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Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Barbie15: 2:40pm On Feb 26, 2020
drmikeadams:
angry grin grin. Throway ur sim card,he won't do jack grin


The way una dey share ttoto these days dey give worries pass buhari matter
I am really scared, he has been calling me persistently today
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Barbie15: 2:41pm On Feb 26, 2020
J111333:
You even have the nerves to use the phrase hot sex meaning you don't regret it except for the blackmail part.

I don't have any words for you, I only pray your husband finds out sooner that he has a cheap prostitute as wife.

I have this feeling that you sent him those nude pics earlier and not the other way round, stop lying you devilish woman. You just removed some details to make it look like the whole thing was a mistake.

Shame on you. sad
I didn't plan for it happen, I feel disgusted
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Barbie15: 2:41pm On Feb 26, 2020
CaveAdullam:
Anything for the money without considering the consequences.

1. Ask God for forgiveness.

2. Tell your husband about the situation at hand and also ask him for forgiveness. If you are sincere God will help you to tender his heart.

This will not be an easy process for your nuclear family, in-laws and extended family. But with God nothing is impossible.

3. Report every threat and blackmailing details to the police and allow them do their job. Also make sure you follow up with their investigations.

4. Find a trusted ally you can always talk to so that you won't suddenly slip into depression or something worse than that.

5. Be vigilant about your movements henceforth. That guy might go extra miles to gain his cash back in kind or whatever means. Be wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove.


Remember it is a process, everything takes time but we all must be considerate and patient.


Thanks.

God bless.


Thank you
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Barbie15: 2:42pm On Feb 26, 2020
Naomila:
you might have also had sex with him to make up for the money he sends to you. You felt like you owed him a fav. Which honestly you do. Cause why would a married woman be asking another guy for money?? Why didn't you tell your husband how you really felt bout him not working hard enough. Honestly now you're a sex slave to him till he leaves .
He gave the money cause I becam close to him and I told how broke I was to even do my hair and get some basic things for myself
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Barbie15: 2:46pm On Feb 26, 2020
Yeecar:
Barbie15 What you know how to eat as finally choked you. I don't believe in all your manipulations and lies! I believe you are a coded olosho doing it underground, but you have beaten more than you can chew. I wont help you exept you come out clean to me!
I have never been an olosho even before I got married. But honestly I am always sensitive to touch whenever i am alone with a guy and there is blues music playing on the background. It arouses me, that has been my weak point.

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Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Barbie15: 2:48pm On Feb 26, 2020
SammieRexx:
"Surprisingly he is tall, huge and way younger"
"We had hot sex"
Madam...You knew what you were doing all along....habits formed is very difficult to break. You can lie to yourself for all you want but you actually knew what what you were getting into and wanted the sex
How else can a married woman be demanding money from a man who is not your husband or a relative. Na fada Christmas he be?
He is not taking care of you.....madam there are women your age mates who are taking care of themselves and children....God forbid....what if somtin happens to your husband.
My advice...come out clean to your husband first of all..You owe him that and then you both can fight of the intruder (blackmailer). Wish you the best
I didn't think it was a big deal since he was far away from me. He was in PH, and he always adviced me to stand with my hubby. He gave me so many good advices , I never knew he would wanna even touch me for any reason. That was the reason I went
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Barbie15: 2:49pm On Feb 26, 2020
Ginaz:
Dear please you have to report him ASAP!!! That guy is a stupid man. You already had sex you wanted all along then why blackmail her?

He should be taught a horrible lesson he won’t forget in his life . If you have brothers or uncles you can trust to stand for you in place of your husband , tell them the issue on ground and let them set trap for the guy and arrest him , take him to the police station to sign an undertaking not to blackmail you.

That’s if you have the cash to pursue police matter o, cos na money dey move justice fast for this country.
My hubby is a very jealous person, I am really scared of the outcome
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Ginaz(f): 3:23pm On Feb 26, 2020
Barbie15:

My hubby is a very jealous person, I am really scared of the outcome

Hmmmm, I don’t know what else to say. This is a very dicey game. I would have suggested you find a way to trash the guy before letting him know . Cos I don’t think he would take it lightly talking to a man who slept with his wife and threatening to expose her nudes right at his face.
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by bogdaddy(m): 4:26pm On Feb 26, 2020
10k, 5k, 15k Na him make you become side chick you a married woman. Imagine say your husband come get money come get side chick how you go feel? Won’t you start ranting how you both suffered or not? Think about your foolishness, you enjoyed the sex you can’t deny it had it been he didn’t threatened you then return match for Dey nah ! No be you be the first person this thing Dey happen to. Yoruba Dey call am ojukokoro
Barbie15:
Hello Everyone, I am still awake by this time cause couldn't sleep. I have invited the ant infested fire wood. I am a married house wife , though a graduate but jobs weren't coming fourth. My husband is not really trying his best to provide for us ,I do some online stuffs to assist. My hubby lives in fantasy,he always believes that tomorrow will be better, he will build mansions etc but he doesn't do any practical hustle. He believes in that one political appointment can make him super rich but year after year there will be no progress.

