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[quote author=kiddoiLL post=74349953]it ....

My mom has no favorite child, we are just two.....

kiddoiLL:
it is so so wrong, that shít fvcks up your child mentally while you have no idea how it's affecting them. This exact post you made is part of my struggles when I was depressed. Like I once said My dad was mostly responsible for a big part of my depression even though he had no idea.... He would show it openly in front of us all, and say it to us how my brother is so lucky and how he likes him so much, I have two brothers, and 3 sisters... Man would spend a lot of money on my brother back then nd would come up with reasons for the rest of us.
Shít even got to my kid sister the last born who felt she's always being treated unfairly, and she would tell my cousin about how she just want to do and then leave home... when she left for school, you don't know how happy she was that she was gon be free from some of the treatment and drama.
Never treat your kids like one is better than the others, never treat one like he's superior to the others...
even if one is weak, embrace he or she and shower on them all the love they need, love only makes them stronger... Love is a strong language and kids and mostly teenagers need it, that's why they end up doing stuffs outside and ending up making the wrong decisions just because you as a parent failed to do the right thing, all you know is some fvcked up sense of righteousness and religious bullshit, forgetting life is more than that and they have feelings and crave other stuffs. .. your kids won't tell you, but it affects them mentally, at some point I hated my family cus of how it made me feel...
I can still remember the day he came home with one of his friends (that one is a traditionalist), his friend told him in my presence that I've been telling myself that “one day they'll wake up at home and not see me anymore”.
He was right because i was planning and developing ideas to leave home and kept thinking of where to go... the reason why I still remember that incident is because of the respond NY dad gave him, it's forever stuck in my head, my dad responded with “If anyone decides he wants to leave, he's free to”... I was just getting into J.S.S.1... the response he gave hit me so much i couldn't get it off my head.

you should never treat one child better than the other,
I was suicidal but I got passed it, I'm fine and doing well now and up till now my dad has no idea the damage he did to me all those years.
I know how it feels to go through all that whole shít and depression and I vowed I'll never let any of my kids go through that phase or treat em that way....

and whoever can should push this to FP, there are still folks who needs to know and get this message

I tell you bro I have been Tru all this poo....but I thank God I am healing now.....it's ok we are together in this God will always be there for us.happy new year

Biblically it's okay.

firebaby:
I tell bro I have been Tru all this poo....but I thank God o am healing now.....it's ok we are together in this God will always be there for us.happy new year

Happy new year sis..stay strong

Santinojr:
Bro ..I can totally relate . i experienced mine from when i was about 10-11 years old. It all began when my dad said he saw me associating with so called bad friends. From that day he beats me at any slightest opportunity , accuses me of stealing his money , says abusive words to me . When i asked my mum why i'm being treated different from my other siblings, she said my dad hates me and wants to disown me ... Mehn I grew up with that feeling of being rejected and hated till I reached 18 .

E no easy bro, the good that came out of it is that, we all learnt from it and we'll work to never let our kids go through that same thing...

kiddoiLL:
it is so so wrong, that shít fvcks up your child mentally while you have no idea how it's affecting them.

Hmmmm....child mentality only?....bro...read your entire comment... the more you wrote...the more the bitterness surfaced.... showed in the tone of your writing. No doubt... you wouldn't show favouritism.... but what if your wife does? Anyone is such a situation need to sit their other half down and draw the line in the sand.
Nothing good ever comes out of having a favourite child.

Interesting

I strongly advise, no parent should have a favourite child among their children. It breeds discord, jealousy, among other evil thoughts.

kiddoiLL:
it is so so wrong, that shít fvcks up your child mentally while you have no idea how it's affecting them. This exact post you made is part of my struggles when I was depressed. Like I once said My dad was mostly responsible for a big part of my depression even though he had no idea.... He would show it openly in front of us all, and say it to us how my brother is so lucky and how he likes him so much, I have two brothers, and 3 sisters... Man would spend a lot of money on my brother back then nd would come up with reasons for the rest of us.
Shít even got to my kid sister the last born who felt she's always being treated unfairly, and she would tell my cousin about how she just want to do and then leave home... when she left for school, you don't know how happy she was that she was gon be free from some of the treatment and drama.
Never treat your kids like one is better than the others, never treat one like he's superior to the others...
even if one is weak, embrace he or she and shower on them all the love they need, love only makes them stronger... Love is a strong language and kids and mostly teenagers need it, that's why they end up doing stuffs outside and ending up making the wrong decisions just because you as a parent failed to do the right thing, all you know is some fvcked up sense of righteousness and religious bullshit, forgetting life is more than that and they have feelings and crave other stuffs. .. your kids won't tell you, but it affects them mentally, at some point I hated my family cus of how it made me feel...
I can still remember the day he came home with one of his friends (that one is a traditionalist), his friend told him in my presence that I've been telling myself that “one day they'll wake up at home and not see me anymore”.
He was right because i was planning and developing ideas to leave home and kept thinking of where to go... the reason why I still remember that incident is because of the respond NY dad gave him, it's forever stuck in my head, my dad responded with “If anyone decides he wants to leave, he's free to”... I was just getting into J.S.S.1... the response he gave hit me so much i couldn't get it off my head.

