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darknez:
Oh, your logic here is that because it happened to you then it must be the case for everyone else? Oga, your 'wife' is not every other married lady.

your logic here is because you met a good woman and you think they all are, because you know your woman and you think your woman is like every married lady?


You only know for yourself. OP brought a problem. Expressed his displeasure about his wife closeness to a single guy and I contributed. If his wife was like your good wife, OP won’t bring the issue here.

If u don't trust ur wife u can send any of your friend or young one to monitor her and the guy u are talking about. What is taking you so long to come home. Apart from your wife your children will be missing you and may not have that love for you. They should be your number one priority.

billynoni:
The network signal, in your brain's connected and working properly... BTW, happy birthday.

Wow. Thanks for the birthday wish.

stupidity:
your logic here is because you met a good woman and you think they all are, because you know your woman and you think your woman is like every married lady?


You only know for yourself. OP brought a problem. Expressed his displeasure about his wife closeness to a single guy and I contributed. If his wife was like your good wife, OP won’t bring the issue here.

I smiled because you perceived correctly. I do have a great gal for a wife.

Anyways, my contribution was not based on my reality above.

karlyx:
I have been out of the country for about 1Year 6 months and I discovered recently that my wife always call one of the neighbors who is a young man to come and help her turn on the generator. We have kids and the young man has become friends with both my wife and d kids and anytime I Complained about the closeness,she defends him and even turn against me.
Can she be cheating with this guy?

Can ke? She's fvcking that nigga file for divorce before you raise another man bastard as your own.

darknez:


I smiled because you perceived correctly. I do have a great gal for a wife.

Anyways, my contribution was not based on my reality above.

exactly. You got the right woman. It’s not so for every other man.

Op said his wife is defending the single guy. Is she supposed to be doing that? Defending who your husband is worried about getting too close to you?

When a man starts suspecting his wife, it’s not necessarily the wife but the preys around her. We men knows what we are capable of.

[quote author=Goodplace post=88381970]Why are u been near foolish in your advice?


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There is space for everyone to air their opinion, why under my mention and do you have to insult if you don't agree with my opinion....
This nairaland is something else!
Kindly stay off my mention biko!

Goodplace:
Why are u been near foolish in your advice?

There is space for everyone to air their opinion, why under my mention and do you have to insult if you don't agree with my opinion....
This nairaland is something else!
Kindly stay off my mention biko!

stupidity:
exactly. You got the right woman. It’s not so for every other man.

Op said his wife is defending the single guy. Is she supposed to be doing that? Defending who your husband is worried about getting too close to you?

When a man starts suspecting his wife, it’s not necessarily the wife but the preys around her. We men knows what we are capable of.

Well, any conclusion we draw is based on speculations. We can only see the thoughts of others through their actions. From what I see the crime of this dude is that he is single and he had the misfortune of being a nice guy.

Everyone is capable of doing wrong, given the proper motivation but in this matter the only one I see doing wrong is the Oga who opened this thread. If he had said the guy comes to his house in ungodly hours then I may be inclined to think the single dude have other things up his sleeves.

But again everything still boils down to the Oga abandoning his wife for so long. He should pity the poor woman and get back to her ASAP.

karlyx:
I have been out of the country for about 1Year 6 months and I discovered recently that my wife always call one of the neighbors who is a young man to come and help her turn on the generator. We have kids and the young man has become friends with both my wife and d kids and anytime I Complained about the closeness,she defends him and even turn against me.
Can she be cheating with this guy?

Yes she could already be cheating, or she may start somewhere down the line. Don't pay attention to anyone who makes it seem like you're overreacting, you're not.
Turning a generator on is not nuclear physics, she can definitely do it herself if she wanted, but she'd just rather not...

Now here is my problem, even if your wife was not into that guy and really needs help with the generator, what kind of man maintains a very close friendship with his married neighbor whose husband is not around? Like he can't stay inside his house, or he doesn't have any other friends to spend time with? Some men no just get OT.
Does he not have a woman in his life to nag him about this silly behaviour, or perhaps a sensible guy around to give him sense?