I became frustrated that I can't even make my hair nor buy creams. I was so in lack with my kids. My online biz doesn't pay every time. There was this guy I met online and we moved our conversation to whatsap. He chat like old school friends. He works with a bottling company in PH. I started asking him for assistance, he will send 10k, 5k and at one time 15k for me. It was quite a relieve for me. It happens that he decided to spend his leave in Aba at his friends place. We decided to see for the first time. I went to the place and surprisingly he was all alone. He was tall and huge and obviously younger. We gisted, talked about vancancies in his place of work. We had a little to drink and he kissed me ,one to led to another and we had a very hot sex together right in the sitting room. I felt guilty but he started petting me to relax that I am not the first married woman he has made love to. He gave me 20k but I still felt guilty.

5 days later he called me to come to same house but I objected and I even stopped taking his calls. I was shocked when I entered my whatsap and saw him threating to expose me and post my nude on Facebook that he recorded us and me after we finished when I was nacked and crying...He said his friend was actually inside the room and on the passage recording me. He said I must come for him to keep having sex with me till he leaves Aba. That all the money he spent me on I must pay it back. I am really confused cause I am not sure if he really recorded the videos but he only showed me a picture of me nacked and anyone that doesn't know me too well won't recognise that it's me. He promised to show me the video tomorrow afternoon. I don't know what to do. Please I don't need insults kindly advice me

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Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by bogdaddy(m): 4:29pm On Feb 26, 2020
Married woman Dey talk say she Dey sensitive to touch when she Alone with a guy with blues music playing underground. See your life in the party ?? If you Dey Lagos Na you go run from enjoyment I swear you go Dey think of divorce sef.
Barbie15:

I have never been an olosho even before I got married. But honestly I am always sensitive to touch whenever i am alone with a guy and there is blues music playing on the background. It arouses me, that has been my weak point.

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Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Tonnyray: 4:35pm On Feb 26, 2020
Call him.
Record the conversation as evidence.
State clearly in the conversation that you will never have sex with him as you're a married woman and you love and cherish your home... aka call his bluff.
Wait for the sh1t to go down.

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Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by yvelchstores(f): 4:44pm On Feb 26, 2020
Fake story
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by CarlosTheJackal: 4:59pm On Feb 26, 2020
What is the world turning into? An adulterous woman glorifying the act.


Idiot saying HOT SEX
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by CarlosTheJackal: 5:02pm On Feb 26, 2020
Barbie15:

I have never been an olosho even before I got married. But honestly I am always sensitive to touch whenever i am alone with a guy and there is blues music playing on the background. It arouses me, that has been my weak point.
So if you are in a car with a cab man and he is playing soft blues and touches you mistakenly,


You will go wet okwaya. Dindirin anumpama

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Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Barbie15: 5:06pm On Feb 26, 2020
bogdaddy:
10k, 5k, 15k Na him make you become side chick you a married woman. Imagine say your husband come get money come get side chick how you go feel? Won’t you start ranting how you both suffered or not? Think about your foolishness, you enjoyed the sex you can’t deny it had it been he didn’t threatened you then return match for Dey nah ! No be you be the first person this thing Dey happen to. Yoruba Dey call am ojukokoro
No he wanted more but I didn't oblige him, he called me severally to come over but refused taking his calls. Then he sent threat messages
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Barbie15: 5:08pm On Feb 26, 2020
CarlosTheJackal:
So if you are in a car with a cab man and he is playing soft blues and touches you mistakenly,


You will go wet okwaya. Dindirin anumpama
It's not a fair thing to say sad
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Barbie15: 5:09pm On Feb 26, 2020
CarlosTheJackal:
What is the world turning into? An adulterous woman glorifying the act.