you should never treat one child better than the other,
I was suicidal but I got passed it, I'm fine and doing well now and up till now my dad has no idea the damage he did to me all those years.
I know how it feels to go through all that whole shít and depression and I vowed I'll never let any of my kids go through that phase or treat em that way....

and whoever can should push this to FP, there are still folks who needs to know and get this message

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Damn,bro. That's tough

SlimHan:
@kiddoiLL
Good to know someone out there knows exactly how that feels. Pray I grow up to do well just like you did sir.

Been there
Still there and it's not just easy.

stay strong and keep a straight head, you'll do just fine

Originalsly:
Hmmmm....child mentality only?....bro...read your entire comment... the more you wrote...the more the bitterness surfaced.... showed in the tone of your writing. No doubt... you wouldn't show favouritism.... but what if your wife does? Anyone is such a situation need to sit their other half down and draw the line in the sand.
Nothing good ever comes out of having a favourite child.

she shouldn't try that shít with any of my kids oo...well it's not a thing I'll hide from her, since it will help her understand why it's bad and why I'm against it..

COOL10:
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Damn,bro. That's tough

Man that response he gave can never be erased from my head...

No, not right.

Ok

Not right at all

Wrong. Absolutely wrong. I see it as a form of silent abuse to the other children or child.

Blakjewelry:
it might happen naturally but please don't let it show

We can't help it as parents, there will be that child who will be closer to our heart. The best thing is not to show it

kiddoiLL:
she shouldn't try that shít with any of my kids oo...well it's not a thing I'll hide from her, since it will help her understand why it's bad and why I'm against it..

Lol...as expected!...well the main reason I said people like you should sit your wife down is to save her from your fury!...just the thought and you're already fired up!.... this topic really struck k a nerve in you!

Then you better hope it is not your first and primary heir so it all balances out.

Originalsly:
Lol...as expected!...well the main reason I said people like you should sit your wife down is to save her from your fury!...just the thought and you're already fired up!.... this topic really struck k a nerve in you!

Lol.... I said I won't hide it from her so she'll understand...it's not something to hide from a permanent spouse

kiddoiLL:
Man that response he gave can never be erased from my head...

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I'm glad you didn't let that keep you down for too long . Our stories are quite similar only that it's vice versa I.e my mom . Funny thing is I don't give a shiit about who she favours or not cos it doesn't add or take anything away from my bank account. What irritates me is when she shoves it unapologetically in my face through comparisons and taking sides with them even when they're clearly wrong. Like someone said earlier,no need giving birth to more than ONE offspring if you can't share your love equally and fairly. Don't make your child feel left out,unloved,and unimportant just because of your inability to control your favouritism. That shiit kills.

Zeinymira:
We can't help it as parents, there will be that child who will be closer to our heart. The best thing is not to show it

You must work on yourself not to have a favorite. Because I don't think it's possible to have a favorite and not show it. If you know what it is to be a victim of this kind of thing, surely you'll learn to love your children equally

Very wrong & highly condemnable

Zieina:
You must work on yourself not to have a favorite. Because I don't think it's possible to have a favorite and not show it. If you know what it is to be a victim of this kind of thing, surely you'll learn to love your children equally

It really can't be helped. See, I believe am my mom's favorite and my eldest sis believe the same thing as well. The key point is don't show it.
When you talk about victims, well their parents abused them

Zeinymira:
It really can't be helped. See, I believe am my mom's favorite and my eldest sis believe the same thing as well. The key point is don't show it.
When you talk about victims, well their parents abused them

If that's the case, then your mum doesn't have a favorite. Trust me, if she does have a favorite, she wouldn't be able to hide it.

ojun50:
All parent do, hiding it was make the family at peace

Not true.

danduj:
Every parent has a favorite child, they just try as much as possible to hide it

