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Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by frozen70(f): 8:34am On Mar 22, 2020
Jman06:
I haven't deflowered any girl!

I think you should rather upgrade your own level of thinking by not assuming that everybody commits fornication.
Am done with you
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Jman06(m): 8:38am On Mar 22, 2020
frozen70:
Am done with you
I'm also done with you!
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by JONNYSPUTE(m): 8:40am On Mar 22, 2020
NextD18:
Your respect will not fetch him dollars or pay his bills, neither will it give him long life and prosperity.

This is how you lots you around emotionally enslaving and holding people from saying their mind with "I use to respect you", then emotionally manipulate them to say what will suit you ladies. Nothing else! cheesy

How much una online respect dey pay? cheesy

If you are a single mother, you need to pay attention right now; Single mothers are the worse and most deadly set of women any reasonable man will ever think of getting married to. They are full of problems, bad attitude, nagging, arrogant and emotionally manipulative.

If you are a man reading this, if you want to live long as a husband, if you want peace, if you want the happiness of your biological kids, if you must take the risk of marrying a NON-Virgin, please DON'T EVER marry a single mother.

Whatever made them a single mother, will still scatter your marriage.
..Very intelligent. Well done sir.
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by JONNYSPUTE(m): 8:45am On Mar 22, 2020
frozen70:
You just told us how hard and bittered your heat is

As there are single mothers so they have single fathers

Even a marriage of 10yrs can still be a victim of single parent

You ate just typing rubbish because you have not yet gone into marriage or gain any experience about marriage

You may end up being a single father with this your mumu brain
.... There's always a very wide gap between a logical reasoning and emotional reasoning. Here Ma'm, all you typed was based on emotions.
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by frozen70(f): 8:46am On Mar 22, 2020
JONNYSPUTE:
.... There's always a very wide gap between a logical reasoning and emotional reasoning. Here Ma'm, all you typed was based on emotions.
That us women for you

Everything they do is based on emotions
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by izzygoing(f):
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Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Omar09(m): 5:16pm On Mar 22, 2020
Mizwisdom:
Hmmm I used to respect you for your contributions but you have highly disappointed me with this one
And what has your feelings got to do with him? How's it gonna affect his everyday life?
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Omar09(m): 5:45pm On Mar 22, 2020
Mizwisdom:
There are some bitter guys that will soon take over this thread of yours. You don't need people's advice as an adult, it should be your full decision. [/b]That her child will become yours if you keep an open mind and accept her as yours wholeheartedly.[b]
Well, women always talk about things that suit them and don't really care if another takes the colossal damage no matter how related they (women) are to the people/person taking the damage.

Let's go deep into child(ren) women bring into new marriages from the old one. The presence of the child(ren) in the new marriage does a lot in that marriage.
It deals with the Man (husband), wife (single mom) and the child(ren).

THE MAN: The man is the first to be affected, and he's affected badly that he sometimes is the person who carries out the maltreatment. The man's authority gets marred because he will not know how to treat the child(ren). He can not reprimand the child. He can not chastise the child(ren) in their wrong doings but he gets to support them. Just like a rich spoiled kids, he will have a hard time relating with them. Now when the man has his kids. Of course kids look up to older siblings and when the man's biological kids understand that their father's authority can be undermined especially by the elder ones, that child picks it up and there's no way a man can get his biological kids to order and leave out the other kid(s) from your wife. And if he tries to reprimand his step kid(s), his wife will come at him with the “YOU DO NOT GET TO TALK TO HIM LIKE THAT, YOU ARE NOT HIS FATHER”

THE WIFE (SINGLE MOM): They get involved in this little scam of theirs not much, but they will always have it in their head that their kid(s) could be abused or worse raped by their husband since he's not their biological father especially when it's a girl child. No peace within!

THE CHILD(REN): They get affected greatly especially when they are brainy and more successful than their step siblings. There will be hate between them. The father being aware his biological child may be a flop or not up to how successful like his other step kid(s) is, unconsciously he will start exhibiting hate towards that child and this will affect the gifted child psychologically.

WHEN WE REDPILLED MEN ADVICE OTHER MEN TO NOT GET INTO MARRIAGE WITH SINGLE MOTHERS, THIS IS WHAT WE WANT YOU TO AVOID! UNLESS YOU ARE MAN ENOUGH TO GO THROUGH THIS BULLSH.IT, I'D SUGGEST YOU REMAIN SPINELESS AND MARRY A SINGLE GIRL WITH LOW BODY COUNT.