Idiot saying HOT SEX
I am not glorifying it
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Whyzaid(f): 5:20pm On Feb 26, 2020
[quote author=phorget post=86961217]Is the op not a Nigerian?
Please just bluff his threats and if he eventually come up with the said videos and pictures then use politicians tactics in defending yourself...
"The person in that picture or video is not me. The video and pictures has been doctored by my enemies just to make it look like me" undecided[/quote why lie sweet for your mouth like this? ]
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by nlPoster: 5:26pm On Feb 26, 2020
Barbie15:
. I am a married house wife

Meaning?

This phrase prevented me from reading the rest of your post.

Somebody has your nudes you said?
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by crackkhaus: 5:26pm On Feb 26, 2020
Barbie15:

I have never been an olosho even before I got married. But honestly I am always sensitive to touch whenever i am alone with a guy and there is blues music playing on the background. It arouses me, that has been my weak point.
Now I am sure you're definitely trolling.

The only other alternative is that you're quite stvpid.

Pick one.

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Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by dominique(f): 6:18pm On Feb 26, 2020
Barbie15:

I am really scared, he has been calling me persistently today

Has he sent the nudes he promised to send? If no, he probably doesn't have them. Still go and report him to the police. If your husband finds out and decides to end the marriage, so be it. A responsible married woman person has no business engaging in chats with online strangers, requesting for money and going to see them in their apartments. Be ready to face whatever consequences your brought upon yourself

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Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by phorget(m): 6:21pm On Feb 26, 2020
[quote author=Whyzaid post=86979014][/quote]
grin grin grin grin... I learnt from our politicians.

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Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by WorWorBoy: 7:04pm On Feb 26, 2020
Barbie15:

I have never been an olosho even before I got married. But honestly I am always sensitive to touch whenever i am alone with a guy and there is blues music playing on the background. It arouses me, that has been my weak point.
Like seriously?
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Nobody: 7:10pm On Feb 26, 2020
WorWorBoy:
Like seriously?
grin I Believed She's a troll but then again, what do I know?

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Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Whyzaid(f): 7:24pm On Feb 26, 2020
phorget:

grin grin grin grin... I learnt from our politicians.

wonderful!
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by ZAWs: 8:04pm On Feb 26, 2020
Very bad investment.
But madam, this is a very serious issue.(assuming its true)
Hope your "Fantasy" husband doesn't see this one o.
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Nobody: 8:46pm On Feb 26, 2020
Barbie15:
Hello Everyone, I am still awake by this time cause couldn't sleep. I have invited the ant infested fire wood. I am a married house wife , though a graduate but jobs weren't coming fourth. My husband is not really trying his best to provide for us ,I do some online stuffs to assist. My hubby lives in fantasy,he always believes that tomorrow will be better, he will build mansions etc but he doesn't do any practical hustle. He believes in that one political appointment can make him super rich but year after year there will be no progress.

I became frustrated that I can't even make my hair nor buy creams. I was so in lack with my kids. My online biz doesn't pay every time. There was this guy I met online and we moved our conversation to whatsap. He chat like old school friends. He works with a bottling company in PH. I started asking him for assistance, he will send 10k, 5k and at one time 15k for me. It was quite a relieve for me. It happens that he decided to spend his leave in Aba at his friends place. We decided to see for the first time. I went to the place and surprisingly he was all alone. He was tall and huge and obviously younger. We gisted, talked about vancancies in his place of work. We had a little to drink and he kissed me ,one to led to another and we had a very hot sex together right in the sitting room. I felt guilty but he started petting me to relax that I am not the first married woman he has made love to. He gave me 20k but I still felt guilty.

5 days later he called me to come to same house but I objected and I even stopped taking his calls. I was shocked when I entered my whatsap and saw him threating to expose me and post my nude on Facebook that he recorded us and me after we finished when I was nacked and crying...He said his friend was actually inside the room and on the passage recording me. He said I must come for him to keep having sex with me till he leaves Aba. That all the money he spent me on I must pay it back. I am really confused cause I am not sure if he really recorded the videos but he only showed me a picture of me nacked and anyone that doesn't know me too well won't recognise that it's me. He promised to show me the video tomorrow afternoon. I don't know what to do. Please I don't need insults kindly advice me

Let him show you the video... It will guard your decision. Lastly tell your hubby using someone else and take note of his reaction.
Secondly your husband may have invested deeply in you.
Sorry politician have there way of doing things.
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Nobody: 8:51pm On Feb 26, 2020
Barbie15:
Hello Everyone, I am still awake by this time cause couldn't sleep. I have invited the ant infested fire wood. I am a married house wife , though a graduate but jobs weren't coming fourth. My husband is not really trying his best to provide for us ,I do some online stuffs to assist. My hubby lives in fantasy,he always believes that tomorrow will be better, he will build mansions etc but he doesn't do any practical hustle. He believes in that one political appointment can make him super rich but year after year there will be no progress.

