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ikennamadu1:
What's your point.... You've just showed you hate the woman too...

Theyoungmatron:
The embolden is rubbish. What do you mean "asking a pregnant woman to sweep"?Was she not supposed to do anything again because she is pregnant? What type of stupid entitled mentality is that? She shouldn't even be reminded to clean up if at all she was well brought up.

Her actions and inaction reeks of a premeditated plans to prejudice her inlaws for no reason .
What am i saying sef, the league of slay mamas won't see anything wrong with what she did.

UnFunmi:
Of all the people on this thread, you are the first to look at it from the wife's perspective. That's impressive.

My view is the wife's anger has to do with the fact that she was made to go through that in such conditions when the mother in law could have easily helped. He shouldn't invalidate his wife feelings by taking his Mom side. If possible, he should help her make peace with that incident and let his mom know in a peaceful way.

eyinjuege:
Ordinary 7 months pregnant? Is she still not bending down and touching her toes in her condition to receive the D?
How many minutes will it take to clean the broken pieces of glass mirror off the floor?
Did any Dr advice her not to bend down at all?
I sympathise with pregnant women, as I know how difficult it is to be pregnant, but that's not an excuse to start thinking stupidly even after delivery(I know the hormones can mess up some people's brain cells, but it normally goes back to normal after birth).
She's just trying to create a problem where there is none, and believe you me its joblessness that causes this type of thinking.
OP, does your wife work?
She should see women who's inlaws are giving them stress, and she would be grateful and do thanksgiving that her own MIL just asked her to clean up after herself.
Imagine if she was working, will she say she will never bend down at work for whatever reason? Is it even possible she never bends down at all in her own home?
Pregnancy is not a disease jare, but I understand it's a very stressful and difficult period.
However, old age is also a difficult time where all your bones ache, and all your joints are riddled with arthritis causing constant pain.
Pregnant or not, I won't allow my own mother sweep a mirror I broke off the floor, and I definitely won't take it personal if she asks me to sweep it so the shards dont cut my feet.

MatthAnn:
So from everything I wrote up there, that is the only thing you could pick out? Lol



And use your brain next time.






Not every girl is a slay queen,probably like your girlfriends.
Read and comprehend so you won't be disgracing yourself up en down

jombo21:
I got married to my wife 3 years ago and the marriage is blessed with a baby girl. My wife took in during courtship and we decided to take the relationship to the next level, i took her home to meet my mum and she fell in love with my wife at first sight. Few months after the introduction we got married. Since then all have been well with the marriage until i started noticing my wife's uncanny feelings towards my family (esp my mum and younger sis). Last week, my wife and my sis had a little misunderstanding which i tried to settle between both of them, one night before going to bed i called her up for a brief discussion hence settle the rift between them. During the discussion my wife bluntly told me that there was something my mum and sis did to her that she will never forgive and forget. I was shocked!! ( this is a woman i go to church with every Sunday).

I told her to tell me what my mother did to her and she said it happened 3 years ago when she was 7 months pregnant when visited my mother. She was holding a mirror, which mistakenly fell down and broke into pieces, my mum told her to get a broom and sweep the broken pieces of mirror which she did. Now, my wife's pain is that my mother is so wicked to have watched and allowed her to bend down and sweep with her 7 months pregnancy because of that my hates her.

I was shocked to the marrows, i am still in shock because my mum loves my wife so much, she prays for us and often call my wife to check up on her. Please women/mothers in the house i wish to know if my mum was wrong cos am so confused about this.

bukatyne:
A man will grunt while carrying 12.5kg cylinder while lifting a 60kg woman like paper to his bed.

Whether she bent down to collect D or not is inconsequential.

I guess we look at things differently.

I will never allow a 7mth old pregnant woman sweep where I am irrespective of the story.

bukatyne:
A man will grunt while carrying 12.5kg cylinder while lifting a 60kg woman like paper to his bed.

Whether she bent down to collect D or not is inconsequential.

I guess we look at things differently.

I will never allow a 7mth old pregnant woman sweep where I am irrespective of the story.

grandstar:
Your wife is being petty. She should grow up.