Martinez39s
Emmaodet
Ubunja
Kennedyiheme02
Arthur21
Blu03
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by cococandy(f): 6:02pm On Mar 22, 2020
Have told women repeatedly, don’t get involved with any man who doesn’t serve your interests. Many men are selfish.

The blatant hypocrisy should be the eye opener for y’all but for some reason, ladies still let themselves get emotionally manipulated.

Listen again. If a man is not serving your interests, don’t do it. He sure as hell won’t be with you if you’re not serving his. Don’t do anything for a man that you know when the table is turned, he wouldn’t do the same for you.

missimelda01:
I am not a single mom but these cruel comments the men are making is moving me to tears. Some ladies need to be schooled on how to handle men. It's okay for a single father to find love and remarry but it's completely wrong to marry a single mom? Why are y'all hypocrites!

There's no stupid rules to love and marriage, but I don't expect some dumbass to understand that. Op, tell your family about your girlfriend's child.. if you see what you want in her, go ahead and marry her.
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Omar09(m): 6:07pm On Mar 22, 2020
frozen70:
What about if its a man, will you still discourage a lady from going into it because she won't be willing to share her man with his ex ❓

Even happily married couples still have something doing with their exes
I will not discourage the lady if the man has money!

Men and women have different reasons for going into marriage. Men go into marriage to have a beautiful, soft and virgin lady to call their as their property (yes you read correctly.) Women go into marriage simply to be taken care of. So if a man will stoop so low to marry a baggage in the name of SM, I disagree to it as unless she is rich!

Any woman who will go into marriage with a single dad better make sure he's got the dough!

Ubunja.
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Kennedyiheme02: 6:32pm On Mar 22, 2020
Omar09:
Well, women always talk about things that suit them and don't really care if another takes the colossal damage no matter how related they (women) are to the people/person taking the damage.

Let's go deep into child(ren) women bring into new marriages from the old one. The presence of the child(ren) in the new marriage does a lot in that marriage.
It deals with the Man (husband), wife (single mom) and the child(ren).

THE MAN: The man is the first to be affected, and he's affected badly that he sometimes is the person who carries out the maltreatment. The man's authority gets marred because he will not know how to treat the child(ren). He can not reprimand the child. He can not chastise the child(ren) in their wrong doings but he gets to support them. Just like a rich spoiled kids, he will have a hard time relating with them. Now when the man has his kids. Of course kids look up to older siblings and when the man's biological kids understand that their father's authority can be undermined especially by the elder ones, that child picks it up and there's no way a man can get his biological kids to order and leave out the other kid(s) from your wife. And if he tries to reprimand his step kid(s), his wife will come at him with the “YOU DO NOT GET TO TALK TO HIM LIKE THAT, YOU ARE NOT HIS FATHER”

THE WIFE (SINGLE MOM): They get involved in this little scam of theirs not much, but they will always have it in their head that their kid(s) could be abused or worse raped by their husband since he's not their biological father especially when it's a girl child. No peace within!

THE CHILD(REN): They get affected greatly especially when they are brainy and more successful than their step siblings. There will be hate between them. The father being aware his biological child may be a flop or not up to how successful like his other step kid(s) is, unconsciously he will start exhibiting hate towards that child and this will affect the gifted child psychologically.

WHEN WE REDPILLED MEN ADVICE OTHER MEN TO NOT GET INTO MARRIAGE WITH SINGLE MOTHERS, THIS IS WHAT WE WANT YOU TO AVOID! UNLESS YOU ARE MAN ENOUGH TO GO THROUGH THIS BULLSH.IT, I'D SUGGEST YOU REMAIN SPINELESS AND MARRY A SINGLE GIRL WITH LOW BODY COUNT.

Martinez39s
Emmaodet
Ubunja
Kennedyiheme02
Arthur21
Blu03
the fact she's a single mother means.. its either she has a bad attitude and the guy dumped her... as he has a terrible attitude she couldn't deal with.. the question is why would a woman date such a man... it only means shes a bad judge of character, and a careless person... in most cases her baby daddy will keep fckxing her though... he still remains in her life cos of his just.. either way you're screwed op if you get married to her
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Kennedyiheme02: 6:57pm On Mar 22, 2020
A woman marrying a baby daddy isn't the same as a man marrying a baby mama..why do you women on nairaland believe men and women are the same.... men and women view suituations differently.. for example.. women drool over playboys with body counts as high as 500 lol... but a man sees a woman with that much body counts as slòőts ... women would die to marry a male IndecentStar but no man wants a female IndecentStar as a wife...