I became frustrated that I can't even make my hair nor buy creams. I was so in lack with my kids. My online biz doesn't pay every time. There was this guy I met online and we moved our conversation to whatsap. He chat like old school friends. He works with a bottling company in PH. I started asking him for assistance, he will send 10k, 5k and at one time 15k for me. It was quite a relieve for me. It happens that he decided to spend his leave in Aba at his friends place. We decided to see for the first time. I went to the place and surprisingly he was all alone. He was tall and huge and obviously younger. We gisted, talked about vancancies in his place of work. We had a little to drink and he kissed me ,one to led to another and we had a very hot sex together right in the sitting room. I felt guilty but he started petting me to relax that I am not the first married woman he has made love to. He gave me 20k but I still felt guilty.

5 days later he called me to come to same house but I objected and I even stopped taking his calls. I was shocked when I entered my whatsap and saw him threating to expose me and post my nude on Facebook that he recorded us and me after we finished when I was nacked and crying...He said his friend was actually inside the room and on the passage recording me. He said I must come for him to keep having sex with me till he leaves Aba. That all the money he spent me on I must pay it back. I am really confused cause I am not sure if he really recorded the videos but he only showed me a picture of me nacked and anyone that doesn't know me too well won't recognise that it's me. He promised to show me the video tomorrow afternoon. I don't know what to do. Please I don't need insults kindly advice me

Madam if you meet him this time, he will document it, share you with his friends, collect money from you, and post it online @xnxx.com and other porn sites.
So use your head. Never see him, beg your hubby instead if him being a politician is not aware already but it will show your love for him.

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Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by Tekzyflex(m): 9:53pm On Feb 26, 2020
E good to get money oooo.... Make another nigga no give your wife dog style. Chai! The rate of infidelity is alarming especially in this Buhari regime.

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Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by drmikeadams(m): 11:28pm On Feb 26, 2020
Barbie15:

I am really scared, he has been calling me persistently today
grin grin grin remove sim card and replace it,close down facebook acct..does he know ur hubby? If na when I dey aba I for tidy d guy for u
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by nlPoster: 1:38am On Feb 27, 2020
Barbie15:

I have never been an olosho even before I got married. But honestly I am always sensitive to touch whenever i am alone with a guy and there is blues music playing on the background. It arouses me, that has been my weak point.

Ok, I wonder how your lover knew that? Or was it coincidence.


Let's assume your story isnt fake.

As per your marriage, is your mind still there? It doesnt seem like it is?

I'd say get closer to God unless you want to taste the wild side first and see if that's the lifestyle for you.
Re: I Am In Serious Trouble,what Should I Do by MMotimo: 4:26am On Feb 27, 2020
You urgently need to toughen up!
Why are you constantly playing the victim?

Lack of money caused you to cheat on your husband and now you’re on the brink (yes you are) of continuing because your oppressor considers you too poor to fight back.

Listen! Sit yourself up and talk to yourself! Are you now going to become a toy to a stray man because of N50k? You don’t fix a mistake by making another one. You tried that already and see where it got you.

Turn the tables on him! Is he texting you this nonsense or calling you on the phone? Have a record of his threats, make sure you know his workplace and tell him you will make sure his story goes viral, two can play the game. Is his job worth losing just so he can continue having sex with another man’s wife? Tell him to go and do his worst, that him and his friend who live there in Aba will see pepper. Don’t you have friends, brothers, sisters, anyone you can confide in? Let him know you have an army. Reactions like yours is what perpetuates nonsense behaviour like this. Time to fight fire with fire. Tell him if he messes you up you will do worse and disgrace him mightily. Go gangsta on him and stop doing smesme. You can be poor and still have dignity. Yes, you sacrificed your dignity the moment you started flirting with him. You got burnt and you’ve learnt your lesson. Instead of begging a predator, FIGHT BACK!

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and losing sleep while he plays cat and mouse with you. He has chopped your body and you’re still allowing him to chop your peace. N50k is not worth your peace!

As for your marriage, you and your husband need to work on it and you need to go to the streets and find work to do with your hands. Stop cheapening your body, using it as a tool for small change.

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