Please pamper and sweet talk her until she forgives. Just do it for the sake of peace in your house and family


Happy Married Life

Bluette:
u have to sit her down and talk her into forgiving your mother, beg her and apologise on behalf of your mother. Apart from her bending which could be so difficult due to her big stomach, she might at that time be experiencing some pain or discomfort which could cause the mirror dropping from her hand. My sister pregnancy wasn't easy at all, she had to even live with us cos of d husband's busy schedule, as old as my mum is, she was worried for her case because it's pain after pain for her till few days to delivery, so imagine her breaking a mirror and my mum asking her to sweep, that is wickedness! yes, your mum may not know how she's feeling from d inside especially d first pregnancy ish, but u can't judge her by saying she's a Christian blablabla. She was seriously hurt and most "hurt" from people we love or we r close to pain a lot. I think God wants it to be settled that's y she voiced out, and u are in the best position to say sorry. I guess if it was ur father, she wouldn't have been angry, I think she's angry because ur mum is a woman who knows how pregnancy is.

otuekong1:
no it's the man's wife that should rather go and apologize to her mother in-law for having grudges against her in spite of the love been showed to her

grandstar:
Life is not straight black and white. At times, even when she's on the wrong, pet and pamper her. Even say sorry. With time, she'll realise that she's wrong.

Jesus was very patient with his disciples. They were always quarreling amongst themselves who was the greatest amongst them even on the night he was going to be arrested! Rather than vex, he urged them to be like children who were humble.

With time, the disciples got the sense of what he said and changed.

Apostle Paul urged husband's trear their wives the way Jesus treats the congregation.

Her behavior maybe due to immaturity and with time, with kind sweet words, she'll realise she's wrong.

elmagnifico411:
aunty, what is wickedness in asking her to sweep the mirror she broke? Was she not even supposed to make a move towards sweeping It before she was asked to do so? You people overrate this pregnancy kini like we don't see them everywhere.. abeg jare, the woman did nothing to her. There's nothing here to forgive. She should work on herself before irreparable. Some one that cannot even apologize when she goes wrong? A friend's wife still served us rice on easter Sunday and put to bed yesterday, and nothing extra happened.

Now to the husband, hows your wife's family background? You know most of us are functions of our background. U no check well before u fall in love.

If that your wife refused to change, being happy might be very hard for u.

jombo21:
I got married to my wife 3 years ago and the marriage is blessed with a baby girl. My wife took in during courtship and we decided to take the relationship to the next level, i took her home to meet my mum and she fell in love with my wife at first sight. Few months after the introduction we got married. Since then all have been well with the marriage until i started noticing my wife's uncanny feelings towards my family (esp my mum and younger sis). Last week, my wife and my sis had a little misunderstanding which i tried to settle between both of them, one night before going to bed i called her up for a brief discussion hence settle the rift between them. During the discussion my wife bluntly told me that there was something my mum and sis did to her that she will never forgive and forget. I was shocked!! ( this is a woman i go to church with every Sunday).

I told her to tell me what my mother did to her and she said it happened 3 years ago when she was 7 months pregnant when visited my mother. She was holding a mirror, which mistakenly fell down and broke into pieces, my mum told her to get a broom and sweep the broken pieces of mirror which she did. Now, my wife's pain is that my mother is so wicked to have watched and allowed her to bend down and sweep with her 7 months pregnancy because of that my hates her.

I was shocked to the marrows, i am still in shock because my mum loves my wife so much, she prays for us and often call my wife to check up on her. Please women/mothers in the house i wish to know if my mum was wrong cos am so confused about this.

CoolJul:
u wife has ogbaje.

an unforgiving woman can kill! + a prideful one at that.

jaady:
All pregnancies are not the same, some people carry their babies high, meaning at 7months, bending down to use a broom is impossible. I had my hubby help with my shoelaces at that time, I was strong could clean the house, but I had to invest in longhand brushes, so I can clean without having to bend to the floor (which was impossible by the way, except I have to kneel down to use a broom, and that was downright discomforting and getting back up was an issue. The fact in life is those past incidents are only remembered by those on the receiving end. So your mum is bound to have forgotten about it. Whatever relationship your wife shares with your mother depends on how you handle matters that crop up between them. There are times you need to be stern with your wife, and other times you will need to be stern with your mother. It is your duty to draw up boundaries. Not every woman is meek and humble, you knew this is who she is before you married her, so figure a way to handle her.
some of the ladies commenting here with righteous indignation will have some serious flaws that they might not accept. Everyone is flawed. Let your sister treat your wife with respect and respect her space. Fact is if your marriage crumbles today, she will soon enough start her own home and not give a care about you. Hold your home together. Your wife is better off as a friend to you than an ally. If you make her feel she is competing with your family, then that is the beginning of a host of problems you will need divine intervention to solve

sisisioge:
Your wife is such a brat! no vex! So if her mom had asked her to sweep at 9month, she would hold it against her forever? No be her fault, the women who handle their chores all through pregnancies by themselves don't have more than 1 head! Iranu. You better embrace Christianity more...at least it helps reform peoples had behavior.