A single dad has his own house, takes care of his kid with his own money.. why should that bother you?..

But a single mom brings another mans kid into your house, you're obligated to spend on her kid.. why wouldn't i complain when its my resources?...
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by jeff1607(m): 7:14pm On Mar 22, 2020
Omar09:
Well, women always talk about things that suit them and don't really care if another takes the colossal damage no matter how related they (women) are to the people/person taking the damage.

Let's go deep into child(ren) women bring into new marriages from the old one. The presence of the child(ren) in the new marriage does a lot in that marriage.
It deals with the Man (husband), wife (single mom) and the child(ren).

THE MAN: The man is the first to be affected, and he's affected badly that he sometimes is the person who carries out the maltreatment. The man's authority gets marred because he will not know how to treat the child(ren). He can not reprimand the child. He can not chastise the child(ren) in their wrong doings but he gets to support them. Just like a rich spoiled kids, he will have a hard time relating with them. Now when the man has his kids. Of course kids look up to older siblings and when the man's biological kids understand that their father's authority can be undermined especially by the elder ones, that child picks it up and there's no way a man can get his biological kids to order and leave out the other kid(s) from your wife. And if he tries to reprimand his step kid(s), his wife will come at him with the “YOU DO NOT GET TO TALK TO HIM LIKE THAT, YOU ARE NOT HIS FATHER”

THE WIFE (SINGLE MOM): They get involved in this little scam of theirs not much, but they will always have it in their head that their kid(s) could be abused or worse raped by their husband since he's not their biological father especially when it's a girl child. No peace within!

THE CHILD(REN): They get affected greatly especially when they are brainy and more successful than their step siblings. There will be hate between them. The father being aware his biological child may be a flop or not up to how successful like his other step kid(s) is, unconsciously he will start exhibiting hate towards that child and this will affect the gifted child psychologically.

WHEN WE REDPILLED MEN ADVICE OTHER MEN TO NOT GET INTO MARRIAGE WITH SINGLE MOTHERS, THIS IS WHAT WE WANT YOU TO AVOID! UNLESS YOU ARE MAN ENOUGH TO GO THROUGH THIS BULLSH.IT, I'D SUGGEST YOU REMAIN SPINELESS AND MARRY A SINGLE GIRL WITH LOW BODY COUNT.

Martinez39s
Emmaodet
Ubunja
Kennedyiheme02
Arthur21
Blu03
you've said it all
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by emmaodet: 11:39pm On Mar 22, 2020
Omar09:
Well, women always talk about things that suit them and don't really care if another takes the colossal damage no matter how related they (women) are to the people/person taking the damage.

Let's go deep into child(ren) women bring into new marriages from the old one. The presence of the child(ren) in the new marriage does a lot in that marriage.
It deals with the Man (husband), wife (single mom) and the child(ren).

THE MAN: The man is the first to be affected, and he's affected badly that he sometimes is the person who carries out the maltreatment. The man's authority gets marred because he will not know how to treat the child(ren). He can not reprimand the child. He can not chastise the child(ren) in their wrong doings but he gets to support them. Just like a rich spoiled kids, he will have a hard time relating with them. Now when the man has his kids. Of course kids look up to older siblings and when the man's biological kids understand that their father's authority can be undermined especially by the elder ones, that child picks it up and there's no way a man can get his biological kids to order and leave out the other kid(s) from your wife. And if he tries to reprimand his step kid(s), his wife will come at him with the “YOU DO NOT GET TO TALK TO HIM LIKE THAT, YOU ARE NOT HIS FATHER”

THE WIFE (SINGLE MOM): They get involved in this little scam of theirs not much, but they will always have it in their head that their kid(s) could be abused or worse raped by their husband since he's not their biological father especially when it's a girl child. No peace within!

THE CHILD(REN): They get affected greatly especially when they are brainy and more successful than their step siblings. There will be hate between them. The father being aware his biological child may be a flop or not up to how successful like his other step kid(s) is, unconsciously he will start exhibiting hate towards that child and this will affect the gifted child psychologically.

WHEN WE REDPILLED MEN ADVICE OTHER MEN TO NOT GET INTO MARRIAGE WITH SINGLE MOTHERS, THIS IS WHAT WE WANT YOU TO AVOID! UNLESS YOU ARE MAN ENOUGH TO GO THROUGH THIS BULLSH.IT, I'D SUGGEST YOU REMAIN SPINELESS AND MARRY A SINGLE GIRL WITH LOW BODY COUNT.