He has no business being close to a married woman and her kids beyond the Hello neighbor, how are you today routine... he ain't even your friend.
It's too bad that we have so many people today who have no principles or sense of right & wrong, otherwise we would be speaking up against certain things which are completely abnormal.

Also, don't think that because she told you herself, then it means she has nothing to hide - that's a woman's logic.
Don't fall for it.

You should stand your ground, reiterate it to her that you find their closeness uncomfortable - you're her husband, and she's your wife. If she had any regard for you, she would not want to do anything that will make you uncomfortable especially when the distance between both of you can make suspicions higher.
What she should be doing now is reaffirming your confidence by making changes that will cause you to trust her more. The fact that she keeps defending the guy despite your complaints is an error and also a clear sign that something is off.

Chidebless111:
How do you know the guy is the one helping your wife to on generator and how do you know he has become friend with your wife and kids since you are not living with them? Is it not your wife that told you what's going on? I think if she have
things she's hiding she won't let you that much. Don't be a monitoring spirit, tell her to be careful on how she get closed to him not accusing her...,

common sense u no get..guy tinz dey happun

karlyx:
I have been out of the country for about 1Year 6 months and I discovered recently that my wife always call one of the neighbors who is a young man to come and help her turn on the generator. We have kids and the young man has become friends with both my wife and d kids and anytime I Complained about the closeness,she defends him and even turn against me.
Can she be cheating with this guy?

U my friend don't trust your wife.
U are gradually making her think of what may not be in her mind.


A woman will cheat with somebody u will not be aware of. Women are that smart and u are constantly reminding her that u don't trust her,.pushing her, common, give that woman a break. U continue to push, u will have your answer.
Besides, how faithful are u out there?

She won't breath again cos she is married.

darknez:
Well, any conclusion we draw is based on speculations. We can only see the thoughts of others through their actions. From what I see the crime of this dude is that he is single and he had the misfortune of being a nice guy.

Everyone is capable of doing wrong, given the proper motivation but in this matter the only one I see doing wrong is the Oga who opened this thread. If he had said the guy comes to his house in ungodly hours then I may be inclined to think the single dude have other things up his sleeves.

But again everything still boils down to the Oga abandoning his wife for so long. He should pity the poor woman and get back to her ASAP.

lol. Oga is out there hustling. That’s the sad reality of life. He might not be having it easy over there but he’s still pulling through then the devil starts messing with his mind that a single guy is getting closer to his wife. Lol. Kuku kill me.

To make matters worse he might be calling her sometimes and she won’t pick. Oga mind go cut.


If I’m not rich to shuttle my family around the globe. Marriage should wait. I’m not insecure but I think about family too much.

HiFreda:
Send her money to buy a bigger, better generator that would only require the press of a button to start.
Problem solved!!

Hmmm, if we tell them to make enough money before marriage, they will call us names.
Now he is afraid his wife may be cheating simply because another man helped her draw generator.

crackland:
Yes she could already be cheating, or she may start somewhere down the line. Don't pay attention to anyone who makes it seem like you're overreacting, you're not.
Turning a generator on is not nuclear physics, she can definitely do it herself if she wanted, but she'd just rather not...

Now here is my problem, even if your wife was not into that guy and really needs help with the generator, what kind of man maintains a very close friendship with his married neighbor whose husband is not around? Like he can't stay inside his house, or he doesn't have any other friends to spend time with? Some men no just get OT.
Does he not have a woman in his life to nag him about this silly behaviour, or perhaps a sensible guy around to give him sense?

He has no business being close to a married woman and her kids beyond the Hello neighbor, how are you today routine... he ain't even your friend.
It's too bad that we have so many people today who have no principles or sense of right & wrong, otherwise we would be speaking up against certain things which are completely abnormal.