Whew...no vex fa.

fieryy:
Mtcheeeeeew. I even thought we'll learning about a hot family secret., but nah

Just a wife whining about having to sweep.

If she had a stressful pregnancy or was feeling sick that day, she could have told your mum she can't. How on earth can someone have a grudge against another person just because of this incident? And that for THREE freaking years.

bukatyne:
While I understand your wife's pain, she should forgive her and let go.

I doubt a biological mother would watch her 7 month pregnant daughter sweep shrads of glass off the floor.

bukatyne:
While I understand your wife's pain, she should forgive her and let go.

I doubt a biological mother would watch her 7 month pregnant daughter sweep shrads of glass off the floor.

bukatyne:
Thanks.

I don't think he should tell his mom though.

Just talk to the wife.

jombo21:
Easy sir/ma, there is nothing like ogbanje

Bluette:
u have to sit her down and talk her into forgiving your mother, beg her and apologise on behalf of your mother. Apart from her bending which could be so difficult due to her big stomach, she might at that time be experiencing some pain or discomfort which could cause the mirror dropping from her hand. My sister pregnancy wasn't easy at all, she had to even live with us cos of d husband's busy schedule, as old as my mum is, she was worried for her case because it's pain after pain for her till few days to delivery, so imagine her breaking a mirror and my mum asking her to sweep, that is wickedness! yes, your mum may not kn
bless ke

energize the guy joor........abi....u wan God to come down to earth ...to bless d guy ni ow how she's feeling from d inside especially d first pregnancy ish, but u can't judge her by saying she's a Christian blablabla. She was seriously hurt and most "hurt" from people we love or we r close to pain a lot. I think God wants it to be settled that's y she voiced out, and u are in the best position to say sorry. I guess if it was ur father, she wouldn't have been angry, I think she's angry because ur mum is a woman who knows how pregnancy is.

jombo21:
I got married to my wife 3 years ago and the marriage is blessed with a baby girl. My wife took in during courtship and we decided to take the relationship to the next level, i took her home to meet my mum and she fell in love with my wife at first sight. Few months after the introduction we got married. Since then all have been well with the marriage until i started noticing my wife's uncanny feelings towards my family (esp my mum and younger sis). Last week, my wife and my sis had a little misunderstanding which i tried to settle between both of them, one night before going to bed i called her up for a brief discussion hence settle the rift between them. During the discussion my wife bluntly told me that there was something my mum and sis did to her that she will never forgive and forget. I was shocked!! ( this is a woman i go to church with every Sunday).

I told her to tell me what my mother did to her and she said it happened 3 years ago when she was 7 months pregnant when visited my mother. She was holding a mirror, which mistakenly fell down and broke into pieces, my mum told her to get a broom and sweep the broken pieces of mirror which she did. Now, my wife's pain is that my mother is so wicked to have watched and allowed her to bend down and sweep with her 7 months pregnancy because of that my hates her.

I was shocked to the marrows, i am still in shock because my mum loves my wife so much, she prays for us and often call my wife to check up on her. Please women/mothers in the house i wish to know if my mum was wrong cos am so confused about this.

UnFunmi:
Of all the people on this thread, you are the first to look at it from the wife's perspective. That's impressive.

My view is the wife's anger has to do with the fact that she was made to go through that in such conditions when the mother in law could have easily helped. He shouldn't invalidate his wife feelings by taking his Mom side. If possible, he should help her make peace with that incident and let his mom know in a peaceful way.

elmagnifico411:
aunty, what is wickedness in asking her to sweep the mirror she broke? Was she not even supposed to make a move towards sweeping It before she was asked to do so? You people overrate this pregnancy kini like we don't see them everywhere.. abeg jare, the woman did nothing to her. There's nothing here to forgive. She should work on herself before irreparable. Some one that cannot even apologize when she goes wrong? A friend's wife still served us rice on easter Sunday and put to bed yesterday, and nothing extra happened.

Now to the husband, hows your wife's family background? You know most of us are functions of our background. U no check well before u fall in love.

If that your wife refused to change, being happy might be very hard for u.

Affamefuna:
Which stupid condition? Y r u people talking like this? That a woman pregnant at 7months was asked to clean a glass she broke? Was it the mother in-laws that was supposed to clean it?
Y r u pple always talking as if pregnancy is now a disease or a condition to make one lazy and stupid.
Some of the comments I see here makes me wonder how some of u reason.
For the op, that wife of yours should pls stop acting childish and unreasonable except there is something else she's not telling u