Martinez39s
Emmaodet
Ubunja
Kennedyiheme02
Arthur21
Blu03
Have already advised him not to marry her.
He should start is life afresh with a single woman.
That is my brotherly advice to him.
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by jaksmillioniar: 7:57am On Mar 23, 2020
cococandy:
Have told women repeatedly, don’t get involved with any man who doesn’t serve your interests. Many men are selfish.

The blatant hypocrisy should be the eye opener for y’all but for some reason, ladies still let themselves get emotionally manipulated.

Listen again. If a man is not serving your interests, don’t do it. He sure as hell won’t be with you if you’re not serving his. Don’t do anything for a man that you know when the table is turned, he wouldn’t do the same for you.
as if u are not selfish too
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by southernbelle(f): 10:00am On Mar 23, 2020
Graxie:
I love what I am reading from most men here, this is an eye opener for some foolish girls. You will open yourself for any man without condoms, after you will not even help yourself to take preventive pills, when you discover that you are pregnant, you will come online and meet the hypocrites that will tell you to keep the baby. Every day the same story, no plans, no future. The same religious fanatics that will preach against abortion are the same people that will condem you for being a single mom. For those still in the valley of decision, better read this thread and see Nigeria for what it is.
Exactly what was on my mind when I was reading through the thread.
kiss
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by desvi: 11:35am On Mar 23, 2020
missimelda01:
I am not a single mom but these cruel comments the men are making is moving me to tears. Some ladies need to be schooled on how to handle men. It's okay for a single father to find love and remarry but it's completely wrong to marry a single mom? Why are y'all hypocrites!

There's no stupid rules to love and marriage, but I don't expect some dumbass to understand that. Op, tell your family about your girlfriend's child.. if you see what you want in her, go ahead and marry her.
I wish they would open their mouth offline like they do on NL so we could sort out the rotten apples quick quick
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Bigblessed: 8:11pm On Mar 23, 2020
Can it be said that you don't know what you want?
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Acct2(op): 5:41pm On Mar 29, 2020
Bigblessed:
Can it be said that you don't know what you want?
I know what I want dear... it seems coming out is difficult.
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Belafonte(m):
Graxie:
I love what I am reading from most men here, this is an eye opener for some foolish girls. You will open yourself for any man without condoms, after you will not even help yourself to take preventive pills, when you discover that you are pregnant, you will come online and meet the hypocrites that will tell you to keep the baby. Every day the same story, no plans, no future. The same religious fanatics that will preach against abortion are the same people that will condem you for being a single mom. For those still in the valley of decision, better read this thread and see Nigeria for what it is.
Your post lacks basis and direction. Religious fanatics, at least the ones on this forum, repeat abstinence from premarital sex on a daily basis. Daily basis, in case you have eye problems.

Religious fanatics telling you to not abort is consistent with their religious beliefs; same beliefs that already told you to not have sex. If these religious fanatics still advise their brothers not to marry single mothers, they are still right.

Do not blame religious fanatics, they aren’t the cause of your problems. Nobody asked you to go and have children for men that don’t value you or even to have terrible behaviors that make you insufferable.

Face your problem by yourself. Take responsibility for your decisions. Stop blaming onlookers
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Belafonte(m): 6:37pm On Mar 29, 2020
Acct2:
Thanks to All your comments, believe me I expected different advices from different angles. What matters is LOVE and RESPECT from both couples. Thanks
It will end in premium tears. grin
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Belafonte(m): 6:40pm On Mar 29, 2020
cococandy:
Have told women repeatedly, don’t get involved with any man who doesn’t serve your interests. Many men are selfish.

The blatant hypocrisy should be the eye opener for y’all but for some reason, ladies still let themselves get emotionally manipulated.

Listen again. If a man is not serving your interests, don’t do it. He sure as hell won’t be with you if you’re not serving his. Don’t do anything for a man that you know when the table is turned, he wouldn’t do the same for you.
Many men are selfish, however, many women are paragons of selflessness. Na so grin
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by OkpaNsukkaisBae(m): 6:51pm On Mar 29, 2020
NextD18:
Your respect will not fetch him dollars or pay his bills, neither will it give him long life and prosperity.