Also, don't think that because she told you herself, then it means she has nothing to hide - that's a woman's logic.
Don't fall for it.

You should stand your ground, reiterate it to her that you find their closeness uncomfortable - you're her husband, and she's your wife. If she had any regard for you, she would not want to do anything that will make you uncomfortable especially when the distance between both of you can make suspicions higher.
What she should be doing now is reaffirming your confidence by making changes that will cause you to trust her more. The fact that she keeps defending the guy despite your complaints is an error and also a clear sign that something is off.

It's a natural instinct for men to help women who they know have no man around them. Yes, others may wanna take advantage of it, but majority just want to help. U are a man and u know this.
He may have another agenda in his mind waiting for the ripe time but if the woman don't have any in her mind, she will see him as she sees any young man and if she is my type, she will cook and give him too. If he discover his agenda isn't working, with time, if he isn't genuine, he will start giving excuses and finally stop.
How can u enjoy your marriage when u are constantly looking behind your shoulders?
I was in that position for 2 yrs and my friend's husband was like the man of the house. Remove the other one and u will wonder if I'm his wife.

karlyx:
I have been out of the country for about 1Year 6 months and I discovered recently that my wife always call one of the neighbors who is a young man to come and help her turn on the generator. We have kids and the young man has become friends with both my wife and d kids and anytime I Complained about the closeness,she defends him and even turn against me.
Can she be cheating with this guy?

No except if it is emotional ,he was there to feel the void,keep your family happy and you are complaining.

stupidity:
lol. Oga is out there hustling. That’s the sad reality of life. He might not be having it easy over there but he’s still pulling through then the devil starts messing with his mind that a single guy is getting closer to his wife. Lol. Kuku kill me.

To make matters worse he might be calling her sometimes and she won’t pick. Oga mind go cut.


If I’m not rich to shuttle my family around the globe. Marriage should wait. I’m not insecure but I think about family too much.

Lol.

Totally agree with your last comment.

sassysure:
It's a natural instinct for men to help women who they know have no man around them. Yes, others may wanna take advantage of it, but majority just want to help. U are a man and u know this.
He may have another agenda in his mind waiting for the ripe time but if the woman don't have any in her mind, she will see him as she sees any young man and if she is my type, she will cook and give him too. If he discover his agenda isn't working, with time, if he isn't genuine, he will start giving excuses and finally stop.
How can u enjoy your marriage when u are constantly looking behind your shoulders?
I was in that position for 2 yrs and my friend's husband was like the man of the house. Remove the other one and u will wonder if I'm his wife.

1. Helping a woman with no man around her is chilvary and should end there. Building a friendship with this married woman to the extent that her children are now so close to you is madness.
How long will the guy keep putting on the gen assuming it's ONLY that action that connects them? He has nothing else to do and is so idle that anytime the woman needs the generator on, he is available. That is a guy with no self-respect.

2. If a married woman is cooking food for her male neighbor constantly, it is an error. If there was nothing attached to it, she would be cooking for everyone else in the neighborhood and not just him...or better still, invite at least two neighbours over for lunch/dinner.

3. Your friend's husband was like the man of the house in the absence of your husband?
Clarify that abeg before I type what's on my mind

fredopareto:
common sense u no get..guy tinz dey happun

I can't help but say you are stupid!
Simply say your mind without insult but seems you can do that.
Now, this is what I was saying, the man had left for a year 6 months now, that means he can't know what's happening in the house except when been told! How did he know the wife is getting so close to the neighbor? Guess the wife told him, the wife let him know what is happening but he is insecure about it, he don't want the guy around. If the said wife is not a free person or if she's probably having an affair with the guy, she won't open up that much to the husband to the point he will know she's getting close to the man. Don't judge people that way, the woman maybe innocent. Everyone is saying she's cheating, how do they know that,because the man that's not living with his wife said so?

stupidity:
This is rubbish. Anyone saying you should trust her and leave her to do her thing. I was there. I trusted her to the core. But e shock me last last.


