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Did you marry her legally? If so, seek divorce before she harms you or the baby. If you did not marry her, call her people and yours and agree on how much you will be paying for the upkeep of your child and send her out of your house. First of all, do a paternity test.

You allowed a woman to plot and ensnare you with punna. She was obviously tired of many men leaving her because of her bad attitude and latched on to you as last option, knowing your weakness for her punna. You were played big time and the pregnancy might not have been yours. Gone are the days women coerce men into marriage with pregnancy.

We men should learn to guard our pr1cks sha. Let us always ask ourselves whether we can marry the girl we are sleeping with right now, if asked to. If the answer is No, quit the relationship. Put some value on yourselves! Sleeping with nonsense women just because you are Hot is self destructive. Women too enjoy sex(they enjoy it more than us) so don't let them make you think giving you sex is a favour. Above all, stop rolling with girls who have no ambition in life other than to marry a man.

DIKEnaWAR:
Did you marry her legally? If so, seek divorce before she harms you or the baby. If you did not marry her, call her people and yours and agree on how much you will be paying for the upkeep of your child and send her out of your house. First of all, do a paternity test.

You allowed a woman to plot and ensnare you with Womanliness. She was obviously tired of many men leaving her because of her bad attitude and latched on to you as last option, knowing your weakness for her Womanliness. You were played big time and the pregnancy might not have been yours.

Exactly my mind!

My questions are:

1. What if the child turns out mine as she's bold reminding me or making jest I still have not run the test. And the money I would had used to secure another place to avoid her would have being wasted.

2. What is the cost and reliability?

3. Can"t I do away with her by the police with evidence of the non-stop fights that lead to shedding blood?

DaCharis2016:
Please I will need your help here.


This is a threat to my life, and the infant.

This is the story so far.

A lady from Orhobo forcefully made her way into my house after a casual make out we had in August 2018.

It all started from year 2018 where I met this lady in my former place of work, and we exchanged contacts. Though I didn't call initially, she called and somehow we started seeing as she will come to my house visiting sometime.

I wasn't into her that much, coz she isn't the spec I wanted.

Along the line, she stopped coming around and calls also stopped as I tried to have sex with her everytime she would come around. And she kept resisting that she wanted a relationship that will lead to marriage...i will decline and tell her that I can't just rush into marriage until we have understudied ourselves for sometime.

Then after she had gone for months, she suddenly came back after I had stopped working.

That fateful night was the night I ever regret having this lady in my life as I had gone for a town meeting in Alagbado while she called me I had told her that I went out on a town meeting, and I will not come back soon, except she will wait for me...very unbelievable to me that this lady was still waiting for me till almost ten pm when I would return. Because previously she had never stayed in my house up to such hour.

And shockingly when I attempted struggling with her as usual, later did I know that she didn't resist me anymore. I didn't know when I penetrated her coz I didn't believe I was going to be allowed. As a result, I had no plan of sexing her so I didn't wear my condom.

That was how your guy just went inn, and before I could notice it I was on climax. I managed to withdraw the sperm ultimately.

Fast-forward to the next date, she came in at night again.

That night I didn't know she planned sleeping in my house, unfortunately she called her brother that she will not be coming home anymore as she will be spending the night out. I became worried why would she want to sleep in my house without letting me know. Despite I was considering her to be decent.

That night I couldn't sleep and became afraid after I woke up and met her worrying after our second sex.( I went into her again that night). This time I wore a condom, and she pulled it off when she noticed. As I was sexy, I had to go in unprotected counting on my withdrawal method.

I asked her why was she bothered and not sleeping, she said I just had my way after she hasn't let anyone in for years anymore, and I will just have my way and dump her? I told her I'm not dumping her that if it's God's plan we will be married. She said she is tired of jumping on men up and down. Mind you, when she noticed I didn't cum into her, she was more pained.

Then after like 3 weeks or more she started calling me telling me she hasn't seen her period ever since. But I didn't believe and disagreed until I was advised to take her on a test since I don't believe she would be preggy. I didn't like the idea much coz this lady came to my house like three times fighting me to come take her to the hospital to remove it if I wouldn't let her in my house or accept. I was surprised as she kept insisting termination...it sounded like a fraud to me more. I asked myself and one of my neighbors "which right thinking human would take-in and would be demanding abortion?" I ignored her the more after we had a quack nurse ran a test which came negative and advised we come back fortnights.

