even give a hoot about him he started behaving like a tout. Saying people aren't in his league and so so.. A retched teacher that can't afford an ordinary iOS device for that matter. Only now do I believe bush's statement about him the other time. 1 Like |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Odogiawa(m): 10:45pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
see the list that chase my elder brother away 2 Likes
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| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by safarigirl(f): 10:50pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
IntrovertedK:and of all the Igbo people that have been married, how many have been alleviated from poverty by the so called marriage? The way the internet exaggerates these things, you would think nobody marries Igbo girls or all Igbo girls are married into rich homes. This internet can blow things out of proportion and it is unmarried people coming here with spurious allegations. Those who have gotten married are not making any noise 2 Likes |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Odogiawa(m): 10:53pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
He was given this right at Imo state before he met an Akwa Ibom girl,that worsen the whole situation and made him angry that he was not gonna marry any girl from the east... he has no option than to come back to benin.... 3 Likes 1 Share
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| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by CAPSLOCKED: 10:56pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
Odogiawa: WTH! IS HE MARRYING FROM A REFUGEES CAMP? 5 Likes |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by safarigirl(f): 10:56pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
Odogiawa:where bride price is relatively cheap and there are more landladies than landlords. Well, as long as okada men and vulcanizers are still getting married from this same east, I will never understand where some of you meet these families that don't budge. Which money is a okada rider using to get married? 2 Likes |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by pinkcottoncandy: 10:58pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
Aonkuuse: Wait put that money in dollars and you will know how cheap it is to marry a woman in Nigeria... So if a parent trains their daughter from birth to university and spend millions on her education...the reason you saw and liked her ...so they should give her out for free...knowing that if she becomes successful in the job market you will be the one to benefit... and you will be the one to quote how much she gives or should not give to help her family out....as a man you should proudly pay whatever they quote if you are worth your salt. Man own this and that...pesin no go hear word... 1 Like |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Skmoda360(m): 10:59pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
Akwa ibom keep...I'm in trouble... Ayemilode!!!?
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| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Skmoda360(m): 11:02pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
Akwa ibom kee....I'm in trouble... Ayemilode!!!?
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| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Leopantro: 11:07pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
Odogiawa: PAGE 1 OF 6 1 Like |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by milemimi93(m): 11:11pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
dominique: The system is fvcked up. 1 Like |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Xmen149(m): 11:11pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Leopantro: 11:13pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
pinkcottoncandy: this reminds me of something that happened to a friend in Abia state. The girls family put the birthprice at 800k. the guy was mandated to sponsor the trad and the white wedding. serious fight started. the girl sided with the mother and said the guy must perform his right. the guy did everything with anger but they later got married. the marriage didn't last two months. now she is a baby boy and in her parent's house. no more suitors. last i heard she was planning to leave the country. |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by milemimi93(m): 11:16pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
thedondada:They are all trained differently |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by kizyalex10(m): 11:17pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
Now let me explain things abt bride price.is not only d igbos.be it yoruba or hausa.d bride price and the list is determined by so many factors.first the quality of d girl in question.ie.investing heavily in her tuition and maybe she became successful.as a doctor.lawyer.engineer.at dis point.she wont be a liability to her husband.but an asset.so the father inlaw and d kinsmen will want the potential inlaw to be worth giving such an asset to.financially ok.then most cases the man wont even bother much abt too much list readjustment.then another is abt the inlaws its self.the bride parents.their eagerness to give out their daughters to you.if their daughter is an asset beauty with brains.dat they believe attracts better suitors.then at that point they wont be scared brandishing their list cos if u leave,another man is at d door praying for him to get a chance.but when they see she is a liability or still raw.that after marriage,u will still have alot to do for her.ie.education,business,or jst a house wife.then they can quickly liase with u during dowry payment and list nd den to d elders to help readjust things.with the proverbial saying that women re nt married once.they re married continiously.which means if u collect huge sums now and d inlaw struggles tomorrow after payment or refuses to help anyone from the inlaw side.then its nt good.but if they treat him well.he can visit once a while to show appreciation there by extending his dowry payment endlessly.(indirectly)so is nt jst the igbos ,am sure every tribe demand based on d quality of their export.period.because if thats not the case.there re short cuts girls use.some may have a babe or get pregnant for the guy and d parents will rush and accept whatever he brings so that it wont be a shame for them that their daughter gave birth outside wedlock.NOTE:both d asset and liability wife lists are d same.but can be readjusted to the bearest minimum if they wish u take their daughter. |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Nobody: 11:18pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
pinkcottoncandy: What kind of mindset is this? was the boy not also trained by his parents? Are the ladies in other parts of the world not trained by their parents? Do men pay before marrying them in the west? This is slavery. In economics a commodity is defined as anything that can be purchased with money, therefore any woman that money is paid on is a commodity and a man's property. When some Nigerian feminists argue about useless things like who'll cook, who'll feed baby and other stuffs I just sigh because if we are to achieve gender equality in this country, bride price must be abolished. I can't purchase you then you'll be dragging rights with me. Go and drag those rights with your father that sold you off. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by Nobody: 11:18pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
safarigirl:Hi safari.. The bride isn't the one to benefit from this brideprice i tagged Poverty alleviation scheme. Igbo parents marry their daughters to whosoever can afford the brideprice irrespective of status, i know it's not all though buh i still think the brideprice is all they care for when giving their daughters out in marriage. So the tag *Poverty alleviation scheme* is to only benefit the brides' family and maybe community. They give their daughters hand not only to the rich i know so don't get me wrong please. And that's the area the complaint (or maybe discussion though since it's none of my business) comes from. It shouldn't be like that, people that are trying to come together as one to start a new life (a family) should be supported instead, i'm not saying there's anything bad in brideprice please buh should at least be reasonable. Have seen an okada man (of Igbo descent of course) who went home to marry only to come back to sell his only means of livelihood just to start his new family after exhausting all his savings on brideprice payment. It took him months before he was able to get back. It's not a must they bill husband to be that much all in the name of brideprice, it's not as if heaven will fall down if they choose not to collect more than a change as dowry and marry the daughter off. Their heavy and high bill makes it look like they are selling their female daughter hence the tag *Poverty alleviation scheme* by the way, that is that. I saw your thread where you review movies. Can you review songs like that also? And are you a journalist (either in the making or made)? Or you just have the special skill in journalism? Anyway, whichever way it is, i love the way you review the movies, buh your critics are kinda too much on some of 'em, you shouldn't make the producers and cast feel so depressed that much. Hope i can PM you for future business though (i have some plans for the future i'd like to involve your skill in) i pray God will keep us more than then. So i can at least have your full contact details (like mail, number and social media contacts). Thanks. |
| Re: The Kind Of List We Give Men, Women Are Meant To Be Rolling During Wedding- Lady by bigocean(m): 11:18pm On Aug 25, 2018 |
victorian:before nko, when your family decided to exchange you for a price, what do you think you are? 1 Like |
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