Humans are weird. They blame and curse you if you don’t trust them but they break that trust.

Took me a while to realize someone she hated most and always condemn his actions at every given chance. They blasted. Hence the always condemning and hating on the guy. Fear woman. Not women. Fear humans.

Either find someone to do proper investigation for you before you return home to a bag of cheats.


Even if you know about your wife or trust her. What do you know about this said bachelor? Some men are just fools looking for vulnerable married women to toy with.

Trust my foot. Your own mother can mess you up if it suits her talk more of a woman that can leave you anytime.

I salute your level of intelligence.
Best comment so far

crackland:
1. Helping a woman with no man around her is chilvary and should end there. Building a friendship with this married woman to the extent that her children are now so close to you is madness.
How long will the guy keep putting on the gen assuming it's ONLY that action that connects them? He has nothing else to do and is so idle that anytime the woman needs the generator on, he is available. That is a guy with no self-respect.

2. If a married woman is cooking food for her male neighbor constantly, it is an error. If there was nothing attached to it, she would be cooking for everyone else in the neighborhood and not just him...or better still, invite at least two neighbours over for lunch/dinner.

3. Your friend's husband was like the man of the house in the absence of your husband?
Clarify that abeg before I type what's on my mind

U guys have twisted your mind so much that people are not meant to do good deeds anymore.
I'm good at giving. If u are working in my house, and food is on fire, be sure that u will get your share. That is how I was trained.
U are in my house repairing my gen and food is on the fire, I will dish out yours. It gives me joy. I mean I simply love doing that.
I might prepare a certain dish I know a friend likes and package it for her or tell her to come and feast.
It's just food. Nothing more.
The young man won't be an exemption unless he started being silly in other words he won't have access to my house anymore.
And she isn't cooking that food for her male nebor. Point of correction.
She cook for her family.
Heck, I have given food to qwali boys( if u are in Abuja u will know them).
Listen, this is also a good avenue to get people in your favour. Till l left, I was heavily covered cos I was good to boys. And u can get such by giving food.

Like I said, if the woman is my type, she will naturally give cos she loves cooking and giving out.
That's the only way she can pay him back. Nothing more.

So nothing in giving a bachelor free food. It's natural.
That caring stuff. U are now worried because it's a man.
If it's a female will u be worried?
Hian!
As for the kids liking the guy, what's wrong with that?
My first son will always tell u his best friend is daddy.... cos the play together. Which child won't like that?
Even as we have left, they still communicate on phone more than I do now.
That @op is telling us half truth.


He came here to paint his wife black cos that's what he is doing where he is or are u telling me guy is a saint over there?
If the guy is idle and getting free food, is that not his luck?
Naija hard, many guys will on gen 100times to get free food now
And how did u know he is idle?
Bros, I'm.suspecting you
Anyway, no course for alarm here.
Guy is making a mountain out of nothing.

As for my friend's husband, every emergency trip to the hospital, that man is there. Infact, the way he will be following drs for nyash eeh
The day my boy was put on ventilator, he came and was crying like a baby
He is simply a good man and took it upon himself to oversee to our welfare as Mr oga no dey.
There were major projects we were handling when bros disappeared, it was me and the locals and govt bodies and I don't know shit.without this man's help, they for chop mugu out of me. At a point I became pro,know how to haggle price, open eyes etc. And I got the jobs done.

He is very respectful man( that's the first reason why I was close to him like his wife).
I don't know about you guys but we still do have good men who simply want to do good.

HiFreda:
Send her money to buy a bigger, better generator that would only require the press of a button to start.
Problem solved!!

She will still need him to help her carry the big keg and ‘pour fuel inside’. He’s indispensable at this point.

karlyx:
I have been out of the country for about 1Year 6 months and I discovered recently that my wife always call one of the neighbors who is a young man to come and help her turn on the generator. We have kids and the young man has become friends with both my wife and d kids and anytime I Complained about the closeness,she defends him and even turn against me.
Can she be cheating with this guy?