This is how you lots go around emotionally enslaving and holding people from saying their mind with "I use to respect you", then emotionally manipulate them to say what will suit you ladies. Nothing else! cheesy

How much una online respect dey pay? cheesy

If you are a single mother, you need to pay attention right now; Single mothers are the worse and most deadly set of women any reasonable man will ever think of getting married to. They are full of problems, bad attitude, nagging, arrogant and emotionally manipulative.

If you are a man reading this, if you want to live long as a husband, if you want peace, if you want the happiness of your biological kids, if you must take the risk of marrying a NON-Virgin, please DON'T EVER marry a single mother.

[/b]Whatever made them a single mother, will still scatter your marriage[b].

Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by OkpaNsukkaisBae(m): 6:53pm On Mar 29, 2020
Mizwisdom:
There are some bitter guys that will soon take over this thread of yours. You don't need people's advice as an adult, it should be your full decision. [s][/s]That her child will become yours if you keep an open mind and accept her as yours wholeheartedly[s][/s].
Not when the biological father is still alive!
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by OkpaNsukkaisBae(m): 7:03pm On Mar 29, 2020
emmaodet:
Bro, of all the ladies in the world, why a single lady? Why? Are you that bad? Ugly? Poor? Or sex and love starved that you think what you desire is a single lady for starting your life?
Things are really really bad now.
Normally, we should be marrying Virgins but the demonized us that we are backward, uncivilized. Now from not marrying virgins to non-virgins to forgiving cheating gfs to marrying single mums wt a kid to 2 to 3 or more, what else again? Polyandry? Woman marrying 2 or more men?
Is this how low we have sunk has men?

How bad can it be more?

My immediate brother just told us 3 days ago that the lady he wants to marry is a single mum, a guy working in dubai and doing fine, trying to marry a single nigerian mum.
If you see the way my mum and i abused the hell out of him, i cursed him, told him his head no correct make him no carry dat kind rubbish come here.
I am the first born, i married a single lady, so i laid a good foundation for them behind me, likewise my mum not been single mum.
[/b]In short sef, Bros abeg your head no correct[b]
Una wan roast d guy alive

Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Bigblessed: 7:25pm On Mar 29, 2020
Acct2:
I know what I want dear... it seems coming out is difficult.
Then apply a difficult option.
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by emmaodet: 7:39pm On Mar 29, 2020
OkpaNsukkaisBae:
Una wan roast d guy alive
grin grin grin
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by drmikeadams(m): 11:42pm On Mar 29, 2020
emmaodet:
Bro, of all the ladies in the world, why a single lady? Why? Are you that bad? Ugly? Poor? Or sex and love starved that you think what you desire is a single lady for starting your life?
Things are really really bad now.
Normally, we should be marrying Virgins but the demonized us that we are backward, uncivilized. Now from not marrying virgins to non-virgins to forgiving cheating gfs to marrying single mums wt a kid to 2 to 3 or more, what else again? Polyandry? Woman marrying 2 or more men?
Is this how low we have sunk has men?

How bad can it be more?

My immediate brother just told us 3 days ago that the lady he wants to marry is a single mum, a guy working in dubai and doing fine, trying to marry a single nigerian mum.
If you see the way my mum and i abused the hell out of him, i cursed him, told him his head no correct make him no carry dat kind rubbish come here.
I am the first born, i married a single lady, so i laid a good foundation for them behind me, likewise my mum not been single mum.
In short sef, Bros abeg your head no correct
grin. No mind our men,,,person go dey,go carry anoda person problem add to his own,,tomao e go open another thread after em eye don clear
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Shugavee(f): 8:47am On Mar 30, 2020
Belafonte:
Many men are selfish, however, many women are paragons of selflessness. Na so grin
grin grin we not jor we selfless by nature
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Billionsclub: 9:25am On Mar 30, 2020
Speaking from someone's experience, don't ever marry a single mother. They will give you sex in any way that you want. But they will suck you and at the end ,u will regret what u entered into. She could be loyal at first,she will sweet-talk you. She will help you with house chores, support u but the end doesn't end well. Run for your destiny
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Nobody: 9:48am On Mar 30, 2020
So out of all the 65 million girls in Nigeria you no see any single one choose na after 1 abi
Your stupidity has full Jerry-can
You will open another thread again angry
Re: I Need Your Candid Advice by Belafonte(m): 2:30pm On Mar 30, 2020
Shugavee:
grin grin we not jor we selfless by nature
Yes na. We’re saying the same thing. grin
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