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I have tried all my best to kill the hatred between me and my father.
Always looking for my faults and mistakes to hold on to. He enjoys the
Situation when I'm in trouble or i did something wrong.
If i go left he goes right, he never enjoys any moment with me and him.
Bullies and embarrasses me before my siblings, despite he knows
That my siblings love me.
He always sings it to the ears of my mother and my siblings that he
Doesn't belief I am his true biological son. I do cry because of this.
He always quarrels and threatens my mother on pointless issues.
Because of this, I'm planning to leave home now and find somewhere to stay for a while.
Maybe the the home might be at rest with my siblings and mum....
Pls help me if I'm planning right. Thank you NL

Well, it is just the matter of time, one of you is right, its either your father is right or you are right. just hold on for a while you will know the truth.

Ayomide11111:
I have tried all my best to kill the hatred between me and my father.
Always looking for my faults and mistakes to hold on to. He enjoys the
Situation when I'm in trouble or i did something wrong.
If i go left he goes right, he never enjoys any moment with me and him.
Bullies and embarrasses me before my siblings, despite he knows
That my siblings love me.
He always sings it to the ears of my mother and my siblings that he
Doesn't belief I am his true biological son. I do cry because of this.
He always quarrels and threatens my mother on pointless issues.
Because of this, I'm planning to leave home now and find somewhere to stay for a while.
Maybe the the home might be at rest with my siblings and mum....
Pls help me if I'm planning right. Thank you NL

There you go, and while you're at it, make it permanent as soon as you can.

You are planning well brother...you both need space to reassess your relationship.

That's a very good idea, plz do it as soon as possible,life is too short for some stress, tell you mum and siblings who cares where you are staying and as well as avoid unnecessary insults or curses, when you get enough money you build your own house

This is not the time to apportion blames. If you are a graduate, I see no reason why you still live in your father's house. Familiarity they say breed contempt. It could be that he's doing all these because you are not bringing value to the table(money). He obviously doesn't want you around so please find your way. When did all these start? You have to think what could be responsible but I feel distance will help a great deal. Maybe for a few years.

At every point in time there are bound to be misunderstanding between parent and offspring and I'm a living witness. But the fact is that we still settle every misunderstanding not because of the present moment but for the best of the future.

In as much as I don't know your father's side of the story but judging from yours, there is more to the story and we will gladly welcome the issue so as to know how to advise you.

I believe the next person has something to say.

Leave the nest.

Absence and money makes the heart grow fonder.

You can leave but most especially go and make money.

First of all, how old are you?

Ginaz:
First of all, how old are you?

28

28 and you are still at home? Pity your dad na you should be out of that house since 20yrs

Ayomide11111:
28

If not for this bad country, a 28 year old man should be married and living with his wife by now, if you have the money, kindly look find a place to live for peace sake, also pray for your family too. I wish you best of luck

Ayomide11111:
28

I think you should leave the house for peace to reign. With this your current age you risk being insulted more and whatever respect you think would be allotted to you if you preserve is just mere wishes.

Find a way , I know it’s hard but you can never be respected if you don’t try to earned your respect yourself. Move out, hustle and keep hustling , one day e go better.

You risk being insulted too by your siblings cos your dad has shred your self worth in front of them.

Ayomide11111:
I have tried all my best to kill the hatred between me and my father.
Always looking for my faults and mistakes to hold on to. He enjoys the
Situation when I'm in trouble or i did something wrong.
If i go left he goes right, he never enjoys any moment with me and him.
Bullies and embarrasses me before my siblings, despite he knows
That my siblings love me.
He always sings it to the ears of my mother and my siblings that he
Doesn't belief I am his true biological son. I do cry because of this.
He always quarrels and threatens my mother on pointless issues.
Because of this, I'm planning to leave home now and find somewhere to stay for a while.
Maybe the the home might be at rest with my siblings and mum....
Pls help me if I'm planning right. Thank you NL

Do u know the answer to your woos? Go & prosper. Once u make it, your popsman ll humble but if u no make am, I swear u own don pafuka. (2) Ensure you don't give room for him to mock you, prove to him that with God, u ll make it. (3) Dont keep grudge with him (I know it is not isy) (4) Get more closer to your God in prayers (5) Above all, Go & make it legitimately. Come back & thank me!

Eeya. It's one of these two. Maybe he feels you should have started life on your own by now. Or he just enjoys how you feel when he torments you.

I pray God takes control of the situation

Ayomide11111:
I have tried all my best to kill the hatred between me and my father.
Always looking for my faults and mistakes to hold on to. He enjoys the
Situation when I'm in trouble or i did something wrong.
If i go left he goes right, he never enjoys any moment with me and him.
Bullies and embarrasses me before my siblings, despite he knows
That my siblings love me.
He always sings it to the ears of my mother and my siblings that he
Doesn't belief I am his true biological son. I do cry because of this.
He always quarrels and threatens my mother on pointless issues.
Because of this, I'm planning to leave home now and find somewhere to stay for a while.
Maybe the the home might be at rest with my siblings and mum....
Pls help me if I'm planning right. Thank you NL

You seem to be describing the 'man' that gave birth to me. If you can afford to take care of yourself, please 'run away' from that toxic environment. Parents attitude towards their kids have a spiritual undertone. If they treat you like trash, outsiders will do the same.

Have you ever wondered why rich kids are the most loved and favored? Because they are treated like kings and queens by their parents.