cydophobia:
PM me for Shengen visa.

cydophobia:
PM me for Shengen visa.

chigoizie7:
Unless you are going with your wife. Otherwise go as a single guy. Even when you are going with your wife , make sure that she can work as well:


At the end of the day, it all boils down to what you are going to America or Europe to do.

As for me, I am only out here to make money with my youthful strength, no amount of money is ever enough, but we can make enough to invest at home based on exchange rates. That is my own aim of leaving naija. I can decide to eat once or twice a day, I can decide to be sharing a room with someone so that I can save more In terms of rent and other things. Just to save some change, but you can’t do all that when you have your family with you.

It is a lot easier as you do not also have much responsibilities as a single guy. You also know that in those who years when you are struggling to get your papers, that you are also working, invest, build something in naija. Maybe some houses for rents. By the time you get your papers fully ready to return to marry, you will have something to show for it. Even when you still want to remain in the abroad with your family, you can easily call money from your investments in naija and live at least a good life. As a married man, except that your wife is working also in naija while you travel. You can’t make much. That money you will be sending for their upkeep would be useful as it will be going to investments instead of consumptions.

But if your plan is to relocate and live abroad forever, then you can go with your family, but it still makes sense for you to atleast stand a little on your own in a foreign land before bringing a second or third party.

Enemyofpeace:
that she is your baby nama does not in anyway make her your legal wife except you have paid her dowry and all other things expected of you in getting married to a lady. From your story I will advice you to forget about that lady and see yourself as a single man, fill the form as a single man. If you make the mistake of carrying that lady to America or Canada that I know, sorry go be you middle name, what she is doing to you now will be a child's play, compared to what she will do to you in America or Canada. One day you will remember and appreciate this my advice.


dominique, lalasticlala, ishilove and mynd44 you people should unban my favourite moniker o.

payperpost:
what happened to my son? thay means I won't be able to take him with me in the future or what?

Neoteny:
I always find it funny when people talk about settling down in the US when the most they can get from the consulate is a non-immigrant B2 visa.

People here have been so misinformed by other people that they think relocating to the US is as easy as simply walking in.

Yoighaman:


It would be nice to provide a solution or advice on the way forward for those interested in relocating, your post hasn't provided any of these.

womenareapes:
the option i give is for those who have already married but still want to travel abroad

I rather prefer traveling abroad single than to marry our apes women and bringing her to come live with you in abroad

Enemyofpeace:
Why not?You can include your son's name in the list with his birth certificate as an evidence. Don't make the mistake of travelling out of the country with that lady o, she go frustrate your life sotey you go dey beg God to take you away, I don talk my own. If your son can't travel with you now because of one reason or another most especially the so called mother, you can always bring him down to join you later in the future

Neoteny:


It's not my job to provide migration guides, but it's my duty to counter misinformation.

The US DoS website has information on Visa types.

Yoighaman:


It is very clear we are not discussing migration guides or visa types here and we appreciate you countering misinformation but whilst you do that, it'll be nice to state a constructive, objective and realistic opinion on the issue at hand, that's the purpose of the thread.

Neoteny:


Who made those rules?

The topic was asking about migration, but you're here pontificating otherwise.

You don't get to tell me how to frame my opinion.

As far as I'm concerned my opinion was constructive, objective, and realistic because you can't point out anything destructive, subjective, and unrealistic about it.

If you're waiting for me to tell you how to migrate to the US married or single then you've a long wait coming.

Yoighaman:


I didn't ask the question on whether to migrate to the US as a single or married man, the OP did. However, my contention is to have your posts aligned to the subject matter by addressing the OP's concerns, not educating him on where to get migration guides or visa types; If that's what he needed, he wouldn't have opened this thread.

Anyway, I don't get to tell you how to frame your opinion like you rightly said but i just think opinions should be used to constructively address issues of particular interests.

Regards.

Beautyaddy:


Huh ...And why is that?

Any man that thinks like the above highlighted statement has Very Serious Low and Insecured Esteem.

Neoteny:


You completely misunderstood my intentions.

I've seen many threads opened by people hopeful of leaving thinking migration is as easy as getting a tourist visa, which itself is hard to get, and simply landing in the US and all will be well.

This forum has no structure for how people relate, information that is relative to any topic, even if marginally, can be shared so long as it opens another discussion or adds to the general body of knowledge.

Just scroll through the topics and see lots of people talking about how getting a US visa is all they need to move to a new and better life, like getting a visa is simply walking into the embassy and walking out with a green card. The US is not exactly welcoming of migrants, especially not ones from Nigeria. Not with Trump and his anti-immigration policies.

So the OP is talking about immigration as either married or single, and I'm talking about how immigration, whether asylum, refugee, skilled migrant, or permanent residence, is hard as hell to begin with.

Yoighaman:


I concur.

lordally:


You relocated in your late 20s...that exactly what I'm currently trying to do ....getting the Visa is the issue money ain't the issue...please can I PM YOU?

guru90:
With which kinda Visa type?

U better u port to Germany or Australia with your family than using Usa as ur option. because they will delay u, waste ur resources then ur eyes go open by force.

Since Trump became their president, it is so hard to enter Usa as easy....

Change another country to port.....

midnighter:


No.

If you go there and carry a peasant woman who grew up with some kind of inveterate ideology and refuses to accommodate yours, that does not make the idea of marrying a foreigner or foreign-born lady totally out of the question.

Are "scolding" and "telling [them] off" not one and the same

A foreign woman who is actually interested would love to cook all those things you mentioned, come back with you and more.

I have such women as in-laws and they cant act like this. It depends on the persons orientation, background and also how you presented yourself in the first instance.

Some men will deliberately pretend and downplay their cultural perspective in the relationship so that they wont be sounding like "bushman". Pretending they like tomato salad and roast potato instead of telling the woman what it is they want. Later on they will begin to complain

The kind of woman you are describing is a narrow-minded or culturally restricted working or lower-middle class who was never interested in embracing your side of the story in the first place and felt that they were helping you out by marrying you. Those ones who will "absorb" and colonise one into their own family because of the way he presented himself.

When asked about Nigeria he will say "Mtchew, dont talk to me about that stupid country!" So how does he expect the person to be seeing him as anything other that an object of pity?

At least the part about "disrespect" is what I can understand because culturally, we have different ideas about what constitutes "respect" and at times we espouse some particularly misogynistic elements which would be difficult for an outsider (as it is for most of us insiders) to tolerate. A so-called "homegrown Nigerian lady" is somewhat conditioned more to accept certain realities, even if they should not be.

But generally what you wrote does not obtain for all foreign women, especially culturally sensitive ones. I can tell by the way youre describing it, the type of person you ran into lmao.

bukkysam:
No be US embassy website be this o. This is nairaland full of funny and crazy people. May God send sensible people to comment here


I wish you all the best baba mi

msmon:
The advantage of entering as a single is that you can date a white girl, impregnate her and get a green passport. All will be history

lefulefu:
so ur wife will be opening yansh to different men while u away?.is it not what is happpening in some parts of benin? wife wey open yansh to different men is that one a wife? .guy if u have plans to travel out then dont marry.wen u get there u can always get a wife.its foolish when u alone overseas and ur wife is alone in nigeria.which kain mumu marriage be dat?