Yes
However it is also possible that she is not.
But the honest answer to your question is yes, she could be cheating with this guy.

sassysure:
U my friend don't trust your wife.
U are gradually making her think of what may not be in her mind.


A woman will cheat with somebody u will not be aware of. Women are that smart and u are constantly reminding her that u don't trust her,.pushing her, common, give that woman a break. U continue to push, u will have your answer.
Besides, how faithful are u out there?

She won't breath again cos she is married.

As in, she will cheat, not because she wanted to but because the husband doesn’t want her to?

Vyolet:
Hmmm, if we tell them to make enough money before marriage, they will call us names.
Now he is afraid his wife may be cheating simply because another man helped her draw generator.

Rich men can rest easy knowing their wives never cheat on them. All poor men’s wives cheat too. Noted

karlyx:
I have been out of the country for about 1Year 6 months and I discovered recently that my wife always call one of the neighbors who is a young man to come and help her turn on the generator. We have kids and the young man has become friends with both my wife and d kids and anytime I Complained about the closeness,she defends him and even turn against me.
Can she be cheating with this guy?

one year six month, tell me u haven't cheated and i will give you the best advice

Chidebless111:
How do you know the guy is the one helping your wife to on generator and how do you know he has become friend with your wife and kids since you are not living with them? Is it not your wife that told you what's going on? I think if she have things she's hiding she won't let you that much. Don't be a monitoring spirit, tell her to be careful on how she get closed to him not accusing her...,

This can also be very untrue shaa
A woman who feels their neighbours may start talking about her closeness with that single male adult neighboring might start defending/excusing herself, her neighbor and their actions to her absent husband. Being proactive about it .
If you put your brother/son’s wife in this shoe side by side with yourself, you would get two different reactions in your head

Vyolet:
Hmmm, if we tell them to make enough money before marriage, they will call us names.
Now he is afraid his wife may be cheating simply because another man helped her draw generator.

What's your point? And have you already confirmed the kind of generator he has? Maybe you don't know that some Bimbo are so allergic to technology that they can't even press a simple button to start a plant and change switches.


And who told you the generator is not of the modern type that's so easy to put on, but it's the woman that's using that as an excuse to lure the man?
Just a little detail and you already "broke shaming" the husband

Belafonte:
Rich men can rest easy knowing their wives never cheat on them. All poor men’s wives cheat too. Noted

Are you on the same lane with that Bimbo or you are just being sarcastic?
Because i still don't know how she got to know the kind of Generator they have and that the husband hasn't made enough money.

Women that can do real stupid things just to get what they want. Like telling you to come help them unzip their gown, scratch their back or blow out some imaginary particles from their eyes.

merahki:
This can also be very untrue shaa
A woman who feels their neighbours may start talking about her closeness with that single male adult neighboring might start defending/excusing herself, her neighbor and their actions to her absent husband. Being practice about it .
If you put your brother/son’s wife in this shoe instead of yourself, you would get two different reactions in your head

That's why I said "may not be cheating" .

Ximenez:
What's your point? And have you already confirmed the kind of generator he has? Maybe you don't know that some Bimbo are so allergic to technology that they can't even press a simple button to start a plant and change switches.


And who told you the generator is not of the modern type that's so easy to put on, but it's the woman that's using that as an excuse to lure the man?
Just a little detail and you already "broke shaming" the husband

I don't even understand why your body is hot, are you the husband?

Vyolet:
I don't even understand why your body is hot, are you the husband?

I am just curious as to how you arrived at your conclusion.
That was how a 16 year old infant was berating a 36 year old man yesterday for his relationship she knows nothing about.

Again, do you know the type of generator they have?
How did you come to the conclusion that he didn't make enough money before he got married?

Some women will intentionally tamper with their kitchen wash basin and then call a man to come fix it for them.