Not true

kiddoiLL:
it is so so wrong, that shít fvcks up your child mentally while you have no idea how it's affecting them. This exact post you made is part of my struggles when I was depressed. Like I once said My dad was mostly responsible for a big part of my depression even though he had no idea.... He would show it openly in front of us all, and say it to us how my brother is so lucky and how he likes him so much, I have two brothers, and 3 sisters... Man would spend a lot of money on my brother back then nd would come up with reasons for the rest of us.
Shít even got to my kid sister the last born who felt she's always being treated unfairly, and she would tell my cousin about how she just want to do and then leave home... when she left for school, you don't know how happy she was that she was gon be free from some of the treatment and drama.
Never treat your kids like one is better than the others, never treat one like he's superior to the others...
even if one is weak, embrace he or she and shower on them all the love they need, love only makes them stronger... Love is a strong language and kids and mostly teenagers need it, that's why they end up doing stuffs outside and ending up making the wrong decisions just because you as a parent failed to do the right thing, all you know is some fvcked up sense of righteousness and religious bullshit, forgetting life is more than that and they have feelings and crave other stuffs. .. your kids won't tell you, but it affects them mentally, at some point I hated my family cus of how it made me feel...
I can still remember the day he came home with one of his friends (that one is a traditionalist), his friend told him in my presence that I've been telling myself that “one day they'll wake up at home and not see me anymore”.
He was right because i was planning and developing ideas to leave home and kept thinking of where to go... the reason why I still remember that incident is because of the respond NY dad gave him, it's forever stuck in my head, my dad responded with “If anyone decides he wants to leave, he's free to”... I was just getting into J.S.S.1... the response he gave hit me so much i couldn't get it off my head.

you should never treat one child better than the other,
I was suicidal but I got passed it, I'm fine and doing well now and up till now my dad has no idea the damage he did to me all those years.
I know how it feels to go through all that whole shít and depression and I vowed I'll never let any of my kids go through that phase or treat em that way....

and whoever can should push this to FP, there are still folks who needs to know and get this message

To have favorites is not bad because Even God has too...

It's not possible not to have one , parents are humans also , but don't make it so obvious.

kiddoiLL:
it is so so wrong, that shít fvcks up your child mentally while you have no idea how it's affecting them. This exact post you made is part of my struggles when I was depressed. Like I once said My dad was mostly responsible for a big part of my depression even though he had no idea.... He would show it openly in front of us all, and say it to us how my brother is so lucky and how he likes him so much, I have two brothers, and 3 sisters... Man would spend a lot of money on my brother back then nd would come up with reasons for the rest of us.
Shít even got to my kid sister the last born who felt she's always being treated unfairly, and she would tell my cousin about how she just want to do and then leave home... when she left for school, you don't know how happy she was that she was gon be free from some of the treatment and drama.
Never treat your kids like one is better than the others, never treat one like he's superior to the others...
even if one is weak, embrace he or she and shower on them all the love they need, love only makes them stronger... Love is a strong language and kids and mostly teenagers need it, that's why they end up doing stuffs outside and ending up making the wrong decisions just because you as a parent failed to do the right thing, all you know is some fvcked up sense of righteousness and religious bullshit, forgetting life is more than that and they have feelings and crave other stuffs. .. your kids won't tell you, but it affects them mentally, at some point I hated my family cus of how it made me feel...
I can still remember the day he came home with one of his friends (that one is a traditionalist), his friend told him in my presence that I've been telling myself that “one day they'll wake up at home and not see me anymore”.
He was right because i was planning and developing ideas to leave home and kept thinking of where to go... the reason why I still remember that incident is because of the respond NY dad gave him, it's forever stuck in my head, my dad responded with “If anyone decides he wants to leave, he's free to”... I was just getting into J.S.S.1... the response he gave hit me so much i couldn't get it off my head.

you should never treat one child better than the other,
I was suicidal but I got passed it, I'm fine and doing well now and up till now my dad has no idea the damage he did to me all those years.
I know how it feels to go through all that whole shít and depression and I vowed I'll never let any of my kids go through that phase or treat em that way....

and whoever can should push this to FP, there are still folks who needs to know and get this message

all this kind epistle , dude evn God has a favourite son . You can't love all your kids equally ,but don't make it obvious.


PS. Just read it, your dad really f up. He really made it obvious . Sorry for all those times he caused u pains.

To the best of my understanding, there is nothing like favorite child in the real sense of it. But a child, who parent consider to be the weakest among other children tend to get more attention and care from the parent and it makes people perceive them as favorite. So if f you have being perceived as your parent's favorite, check yourself. It is either you are the last child, only girl or the less successful among your siblings

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