She went somewhere else and had it positive. After I saw the result I still doubted it was planned to reap me off because she demanded I settle her financially to abort her unborn child.

Then she finally came back after we had a fight in my house which led to her biting me on my arm, I couldn't do anything anymore as I became tired so I let her be in my house.

A neighbor advised we run a urine test ourselves, which we did and it came positive over the night. Was surprised and baffled. I started weighing the option of abortion as the attitude she displayed to me earlier is a sign she could be terrible, and troublesome . It took me a week to finally decide to have the abortion by which the foetus was already 6 weeks old.

I was shocked again when this lady that was the one yelling for abortion outrightly declined that I will have her killed.

That was when it dawned on me I had being married against my wish.

Currently she is in my house with the child. And we had fought more than three times since she put to bed. The last one resulted in bloodshed.

Because of the nature of her personality, I'm finding it difficult leaving with her. She's too violent, arrogant and hot-tempered.

She was diagnosed of hepatitis b, and luckily for me I was free.
Because of that the baby feeds on infant milk which has made me to be buying the milk weekly now.

She nagged at me for hours and insulted hell outta me for telling her she didn't inform me the milk finished....she intended fighting again last night and warned me I should try what happened last time that led to her blood spilling and see what she would do to me.

In fact I have tolerated enough from her. I'm planning on running a DNA test to ascertain the paternity and move on or we settle in court coz she's frustrated big time and wants to pass it to me since I have being telling her I can't marry her.

So I brought it here for you guys to advise on what to do to avoid imminent tragedy lurking.

It took the grace of God that I controlled myself.
It would had resulted to something bad just because I have a bad woman under my nose forcefully.

*NB*
She works and earn a penny salary, while I hustle on the streets and earn for the home upkeep, and foot all bills.

I don't know why she a heavy churched person like her has such bad attitude without repentance. Her actions are without the iota of the gospel.

Listen to Nonchalant by A-boogie and alkaline.
No joke my bro. It's the season, mine too during this exchange of texts also intended to trap me with the punna. When God dey our side we usually dunno because if for say correct money dey my hand this season, I been plan bang all her holes steady as she already claims to be my sexual object until I voice am sternly to work her maths proper or she go see my other side.



You don enter am tho. God be praised for Plugs sake.

DaCharis2016:
Exactly my mind!

My questions are:

1. What if the child turns out mine as she's bold reminding me or making jest I still have not run the test. And the money I would had used to secure another place to avoid her would have being wasted.

2. What is the cost and reliability?

3. Can"t I do away with her by the police with evidence of the non-stop fights that lead to shedding blood?

Did you marry her? You didn't answer. If you did not marry her, seek her people out and settle with them, so she can leave your house jejely. Thank God she is from the Niger delta(I don't know where you are from) , those people don't care about having babies outside wedlock.

You need to do the paternity test. It will cost you money and deprive you of other things but, na wetin your pr1ck don cause you. I

Bro, my advice for you is to forget about women Now, go and look for money

Ntoor
Common sense is far when you were knacking.
Igbosays meta onye dinma enyi Maka olulu. How do you sleep with someone you don't have plans for?
This lady, that lady, I'm sure you were calling her honeycomb before.

Oga, you will learn to love her or who do you want to leave her for?

Consequences of sex. Sex is only sweet in marriage.

DIKEnaWAR:
Did you marry her? You didn't answer. If you did not marry her, seek her people out and settle with them, so she can leave your house jejely. Thank God she is from the Niger delta(I don't know where you are from) , those people don't care about having babies outside wedlock.

You need to do the paternity test. It will cost you money and deprive you of other things but, na wetin your pr1ck don cause you. I

I didn't marry her, and no plan.

DaCharis2016:
I didn't marry her, and no plan.

What a man sows he reaps, what were you expecting while repeatedly having unprotected sex with a lady you claim not to love?

Your focus should be on building a good home for your child, when he/she is older you can then consider the future of your relationship with mother. The welfare of the child should come first when taking your decision, you're now a father